Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counselling in Sidcup

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Joanna Strong
Psychotherapist, MSc, MBACP Accred
Sidcup DA15
Hi, I’m Jo, a qualified Integrative Counsellor (BACP/NCPS), EMDR Trauma Therapist, and Clinical Sexologist (COSRT). I specialise in helping people overcome emotional, relational, and sexual challenges. Using EMDR, I support individuals in healing from trauma and regaining control of their lives. As a Clinical Sexologist, I offer compassionate guidance on sexual health, intimacy, desire, identity, and communication, helping you build fulfilling relationships. I provide a safe, affirming space where everyone is welcome and supported.
Hi, I’m Jo, a qualified Integrative Counsellor (BACP/NCPS), EMDR Trauma Therapist, and Clinical Sexologist (COSRT). I specialise in helping people overcome emotional, relational, and sexual challenges. Using EMDR, I support individuals in healing from trauma and regaining control of their lives. As a Clinical Sexologist, I offer compassionate guidance on sexual health, intimacy, desire, identity, and communication, helping you build fulfilling relationships. I provide a safe, affirming space where everyone is welcome and supported.
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Louis Carruthers
Counsellor, MBACP
Sidcup DA15
I am an Integrative Counsellor (MBACP) and I work with adults and couples both in-person and online on a wide range of behavioural, emotional, and relationship issues. I am here to provide a safe and non-judgmental space for individuals to explore their thoughts and feelings and facilitate self-awareness and movement towards healing and growth. I have been trained in a number of modalities including person-centred, psychodynamic, existential, cognitive, and relational approaches. My practice also draws on embodied/somatic approaches to trauma. My approach is tailored to the client and what works best for each individual.​
I am an Integrative Counsellor (MBACP) and I work with adults and couples both in-person and online on a wide range of behavioural, emotional, and relationship issues. I am here to provide a safe and non-judgmental space for individuals to explore their thoughts and feelings and facilitate self-awareness and movement towards healing and growth. I have been trained in a number of modalities including person-centred, psychodynamic, existential, cognitive, and relational approaches. My practice also draws on embodied/somatic approaches to trauma. My approach is tailored to the client and what works best for each individual.​
020 3949 7725 View 020 3949 7725
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Victoria Crowther
Counsellor, MBACP
Serves Area
Waitlist for new clients
I’m an experienced relationship and anxiety counsellor, specialising in working with individuals to resolve persistent anxiety, acute and complex trauma symptoms, insomnia and burnout. Also in reducing conflict and repairing connections in couples and families. I will support you with strategies to manage and relieve your symptoms whilst we work together to uncover and address the underlying cause.
I’m an experienced relationship and anxiety counsellor, specialising in working with individuals to resolve persistent anxiety, acute and complex trauma symptoms, insomnia and burnout. Also in reducing conflict and repairing connections in couples and families. I will support you with strategies to manage and relieve your symptoms whilst we work together to uncover and address the underlying cause.
020 3984 9862 View 020 3984 9862

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James O'Callaghan
Counsellor, MBACP
3 Endorsed
London NW6
I work affirmatively with neurodivergent clients (including ADHD and autism) and GSRD (gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity) - this includes LGBT+, kink and BDSM, non-monogamy, and sex work, where questions of belonging, safety, and identity often sit under the surface.
You might be feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or stuck in patterns that keep repeating despite everything you’ve tried to change.  For some people this shows up as anxiety, panic attacks, a harsh internal voice, persistent stress, or perfectionism that never seems to let up.  Others come carrying the impact of trauma, emotional or sexual abuse, or attachment wounds that began long before they had language for what was happening. Depression, low self-worth, loneliness, and self-harm can emerge when there hasn’t been a safe place for difficult feelings to go.
I work affirmatively with neurodivergent clients (including ADHD and autism) and GSRD (gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity) - this includes LGBT+, kink and BDSM, non-monogamy, and sex work, where questions of belonging, safety, and identity often sit under the surface.
You might be feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or stuck in patterns that keep repeating despite everything you’ve tried to change.  For some people this shows up as anxiety, panic attacks, a harsh internal voice, persistent stress, or perfectionism that never seems to let up.  Others come carrying the impact of trauma, emotional or sexual abuse, or attachment wounds that began long before they had language for what was happening. Depression, low self-worth, loneliness, and self-harm can emerge when there hasn’t been a safe place for difficult feelings to go.
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Dr Robert Dow
Counsellor, PhD, MBACP
Serves Area
I am sex-positive and kink-aware.
I offer individual psychotherapy for adults, with a particular interest in psychologically complex and often hard-to-speak-about experiences. My work commonly involves shame, guilt, and self-criticism; patterns that repeat despite insight or effort; sexuality, desire, and taboo; the impact of sexual harm; sexual behaviour that feels troubling or conflicted; questions of gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity; and difficulties in relationships and intimacy. The work is exploratory and reflective, and suited to people who want to develop a deeper understanding of what is troubling them.
I am sex-positive and kink-aware.
I offer individual psychotherapy for adults, with a particular interest in psychologically complex and often hard-to-speak-about experiences. My work commonly involves shame, guilt, and self-criticism; patterns that repeat despite insight or effort; sexuality, desire, and taboo; the impact of sexual harm; sexual behaviour that feels troubling or conflicted; questions of gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity; and difficulties in relationships and intimacy. The work is exploratory and reflective, and suited to people who want to develop a deeper understanding of what is troubling them.
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Saida Melgar
Counsellor, MA, MBACP
2 Endorsed
London SW9
My clients often come to therapy after noticing a lack of motivation or feeling disconnected. They may feel overwhelmed by daily pressures, weighed down by anxiety, depression, or trauma, or left questioning their sense of self. Many describe feeling misunderstood, not fitting in, or never feeling “good enough.” I work with neurodivergent adults (ADHD, autism and AuDHD, diagnosed or exploring), and those navigating questions about identity, relationships, or sexuality. Together, we’ll create a safe space where you can process your past, understand yourself more deeply, and move through life with greater confidence and ease.
My clients often come to therapy after noticing a lack of motivation or feeling disconnected. They may feel overwhelmed by daily pressures, weighed down by anxiety, depression, or trauma, or left questioning their sense of self. Many describe feeling misunderstood, not fitting in, or never feeling “good enough.” I work with neurodivergent adults (ADHD, autism and AuDHD, diagnosed or exploring), and those navigating questions about identity, relationships, or sexuality. Together, we’ll create a safe space where you can process your past, understand yourself more deeply, and move through life with greater confidence and ease.
020 4572 7386 View 020 4572 7386
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David Bevins
Counsellor, MBACP
London E17
We can all remember times in our lives when we have felt something was missing. Times where we’ve needed assistance, but not known where to turn. We’ve been overwhelmed or exhausted; confused or isolated; lost and in need of something more that we can’t put our finger on. I am interested in what has brought an individual to the point they’re at currently – what is working for them and what do they want to change. With a warm, person-centred approach I respect the individuality of my clients and help them to find ways to take more control over their lives without judgement or barriers.
We can all remember times in our lives when we have felt something was missing. Times where we’ve needed assistance, but not known where to turn. We’ve been overwhelmed or exhausted; confused or isolated; lost and in need of something more that we can’t put our finger on. I am interested in what has brought an individual to the point they’re at currently – what is working for them and what do they want to change. With a warm, person-centred approach I respect the individuality of my clients and help them to find ways to take more control over their lives without judgement or barriers.
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Will Hardy
Counsellor, MBACP
London SE15
I am based online and in South and East London - I provide LGBTQ+ therapy and counselling for those who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, non-binary, queer, questioning, polyamorous, kink, ace etc.
I am trained within an integrative approach to counselling and psychotherapy. This means I combine different approaches to create a therapy experience that is queer and sex positive, kink-affirming and practiced with an open mindset. Intersectionality, privilege, discrimination and difference are experiences I’m committed to exploring with you safely.
I am based online and in South and East London - I provide LGBTQ+ therapy and counselling for those who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, non-binary, queer, questioning, polyamorous, kink, ace etc.
I am trained within an integrative approach to counselling and psychotherapy. This means I combine different approaches to create a therapy experience that is queer and sex positive, kink-affirming and practiced with an open mindset. Intersectionality, privilege, discrimination and difference are experiences I’m committed to exploring with you safely.
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Rebecca Goldie
Psychotherapist, MSc, BACP
London N13
Waitlist for new clients
I would like to help you. As a bisexual woman, I know the challenges of navigating identity and sexuality. That is why I approach every story with an open mind and empathic curiosity. I will engage you from a non-pathologizing, sex-positive, gender-affirming stance, so that you may embrace every part of yourself. I provide individual and couples therapy, as well as sessions for those in alternative relationships. Together we can navigate our way through your relationship and personal challenges, overcome cultural limitations that seek to restrict us, and ultimately find inner joy during times when it appears out of reach.
I would like to help you. As a bisexual woman, I know the challenges of navigating identity and sexuality. That is why I approach every story with an open mind and empathic curiosity. I will engage you from a non-pathologizing, sex-positive, gender-affirming stance, so that you may embrace every part of yourself. I provide individual and couples therapy, as well as sessions for those in alternative relationships. Together we can navigate our way through your relationship and personal challenges, overcome cultural limitations that seek to restrict us, and ultimately find inner joy during times when it appears out of reach.
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Andrea Pavarini
Counsellor, DCounsPsych, MBACP
London W1G
Your life may look successful and beautiful on the outside, yet inside you may feel anxious, low or burnt out, caught in people-pleasing, especially around family, partners, your sexuality or identity. Perhaps you are coming out, or afraid of disappointing those you love. You may long to stop performing, quieten shame and feel more at home in yourself. Together we slow down, map your story and gently honour your uniqueness, reclaiming your needs, boundaries and desires so life feels steadier, kinder and more spacious. I offer a warm, confidential space in Harley Street and online to explore, feel understood & trust your way forward.
Your life may look successful and beautiful on the outside, yet inside you may feel anxious, low or burnt out, caught in people-pleasing, especially around family, partners, your sexuality or identity. Perhaps you are coming out, or afraid of disappointing those you love. You may long to stop performing, quieten shame and feel more at home in yourself. Together we slow down, map your story and gently honour your uniqueness, reclaiming your needs, boundaries and desires so life feels steadier, kinder and more spacious. I offer a warm, confidential space in Harley Street and online to explore, feel understood & trust your way forward.
020 4572 8543 View 020 4572 8543
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Vicente Partida
Counsellor, MBACP
1 Endorsed
London SE1
Many people carry deep emotions like shame or fear, or feel stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns. By exploring the unconscious and reflecting on past and present relationships, we can uncover insights to help with life’s challenges. I have experience with LGBTQIA+ clients and those from multicultural backgrounds, dealing with issues such as relationship problems, anxiety, depression, trauma, and identity. Counselling can offer a safe yet challenging space to explore and gain clarity, whether you have specific concerns or are unsure of the cause.
Many people carry deep emotions like shame or fear, or feel stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns. By exploring the unconscious and reflecting on past and present relationships, we can uncover insights to help with life’s challenges. I have experience with LGBTQIA+ clients and those from multicultural backgrounds, dealing with issues such as relationship problems, anxiety, depression, trauma, and identity. Counselling can offer a safe yet challenging space to explore and gain clarity, whether you have specific concerns or are unsure of the cause.
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Emma Hacking
Counsellor, MNCPS Acc.
1 Endorsed
Online Only
Waitlist for new clients
I specialise in working with the whole person, but much of my practice is working with folks in the LGBTQIA plus, psychedelic, activist, kink, neurodiverse and/or polyamory communities.
Counselling with me provides you with a space of radical acceptance to explore your beliefs, your identities, and your experiences of the world. Together, we will co-create a space to experiment with new ways of being. Or a place to integrate or challenge yourself. Or simply some time and space to be heard, and get curious about the meaning of your life (past, present, future). I work with a wide range of people and you are welcome to get in touch if my profile resonates with you. Often, I work with activists, the LGBTQIA+ community, kinky people, poly people, neurodiverse people, outsiders and edge-walkers (and more).
I specialise in working with the whole person, but much of my practice is working with folks in the LGBTQIA plus, psychedelic, activist, kink, neurodiverse and/or polyamory communities.
Counselling with me provides you with a space of radical acceptance to explore your beliefs, your identities, and your experiences of the world. Together, we will co-create a space to experiment with new ways of being. Or a place to integrate or challenge yourself. Or simply some time and space to be heard, and get curious about the meaning of your life (past, present, future). I work with a wide range of people and you are welcome to get in touch if my profile resonates with you. Often, I work with activists, the LGBTQIA+ community, kinky people, poly people, neurodiverse people, outsiders and edge-walkers (and more).
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We all experience difficulties in our life, but when these difficulties start to impact our ability to enjoy life, work, and manage our relationships, we might want to get some extra support. Counselling provides a unique opportunity to talk through and process your experiences and feelings in a safe, confidential and consistent space. Clients come to me to find a calm environment to work through issues at their own pace. I won't tell you what to do, but I'll be with you each step of the way.
We all experience difficulties in our life, but when these difficulties start to impact our ability to enjoy life, work, and manage our relationships, we might want to get some extra support. Counselling provides a unique opportunity to talk through and process your experiences and feelings in a safe, confidential and consistent space. Clients come to me to find a calm environment to work through issues at their own pace. I won't tell you what to do, but I'll be with you each step of the way.
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Sex Therapist - Chloe Jones
Counsellor, COSRT Reg.
Online Only
I work with people that have barriers to a fulfilling sex life. This can include conditions such as erectile dysfunction, premature/delayed ejaculation, low desire, pain during penetration and difficulty achieving orgasm.
I work with people that have barriers to a fulfilling sex life. This can include conditions such as erectile dysfunction, premature/delayed ejaculation, low desire, pain during penetration and difficulty achieving orgasm.
020 4634 1092 View 020 4634 1092
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Sophia Madriaga
Counsellor, MBACP
London E13
I support anxiety, confidence and work pressures, and offer LGBTQIA+, identity, relationship diversity and kink-aware counselling to help you move forward authentically.
Many of the people who reach out to me are thoughtful, self-aware, and used to coping alone. From the outside life may look steady, but internally they feel overwhelmed, stuck in overthinking, self-doubt, or emotional exhaustion. Some are questioning identity, relationships, or direction in life; others feel pressure at work or struggle to feel “enough.” They want a space where they don’t have to perform, explain everything perfectly, or be judged. Their goal is to understand themselves more clearly, feel calmer and more confident, and make choices that feel authentic rather than driven by fear or expectation.
I support anxiety, confidence and work pressures, and offer LGBTQIA+, identity, relationship diversity and kink-aware counselling to help you move forward authentically.
Many of the people who reach out to me are thoughtful, self-aware, and used to coping alone. From the outside life may look steady, but internally they feel overwhelmed, stuck in overthinking, self-doubt, or emotional exhaustion. Some are questioning identity, relationships, or direction in life; others feel pressure at work or struggle to feel “enough.” They want a space where they don’t have to perform, explain everything perfectly, or be judged. Their goal is to understand themselves more clearly, feel calmer and more confident, and make choices that feel authentic rather than driven by fear or expectation.
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Keith Fowler
Psychotherapist, COSRT Reg.
Online Only
I have particular experience working with compulsive sexual behaviour (sometimes called sex addiction), and I am polyamory-informed and kink-aware.
Welcome - I'm a psychosexual therapist offering a supportive and non-judgmental space to explore sexual and relationship concerns. I work, often with individuals, around issues such as mismatched desire, betrayals, difficulties with communication and connection, and navigating non-monogamy. I support clients with sexual challenges such as unreliable erections (erectile dysfuction), rapid ejaculation (premature ejaculation), delayed or absent ejaculation, low desire, and problematic porn use.
I have particular experience working with compulsive sexual behaviour (sometimes called sex addiction), and I am polyamory-informed and kink-aware.
Welcome - I'm a psychosexual therapist offering a supportive and non-judgmental space to explore sexual and relationship concerns. I work, often with individuals, around issues such as mismatched desire, betrayals, difficulties with communication and connection, and navigating non-monogamy. I support clients with sexual challenges such as unreliable erections (erectile dysfuction), rapid ejaculation (premature ejaculation), delayed or absent ejaculation, low desire, and problematic porn use.
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Katie Merritt
Psychotherapist, MA, MBACP Accred
3 Endorsed
London EC4A
I work with clients experiencing anxiety, stress, and identity or relationship challenges in a sex-positive, kink-allied space.
Life can feel relentless. High-pressure workplaces, long hours, and constant societal expectations can leave you anxious, disconnected, or carrying feelings you can’t quite name. We’re often pushed from one demand to the next, stretched into shapes that don’t feel authentic, urged to want more, achieve more, be more, and somehow be perfect, no matter the cost. Under the weight of these expectations, life can start to feel heavy, as though you’re living by someone else’s standards, disconnected from your body, your needs, and your sense of self.
I work with clients experiencing anxiety, stress, and identity or relationship challenges in a sex-positive, kink-allied space.
Life can feel relentless. High-pressure workplaces, long hours, and constant societal expectations can leave you anxious, disconnected, or carrying feelings you can’t quite name. We’re often pushed from one demand to the next, stretched into shapes that don’t feel authentic, urged to want more, achieve more, be more, and somehow be perfect, no matter the cost. Under the weight of these expectations, life can start to feel heavy, as though you’re living by someone else’s standards, disconnected from your body, your needs, and your sense of self.
020 4634 0151 View 020 4634 0151
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Heather Elizabeth Witcher
Counsellor, MNCPS Acc.
Serves Area
My counselling process is client focused and tailored. You and your personal journey are unique, therefore there is no "one size fits all" approach in my therapy space. Although I have had a long and varied education into counselling, psychology and social forces, I remain convinced by a fact that I learned on the first day of my degree... It is often not the method of counselling which predicts a benefit to our clients, but the relationship between client and practitioner. I prioritise building trust and a sense of safety that healing can bed into and thrive in.
My counselling process is client focused and tailored. You and your personal journey are unique, therefore there is no "one size fits all" approach in my therapy space. Although I have had a long and varied education into counselling, psychology and social forces, I remain convinced by a fact that I learned on the first day of my degree... It is often not the method of counselling which predicts a benefit to our clients, but the relationship between client and practitioner. I prioritise building trust and a sense of safety that healing can bed into and thrive in.
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Laura Jayne Nice
Counsellor, MBACP
2 Endorsed
London E14
I'm sex positive, sex worker allied and have experience of kink dynamics.
I have found that interpersonal relationship issues often intersect with deeper themes, such as patterns of relating formed in childhood, feelings of anxiety or overwhelm, identity exploration, or a sense of being stuck. I aim to provide a safe, non-judgmental space where we can explore these interconnected areas together and work toward positive change.
I'm sex positive, sex worker allied and have experience of kink dynamics.
I have found that interpersonal relationship issues often intersect with deeper themes, such as patterns of relating formed in childhood, feelings of anxiety or overwhelm, identity exploration, or a sense of being stuck. I aim to provide a safe, non-judgmental space where we can explore these interconnected areas together and work toward positive change.
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Azbel Szczepaniak
Counsellor, MBACP
1 Endorsed
London E1
Hi I'm Azbel (they/them) I’m a BACP registered integrative counsellor offering Ecotherapy sessions in Wanstead Flats. Together with Nature’s nurturing presence we can explore themes such as gender and sexuality, life transitions and change, emotional dysregulation and burnout. Or we can focus more directly on your relationship with Nature, where I will facilitate this bond through guided exercises and emotional exploration. Ecotherapy offers the healing potential of a reparative relationship with a therapist, paired with finding meaning and belonging in Nature.
Hi I'm Azbel (they/them) I’m a BACP registered integrative counsellor offering Ecotherapy sessions in Wanstead Flats. Together with Nature’s nurturing presence we can explore themes such as gender and sexuality, life transitions and change, emotional dysregulation and burnout. Or we can focus more directly on your relationship with Nature, where I will facilitate this bond through guided exercises and emotional exploration. Ecotherapy offers the healing potential of a reparative relationship with a therapist, paired with finding meaning and belonging in Nature.
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Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counsellors
Why might an individual want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
A sex-positive or kinky individual may want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist because the client may feel safer and more supported discussing their experiences and challenges. A therapist who identifies as kink-friendly will have experience with clients having diverse sexual preferences and will likely be nonjudgmental and supportive about issues brought to the table. It is important to note that sex-positive, kink-allied individuals may find equal success with therapists who do not have such specialised knowledge and background. The most important factor in the success of therapy is for the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond.

Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in sex-positive, kink-allied treatment?
Generally, no. There are limited training programs and unofficial accreditations that therapists can pursue, but a therapist’s expertise will ultimately come from their previous experience with similar clients, their engagement with organisations that promote sex positivity or kink-allied lifestyles, and the importance they place on safety and cultural sensitivity.

How can individuals recognise a good sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
An experienced therapist is able to help clients explore their sexual identity and expression and relieve any discomfort or stigma attached to discussing such matters and the client’s overall challenges. A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-allied is able to create an environment that honors a client’s experience and sexual preferences. To recognise a good therapist, clients can simply ask directly about topics and issues important to them and gauge their comfort level and connection with a clinician based on the responses.

Can clients benefit from having a therapist with a focus on sex positivity and alternative sexual lifestyles?
Some individuals may feel most comfortable knowing that the clinician they’re working with has a commitment to creating an atmosphere of sex positivity and has experience with relationship diversity and alternative relationship structures. Working with a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist may help clients respect their own challenges and improve identity-affirming treatment.