Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counselling in Oxford
My ideal client is an individual or a couple who are genuinely committed to looking inwards, keen to look at themselves and how they relate to the world around them. The therapy I am offering is ideal for those seeking an engaged therapeutic relationship with collaborative exploration rather than a one-side dialogue from the client. In fostering a warm and professional environment, my aim is to guide clients through a transformative journey of self-discovery and interpersonal understanding, ultimately empowering them to navigate life with greater insight and resilience.
My ideal client is an individual or a couple who are genuinely committed to looking inwards, keen to look at themselves and how they relate to the world around them. The therapy I am offering is ideal for those seeking an engaged therapeutic relationship with collaborative exploration rather than a one-side dialogue from the client. In fostering a warm and professional environment, my aim is to guide clients through a transformative journey of self-discovery and interpersonal understanding, ultimately empowering them to navigate life with greater insight and resilience.
I am a qualified relationship therapist. I help couples who have challenges getting along. Maybe you are arguing all the time or intimacy has gone out the window? Perhaps someone has been cheating, had an affair or struggles with an addiction to sex or porn. If your world has been rocked by a discovery about your partner or you are living with secrecy that is weighing you down I can help you work through it.
I am a qualified relationship therapist. I help couples who have challenges getting along. Maybe you are arguing all the time or intimacy has gone out the window? Perhaps someone has been cheating, had an affair or struggles with an addiction to sex or porn. If your world has been rocked by a discovery about your partner or you are living with secrecy that is weighing you down I can help you work through it.
Many of the people I work with arrive having carried something for too long. Senior professionals running on empty, whose sleep and sense of self have started to fray. Women with PMDD — the condition I wrote and published a book on — who have spent years being told what they experience is just "normal PMS". People living with the after-effects of trauma that never properly settled. What they share is being capable, articulate adults who have nonetheless reached the point of needing help. I work with all of that — at the pace your system can tolerate, with rigour, and without pretending therapy is a cure.
Many of the people I work with arrive having carried something for too long. Senior professionals running on empty, whose sleep and sense of self have started to fray. Women with PMDD — the condition I wrote and published a book on — who have spent years being told what they experience is just "normal PMS". People living with the after-effects of trauma that never properly settled. What they share is being capable, articulate adults who have nonetheless reached the point of needing help. I work with all of that — at the pace your system can tolerate, with rigour, and without pretending therapy is a cure.
Talking therapy is my vocation and professional passion. I am of dual heritage and have a background in languages: Communicating and listening are at the heart of my practice. My training was in Integrative Counselling and Psychotherapy at the Minster Centre. This approach draws from the major therapeutic schools of thought. I think about what you feel on many levels and help you to find your own understanding. Whatever you wish to share, I give you time to reflect. I also work relationally. This means that the trusting partnership we develop will allow you to notice how you relate to yourself and others.
Talking therapy is my vocation and professional passion. I am of dual heritage and have a background in languages: Communicating and listening are at the heart of my practice. My training was in Integrative Counselling and Psychotherapy at the Minster Centre. This approach draws from the major therapeutic schools of thought. I think about what you feel on many levels and help you to find your own understanding. Whatever you wish to share, I give you time to reflect. I also work relationally. This means that the trusting partnership we develop will allow you to notice how you relate to yourself and others.
I offer counselling and therapeutic coaching. Clients will come to me with a range of problems and often feel some confusion and simply need to talk. In our work we will clarify the problem and see what is most challenging for you at the present time. We will discover where this confusion arises in the body and mind and begin to understand where it began: Perhaps this has been triggered in the past: by an environment, people, a person, upbringing etc. The work we do is compassionate and kind. My purpose is to help you find your way out of the confusion and suffering, so you can find purpose, meaning and peace in your life.
I offer counselling and therapeutic coaching. Clients will come to me with a range of problems and often feel some confusion and simply need to talk. In our work we will clarify the problem and see what is most challenging for you at the present time. We will discover where this confusion arises in the body and mind and begin to understand where it began: Perhaps this has been triggered in the past: by an environment, people, a person, upbringing etc. The work we do is compassionate and kind. My purpose is to help you find your way out of the confusion and suffering, so you can find purpose, meaning and peace in your life.
Are you feeling trapped in patterns of behaviour that made sense in the past but hold you back now? Perhaps you're constantly reliving traumatic experiences in your mind or body, or feeling shame, self-criticism, anger or anxiety that you can't seem to change. Together we'll notice the feelings, beliefs, sensations and memories that show up for you in each moment, and find ways you can respond to these feelings that leave you feeling calm, self-compassionate and more resolved. If talking hasn't changed the difficulties you're experiencing, or your body feels stuck in past experiences, this way of working might be a good fit for you.
Are you feeling trapped in patterns of behaviour that made sense in the past but hold you back now? Perhaps you're constantly reliving traumatic experiences in your mind or body, or feeling shame, self-criticism, anger or anxiety that you can't seem to change. Together we'll notice the feelings, beliefs, sensations and memories that show up for you in each moment, and find ways you can respond to these feelings that leave you feeling calm, self-compassionate and more resolved. If talking hasn't changed the difficulties you're experiencing, or your body feels stuck in past experiences, this way of working might be a good fit for you.
I provide focused therapy that will help you to see your patterns and emotions as well as moral and ethical challenges arising from interpersonal and social contexts better, to then allow you to change them. Obstacles to change are very subtle, often almost invisible. Self-awareness can redirect your energies to creating more positive states of mind. We will work on how ethical and moral dilemmas arise between people, how this interacts with different life experiences that impact your personality and how that then affects your psychological well being.
I provide focused therapy that will help you to see your patterns and emotions as well as moral and ethical challenges arising from interpersonal and social contexts better, to then allow you to change them. Obstacles to change are very subtle, often almost invisible. Self-awareness can redirect your energies to creating more positive states of mind. We will work on how ethical and moral dilemmas arise between people, how this interacts with different life experiences that impact your personality and how that then affects your psychological well being.
I am dedicated to making therapy feel more accessible and less scary. I know it can be difficult to make that first step and to move forward and learn to trust a therapist. I try to work in a way that is sensitive to individual need and preference, as well as being open to constructive criticism from clients so that I can better serve them. I want therapy with me to be a positive experience for you.
I am dedicated to making therapy feel more accessible and less scary. I know it can be difficult to make that first step and to move forward and learn to trust a therapist. I try to work in a way that is sensitive to individual need and preference, as well as being open to constructive criticism from clients so that I can better serve them. I want therapy with me to be a positive experience for you.
If you're the person others rely on, asking for help yourself can feel unfamiliar. You may appear to be coping. You might be successful at work, meeting responsibilities and keeping everything together, but inside you feel exhausted, anxious or stuck in patterns of overthinking, self-criticism or people-pleasing. I help people who are used to pushing through, but who want to understand themselves more deeply and create lasting change. Together, we’ll explore what’s driving these patterns so you can feel calmer, more confident and more like yourself again.
If you're the person others rely on, asking for help yourself can feel unfamiliar. You may appear to be coping. You might be successful at work, meeting responsibilities and keeping everything together, but inside you feel exhausted, anxious or stuck in patterns of overthinking, self-criticism or people-pleasing. I help people who are used to pushing through, but who want to understand themselves more deeply and create lasting change. Together, we’ll explore what’s driving these patterns so you can feel calmer, more confident and more like yourself again.
If you're thinking of reaching out to a therapist, it's likely something in your life doesn't feel right - and you’re not sure how to fix it. If you are struggling with persistent patterns you are struggling to break, therapy can help you make sense of what feels stuck or unresolved, and move towards a fuller, more connected life.
Whatever is bringing you here, I aim to offer a confidential space where you feel safe, understood, and not alone in working through it. My goal is that clients develop a more secure, empathetic relationship with themselves - after all, it's the longest and most crucial relationship we all have!
If you're thinking of reaching out to a therapist, it's likely something in your life doesn't feel right - and you’re not sure how to fix it. If you are struggling with persistent patterns you are struggling to break, therapy can help you make sense of what feels stuck or unresolved, and move towards a fuller, more connected life.
Whatever is bringing you here, I aim to offer a confidential space where you feel safe, understood, and not alone in working through it. My goal is that clients develop a more secure, empathetic relationship with themselves - after all, it's the longest and most crucial relationship we all have!
Curious about kink, swinging, or expanding your erotic world?
Whatever sits closest to your heart - we can work with.
I help my clients build their skill set, and understanding of themselves and their partners, expand on their sexuality and expression, get out of unhealthy patterns in relationships and build a life full of passion, pleasure, excitement, love, peace and confidence.
Curious?
Curious about kink, swinging, or expanding your erotic world?
Whatever sits closest to your heart - we can work with.
I help my clients build their skill set, and understanding of themselves and their partners, expand on their sexuality and expression, get out of unhealthy patterns in relationships and build a life full of passion, pleasure, excitement, love, peace and confidence.
Curious?
People come to therapy for many reasons including difficulties with relationships, identity, work or family. Some people find themselves at a transition in their life and benefit from speaking to somebody outside of their circle of family or friends to think about the new challenges or decisions they face. Other people might come to therapy because they feel overwhelmed, anxious, or stuck with more general feelings of loss, sadness or worry which might be harder to define and take some time to understand. I work in a responsive and open-ended way so that we can make space for what's important to emerge, in your own time.
People come to therapy for many reasons including difficulties with relationships, identity, work or family. Some people find themselves at a transition in their life and benefit from speaking to somebody outside of their circle of family or friends to think about the new challenges or decisions they face. Other people might come to therapy because they feel overwhelmed, anxious, or stuck with more general feelings of loss, sadness or worry which might be harder to define and take some time to understand. I work in a responsive and open-ended way so that we can make space for what's important to emerge, in your own time.
My service is provided as a specialist sex and relationship therapist. I aim to provide a safe environment in which clients can share their intimate thoughts and problems with no fear of judgement. I honour all sexual orientations, gender identities and sexual preferences. I am kink aware and knowledgable and take a sex positive approach. Specific issues covered include: erection problems, inability to orgasm, low sexual desire, painful intercourse, premature/early ejaculation, problematic porn use, relationship problems–couples/poly, (sex, gender, erotic, relationship) identity, BDSM, kinks and fetishes, vaginismus
My service is provided as a specialist sex and relationship therapist. I aim to provide a safe environment in which clients can share their intimate thoughts and problems with no fear of judgement. I honour all sexual orientations, gender identities and sexual preferences. I am kink aware and knowledgable and take a sex positive approach. Specific issues covered include: erection problems, inability to orgasm, low sexual desire, painful intercourse, premature/early ejaculation, problematic porn use, relationship problems–couples/poly, (sex, gender, erotic, relationship) identity, BDSM, kinks and fetishes, vaginismus
I am inclusive of all genders and relationship structures, including LGBTQIA+ people, ethical non-monogamy, BDSM, and kink.
As a UKCP-accredited psychodynamic therapist with a four-year postgraduate training at Oxford University, I provide a private, confidential space for individuals, couples, and polycules. My work focuses on examining the unconscious patterns influencing your life, relationships, and wellbeing. Whether you are dealing with acute distress or seeking to explore long-standing personal dynamics, I offer a professional, contained environment. I believe lasting change is achieved by working through root causes while simultaneously addressing the symptoms—such as anxiety, depression, or relational disconnection—that bring you to therapy.
I am inclusive of all genders and relationship structures, including LGBTQIA+ people, ethical non-monogamy, BDSM, and kink.
As a UKCP-accredited psychodynamic therapist with a four-year postgraduate training at Oxford University, I provide a private, confidential space for individuals, couples, and polycules. My work focuses on examining the unconscious patterns influencing your life, relationships, and wellbeing. Whether you are dealing with acute distress or seeking to explore long-standing personal dynamics, I offer a professional, contained environment. I believe lasting change is achieved by working through root causes while simultaneously addressing the symptoms—such as anxiety, depression, or relational disconnection—that bring you to therapy.
The people who come to us arrive with the full range of adult difficulty — anxiety that has been wearing them down, depression, the after-effects of trauma, relationships that are not working, neurodivergent adults, LGBTQIA+ clients looking for genuinely affirming practice, and senior professionals carrying pressure they cannot put down anywhere else. What our team of more than 90 qualified counsellors and therapists offers is something specific: deliberate matching. You are not assigned to whoever happens to be available. You are matched to the practitioner whose training, specialism, and approach actually fit your needs.
The people who come to us arrive with the full range of adult difficulty — anxiety that has been wearing them down, depression, the after-effects of trauma, relationships that are not working, neurodivergent adults, LGBTQIA+ clients looking for genuinely affirming practice, and senior professionals carrying pressure they cannot put down anywhere else. What our team of more than 90 qualified counsellors and therapists offers is something specific: deliberate matching. You are not assigned to whoever happens to be available. You are matched to the practitioner whose training, specialism, and approach actually fit your needs.
I work with 1-1 clients and couples / multiple partner clients. I'm also trained by Metanoia Institute for 1-1 work and CICS (contemporary institute of clinical sexology) in intimate partnered therapy to work with couples + multiple partnered people
Reasons to seek out therapy are, much like ourselves, varied, nuanced and complex. A deeply empathic, attentive presence and trust for how you process things and what you decide to bring to therapy are at the heart of my practice.
My work is therefore centred around attending to the whole person, with equal respect and worth for both content and process, both feeling and thinking.
I work with 1-1 clients and couples / multiple partner clients. I'm also trained by Metanoia Institute for 1-1 work and CICS (contemporary institute of clinical sexology) in intimate partnered therapy to work with couples + multiple partnered people
Reasons to seek out therapy are, much like ourselves, varied, nuanced and complex. A deeply empathic, attentive presence and trust for how you process things and what you decide to bring to therapy are at the heart of my practice.
My work is therefore centred around attending to the whole person, with equal respect and worth for both content and process, both feeling and thinking.
Hello, and thank you for reading my profile. Are you looking for long-term, in-depth, psychotherapy? Or do you have a particular issue you need to explore in counselling? Perhaps you're a qualified practitioner looking for a clinical supervisor. I could be that person for you, if we find we are a good fit. Whichever best describes you, my work is underpinned with an understanding of spirituality as a personal jorney into the nature of suffering. I think of spirituality as a pathway to self-development. Specifically, I work with mindfulness and Buddhist psychology to explore your current state of being, in mind, body and spirit.
Hello, and thank you for reading my profile. Are you looking for long-term, in-depth, psychotherapy? Or do you have a particular issue you need to explore in counselling? Perhaps you're a qualified practitioner looking for a clinical supervisor. I could be that person for you, if we find we are a good fit. Whichever best describes you, my work is underpinned with an understanding of spirituality as a personal jorney into the nature of suffering. I think of spirituality as a pathway to self-development. Specifically, I work with mindfulness and Buddhist psychology to explore your current state of being, in mind, body and spirit.
I focus on the connection between the body and emotions. In my practice, I can offer auricular acupuncture to support overall well-being.
My approach is person-centred, integrative. I understand that various approaches can be confusing, but I have provided a brief statement below on how I work.
My approach holds the belief that each individual knows themselves best and has the potential for personal growth.
This growth is supported by our relationship and the environment we create together, where we begin to explore and challenge beliefs, attitudes and behaviours towards self and your relationships with others and the world.
I focus on the connection between the body and emotions. In my practice, I can offer auricular acupuncture to support overall well-being.
My approach is person-centred, integrative. I understand that various approaches can be confusing, but I have provided a brief statement below on how I work.
My approach holds the belief that each individual knows themselves best and has the potential for personal growth.
This growth is supported by our relationship and the environment we create together, where we begin to explore and challenge beliefs, attitudes and behaviours towards self and your relationships with others and the world.
Hi! I'm Rebecca, a qualified therapist with over 500 hours of trauma informed counselling experience. I offer compassionate support via online sessions to help you process your experiences safely and at your own pace. I am LGBTQ+ and neurodiverse affirming, meaning I welcome everyone with warmth and unconditional acceptance. I offer a safe and confidential space to explore your thoughts, feelings and behaviours. I have supported clients with a range of issues including trauma, low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, relationship issues, stress and more.
Hi! I'm Rebecca, a qualified therapist with over 500 hours of trauma informed counselling experience. I offer compassionate support via online sessions to help you process your experiences safely and at your own pace. I am LGBTQ+ and neurodiverse affirming, meaning I welcome everyone with warmth and unconditional acceptance. I offer a safe and confidential space to explore your thoughts, feelings and behaviours. I have supported clients with a range of issues including trauma, low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, relationship issues, stress and more.
I am polyamory, BDSM and kink aware.
I am very experienced in a range of different therapies including Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) and Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR). I have a particular interest in energy psychology, where Eastern energy approaches have been combined with Western psychological therapy.
I am polyamory, BDSM and kink aware.
I am very experienced in a range of different therapies including Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) and Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR). I have a particular interest in energy psychology, where Eastern energy approaches have been combined with Western psychological therapy.
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Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counsellors
Why might an individual want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
A sex-positive or kinky individual may want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist because the client may feel safer and more supported discussing their experiences and challenges. A therapist who identifies as kink-friendly will have experience with clients having diverse sexual preferences and will likely be nonjudgmental and supportive about issues brought to the table. It is important to note that sex-positive, kink-allied individuals may find equal success with therapists who do not have such specialised knowledge and background. The most important factor in the success of therapy is for the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in sex-positive, kink-allied treatment?
Generally, no. There are limited training programs and unofficial accreditations that therapists can pursue, but a therapist’s expertise will ultimately come from their previous experience with similar clients, their engagement with organisations that promote sex positivity or kink-allied lifestyles, and the importance they place on safety and cultural sensitivity.
How can individuals recognise a good sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
An experienced therapist is able to help clients explore their sexual identity and expression and relieve any discomfort or stigma attached to discussing such matters and the client’s overall challenges. A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-allied is able to create an environment that honors a client’s experience and sexual preferences. To recognise a good therapist, clients can simply ask directly about topics and issues important to them and gauge their comfort level and connection with a clinician based on the responses.
Can clients benefit from having a therapist with a focus on sex positivity and alternative sexual lifestyles?
Some individuals may feel most comfortable knowing that the clinician they’re working with has a commitment to creating an atmosphere of sex positivity and has experience with relationship diversity and alternative relationship structures. Working with a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist may help clients respect their own challenges and improve identity-affirming treatment.