Infidelity Counselling in Oxford
Maybe you are arguing all the time or perhaps someone has been cheating, had an affair or struggles with an addiction to sex or porn.
I have specialist training to help individuals who are struggling with a porn addiction or a sexual compulsion. I recognize these can be really difficult problems to share, but it can be a relief to talk confidentially, rather than keep things bottled up.
If you don't even know where to start, don't worry I can help.
Maybe you are arguing all the time or perhaps someone has been cheating, had an affair or struggles with an addiction to sex or porn.
I have specialist training to help individuals who are struggling with a porn addiction or a sexual compulsion. I recognize these can be really difficult problems to share, but it can be a relief to talk confidentially, rather than keep things bottled up.
If you don't even know where to start, don't worry I can help.
You may be coming to counselling because you are in crisis, unable to see a way through a situation or feeling lost or alone. You might be seeking the 'right' answer around a difficult life decision. It may have taken many years to find the courage to seek help for issues which run deep, perhaps stemming from difficult, early experiences in childhood or from trauma. I specialise in working with self esteem and anxiety, relationship issues, and LGBTQ+ folks, however, everybody is welcome.
You may be coming to counselling because you are in crisis, unable to see a way through a situation or feeling lost or alone. You might be seeking the 'right' answer around a difficult life decision. It may have taken many years to find the courage to seek help for issues which run deep, perhaps stemming from difficult, early experiences in childhood or from trauma. I specialise in working with self esteem and anxiety, relationship issues, and LGBTQ+ folks, however, everybody is welcome.
Are you finding your marriage or relationship to be really hard right now? Is it full of tension, disappointment or heartache? Perhaps you are arguing more and you just don't look forward to spending time with your partner anymore. Do you wish you could feel the way you felt about them when you first decided to make a commitment to each other? I'm guessing you want to feel seen and heard, like you matter and like your thoughts and feelings matter, too. You don't just want to be going through the motions of being close, but want something that feels special and secure.
Are you finding your marriage or relationship to be really hard right now? Is it full of tension, disappointment or heartache? Perhaps you are arguing more and you just don't look forward to spending time with your partner anymore. Do you wish you could feel the way you felt about them when you first decided to make a commitment to each other? I'm guessing you want to feel seen and heard, like you matter and like your thoughts and feelings matter, too. You don't just want to be going through the motions of being close, but want something that feels special and secure.
I have been working as a counsellor in training since 2015, I have experience in working with a number of issues, including; low mood, depression, anxiety, relationship issues, self-esteem, and lack of confidence, among others.
I have been working as a counsellor in training since 2015, I have experience in working with a number of issues, including; low mood, depression, anxiety, relationship issues, self-esteem, and lack of confidence, among others.
As a fully qualified and accredited Systemic Couple and Family Psychotherapist (MA), with 25 years clinical experience, both within the NHS and via my own independent practice, I offer online individual, couple & family therapy, & clinical supervision. I work in an affirming, non-judgemental way with clients across gender, sexuality and relationship diversity, and welcome couples and families of all kinds. Whether you share a bed or live on different continents, my practice is dedicated to helping people connect, communicate, and rediscover intimacy and closeness with the people who matter most.
As a fully qualified and accredited Systemic Couple and Family Psychotherapist (MA), with 25 years clinical experience, both within the NHS and via my own independent practice, I offer online individual, couple & family therapy, & clinical supervision. I work in an affirming, non-judgemental way with clients across gender, sexuality and relationship diversity, and welcome couples and families of all kinds. Whether you share a bed or live on different continents, my practice is dedicated to helping people connect, communicate, and rediscover intimacy and closeness with the people who matter most.
I am an integrative psychotherapist with a primary training in Psychosynthesis and secondary trainings in Sensorimotor Psychotherapy (Certified Practitioner), Internal Family Systems Psychotherapy (Levels 1-2) and EMDR (Levels 1-3). Drawing on the body, long history with Buddhist psychology and meditation practice, and over 12 years experience working with complex trauma in therapeutic communities in the NHS and the prison system, I work to help people reframe mental health difficulties as psychospiritual opportunities to deepen our relationships and maximise our potential.
I am an integrative psychotherapist with a primary training in Psychosynthesis and secondary trainings in Sensorimotor Psychotherapy (Certified Practitioner), Internal Family Systems Psychotherapy (Levels 1-2) and EMDR (Levels 1-3). Drawing on the body, long history with Buddhist psychology and meditation practice, and over 12 years experience working with complex trauma in therapeutic communities in the NHS and the prison system, I work to help people reframe mental health difficulties as psychospiritual opportunities to deepen our relationships and maximise our potential.
We are in some challenging times and there is opportunity for both support with 'here and now issues' and deeper exploration of being you. I am an experienced and highly trained Integrative Body Psychotherapist, Couples Psychotherapist and Trauma Recovery Specialist having been in the field for over 25 years. I help you experientially with life and relationship challenges in a mind, body and spirit process. I include the neurobiology of relationship, attachment, internal parts systems, transgenerational trauma recovery, birth psychology and transpersonal realms. Professional Supervision, Training and Consultancy available.
We are in some challenging times and there is opportunity for both support with 'here and now issues' and deeper exploration of being you. I am an experienced and highly trained Integrative Body Psychotherapist, Couples Psychotherapist and Trauma Recovery Specialist having been in the field for over 25 years. I help you experientially with life and relationship challenges in a mind, body and spirit process. I include the neurobiology of relationship, attachment, internal parts systems, transgenerational trauma recovery, birth psychology and transpersonal realms. Professional Supervision, Training and Consultancy available.
“I don’t feel like my usual self, but I don’t really know why”.
If you’re having some version of this thought, together we can figure out how you’ve got to where you are and how you might start feeling better again.
Sometimes, difficulties from our past pile up and need some sorting through so that they no longer cast such a shadow over the present. Talking through this, as well as what’s currently going on in your life, can free us up to make the kinds of changes that can get us back on track.
“I don’t feel like my usual self, but I don’t really know why”.
If you’re having some version of this thought, together we can figure out how you’ve got to where you are and how you might start feeling better again.
Sometimes, difficulties from our past pile up and need some sorting through so that they no longer cast such a shadow over the present. Talking through this, as well as what’s currently going on in your life, can free us up to make the kinds of changes that can get us back on track.
Firstly, id like to congratulate you for getting this far on getting help with your difficulties, this can be a scary first step!
As your therapist, I will take time to know you as a person and work together with you to make changes with nothing but encouragement (even if things dont go to plan). I'll celebrate the wins with you, big and small.
I will listen to your perspectives and experience without judgement in order to get to know all of you as a person. Then, ill work together with you to plan putting changes into place to interrupt old and unhelpful cycles of thinking and behaving.
Firstly, id like to congratulate you for getting this far on getting help with your difficulties, this can be a scary first step!
As your therapist, I will take time to know you as a person and work together with you to make changes with nothing but encouragement (even if things dont go to plan). I'll celebrate the wins with you, big and small.
I will listen to your perspectives and experience without judgement in order to get to know all of you as a person. Then, ill work together with you to plan putting changes into place to interrupt old and unhelpful cycles of thinking and behaving.
Please contact me to have a free 15 minute conversation to discuss your needs and how that might fit with my specialist areas
Please contact me to have a free 15 minute conversation to discuss your needs and how that might fit with my specialist areas
Therapy can be a real game-changer—whoever you are, whatever life is throwing at you. I love working with adults navigating life’s big turning points: stepping into adulthood or parenthood, adjusting after a breakup, changing careers, walking through grief, or exploring the ups and downs of peri/menopause or neurodiversity.
These moments can feel tender and overwhelming, and it’s easy to feel stuck in old cycles of self-doubt, shame, or old unhelpful patterns.
Therapy can be a real game-changer—whoever you are, whatever life is throwing at you. I love working with adults navigating life’s big turning points: stepping into adulthood or parenthood, adjusting after a breakup, changing careers, walking through grief, or exploring the ups and downs of peri/menopause or neurodiversity.
These moments can feel tender and overwhelming, and it’s easy to feel stuck in old cycles of self-doubt, shame, or old unhelpful patterns.
Are you feeling trapped in patterns of behaviour that made sense in the past but hold you back now? Perhaps you're constantly reliving traumatic experiences in your mind or body, or feeling shame, self-criticism, anger or anxiety that you can't seem to change. Together we'll notice the feelings, beliefs, sensations and memories that show up for you in each moment, and find ways you can respond to these feelings that leave you feeling calm, self-compassionate and more resolved. If talking hasn't changed the difficulties you're experiencing, or your body feels stuck in past experiences, this way of working might be a good fit for you.
Are you feeling trapped in patterns of behaviour that made sense in the past but hold you back now? Perhaps you're constantly reliving traumatic experiences in your mind or body, or feeling shame, self-criticism, anger or anxiety that you can't seem to change. Together we'll notice the feelings, beliefs, sensations and memories that show up for you in each moment, and find ways you can respond to these feelings that leave you feeling calm, self-compassionate and more resolved. If talking hasn't changed the difficulties you're experiencing, or your body feels stuck in past experiences, this way of working might be a good fit for you.
John-Henry graduated with distinction from Oxford University with an MSt in Psychodynamic Psychotherapy. He is currently completing doctoral research at Oxford University on the psychoanalysis of dreams. Prior to becoming a psychotherapist, John-Henry played professional rugby in several successful teams, winning the Guinness Premiership, European Cup and Varsity matches as Captain at Oxford University. He works privately in Oxford and in a clinic on Harley Street in London. He also offers online sessions, which can be combined with face to face meetings at your convenience.
John-Henry graduated with distinction from Oxford University with an MSt in Psychodynamic Psychotherapy. He is currently completing doctoral research at Oxford University on the psychoanalysis of dreams. Prior to becoming a psychotherapist, John-Henry played professional rugby in several successful teams, winning the Guinness Premiership, European Cup and Varsity matches as Captain at Oxford University. He works privately in Oxford and in a clinic on Harley Street in London. He also offers online sessions, which can be combined with face to face meetings at your convenience.
I am a UKCP accredited psychodynamic therapist, offering weekly or twice weekly psychotherapy for adults. My clinical training was a four year in-depth and rigorous personal, theoretical and clinical training at Oxford University. I am a full clinical member of the UKCP, and follow their code of ethics. I have experience of working with adults and supporting individuals who have had experience of abuse and trauma, loss and grief, relationship difficulties, divorce, anxiety, low mood and depression. But more importantly I am ready to hold you in mind as an individual with a unique story to tell.
I am a UKCP accredited psychodynamic therapist, offering weekly or twice weekly psychotherapy for adults. My clinical training was a four year in-depth and rigorous personal, theoretical and clinical training at Oxford University. I am a full clinical member of the UKCP, and follow their code of ethics. I have experience of working with adults and supporting individuals who have had experience of abuse and trauma, loss and grief, relationship difficulties, divorce, anxiety, low mood and depression. But more importantly I am ready to hold you in mind as an individual with a unique story to tell.
I work with people with a wide range of issues including trauma and abuse, PTSD, depression, anxiety, phobias, panic attacks, and low self-esteem. I also support people with self-exploratory work, managing life transitions, stress, burnout, relationship issues, bereavement, and much more. We can focus on immediate issues as well as long-standing patterns, for example in schema therapy. Whether you know what you would like help with, or you are unsure, do get in touch to see if I can help.
I work with people with a wide range of issues including trauma and abuse, PTSD, depression, anxiety, phobias, panic attacks, and low self-esteem. I also support people with self-exploratory work, managing life transitions, stress, burnout, relationship issues, bereavement, and much more. We can focus on immediate issues as well as long-standing patterns, for example in schema therapy. Whether you know what you would like help with, or you are unsure, do get in touch to see if I can help.
I am an Integrative Psychotherapist and Counsellor with over 20 years experience, a qualified Couples Counsellor and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner (SEP). I feel passionate about helping my clients, be it dealing with anxiety, depression, marriage and other relationship difficulties, addressing trauma including Complex-PTSD and childhood trauma, achieving personal growth or wanting to get on better in life or at work.
I am an Integrative Psychotherapist and Counsellor with over 20 years experience, a qualified Couples Counsellor and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner (SEP). I feel passionate about helping my clients, be it dealing with anxiety, depression, marriage and other relationship difficulties, addressing trauma including Complex-PTSD and childhood trauma, achieving personal growth or wanting to get on better in life or at work.
You may be feeling life is difficult and challenging at the moment, struggling with anxiety or depression, or loneliness. You may have a general feeling of dissatisfaction making life difficult to manage. You may be struggling with a bereavement. You may find that you are feeling angry for much of the time. You may be looking for a way to alleviate your suffering and solve your problems in order to live a more satisfying life where you are more at ease with yourself and with other people. You might find it helpful to explore these thoughts and feelings in a safe and confidential environment. I hope to provide such a place.
You may be feeling life is difficult and challenging at the moment, struggling with anxiety or depression, or loneliness. You may have a general feeling of dissatisfaction making life difficult to manage. You may be struggling with a bereavement. You may find that you are feeling angry for much of the time. You may be looking for a way to alleviate your suffering and solve your problems in order to live a more satisfying life where you are more at ease with yourself and with other people. You might find it helpful to explore these thoughts and feelings in a safe and confidential environment. I hope to provide such a place.
My service is provided as a specialist sex and relationship therapist. I aim to provide a safe environment in which clients can share their intimate thoughts and problems with no fear of judgement. I honour all sexual orientations, gender identities and sexual preferences. I am kink aware and knowledgable and take a sex positive approach. Specific issues covered include: erection problems, inability to orgasm, low sexual desire, painful intercourse, premature/early ejaculation, problematic porn use, relationship problems–couples/poly, (sex, gender, erotic, relationship) identity, BDSM, kinks and fetishes, vaginismus
My service is provided as a specialist sex and relationship therapist. I aim to provide a safe environment in which clients can share their intimate thoughts and problems with no fear of judgement. I honour all sexual orientations, gender identities and sexual preferences. I am kink aware and knowledgable and take a sex positive approach. Specific issues covered include: erection problems, inability to orgasm, low sexual desire, painful intercourse, premature/early ejaculation, problematic porn use, relationship problems–couples/poly, (sex, gender, erotic, relationship) identity, BDSM, kinks and fetishes, vaginismus
I’m an experienced counsellor and psychodynamic therapist offering a safe, supportive space for adolescents and adults facing emotional and life challenges. I help clients navigate anxiety, stress, depression, relationship and family issues, trauma and the ongoing impact of past experiences, including developmental and single-incident trauma. Using trauma-informed approaches and EMDR, I work collaboratively to build self-awareness, reduce distress and support positive change towards your goals.
I’m an experienced counsellor and psychodynamic therapist offering a safe, supportive space for adolescents and adults facing emotional and life challenges. I help clients navigate anxiety, stress, depression, relationship and family issues, trauma and the ongoing impact of past experiences, including developmental and single-incident trauma. Using trauma-informed approaches and EMDR, I work collaboratively to build self-awareness, reduce distress and support positive change towards your goals.
Our clinic offers evidence-based psychological therapies. We provide a confidential space where individuals can explore emotional difficulties that may be longstanding, complex, or resistant to change. Informed by relational models that emphasise the therapeutic relationship as a dynamic, co-created process, our work supports meaningful, lasting change through sustained attention to the deeper layers of the mind. This integrative approach is supported by a growing body of clinical research demonstrating its effectiveness, especially in complex or chronic cases, with benefits that often continue beyond the duration of therapy.
Our clinic offers evidence-based psychological therapies. We provide a confidential space where individuals can explore emotional difficulties that may be longstanding, complex, or resistant to change. Informed by relational models that emphasise the therapeutic relationship as a dynamic, co-created process, our work supports meaningful, lasting change through sustained attention to the deeper layers of the mind. This integrative approach is supported by a growing body of clinical research demonstrating its effectiveness, especially in complex or chronic cases, with benefits that often continue beyond the duration of therapy.
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Infidelity Counsellors
How does therapy for infidelity work?
A skilled infidelity therapist will provide a safe space for clients to communicate their feelings and concerns. The goal is to be completely honest about what led to the cheating and how it has affected the entire family to prevent it from recurring in the future. The therapist will help the clients work on rebuilding mutual trust and respect and developing better communication and conflict-resolution skills. If the goal is to remain a couple, clients will learn the “danger signs” for their specific relationship, and they will make a renewed commitment to be faithful.
How long does therapy for infidelity take?
Recovery from infidelity can take time, and it can vary from person to person. Generally, a therapist will want to see the clients at least once a week for around six months. Then the sessions can be arranged as needed, depending on the clients’ individual needs. While therapy may end or shift to an as-needed basis, it can take up to two years or more for some clients to fully recover from infidelity.
How does therapy help the partner who was cheated on?
When a client discovers their partner’s infidelity, their trust in the relationship and in the life they had together may be shattered. They often experience mental health symptoms, such as anxiety, depression, grief, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). They don’t always want to stay in the relationship; they may feel ambivalent or may even want to leave. Therapy gives these clients a safe and healthy way to communicate all of their complicated emotions and concerns.
How does therapy help the partner who committed infidelity?
Infidelity often occurs when one or both partners’ emotional needs are not being met in the relationship. Therapy can help this client understand why they cheated and figure out how to address those unmet needs without resorting to infidelity in the future. This can lessen (but not entirely eliminate) the risk of repeated infidelity. Clients who cheat may also feel intense guilt about deceiving their partners, a sentiment that they can work through in therapy.