Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counselling in Sutton
I am a qualified counsellor and psychotherapist, offering counselling to adults, online and face to face in Sutton, Surrey. I facilitate short term (6-12 sessions) and long term (open-ended) therapy. I believe in a holistic approach to health and wellbeing, taking into account all of our being - psychological, cultural, physical, social and spiritual. I work in a way that is gentle, warm and holding. I endeavour to provide a safe, non-judgmental space for you to talk through the experiences you are facing. I work collaboratively to ensure that you have the autonomy in deciding the content, pace and depth of our work.
I am a qualified counsellor and psychotherapist, offering counselling to adults, online and face to face in Sutton, Surrey. I facilitate short term (6-12 sessions) and long term (open-ended) therapy. I believe in a holistic approach to health and wellbeing, taking into account all of our being - psychological, cultural, physical, social and spiritual. I work in a way that is gentle, warm and holding. I endeavour to provide a safe, non-judgmental space for you to talk through the experiences you are facing. I work collaboratively to ensure that you have the autonomy in deciding the content, pace and depth of our work.
My clients are often reflective, thoughtful people who feel stuck or disconnected from who they are. They may struggle with self-criticism or people-pleasing, or feel that life has lost direction. Some may be adjusting to a recent diagnosis like ADHD or Autism or AuDHD and experiencing symptoms of anxiety or depression. Together, we explore what sits beneath these patterns, looking at identity, attachment, and meaning, to build understanding, self-compassion, and movement towards change. My approach draws on a range of strategies, offering warmth, honesty, and a space to reconnect with yourself and live more authentically.
My clients are often reflective, thoughtful people who feel stuck or disconnected from who they are. They may struggle with self-criticism or people-pleasing, or feel that life has lost direction. Some may be adjusting to a recent diagnosis like ADHD or Autism or AuDHD and experiencing symptoms of anxiety or depression. Together, we explore what sits beneath these patterns, looking at identity, attachment, and meaning, to build understanding, self-compassion, and movement towards change. My approach draws on a range of strategies, offering warmth, honesty, and a space to reconnect with yourself and live more authentically.
Sometimes, being part of the LGBTQ+ community can be a very lonely existence, and we are not all ‘out and proud’ or lucky enough to feel part of a wider LGBTQ+ family. You may be experiencing isolation, shame, or perhaps you have faced rejection from your family or friends. I do not assume that your struggles are related to your sexuality or gender, but if you are trying to deal with something specific in your personal life, or are simply overwhelmed and feeling alone in your current situation, I can offer you a private and non-judgemental space for the exploration of anything which may be causing you pain.
Sometimes, being part of the LGBTQ+ community can be a very lonely existence, and we are not all ‘out and proud’ or lucky enough to feel part of a wider LGBTQ+ family. You may be experiencing isolation, shame, or perhaps you have faced rejection from your family or friends. I do not assume that your struggles are related to your sexuality or gender, but if you are trying to deal with something specific in your personal life, or are simply overwhelmed and feeling alone in your current situation, I can offer you a private and non-judgemental space for the exploration of anything which may be causing you pain.
While I work effectively with individuals from all walks of life, I have found a particular calling in supporting males. I recognise that some men may find it challenging to access or express their emotions, and I take pride in creating a space where these feelings can be safely explored. To support this, I often use creative techniques in therapy, such as using art-based activities, which can help uncover and express emotions that may feel difficult to articulate in words.
While I work effectively with individuals from all walks of life, I have found a particular calling in supporting males. I recognise that some men may find it challenging to access or express their emotions, and I take pride in creating a space where these feelings can be safely explored. To support this, I often use creative techniques in therapy, such as using art-based activities, which can help uncover and express emotions that may feel difficult to articulate in words.
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Understanding and healing the things we carry can be liberating and life-changing, opening space for greater freedom, authenticit
Perhaps you're carrying shame about your sexuality or kink life, navigating the emotional landscape of a BDSM dynamic, or simply longing for a space where you don't have to edit yourself before walking in.
My practice is queer-affirming, kink-positive, and anti-oppressive, which means I welcome the complexity of identity, culture, and relationship diversity, and I stay mindful of the wider systems that shape our lives while remaining closely attuned to your individual experience.
Understanding and healing the things we carry can be liberating and life-changing, opening space for greater freedom, authenticit
Perhaps you're carrying shame about your sexuality or kink life, navigating the emotional landscape of a BDSM dynamic, or simply longing for a space where you don't have to edit yourself before walking in.
My practice is queer-affirming, kink-positive, and anti-oppressive, which means I welcome the complexity of identity, culture, and relationship diversity, and I stay mindful of the wider systems that shape our lives while remaining closely attuned to your individual experience.
Working with myself, we will explore the most important relationship you will ever have, the one with yourself.
Working with myself, we will explore the most important relationship you will ever have, the one with yourself.
This work may be for you if you're wanting to explore:
Difficulty with orgasm, erections, arousal,
Pain, difficulty, or inability with penetrative sex,
Fantasy, kink or BDSM,
Communication & repair,
Loss of desire or desiring something else,
Non-monogamy
Sexual abuse or trauma
Gender and transition
LGBTQIA+ identity & attraction
Understanding yourself better
Sex and relationships are the most universal parts of being human yet, the least understood. For far too long society has pushed this education into the dark making the challenges we face harder than they need to be!
If you're feeling confused or challenged by your relationship, sexuality or your body, you're not alone. You don't have to hold all this yourself! As a trauma-aware Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist and Somatic Sexologist it would be an honour to find out what you're going through and guide you to creating the relationship or sex life you desire.
This work may be for you if you're wanting to explore:
Difficulty with orgasm, erections, arousal,
Pain, difficulty, or inability with penetrative sex,
Fantasy, kink or BDSM,
Communication & repair,
Loss of desire or desiring something else,
Non-monogamy
Sexual abuse or trauma
Gender and transition
LGBTQIA+ identity & attraction
Understanding yourself better
Sex and relationships are the most universal parts of being human yet, the least understood. For far too long society has pushed this education into the dark making the challenges we face harder than they need to be!
If you're feeling confused or challenged by your relationship, sexuality or your body, you're not alone. You don't have to hold all this yourself! As a trauma-aware Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist and Somatic Sexologist it would be an honour to find out what you're going through and guide you to creating the relationship or sex life you desire.
I also welcome people at the intersection of queerness, kink, and alternative subcultures.
In invite you to contact me to speak confidentially about anything that you feel you need at this point in your life.
This could be difficulties in your everyday life or with others. This could be thoughts, feelings, or sensations that are too much. This could be a lack of desire or enjoyment in life. This could be a loss or a destabilising event. This could also be a question about yourself, which you wish to explore in a non-judgemental space.
I welcome people of all ethnicities, cultures, and alternative subcultures; and people of all genders, sexual orientations, types of relationships, and sexual activities.
I also welcome people at the intersection of queerness, kink, and alternative subcultures.
In invite you to contact me to speak confidentially about anything that you feel you need at this point in your life.
This could be difficulties in your everyday life or with others. This could be thoughts, feelings, or sensations that are too much. This could be a lack of desire or enjoyment in life. This could be a loss or a destabilising event. This could also be a question about yourself, which you wish to explore in a non-judgemental space.
I welcome people of all ethnicities, cultures, and alternative subcultures; and people of all genders, sexual orientations, types of relationships, and sexual activities.
You may be feeling worried, down, stressed, fed up, conflicted, confused, or simply wishing for change. It may feel difficult to manage life and you may have no idea why, or you might have some ideas. Perhaps you’ve had difficult experiences during childhood, adolescence or adulthood. Perhaps the thought of talking to someone feels a bit scary but better than keeping everything bottled up. You may wish to improve your relationship or relationships in general. Perhaps things happen in your life and you don’t understand why, or how. You might find that you’re drawn to distractions like the internet, or overspending.
You may be feeling worried, down, stressed, fed up, conflicted, confused, or simply wishing for change. It may feel difficult to manage life and you may have no idea why, or you might have some ideas. Perhaps you’ve had difficult experiences during childhood, adolescence or adulthood. Perhaps the thought of talking to someone feels a bit scary but better than keeping everything bottled up. You may wish to improve your relationship or relationships in general. Perhaps things happen in your life and you don’t understand why, or how. You might find that you’re drawn to distractions like the internet, or overspending.
I'm Michael, a fully qualified therapist, governed by BACP, NCPS & BPS accredited counselling bodies. I'm an Executive Member of the BACP Private Practice Division and author of "How To Become A Counsellor". I offer Life and Wellness therapy in Bristol (and beyond) to individuals, couples, groups and companies. My Blazing Soul Counselling practice is online, or by telephone, across English-speaking time zones, at a schedule that works for you. I help you find your Blazing Soul - balance and direction, clarity and focus, increased confidence and self-esteem, and improved mental, physical and emotional wealth.
I'm Michael, a fully qualified therapist, governed by BACP, NCPS & BPS accredited counselling bodies. I'm an Executive Member of the BACP Private Practice Division and author of "How To Become A Counsellor". I offer Life and Wellness therapy in Bristol (and beyond) to individuals, couples, groups and companies. My Blazing Soul Counselling practice is online, or by telephone, across English-speaking time zones, at a schedule that works for you. I help you find your Blazing Soul - balance and direction, clarity and focus, increased confidence and self-esteem, and improved mental, physical and emotional wealth.
I work affirmatively with neurodivergent clients (including ADHD and autism) and GSRD (gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity) - this includes LGBT+, kink and BDSM, non-monogamy, and sex work, where questions of belonging, safety, and identity often sit under the surface.
You might be feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or stuck in patterns that keep repeating despite everything you’ve tried to change. For some people this shows up as anxiety, panic attacks, a harsh internal voice, persistent stress, or perfectionism that never seems to let up. Others come carrying the impact of trauma, emotional or sexual abuse, or attachment wounds that began long before they had language for what was happening. Depression, low self-worth, loneliness, and self-harm can emerge when there hasn’t been a safe place for difficult feelings to go.
I work affirmatively with neurodivergent clients (including ADHD and autism) and GSRD (gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity) - this includes LGBT+, kink and BDSM, non-monogamy, and sex work, where questions of belonging, safety, and identity often sit under the surface.
You might be feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or stuck in patterns that keep repeating despite everything you’ve tried to change. For some people this shows up as anxiety, panic attacks, a harsh internal voice, persistent stress, or perfectionism that never seems to let up. Others come carrying the impact of trauma, emotional or sexual abuse, or attachment wounds that began long before they had language for what was happening. Depression, low self-worth, loneliness, and self-harm can emerge when there hasn’t been a safe place for difficult feelings to go.
I work most with relationship difficulties, sexuality ( sex-positive and kink-friendly), and trauma.
Starting therapy can feel like a big step, particularly when you may not yet know exactly what you want to change - I believe that healing happens through relationship. When we have a space where we feel safe enough to be ourselves, where we don't have to hide, explain, or pretend, something begins to change. Together, we can gently explore what is happening for you, bringing awareness to thoughts, emotions, bodily sensations, and the ways you relate to yourself and others.
I work most with relationship difficulties, sexuality ( sex-positive and kink-friendly), and trauma.
Starting therapy can feel like a big step, particularly when you may not yet know exactly what you want to change - I believe that healing happens through relationship. When we have a space where we feel safe enough to be ourselves, where we don't have to hide, explain, or pretend, something begins to change. Together, we can gently explore what is happening for you, bringing awareness to thoughts, emotions, bodily sensations, and the ways you relate to yourself and others.
I offer a warm, sex-positive and soul-aligned space where you can speak openly and be fully yourself.
Whatever has brought you here, you’re already taking a step towards understanding yourself more deeply. You may feel things intensely and reflect a lot, but still find it hard to make sense of what’s happening right now. You may notice yourself going round in familiar patterns that leave you feeling stuck, ashamed, or disconnected from others and from yourself. Maybe you’re questioning aspects of identity, desire, sex and intimacy, and wanting more clarity, confidence, and ease in how you show up. At heart, you want to feel more alive, more connected with intuition, more at home in yourself, in your body, and in your relationships.
I offer a warm, sex-positive and soul-aligned space where you can speak openly and be fully yourself.
Whatever has brought you here, you’re already taking a step towards understanding yourself more deeply. You may feel things intensely and reflect a lot, but still find it hard to make sense of what’s happening right now. You may notice yourself going round in familiar patterns that leave you feeling stuck, ashamed, or disconnected from others and from yourself. Maybe you’re questioning aspects of identity, desire, sex and intimacy, and wanting more clarity, confidence, and ease in how you show up. At heart, you want to feel more alive, more connected with intuition, more at home in yourself, in your body, and in your relationships.
With a sex-positive approach, I help with compulsive sexual behaviors, pornography use, and concerns like desire loss, pain, and erectile issues.
Talking about sex, intimacy, or desire can feel difficult—especially when things aren’t working as you’d hoped. You might feel stuck, disconnected, or unsure where to begin. I offer online psychosexual therapy for individuals and couples, creating a warm, down-to-earth space to explore what’s happening with honesty and care. I specialise in desire, arousal, erectile issues, pain during sex, and relationship disconnection, supporting you towards more authentic and fulfilling ways of relating.
With a sex-positive approach, I help with compulsive sexual behaviors, pornography use, and concerns like desire loss, pain, and erectile issues.
Talking about sex, intimacy, or desire can feel difficult—especially when things aren’t working as you’d hoped. You might feel stuck, disconnected, or unsure where to begin. I offer online psychosexual therapy for individuals and couples, creating a warm, down-to-earth space to explore what’s happening with honesty and care. I specialise in desire, arousal, erectile issues, pain during sex, and relationship disconnection, supporting you towards more authentic and fulfilling ways of relating.
I am based online and in South and East London - I provide LGBTQ+ therapy and counselling for those who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, non-binary, queer, questioning, polyamorous, kink, ace etc.
I am trained within an integrative approach to counselling and psychotherapy. This means I combine different approaches to create a therapy experience that is queer and sex positive, kink-affirming and practiced with an open mindset. Intersectionality, privilege, discrimination and difference are experiences I’m committed to exploring with you safely.
I am based online and in South and East London - I provide LGBTQ+ therapy and counselling for those who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, non-binary, queer, questioning, polyamorous, kink, ace etc.
I am trained within an integrative approach to counselling and psychotherapy. This means I combine different approaches to create a therapy experience that is queer and sex positive, kink-affirming and practiced with an open mindset. Intersectionality, privilege, discrimination and difference are experiences I’m committed to exploring with you safely.
I have a deep awareness of how trauma impacts the kink, poly/ENM/RA and LGBTQIA+ community.
I offer Gestalt therapy, this modality provides a framework that meets the varied needs of marginalised groups through curiosity, creativity and a relational approach. I have lived experience as a disabled person and as a carer for a disabled person, which helps me understand the complex impact of living outside of societal norms.
I have a deep awareness of how trauma impacts the kink, poly/ENM/RA and LGBTQIA+ community.
I offer Gestalt therapy, this modality provides a framework that meets the varied needs of marginalised groups through curiosity, creativity and a relational approach. I have lived experience as a disabled person and as a carer for a disabled person, which helps me understand the complex impact of living outside of societal norms.
My practice is sex positive; neuro affirming and I am and an ally to the LGBTQ community.
We can all remember times in our lives when we have felt something was missing. Times where we’ve needed assistance, but not known where to turn. We’ve been overwhelmed or exhausted; confused or isolated; lost and in need of something more that we can’t put our finger on. I am interested in what has brought an individual to the point they’re at currently – what is working for them and what do they want to change. With a warm, person-centred approach I respect the individuality of my clients and help them to find ways to take more control over their lives without judgement or barriers.
My practice is sex positive; neuro affirming and I am and an ally to the LGBTQ community.
We can all remember times in our lives when we have felt something was missing. Times where we’ve needed assistance, but not known where to turn. We’ve been overwhelmed or exhausted; confused or isolated; lost and in need of something more that we can’t put our finger on. I am interested in what has brought an individual to the point they’re at currently – what is working for them and what do they want to change. With a warm, person-centred approach I respect the individuality of my clients and help them to find ways to take more control over their lives without judgement or barriers.
I would like to help you. As a bisexual woman, I know the challenges of navigating identity and sexuality. That is why I approach every story with an open mind and empathic curiosity. I will engage you from a non-pathologizing, sex-positive, gender-affirming stance, so that you may embrace every part of yourself. I provide individual and couples therapy, as well as sessions for those in alternative relationships. Together we can navigate our way through your relationship and personal challenges, overcome cultural limitations that seek to restrict us, and ultimately find inner joy during times when it appears out of reach.
I would like to help you. As a bisexual woman, I know the challenges of navigating identity and sexuality. That is why I approach every story with an open mind and empathic curiosity. I will engage you from a non-pathologizing, sex-positive, gender-affirming stance, so that you may embrace every part of yourself. I provide individual and couples therapy, as well as sessions for those in alternative relationships. Together we can navigate our way through your relationship and personal challenges, overcome cultural limitations that seek to restrict us, and ultimately find inner joy during times when it appears out of reach.
I am sex-positive and kink-aware.
I offer individual psychotherapy for adults, with a particular interest in psychologically complex and often hard-to-speak-about experiences. My work commonly involves shame, guilt, and self-criticism; patterns that repeat despite insight or effort; sexuality, desire, and taboo; the impact of sexual harm; sexual behaviour that feels troubling or conflicted; questions of gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity; and difficulties in relationships and intimacy. My approach is exploratory, and suited to people who want to think more deeply about what is troubling them.
I am sex-positive and kink-aware.
I offer individual psychotherapy for adults, with a particular interest in psychologically complex and often hard-to-speak-about experiences. My work commonly involves shame, guilt, and self-criticism; patterns that repeat despite insight or effort; sexuality, desire, and taboo; the impact of sexual harm; sexual behaviour that feels troubling or conflicted; questions of gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity; and difficulties in relationships and intimacy. My approach is exploratory, and suited to people who want to think more deeply about what is troubling them.
I’m Saida (she/her), a neurodivergent sex-positive counsellor offering online therapy for adults who want to explore their identity, emotions, experiences and relationships without shame.
My clients often come to therapy after noticing a lack of motivation or feeling disconnected. They may feel overwhelmed by daily pressures, weighed down by anxiety, depression, or trauma, or left questioning their sense of self. Many describe feeling misunderstood, not fitting in, or never feeling “good enough.”
I work with neurodivergent adults (ADHD, autism and AuDHD, diagnosed or exploring), and those navigating questions about identity, relationships, or sexuality. Together, we’ll create a safe space where you can process your past, understand yourself more deeply, and move through life with greater confidence and ease.
I’m Saida (she/her), a neurodivergent sex-positive counsellor offering online therapy for adults who want to explore their identity, emotions, experiences and relationships without shame.
My clients often come to therapy after noticing a lack of motivation or feeling disconnected. They may feel overwhelmed by daily pressures, weighed down by anxiety, depression, or trauma, or left questioning their sense of self. Many describe feeling misunderstood, not fitting in, or never feeling “good enough.”
I work with neurodivergent adults (ADHD, autism and AuDHD, diagnosed or exploring), and those navigating questions about identity, relationships, or sexuality. Together, we’ll create a safe space where you can process your past, understand yourself more deeply, and move through life with greater confidence and ease.
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- Beckenham
- Cobham
- Croydon
- Epsom
- Esher
- Kingston upon Thames
- Richmond
- South Croydon
- Teddington
- Twickenham
- Walton-on-Thames
- West Wickham
Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counsellors
Why might an individual want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
A sex-positive or kinky individual may want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist because the client may feel safer and more supported discussing their experiences and challenges. A therapist who identifies as kink-friendly will have experience with clients having diverse sexual preferences and will likely be nonjudgmental and supportive about issues brought to the table. It is important to note that sex-positive, kink-allied individuals may find equal success with therapists who do not have such specialised knowledge and background. The most important factor in the success of therapy is for the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in sex-positive, kink-allied treatment?
Generally, no. There are limited training programs and unofficial accreditations that therapists can pursue, but a therapist’s expertise will ultimately come from their previous experience with similar clients, their engagement with organisations that promote sex positivity or kink-allied lifestyles, and the importance they place on safety and cultural sensitivity.
How can individuals recognise a good sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
An experienced therapist is able to help clients explore their sexual identity and expression and relieve any discomfort or stigma attached to discussing such matters and the client’s overall challenges. A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-allied is able to create an environment that honors a client’s experience and sexual preferences. To recognise a good therapist, clients can simply ask directly about topics and issues important to them and gauge their comfort level and connection with a clinician based on the responses.
Can clients benefit from having a therapist with a focus on sex positivity and alternative sexual lifestyles?
Some individuals may feel most comfortable knowing that the clinician they’re working with has a commitment to creating an atmosphere of sex positivity and has experience with relationship diversity and alternative relationship structures. Working with a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist may help clients respect their own challenges and improve identity-affirming treatment.