Codependency Counselling in Selby
Hello, my name is James.
Sometimes life can feel uncertain, overwhelming, painful or isolating. Whatever you’re facing, you don’t have to face it alone.
Chestnut Counselling offers a confidential, empathetic space where you can explore your thoughts, feelings, and emotions safely, without judgement, and at a pace that feels right for you. Many clients seek therapy to better understand themselves, navigate life’s challenges, or find relief from anxiety, stress, or low mood. Whatever your reasons, counselling can support you in gaining deeper clarity, building self-awareness, and moving towards a more fulfilling life.
Hello, my name is James.
Sometimes life can feel uncertain, overwhelming, painful or isolating. Whatever you’re facing, you don’t have to face it alone.
Chestnut Counselling offers a confidential, empathetic space where you can explore your thoughts, feelings, and emotions safely, without judgement, and at a pace that feels right for you. Many clients seek therapy to better understand themselves, navigate life’s challenges, or find relief from anxiety, stress, or low mood. Whatever your reasons, counselling can support you in gaining deeper clarity, building self-awareness, and moving towards a more fulfilling life.
I offer online therapy integrating IFS, EMDR, NET, CBT, and somatic methods. My own experience of trauma and recovery informs a clear, embodied understanding of how chronic anxiety, IBS, pain, and sleep difficulties can shape daily life. My approach is steady, practical, and rooted in evidence‑based care, supporting healing through connection — one nervous system at a time. Collaborative and respectful of your choice, I help you build resilience, authenticity, and lasting change.
I offer online therapy integrating IFS, EMDR, NET, CBT, and somatic methods. My own experience of trauma and recovery informs a clear, embodied understanding of how chronic anxiety, IBS, pain, and sleep difficulties can shape daily life. My approach is steady, practical, and rooted in evidence‑based care, supporting healing through connection — one nervous system at a time. Collaborative and respectful of your choice, I help you build resilience, authenticity, and lasting change.
Everyone has their own unique struggles and experiences and sometimes it can feel difficult to process our thoughts and feelings. I aim to show respect by working at a pace that feels comfortable for you to gain insight and enable you to feel heard and understood. Maybe you have experienced life events that were out of your control and your ability to cope has been impacted. I aim to provide you with a space that feels safe and supportive to explore what is going on for you without the fear of judgment. This may be a space to heal. This unique relationship is tailored to you and I see my role as being alongside you on this journey.
Everyone has their own unique struggles and experiences and sometimes it can feel difficult to process our thoughts and feelings. I aim to show respect by working at a pace that feels comfortable for you to gain insight and enable you to feel heard and understood. Maybe you have experienced life events that were out of your control and your ability to cope has been impacted. I aim to provide you with a space that feels safe and supportive to explore what is going on for you without the fear of judgment. This may be a space to heal. This unique relationship is tailored to you and I see my role as being alongside you on this journey.
Based in York city centre, I am a BACP Accredited Counsellor working with adults with a range of issues, including domestic abuse.
Anxiety, depression and low self-esteem can impact daily life. Maybe you are struggling with changes or decisions that feel out of your control. You may need a safe space to heal after distressing life experiences. Difficult or abusive relationships can leave us confused about what is abuse, gaslighting or coercive control. I aim to provide a safe and confidential space where we can work together to help you make sense of your experiences, thoughts and feelings at a pace that feels right for you.
Based in York city centre, I am a BACP Accredited Counsellor working with adults with a range of issues, including domestic abuse.
Anxiety, depression and low self-esteem can impact daily life. Maybe you are struggling with changes or decisions that feel out of your control. You may need a safe space to heal after distressing life experiences. Difficult or abusive relationships can leave us confused about what is abuse, gaslighting or coercive control. I aim to provide a safe and confidential space where we can work together to help you make sense of your experiences, thoughts and feelings at a pace that feels right for you.
Rediscover yourself. Reconnect. Reclaim your peace.
I work with individuals or couples experiencing a variety of issues, for example, anxiety, low self-esteem, relationship struggles, burnout, or feeling stuck in repeating patterns. They need understanding, support, and a safe space to process past pain and reconnect with themselves. My clients want clarity, growth, and empowerment - to feel whole, rediscover their authentic self, and live aligned with who they truly are, creating meaningful change in their life and relationships.
Rediscover yourself. Reconnect. Reclaim your peace.
I work with individuals or couples experiencing a variety of issues, for example, anxiety, low self-esteem, relationship struggles, burnout, or feeling stuck in repeating patterns. They need understanding, support, and a safe space to process past pain and reconnect with themselves. My clients want clarity, growth, and empowerment - to feel whole, rediscover their authentic self, and live aligned with who they truly are, creating meaningful change in their life and relationships.
Are you puzzled why 'things' are not working out for you ? Do you feel 'stressed all the time ? Are you curious about why you are the person you are ? Why you live the life you do ? Is there a pattern you recognise about yourself, that you 'don't get' but seems unchangeable? Do you feel 'stuck' and unable to live the life you want? Does that desire to live the best life you can seem limited by illness or a potential or actual genetic blue print that isn't changeable ? If you have any of these thoughts or similar, then I can help you to find your answers. I have energy, experience, resources and commitment for this work with you.
Are you puzzled why 'things' are not working out for you ? Do you feel 'stressed all the time ? Are you curious about why you are the person you are ? Why you live the life you do ? Is there a pattern you recognise about yourself, that you 'don't get' but seems unchangeable? Do you feel 'stuck' and unable to live the life you want? Does that desire to live the best life you can seem limited by illness or a potential or actual genetic blue print that isn't changeable ? If you have any of these thoughts or similar, then I can help you to find your answers. I have energy, experience, resources and commitment for this work with you.
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You’ve spent years putting others first, being the peacemaker and people-pleaser, but inside you’re emotionally exhausted and left wondering why you feel so alone. Maybe you’re feeling invisible or like you're constantly walking on eggshells; it doesn’t have to stay this way.
I work with those who feel like they put in so much more than anyone else, whether at home, with friends or at work; the dependable ones who’ve become so good at tending to others that they’ve lost touch with who they are. My clients often live their life wearing a brave face but underneath they are wondering why their life doesn’t look how they imagined.
You’ve spent years putting others first, being the peacemaker and people-pleaser, but inside you’re emotionally exhausted and left wondering why you feel so alone. Maybe you’re feeling invisible or like you're constantly walking on eggshells; it doesn’t have to stay this way.
I work with those who feel like they put in so much more than anyone else, whether at home, with friends or at work; the dependable ones who’ve become so good at tending to others that they’ve lost touch with who they are. My clients often live their life wearing a brave face but underneath they are wondering why their life doesn’t look how they imagined.
I have particular interests supporting those who identify with autistic or ADHD traits and survivors of narcissistic abuse. Feeling empowered, we will develop your emotional healing & resilience, working as a team discovering your true self. The real self, free of any past hurt, guilt, shame/other negative thoughts, feelings, behaviours and unwanted bodily sensations that you feel you have never deserved. My practice is inclusive and anti-oppressive, ensuring clients feel safe to be themselves, truly heard, and understood. I am committed to walking alongside you with compassion, authenticity and a focus on lasting change.
I have particular interests supporting those who identify with autistic or ADHD traits and survivors of narcissistic abuse. Feeling empowered, we will develop your emotional healing & resilience, working as a team discovering your true self. The real self, free of any past hurt, guilt, shame/other negative thoughts, feelings, behaviours and unwanted bodily sensations that you feel you have never deserved. My practice is inclusive and anti-oppressive, ensuring clients feel safe to be themselves, truly heard, and understood. I am committed to walking alongside you with compassion, authenticity and a focus on lasting change.
You might look as though you are coping well on the outside, yet privately feel overwhelmed, self-critical, or stuck in patterns that keep repeating. Perhaps you overthink conversations long after they have ended, question whether you are too much or not enough, or find yourself working hard to keep others happy while neglecting your own needs. You may appear capable and successful, yet struggle with anxiety, self-doubt, or relationship patterns that leave you feeling unseen or misunderstood. Together, we can begin to understand how these relationship patterns originally formed and how you can start to respond differently.
You might look as though you are coping well on the outside, yet privately feel overwhelmed, self-critical, or stuck in patterns that keep repeating. Perhaps you overthink conversations long after they have ended, question whether you are too much or not enough, or find yourself working hard to keep others happy while neglecting your own needs. You may appear capable and successful, yet struggle with anxiety, self-doubt, or relationship patterns that leave you feeling unseen or misunderstood. Together, we can begin to understand how these relationship patterns originally formed and how you can start to respond differently.
I specialise in working with people who find themselves misunderstood, unwanted and even frightening to others. Relationships are almost impossible and always full of conflict. When you work with me I will support you to manage your emotions, navigate the mysterious world of relationships and find your path.
I specialise in working with people who find themselves misunderstood, unwanted and even frightening to others. Relationships are almost impossible and always full of conflict. When you work with me I will support you to manage your emotions, navigate the mysterious world of relationships and find your path.
I am passionate about supporting those who identify as LGBTQIA+, ADHD or neurodivergent. I am relational, collaborative and holistic, placing value and importance in you, your story and your challenges and successes. Choosing a therapist is a very personal decision and finding someone that you feel comfortable with is an important part of your process.
You might be struggling with anxiety, anger or depression? Perhaps issues from your past keep resurfacing and you're looking for a way to move forward? Maybe you have noticed you feel different to the people around you? Or you might like to process an event in a safe environment?
I am passionate about supporting those who identify as LGBTQIA+, ADHD or neurodivergent. I am relational, collaborative and holistic, placing value and importance in you, your story and your challenges and successes. Choosing a therapist is a very personal decision and finding someone that you feel comfortable with is an important part of your process.
You might be struggling with anxiety, anger or depression? Perhaps issues from your past keep resurfacing and you're looking for a way to move forward? Maybe you have noticed you feel different to the people around you? Or you might like to process an event in a safe environment?
Life can be difficult and we all need support at times. Are you feeling lost and unsure of where to turn for help? Perhaps you are experiencing issues such as low mood, anxiety or maybe you feel like you don't fit in anywhere.
I have experience in working with a wide range of issues, including depression, grief and burn out.
I will work with you, at your pace, to help navigate your way through whatever it is that is troubling you. I work in a calm, non judgemental way.
I offer both online and in person sessions. In person sessions take place in Acomb, York.
Life can be difficult and we all need support at times. Are you feeling lost and unsure of where to turn for help? Perhaps you are experiencing issues such as low mood, anxiety or maybe you feel like you don't fit in anywhere.
I have experience in working with a wide range of issues, including depression, grief and burn out.
I will work with you, at your pace, to help navigate your way through whatever it is that is troubling you. I work in a calm, non judgemental way.
I offer both online and in person sessions. In person sessions take place in Acomb, York.
I work with individuals and couples who may feel anxious, overwhelmed, emotionally stuck or caught in painful relationship patterns. Many of my clients struggle with people-pleasing, low self-worth, overthinking, burnout, betrayal or disconnection from themselves and others. I offer a warm, compassionate and down-to-earth space, drawing from relational, somatic and trauma-informed approaches to help clients better understand themselves, improve relationships and create meaningful, lasting change.
I work with individuals and couples who may feel anxious, overwhelmed, emotionally stuck or caught in painful relationship patterns. Many of my clients struggle with people-pleasing, low self-worth, overthinking, burnout, betrayal or disconnection from themselves and others. I offer a warm, compassionate and down-to-earth space, drawing from relational, somatic and trauma-informed approaches to help clients better understand themselves, improve relationships and create meaningful, lasting change.
Hello, and welcome to my page in this directory. I am a highly qualified and experienced clinical psychologist located near the centre of York. Prior to working full time in private practice I worked as a clinical psychologist in NHS mental health services for 14years. I offer individual therapy to adults (across the age range) with a wide range of difficulties including: anxiety, panic, depression, low mood, trauma, emotional neglect, stress, grief, self-esteem and relationship problems. Please see my website for more details of how I work.
Hello, and welcome to my page in this directory. I am a highly qualified and experienced clinical psychologist located near the centre of York. Prior to working full time in private practice I worked as a clinical psychologist in NHS mental health services for 14years. I offer individual therapy to adults (across the age range) with a wide range of difficulties including: anxiety, panic, depression, low mood, trauma, emotional neglect, stress, grief, self-esteem and relationship problems. Please see my website for more details of how I work.
I offer a responsive, accepting approach tailored to you, to help with challenges like change, transition or stuckness. A safe space in which to process experiences, with opportunities to heal, find meaning, build resilience and safety. I listen and respond with empathy and curiosity. I am warm, friendly, non-judgemental and easy to talk to.
Perhaps you are:
• parenting, in (peri)menopause, career or relationship change
• adjusting to a diagnosis, for yourself or a neurodivergent child
• younger or older
• overwhelmed by global change
• feeling social expectation
• leaving, joining or changing perspective in a religion
I offer a responsive, accepting approach tailored to you, to help with challenges like change, transition or stuckness. A safe space in which to process experiences, with opportunities to heal, find meaning, build resilience and safety. I listen and respond with empathy and curiosity. I am warm, friendly, non-judgemental and easy to talk to.
Perhaps you are:
• parenting, in (peri)menopause, career or relationship change
• adjusting to a diagnosis, for yourself or a neurodivergent child
• younger or older
• overwhelmed by global change
• feeling social expectation
• leaving, joining or changing perspective in a religion
Hi, I’m Chloe, a BACP registered counsellor supporting adults who feel overwhelmed, stuck or struggling to make sense of their thoughts and emotions. You may be experiencing anxiety, trauma, ADHD, low mood or grief or simply feel that something isn’t quite right.
I offer a warm, non-judgemental space where we can explore what’s going on for you, build self-awareness, and help you feel more grounded, understood and able to move forward at your own pace.
Hi, I’m Chloe, a BACP registered counsellor supporting adults who feel overwhelmed, stuck or struggling to make sense of their thoughts and emotions. You may be experiencing anxiety, trauma, ADHD, low mood or grief or simply feel that something isn’t quite right.
I offer a warm, non-judgemental space where we can explore what’s going on for you, build self-awareness, and help you feel more grounded, understood and able to move forward at your own pace.
I am a qualified integrative counsellor and psychotherapist. I believe we are shaped by our past and present relationships, influencing how we view ourselves, others and our environment. Sometimes this causes distress, anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties, loss, grief and much more. Many clients come to therapy questioning why what has worked for them in the past no longer works for them now. Together we work to understand, find clarity and make meaningful lasting change. I provide professional therapy tailored to clients' individual needs, supporting clients as they move toward their goals at a pace comfortable to them.
I am a qualified integrative counsellor and psychotherapist. I believe we are shaped by our past and present relationships, influencing how we view ourselves, others and our environment. Sometimes this causes distress, anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties, loss, grief and much more. Many clients come to therapy questioning why what has worked for them in the past no longer works for them now. Together we work to understand, find clarity and make meaningful lasting change. I provide professional therapy tailored to clients' individual needs, supporting clients as they move toward their goals at a pace comfortable to them.
Perhaps you are reading this profile because you are going through something difficult right now, and you are looking for someone to offer you support without agenda or judgement? Therapy is about creating a compassionate space in which you will be heard and given the time to explore what is going on for you. My role is to help you feel safe and empowered to reflect on your feelings, fears, hopes and frustrations, and to find a way forward that is right for you. So that you can decide if I am the right therapist for you, I am always happy to have a conversation via Zoom before you book an appointment.
Perhaps you are reading this profile because you are going through something difficult right now, and you are looking for someone to offer you support without agenda or judgement? Therapy is about creating a compassionate space in which you will be heard and given the time to explore what is going on for you. My role is to help you feel safe and empowered to reflect on your feelings, fears, hopes and frustrations, and to find a way forward that is right for you. So that you can decide if I am the right therapist for you, I am always happy to have a conversation via Zoom before you book an appointment.
Are you feeling stuck in a painful cycle with food, your body, your health, or your emotional wellbeing? You may find yourself eating in secret, feeling out of control, or caught between wanting change and struggling to sustain it. You might also be adjusting after illness, surgery, or weight loss treatment, feeling stuck in recurring relationship patterns, or struggling to cope with life’s challenges. I specialise in helping adults understand the patterns that keep these difficulties going, including cycles of restriction and overeating, persistent self-criticism, relationship difficulties, or feeling disconnected from yourself.
Are you feeling stuck in a painful cycle with food, your body, your health, or your emotional wellbeing? You may find yourself eating in secret, feeling out of control, or caught between wanting change and struggling to sustain it. You might also be adjusting after illness, surgery, or weight loss treatment, feeling stuck in recurring relationship patterns, or struggling to cope with life’s challenges. I specialise in helping adults understand the patterns that keep these difficulties going, including cycles of restriction and overeating, persistent self-criticism, relationship difficulties, or feeling disconnected from yourself.
You might have a lot going on in life that looks “fine” from the outside. A job. People around you. Things that suggest you’re doing okay.
And still, there can be this quiet feeling of being on your own with it all. Not fully able to say it. Not wanting to burden anyone. So you keep going, as most people do, while something inside feels a bit heavy, a bit distant, and a bit alone. It can be exhausting carrying so much without feeling truly seen or understood.
You might have a lot going on in life that looks “fine” from the outside. A job. People around you. Things that suggest you’re doing okay.
And still, there can be this quiet feeling of being on your own with it all. Not fully able to say it. Not wanting to burden anyone. So you keep going, as most people do, while something inside feels a bit heavy, a bit distant, and a bit alone. It can be exhausting carrying so much without feeling truly seen or understood.
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- Boston Spa
- Castleford
- Doncaster
- Knaresborough
- Leeds
- Pocklington
- Pontefract
- Scunthorpe
- Tadcaster
- Wakefield
- Wetherby
- York
Codependency Counsellors
What therapy types help with codependency problems?
Both couples and family therapy and cognitive and behavioral therapy (CBT) can help with the relationship difficulties referred to as codependency. Such problems typically include inappropriate feelings of responsibility for a loved one’s destructive behavior, irrational patterns of thinking about such behavior, and family interaction patterns in which the needs of one troubled member override the needs of others in a household.
What happens in therapy for codependency?
Spouses and family members learn and practice how to interact and support each other in a healthy way without sacrificing their own needs or well-being. They learn the limits of their responsibility for their loved ones and correct faulty patterns of thinking and feeling that underlie codependent behavior. Individuals may be encouraged to nurture an array of social relationships and to cultivate their own talents and interests so that they develop a healthy sense of self outside the family.
How does therapy help a person or couple overcome codependency?
Therapy helps people establish healthy ways of being in a relationship. Spouses and family members learn how to nurture and support one another without sacrificing their own needs or allowing the needs of one person to dominate the dynamic. Individuals learn how to say no and set boundaries, and how to maintain their own identity and self-esteem. Therapy helps people understand that they are not responsible for the feelings and actions of others. It also helps individuals deal with the turbulence that can come from living with a person suffering from such conditions as substance abuse and mental illness.
What is the goal of therapy for codependency?
One goal of therapy for codependency is to alleviate feelings of responsibility for and correct irrational patterns of thinking about loved ones whose behavioral problems override the needs of others in a household. Therapy helps people establish healthy boundaries of behavior and speak up for their own needs in a relationship. In addition, people learn how to maintain a healthy relationship, one in which both parties give and receive equally and are able to retain their own identity.