Sexual Addiction Counselling in Orpington
Are you struggling to process difficult emotions or feeling overwhelmed by life’s "jumbled pieces"? I am an Integrative Counsellor specialising in helping clients navigate Anger Management, Bereavement, and Anxiety.
In our sessions, you’ll find a safe, confidential space to:
Explore your world without fear of judgement.
Understand the "Why": Discover how past experiences impact your current choices.
Take Action: Challenge unhelpful thought patterns and build better communication skills to handle conflict.
Are you struggling to process difficult emotions or feeling overwhelmed by life’s "jumbled pieces"? I am an Integrative Counsellor specialising in helping clients navigate Anger Management, Bereavement, and Anxiety.
In our sessions, you’ll find a safe, confidential space to:
Explore your world without fear of judgement.
Understand the "Why": Discover how past experiences impact your current choices.
Take Action: Challenge unhelpful thought patterns and build better communication skills to handle conflict.
I provide therapy for anxiety, stress, & burn-out: if you’re constantly overwhelmed or emotionally exhausted, I’ll support you in a calm environment where you can talk openly, make sense of what you’re experiencing, and begin to feel better; physically and mentally.
I provide Couples therapy, helping you both with communication, sex problems, affairs & betrayals, supporting Monogamous, ENM couples and Poly relationships.
I work with Family Issues; conflicts with parents, siblings, or adult children, & estrangement, which can leave you feeling misunderstood or isolated. I’ll help to make sense of your family dynamic to move forward
I provide therapy for anxiety, stress, & burn-out: if you’re constantly overwhelmed or emotionally exhausted, I’ll support you in a calm environment where you can talk openly, make sense of what you’re experiencing, and begin to feel better; physically and mentally.
I provide Couples therapy, helping you both with communication, sex problems, affairs & betrayals, supporting Monogamous, ENM couples and Poly relationships.
I work with Family Issues; conflicts with parents, siblings, or adult children, & estrangement, which can leave you feeling misunderstood or isolated. I’ll help to make sense of your family dynamic to move forward
Thank you for reading my profile, being a competent and experienced therapist with offering support for all types of conditions, anxiety, depression, PTSD/ trauma ,relationship difficulties, work stress, OCD. I also work with addictions, including alcohol problems. specialising in CBT focused therapies, EMDR therapy which is highly effective.
I'm also a Schema Therapist specialising in childhood traumas and difficult past experiences, that may affect present daily functioning, and trained in Hypnotherapy.
These therapies have proven highly effective in treating many conditions. I adhere to the BACP code of ethical practice.
Thank you for reading my profile, being a competent and experienced therapist with offering support for all types of conditions, anxiety, depression, PTSD/ trauma ,relationship difficulties, work stress, OCD. I also work with addictions, including alcohol problems. specialising in CBT focused therapies, EMDR therapy which is highly effective.
I'm also a Schema Therapist specialising in childhood traumas and difficult past experiences, that may affect present daily functioning, and trained in Hypnotherapy.
These therapies have proven highly effective in treating many conditions. I adhere to the BACP code of ethical practice.
I am Dr Rebekah Dervley, a HCPC registered Psychologist. I am Clinical Lead for Sunstone Psychology, a psychological therapies service offering UK-wide psychological therapy and clinical supervision based in the heart of Tunbridge Wells, Kent. I can offer you a safe and confidential listening space, and work with you to understand your difficulties and help you find a way forward. I specialise in working with trauma, PTSD, and people who exhibit a range of coping behaviours, such as self-harm, addiction, and other behavioural issues. I offer specialist diagnostic assessments for ADHD in children and adults.
I am Dr Rebekah Dervley, a HCPC registered Psychologist. I am Clinical Lead for Sunstone Psychology, a psychological therapies service offering UK-wide psychological therapy and clinical supervision based in the heart of Tunbridge Wells, Kent. I can offer you a safe and confidential listening space, and work with you to understand your difficulties and help you find a way forward. I specialise in working with trauma, PTSD, and people who exhibit a range of coping behaviours, such as self-harm, addiction, and other behavioural issues. I offer specialist diagnostic assessments for ADHD in children and adults.
People usually seek therapy because they have reached a crisis point in their life and are struggling to cope alone. This can lead to feeling stuck or creating unhelpful behaviour patterns to cope which present them from living life to their full potential. We often feel confused, anxious, depressed, emotionally numb or trapped in our past without clear goals in life or clear identity. I can offer you a safe space to explore better internal understanding which promotes self awareness, personal growth and inner peace which enables you to feel full of hope and clarity to achieve personal success.
People usually seek therapy because they have reached a crisis point in their life and are struggling to cope alone. This can lead to feeling stuck or creating unhelpful behaviour patterns to cope which present them from living life to their full potential. We often feel confused, anxious, depressed, emotionally numb or trapped in our past without clear goals in life or clear identity. I can offer you a safe space to explore better internal understanding which promotes self awareness, personal growth and inner peace which enables you to feel full of hope and clarity to achieve personal success.
At first, when I had counselling, I felt scared to be open to a stranger. It was daunting to share my innermost thoughts and feelings with someone I had never met before. However, as time went on, I came to realize the immense value of having a compassionate listener who could provide guidance and support without judgment.
Through my own journey in counselling , I discovered the transformative power of vulnerability and honesty. It helped me grow in ways I never imagined and equipped me with the tools to face life's challenges with resilience with the confidence from facing what was holding me back.
At first, when I had counselling, I felt scared to be open to a stranger. It was daunting to share my innermost thoughts and feelings with someone I had never met before. However, as time went on, I came to realize the immense value of having a compassionate listener who could provide guidance and support without judgment.
Through my own journey in counselling , I discovered the transformative power of vulnerability and honesty. It helped me grow in ways I never imagined and equipped me with the tools to face life's challenges with resilience with the confidence from facing what was holding me back.
I work with RELATIONSHIP CHALLENGES. So, whether you're: a mother struggling in your relationship with your child or motherhood itself; a couple in crisis; experiencing recurring relationship problems; or still searching for that elusive romantic relationship I’m keen to work with you. I work with both individuals and couples; and I can discuss with you which one of these may be the best fit for you. I find that by exploring your personal history we can often discover the root cause of your challenges so you can begin to enjoy intimacy and connection.
I work with RELATIONSHIP CHALLENGES. So, whether you're: a mother struggling in your relationship with your child or motherhood itself; a couple in crisis; experiencing recurring relationship problems; or still searching for that elusive romantic relationship I’m keen to work with you. I work with both individuals and couples; and I can discuss with you which one of these may be the best fit for you. I find that by exploring your personal history we can often discover the root cause of your challenges so you can begin to enjoy intimacy and connection.
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You may be feeling stuck in a relationship that keeps circling the same arguments, or noticing distance, tension, or a loss of intimacy. You might be worried about sexual behaviour, including porn use, that feels secretive, out of control, or at odds with your values or relationship. Often people come feeling confused, ashamed, or frightened by the impact on themselves or their partner, and unsure who they can talk to. You may simply want to understand what’s going on and whether change is possible.
You may be feeling stuck in a relationship that keeps circling the same arguments, or noticing distance, tension, or a loss of intimacy. You might be worried about sexual behaviour, including porn use, that feels secretive, out of control, or at odds with your values or relationship. Often people come feeling confused, ashamed, or frightened by the impact on themselves or their partner, and unsure who they can talk to. You may simply want to understand what’s going on and whether change is possible.
You may have some ideas as to why you are seeking counselling or you may simply feel the need to talk to someone. You might experienced a loss, bereavement, a change in family circumstances or a relationship. You might be suffering from an illness or health problems. Perhaps you have problems at work, with your employment or finances. You might have lost touch with yourself or feel uncertain about a life decision. You may be confused, unhappy, depressed, anxious, worried or sad. You may have concerns about your body, weight, appearance, sexuality, drugs or alcohol. You may experienced a trauma or an abusive relationship.
You may have some ideas as to why you are seeking counselling or you may simply feel the need to talk to someone. You might experienced a loss, bereavement, a change in family circumstances or a relationship. You might be suffering from an illness or health problems. Perhaps you have problems at work, with your employment or finances. You might have lost touch with yourself or feel uncertain about a life decision. You may be confused, unhappy, depressed, anxious, worried or sad. You may have concerns about your body, weight, appearance, sexuality, drugs or alcohol. You may experienced a trauma or an abusive relationship.
You may feel stuck in repeating cycles—around addiction, relationships, or intimacy—even though you understand your patterns and genuinely want things to change. Shame, attachment wounds, or codependency often sit underneath, leaving you longing for connection, self-acceptance, and a sense of freedom. Many of the people I work with feel tired of looking outside themselves for answers and are ready to begin a more grounded, authentic kind of healing.
Most people come to therapy feeling unsure or ambivalent — often that’s exactly where meaningful change begins....
You may feel stuck in repeating cycles—around addiction, relationships, or intimacy—even though you understand your patterns and genuinely want things to change. Shame, attachment wounds, or codependency often sit underneath, leaving you longing for connection, self-acceptance, and a sense of freedom. Many of the people I work with feel tired of looking outside themselves for answers and are ready to begin a more grounded, authentic kind of healing.
Most people come to therapy feeling unsure or ambivalent — often that’s exactly where meaningful change begins....
I specialize in the emotional world of men navigating masculinity, fatherhood, and partnerships while carrying high levels of responsibility. If you're reading this, you're likely capable and outwardly functioning well. But internally something feels off: disconnection, repeating patterns, distance in your close relationships. You want deeper connection, renewed intimacy and a grounded way of relating that's real, not performed. You may be navigating painful patterns you can't break, balancing leadership demands with emotional presence at home or rebuilding after years of drift.
I specialize in the emotional world of men navigating masculinity, fatherhood, and partnerships while carrying high levels of responsibility. If you're reading this, you're likely capable and outwardly functioning well. But internally something feels off: disconnection, repeating patterns, distance in your close relationships. You want deeper connection, renewed intimacy and a grounded way of relating that's real, not performed. You may be navigating painful patterns you can't break, balancing leadership demands with emotional presence at home or rebuilding after years of drift.
Are you struggling with addiction, out of control sexual behaviour or compulsivity? Are your behaviours spiralling out of control and you are fearful of what this may cost you? Are you facing relationship issues, fears about your sexual health and safety, work issues, anxiety, depression, trauma or legal action?
As a UKCP registered Psychotherapist and COSRT accredited Clinical Sexologist I have specialised for 14 years in compulsive sexual behaviour, substance misuse and complex mental health concerns, helping my clients toward a path of recovery, rebuilding self esteem, healthy behaviours and better relationships.
Are you struggling with addiction, out of control sexual behaviour or compulsivity? Are your behaviours spiralling out of control and you are fearful of what this may cost you? Are you facing relationship issues, fears about your sexual health and safety, work issues, anxiety, depression, trauma or legal action?
As a UKCP registered Psychotherapist and COSRT accredited Clinical Sexologist I have specialised for 14 years in compulsive sexual behaviour, substance misuse and complex mental health concerns, helping my clients toward a path of recovery, rebuilding self esteem, healthy behaviours and better relationships.
I’m a psychosexual therapist specializing in relationships and sexual wellbeing. I meet people who feel stuck—wanting to understand themselves better, shift unhelpful patterns, and find direction in their sex lives or relationships. Together, we create a space for curiosity and honesty, where even difficult conversations can feel natural and open. This is a place to make sense of what’s going on and begin to create change.
I’m a psychosexual therapist specializing in relationships and sexual wellbeing. I meet people who feel stuck—wanting to understand themselves better, shift unhelpful patterns, and find direction in their sex lives or relationships. Together, we create a space for curiosity and honesty, where even difficult conversations can feel natural and open. This is a place to make sense of what’s going on and begin to create change.
I have worked for the NHS, Terrence Higgins Trust and Ealing Abbey Counselling Service working with individuals and couples from a diverse range of backgrounds. I have experience of providing in depth long-term therapy on complex issues such as the effects of conversion therapy as well as providing short term therapy for the NHS. I aim to resolve sexual problems and improve my client's overall well being, their self esteem and their relationships. I do this through the use of Psychosexual tools such as sensate focus and through allowing the client to discuss their thoughts and feelings in a safe and non-judgemental environment.
I have worked for the NHS, Terrence Higgins Trust and Ealing Abbey Counselling Service working with individuals and couples from a diverse range of backgrounds. I have experience of providing in depth long-term therapy on complex issues such as the effects of conversion therapy as well as providing short term therapy for the NHS. I aim to resolve sexual problems and improve my client's overall well being, their self esteem and their relationships. I do this through the use of Psychosexual tools such as sensate focus and through allowing the client to discuss their thoughts and feelings in a safe and non-judgemental environment.
I am a senior fully qualified Psychodynamic & CBT Psychotherapist BACP registered. I work with: Couples & Individuals who present with: Narcissistic & Borderline Personality, Bipolar, Trauma, CPTSD, ADHD, Compulsive behaviour, Abuse, Infidelity, Dating, Marital Conflict, Divorce & Addictions, in a caring, confidential & non-judgmental space. One of my greatest rewards as a therapist is witnessing the growth and transformation that unfolds in my clients’ lives. It’s deeply meaningful to see someone move from a place of pain or uncertainty toward greater self-awareness, resilience & empowerment.
I offer 30 minutes free consultation.
I am a senior fully qualified Psychodynamic & CBT Psychotherapist BACP registered. I work with: Couples & Individuals who present with: Narcissistic & Borderline Personality, Bipolar, Trauma, CPTSD, ADHD, Compulsive behaviour, Abuse, Infidelity, Dating, Marital Conflict, Divorce & Addictions, in a caring, confidential & non-judgmental space. One of my greatest rewards as a therapist is witnessing the growth and transformation that unfolds in my clients’ lives. It’s deeply meaningful to see someone move from a place of pain or uncertainty toward greater self-awareness, resilience & empowerment.
I offer 30 minutes free consultation.
In my opinion a free consultation is a must so you can get a chance to discuss what’s going on for you and how counselling could help. It’s also a chance to get a feel if we are a good match with no obligation to continue. I would be glad to hear from you to see if I can help you. "What to expect? I have a flexible approach to our sessions, I offer brief intervention work for short term problems which may be a reaction to a life event. Longer term therapy for difficulties you may have been experiencing over a long period of time.
In my opinion a free consultation is a must so you can get a chance to discuss what’s going on for you and how counselling could help. It’s also a chance to get a feel if we are a good match with no obligation to continue. I would be glad to hear from you to see if I can help you. "What to expect? I have a flexible approach to our sessions, I offer brief intervention work for short term problems which may be a reaction to a life event. Longer term therapy for difficulties you may have been experiencing over a long period of time.
If you’re feeling anxious, overwhelmed or struggling with addiction, I help you break unhelpful patterns and make lasting, effective change so you can move forward with confidence and get life back on track
I help find solutions to, and provide relief from negative feelings, life difficulties and problems. Counselling can help by identifying and changing ways of thinking and patterns of behaviour providing new options in how you live. It can give you the opportunity to off load concerns and experience relief from worry and difficulties. I treat everything spoken about as confidential.
If you’re feeling anxious, overwhelmed or struggling with addiction, I help you break unhelpful patterns and make lasting, effective change so you can move forward with confidence and get life back on track
I help find solutions to, and provide relief from negative feelings, life difficulties and problems. Counselling can help by identifying and changing ways of thinking and patterns of behaviour providing new options in how you live. It can give you the opportunity to off load concerns and experience relief from worry and difficulties. I treat everything spoken about as confidential.
In a confidential, welcoming space, we talk about sex. I offer a safe, compassionate place to talk about intimacy, relationships, sexual behaviours, erotic and sexual orientations, sexual bodies, and real vs. fantasised experiences. We look for a positive way forward to deal with something that feels stuck or unmanageable, in a therapy space that welcomes and understands sexual differences and experiences, and treats you with respect.
In a confidential, welcoming space, we talk about sex. I offer a safe, compassionate place to talk about intimacy, relationships, sexual behaviours, erotic and sexual orientations, sexual bodies, and real vs. fantasised experiences. We look for a positive way forward to deal with something that feels stuck or unmanageable, in a therapy space that welcomes and understands sexual differences and experiences, and treats you with respect.
We are in particularly difficult and challenging times for many people. Many people are currently experiencing heightened anxiety, stress, low mood, low self esteem and experiencing relationship difficulties. If you feel negatively impacted by recent times, please reach out and book a free consultation call. Tailored face-to-face or online therapy offers access to professional help, and support you during this time.
We are in particularly difficult and challenging times for many people. Many people are currently experiencing heightened anxiety, stress, low mood, low self esteem and experiencing relationship difficulties. If you feel negatively impacted by recent times, please reach out and book a free consultation call. Tailored face-to-face or online therapy offers access to professional help, and support you during this time.
My goal is to give my clients the safe space to express their sexual concerns, to feel empowered and to see themselves as the star and director in their own show, with self compassion and autonomy at the forefront of every interaction. I take a pluralistic approach that necessitates collaborating with my clients to help them achieve their goals in an open, non judgmental and empathetic safe space. I predominantly work with people of all genders and sexualities and relationship constellations from the black community, LGBTQIA and other minority ethnic groups with a wide range of relationship and intimacy concerns.
My goal is to give my clients the safe space to express their sexual concerns, to feel empowered and to see themselves as the star and director in their own show, with self compassion and autonomy at the forefront of every interaction. I take a pluralistic approach that necessitates collaborating with my clients to help them achieve their goals in an open, non judgmental and empathetic safe space. I predominantly work with people of all genders and sexualities and relationship constellations from the black community, LGBTQIA and other minority ethnic groups with a wide range of relationship and intimacy concerns.
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Sexual Addiction Counsellors
When should someone seek treatment for sex addiction?
People should seek treatment for sex addiction if they cannot control their sexual thoughts or behaviours to the point that it disrupts their ability to function in daily life, for example by threatening their finances, career, or relationships. This may include spending an excessive amount of time obsessing over sex, planning sex, watching pornography, or masturbating, as well as consistently engaging in risky sexual activities, using sex to escape distressing feelings, or attempting yet failing to control sexual behaviour.
What are the most common treatment options for sex addiction?
Psychotherapy is the most common treatment for sex addiction; therapy helps patients better understand their compulsive thoughts and behaviours and develop strategies to manage their desires. Therapy may be supplemented by medications, such as antidepressants, mood stabilizers, anti-androgens, alcohol and substance use medications, as well as support groups, such as 12-step programs.
How long does therapy take for sex addiction?
Recovering from compulsive behaviour takes time and effort. There’s no precise timeline for treatment, but research suggests 12 therapy sessions may be enough to see change. Treatment for sexual compulsions requires honesty in therapy, a commitment to understanding triggers and developing coping skills, and potential lifestyle changes such as cutting out alcohol or drugs.
What if sex addiction is left untreated?
Compulsive sexual behaviour can have serious repercussions if left unaddressed. For example, if sexual obsessions consume the vast majority of a person’s time, they may lose their job. If they can’t stop paying for sex, their finances may suffer. If they’re dishonest in their relationships, their partner may leave them. If they consistently feel shame, they may struggle with anxiety, depression, or loneliness. Therapy can help people develop the tools to manage sexual thoughts and behaviours that feel uncontrollable.