Polyamory and ENM Counselling in Oxford
I am polyamory, BDSM and kink aware.
I am very experienced in a range of different therapies including Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) and Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR). I have a particular interest in energy psychology, where Eastern energy approaches have been combined with Western psychological therapy.
I am polyamory, BDSM and kink aware.
I am very experienced in a range of different therapies including Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) and Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR). I have a particular interest in energy psychology, where Eastern energy approaches have been combined with Western psychological therapy.
Many of the people I work with arrive having carried something for too long. Senior professionals running on empty, whose sleep and sense of self have started to fray. Women with PMDD — the condition I wrote and published a book on — who have spent years being told what they experience is just "normal PMS". People living with the after-effects of trauma that never properly settled. What they share is being capable, articulate adults who have nonetheless reached the point of needing help. I work with all of that — at the pace your system can tolerate, with rigour, and without pretending therapy is a cure.
Many of the people I work with arrive having carried something for too long. Senior professionals running on empty, whose sleep and sense of self have started to fray. Women with PMDD — the condition I wrote and published a book on — who have spent years being told what they experience is just "normal PMS". People living with the after-effects of trauma that never properly settled. What they share is being capable, articulate adults who have nonetheless reached the point of needing help. I work with all of that — at the pace your system can tolerate, with rigour, and without pretending therapy is a cure.
As a UKCP-accredited psychodynamic therapist with a four-year postgraduate training at Oxford University, I provide a private, confidential space for individuals, couples, and polycules. My work focuses on examining the unconscious patterns influencing your life, relationships, and wellbeing. Whether you are dealing with acute distress or seeking to explore long-standing personal dynamics, I offer a professional, contained environment. I believe lasting change is achieved by working through root causes while simultaneously addressing the symptoms—such as anxiety, depression, or relational disconnection—that bring you to therapy.
As a UKCP-accredited psychodynamic therapist with a four-year postgraduate training at Oxford University, I provide a private, confidential space for individuals, couples, and polycules. My work focuses on examining the unconscious patterns influencing your life, relationships, and wellbeing. Whether you are dealing with acute distress or seeking to explore long-standing personal dynamics, I offer a professional, contained environment. I believe lasting change is achieved by working through root causes while simultaneously addressing the symptoms—such as anxiety, depression, or relational disconnection—that bring you to therapy.
I am a qualified relationship therapist. I help couples who have challenges getting along. Maybe you are arguing all the time or intimacy has gone out the window? Perhaps someone has been cheating, had an affair or struggles with an addiction to sex or porn. If your world has been rocked by a discovery about your partner or you are living with secrecy that is weighing you down I can help you work through it.
I am a qualified relationship therapist. I help couples who have challenges getting along. Maybe you are arguing all the time or intimacy has gone out the window? Perhaps someone has been cheating, had an affair or struggles with an addiction to sex or porn. If your world has been rocked by a discovery about your partner or you are living with secrecy that is weighing you down I can help you work through it.
If you're thinking of reaching out to a therapist, it's likely something in your life doesn't feel right - and you’re not sure how to fix it. If you are struggling with persistent patterns you are struggling to break, therapy can help you make sense of what feels stuck or unresolved, and move towards a fuller, more connected life.
Whatever is bringing you here, I aim to offer a confidential space where you feel safe, understood, and not alone in working through it. My goal is that clients develop a more secure, empathetic relationship with themselves - after all, it's the longest and most crucial relationship we all have!
If you're thinking of reaching out to a therapist, it's likely something in your life doesn't feel right - and you’re not sure how to fix it. If you are struggling with persistent patterns you are struggling to break, therapy can help you make sense of what feels stuck or unresolved, and move towards a fuller, more connected life.
Whatever is bringing you here, I aim to offer a confidential space where you feel safe, understood, and not alone in working through it. My goal is that clients develop a more secure, empathetic relationship with themselves - after all, it's the longest and most crucial relationship we all have!
I am dedicated to making therapy feel more accessible and less scary. I know it can be difficult to make that first step and to move forward and learn to trust a therapist. I try to work in a way that is sensitive to individual need and preference, as well as being open to constructive criticism from clients so that I can better serve them. I want therapy with me to be a positive experience for you.
I am dedicated to making therapy feel more accessible and less scary. I know it can be difficult to make that first step and to move forward and learn to trust a therapist. I try to work in a way that is sensitive to individual need and preference, as well as being open to constructive criticism from clients so that I can better serve them. I want therapy with me to be a positive experience for you.
I work with people with a wide range of issues including trauma and abuse, PTSD, depression, anxiety, phobias, panic attacks, and low self-esteem. I also support people with self-exploratory work, managing life transitions, stress, burnout, relationship issues, bereavement, and much more. We can focus on immediate issues as well as long-standing patterns, for example in schema therapy. Whether you know what you would like help with, or you are unsure, do get in touch to see if I can help.
I work with people with a wide range of issues including trauma and abuse, PTSD, depression, anxiety, phobias, panic attacks, and low self-esteem. I also support people with self-exploratory work, managing life transitions, stress, burnout, relationship issues, bereavement, and much more. We can focus on immediate issues as well as long-standing patterns, for example in schema therapy. Whether you know what you would like help with, or you are unsure, do get in touch to see if I can help.
Are you feeling trapped in patterns of behaviour that made sense in the past but hold you back now? Perhaps you're constantly reliving traumatic experiences in your mind or body, or feeling shame, self-criticism, anger or anxiety that you can't seem to change. Together we'll notice the feelings, beliefs, sensations and memories that show up for you in each moment, and find ways you can respond to these feelings that leave you feeling calm, self-compassionate and more resolved. If talking hasn't changed the difficulties you're experiencing, or your body feels stuck in past experiences, this way of working might be a good fit for you.
Are you feeling trapped in patterns of behaviour that made sense in the past but hold you back now? Perhaps you're constantly reliving traumatic experiences in your mind or body, or feeling shame, self-criticism, anger or anxiety that you can't seem to change. Together we'll notice the feelings, beliefs, sensations and memories that show up for you in each moment, and find ways you can respond to these feelings that leave you feeling calm, self-compassionate and more resolved. If talking hasn't changed the difficulties you're experiencing, or your body feels stuck in past experiences, this way of working might be a good fit for you.
Do you suffer from overwhelming feelings? I am an experienced integrative counsellor working with trauma - whether from conflict, abuse or other difficult life events. I am compassionate and my approach is warm, empathic and accepting. I work to create a safe and non-judgmental space where you feel able to open up and explore your life. I have experience working with clients who have complex PTSD, anxiety, depression and OCD as well as those with life problems due to bereavement, illness, job stress, parenting, difficult relationships and low self-esteem.
Do you suffer from overwhelming feelings? I am an experienced integrative counsellor working with trauma - whether from conflict, abuse or other difficult life events. I am compassionate and my approach is warm, empathic and accepting. I work to create a safe and non-judgmental space where you feel able to open up and explore your life. I have experience working with clients who have complex PTSD, anxiety, depression and OCD as well as those with life problems due to bereavement, illness, job stress, parenting, difficult relationships and low self-esteem.
The people who come to us arrive with the full range of adult difficulty — anxiety that has been wearing them down, depression, the after-effects of trauma, relationships that are not working, neurodivergent adults, LGBTQIA+ clients looking for genuinely affirming practice, and senior professionals carrying pressure they cannot put down anywhere else. What our team of more than 90 qualified counsellors and therapists offers is something specific: deliberate matching. You are not assigned to whoever happens to be available. You are matched to the practitioner whose training, specialism, and approach actually fit your needs.
The people who come to us arrive with the full range of adult difficulty — anxiety that has been wearing them down, depression, the after-effects of trauma, relationships that are not working, neurodivergent adults, LGBTQIA+ clients looking for genuinely affirming practice, and senior professionals carrying pressure they cannot put down anywhere else. What our team of more than 90 qualified counsellors and therapists offers is something specific: deliberate matching. You are not assigned to whoever happens to be available. You are matched to the practitioner whose training, specialism, and approach actually fit your needs.
When will you finally get that dream relationship and intimate life? Another day, month, year passes and it’s all the same - you’re repeating the same relationship patterns no matter how much you try to break them.
I get you, it can feel like you’re trying to find your way through thick fog and keep ending up lost or in the same place.
What is happening for you now?
Are you struggling with intimacy, desire, or confidence? Curious about kink, swinging, or expanding your erotic world? Want to open your relationship safely? Or maybe the starting point is harder: finding a partner, rebuilding trust with yourself and love, or else?
When will you finally get that dream relationship and intimate life? Another day, month, year passes and it’s all the same - you’re repeating the same relationship patterns no matter how much you try to break them.
I get you, it can feel like you’re trying to find your way through thick fog and keep ending up lost or in the same place.
What is happening for you now?
Are you struggling with intimacy, desire, or confidence? Curious about kink, swinging, or expanding your erotic world? Want to open your relationship safely? Or maybe the starting point is harder: finding a partner, rebuilding trust with yourself and love, or else?
I provide focused therapy that will help you to see your patterns and emotions as well as moral and ethical challenges arising from interpersonal and social contexts better, to then allow you to change them. Obstacles to change are very subtle, often almost invisible. Self-awareness can redirect your energies to creating more positive states of mind. We will work on how ethical and moral dilemmas arise between people, how this interacts with different life experiences that impact your personality and how that then affects your psychological well being.
I provide focused therapy that will help you to see your patterns and emotions as well as moral and ethical challenges arising from interpersonal and social contexts better, to then allow you to change them. Obstacles to change are very subtle, often almost invisible. Self-awareness can redirect your energies to creating more positive states of mind. We will work on how ethical and moral dilemmas arise between people, how this interacts with different life experiences that impact your personality and how that then affects your psychological well being.
My service is provided as a specialist sex and relationship therapist. I aim to provide a safe environment in which clients can share their intimate thoughts and problems with no fear of judgement. I honour all sexual orientations, gender identities and sexual preferences. I am kink aware and knowledgable and take a sex positive approach. Specific issues covered include: erection problems, inability to orgasm, low sexual desire, painful intercourse, premature/early ejaculation, problematic porn use, relationship problems–couples/poly, (sex, gender, erotic, relationship) identity, BDSM, kinks and fetishes, vaginismus
My service is provided as a specialist sex and relationship therapist. I aim to provide a safe environment in which clients can share their intimate thoughts and problems with no fear of judgement. I honour all sexual orientations, gender identities and sexual preferences. I am kink aware and knowledgable and take a sex positive approach. Specific issues covered include: erection problems, inability to orgasm, low sexual desire, painful intercourse, premature/early ejaculation, problematic porn use, relationship problems–couples/poly, (sex, gender, erotic, relationship) identity, BDSM, kinks and fetishes, vaginismus
Often, individual difficulties are accompanied by the challenges of daily life, which make each person’s experience different and their therapeutic needs unique. Through short or long term therapy, I aim to support meaningful change in areas you would like to work on, with an understanding of the wider picture of how these issues may feature in daily life.
Often, individual difficulties are accompanied by the challenges of daily life, which make each person’s experience different and their therapeutic needs unique. Through short or long term therapy, I aim to support meaningful change in areas you would like to work on, with an understanding of the wider picture of how these issues may feature in daily life.
I offer counselling and therapeutic coaching. Clients will come to me with a range of problems and often feel some confusion and simply need to talk. In our work we will clarify the problem and see what is most challenging for you at the present time. We will discover where this confusion arises in the body and mind and begin to understand where it began: Perhaps this has been triggered in the past: by an environment, people, a person, upbringing etc. The work we do is compassionate and kind. My purpose is to help you find your way out of the confusion and suffering, so you can find purpose, meaning and peace in your life.
I offer counselling and therapeutic coaching. Clients will come to me with a range of problems and often feel some confusion and simply need to talk. In our work we will clarify the problem and see what is most challenging for you at the present time. We will discover where this confusion arises in the body and mind and begin to understand where it began: Perhaps this has been triggered in the past: by an environment, people, a person, upbringing etc. The work we do is compassionate and kind. My purpose is to help you find your way out of the confusion and suffering, so you can find purpose, meaning and peace in your life.
I am an integrative psychotherapist with a primary training in Psychosynthesis and secondary trainings in Sensorimotor Psychotherapy (Certified Practitioner), Internal Family Systems Psychotherapy (Levels 1-2) and EMDR (Levels 1-3). Drawing on the body, long history with Buddhist psychology and meditation practice, and over 12 years experience working with complex trauma in therapeutic communities in the NHS and the prison system, I work to help people reframe mental health difficulties as psychospiritual opportunities to deepen our relationships and maximise our potential.
I am an integrative psychotherapist with a primary training in Psychosynthesis and secondary trainings in Sensorimotor Psychotherapy (Certified Practitioner), Internal Family Systems Psychotherapy (Levels 1-2) and EMDR (Levels 1-3). Drawing on the body, long history with Buddhist psychology and meditation practice, and over 12 years experience working with complex trauma in therapeutic communities in the NHS and the prison system, I work to help people reframe mental health difficulties as psychospiritual opportunities to deepen our relationships and maximise our potential.
My ideal client is an individual or a couple who are genuinely committed to looking inwards, keen to look at themselves and how they relate to the world around them. The therapy I am offering is ideal for those seeking an engaged therapeutic relationship with collaborative exploration rather than a one-side dialogue from the client. In fostering a warm and professional environment, my aim is to guide clients through a transformative journey of self-discovery and interpersonal understanding, ultimately empowering them to navigate life with greater insight and resilience.
My ideal client is an individual or a couple who are genuinely committed to looking inwards, keen to look at themselves and how they relate to the world around them. The therapy I am offering is ideal for those seeking an engaged therapeutic relationship with collaborative exploration rather than a one-side dialogue from the client. In fostering a warm and professional environment, my aim is to guide clients through a transformative journey of self-discovery and interpersonal understanding, ultimately empowering them to navigate life with greater insight and resilience.
I am an experienced and highly trained Integrative Body Psychotherapist, Couples Psychotherapist and Trauma Recovery Specialist, Supervisor, Consultant and Trainer having been in the field for over 29 years. I help you experientially with life and relationship challenges in a mind, body and spirit process. I include the neurobiology of relationship, attachment, internal parts systems, transgenerational trauma recovery, birth psychology and transpersonal realms.
We are in some challenging times and there is opportunity for both support with 'here and now issues' and deeper exploration of who you are becoming.
I am an experienced and highly trained Integrative Body Psychotherapist, Couples Psychotherapist and Trauma Recovery Specialist, Supervisor, Consultant and Trainer having been in the field for over 29 years. I help you experientially with life and relationship challenges in a mind, body and spirit process. I include the neurobiology of relationship, attachment, internal parts systems, transgenerational trauma recovery, birth psychology and transpersonal realms.
We are in some challenging times and there is opportunity for both support with 'here and now issues' and deeper exploration of who you are becoming.
Are you looking for a safe space with an experienced trauma-informed therapist? I offer CBT & EMDR to help tackle low self-esteem, anxiety, & trauma/ PTSD. Perhaps you are having strong reactions to things, or maybe you are struggling with anxiety, intrusive thoughts, or nightmares. You might be having trouble sleeping or issues with food or body image. Maybe you feel disconnected, irritable, guilty, and not the parent/ partner/ person that you want to be. When things feel tough, working with someone who you feel 'gets it' and knowing the space is safe and free from judgement is really important.
Are you looking for a safe space with an experienced trauma-informed therapist? I offer CBT & EMDR to help tackle low self-esteem, anxiety, & trauma/ PTSD. Perhaps you are having strong reactions to things, or maybe you are struggling with anxiety, intrusive thoughts, or nightmares. You might be having trouble sleeping or issues with food or body image. Maybe you feel disconnected, irritable, guilty, and not the parent/ partner/ person that you want to be. When things feel tough, working with someone who you feel 'gets it' and knowing the space is safe and free from judgement is really important.
Hello, and thank you for reading my profile. Are you looking for long-term, in-depth, psychotherapy? Or do you have a particular issue you need to explore in counselling? Perhaps you're a qualified practitioner looking for a clinical supervisor. I could be that person for you, if we find we are a good fit. Whichever best describes you, my work is underpinned with an understanding of spirituality as a personal jorney into the nature of suffering. I think of spirituality as a pathway to self-development. Specifically, I work with mindfulness and Buddhist psychology to explore your current state of being, in mind, body and spirit.
Hello, and thank you for reading my profile. Are you looking for long-term, in-depth, psychotherapy? Or do you have a particular issue you need to explore in counselling? Perhaps you're a qualified practitioner looking for a clinical supervisor. I could be that person for you, if we find we are a good fit. Whichever best describes you, my work is underpinned with an understanding of spirituality as a personal jorney into the nature of suffering. I think of spirituality as a pathway to self-development. Specifically, I work with mindfulness and Buddhist psychology to explore your current state of being, in mind, body and spirit.
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Open Relationships Non-Monogamy Counsellors
Why might an individual want to see a therapist specialising in open relationships and consensual non-monogamy?
A client seeking help with an open or consensually non-monogamous relationship will prefer to talk with a professional whom they can count on to be nonjudgmental. Talking with a supportive therapist may on its own help relieve some of the stigma and challenges partners face. That said, the most important factor in the success of any type of therapy is the ability of the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond. For this reason, an individual or couple could find success with a therapist who does not specialise in non-monogamous relationships but with whom they can build trust.
When should open or consensually non-monogamous partners seek counselling?
Like other couples, polyamorous partners typically seek counseling when they face relationship challenges they can’t solve themselves. In non-monogamous relationships, this could include breaches of trust, including infidelity; unclear rules or violations of boundaries; jealousy of outside partners; the stress of juggling the needs of multiple partners; or the effect of high partner turnover on children. Like those of other couples, polyamorous bonds can be threatened by increasingly frequent arguments, poor or dysfunctional communication, diminished emotional or physical intimacy, or the feeling that something is wrong, even if they don’t know what it is.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in open relationships and consensual non-monogamy?
No, but individuals seeking help with non-monogamous relationships would most likely consult a licensed professional with specific training in couples counseling or couples therapy. Couples counselling and couples therapy both involve teaching concrete strategies to navigate conflict in relationships. A good therapist can engage both partners as they explain these approaches but can also work with a single partner.
How long does therapy for consensually non-monogamous couples typically last?
Couples therapy for any type of couple, tends to be relatively time-limited, lasting around 12 weeks on average. A good therapist will tailor sessions to the individual partners’ emotions and sometimes their past, along with patterns found to be repeating in the relationship. In many cases, clients should expect their therapist to assign “homework” between weekly sessions.