Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counselling in London

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Katie Merritt
Psychotherapist, MA, MBACP Accred
1 Endorsed
London EC4A
I work with clients experiencing anxiety, stress, and identity or relationship challenges in a sex-positive, kink-allied space.
Are you feeling anxious, worried or are you living in a burnout cycle? Maybe life looks fine on the surface but something isn’t matching up inside. Perhaps there’s a part of you that feels under-fulfilled, stuck, or unsure how to move forward. Therapy is a space to look at what’s happening for you right now, to explore what you want to change, and to begin creating a life that feels more connected, purposeful, and your own. I offer a free 15-minute consultation. It’s a chance to explore what’s brought you here and get a feel for my therapeutic approach before deciding whether to begin ongoing sessions.
I work with clients experiencing anxiety, stress, and identity or relationship challenges in a sex-positive, kink-allied space.
Are you feeling anxious, worried or are you living in a burnout cycle? Maybe life looks fine on the surface but something isn’t matching up inside. Perhaps there’s a part of you that feels under-fulfilled, stuck, or unsure how to move forward. Therapy is a space to look at what’s happening for you right now, to explore what you want to change, and to begin creating a life that feels more connected, purposeful, and your own. I offer a free 15-minute consultation. It’s a chance to explore what’s brought you here and get a feel for my therapeutic approach before deciding whether to begin ongoing sessions.
020 4634 0151 View 020 4634 0151
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Will Hardy
Counsellor, MBACP
London SE15
I am based online and in South and East London - I provide LGBTQ+ therapy and counselling for those who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, non-binary, queer, questioning, polyamorous, kink, ace etc.
I am trained within an integrative approach to counselling and psychotherapy. This means I combine different approaches to create a therapy experience that is queer and sex positive, kink-affirming and practiced with an open mindset. Intersectionality, privilege, discrimination and difference are experiences I’m committed to exploring with you safely.
I am based online and in South and East London - I provide LGBTQ+ therapy and counselling for those who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, non-binary, queer, questioning, polyamorous, kink, ace etc.
I am trained within an integrative approach to counselling and psychotherapy. This means I combine different approaches to create a therapy experience that is queer and sex positive, kink-affirming and practiced with an open mindset. Intersectionality, privilege, discrimination and difference are experiences I’m committed to exploring with you safely.
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Azbel Szczepaniak
Counsellor, MBACP
1 Endorsed
London E1
Hi I'm Azbel (they/them) I’m a BACP registered integrative counsellor offering Ecotherapy sessions in Wanstead Flats. Together with Nature’s nurturing presence we can explore themes such as gender and sexuality, life transitions and change, emotional dysregulation and burnout. Or we can focus more directly on your relationship with Nature, where I will facilitate this bond through guided exercises and emotional exploration. Ecotherapy offers the healing potential of a reparative relationship with a therapist, paired with finding meaning and belonging in Nature.
Hi I'm Azbel (they/them) I’m a BACP registered integrative counsellor offering Ecotherapy sessions in Wanstead Flats. Together with Nature’s nurturing presence we can explore themes such as gender and sexuality, life transitions and change, emotional dysregulation and burnout. Or we can focus more directly on your relationship with Nature, where I will facilitate this bond through guided exercises and emotional exploration. Ecotherapy offers the healing potential of a reparative relationship with a therapist, paired with finding meaning and belonging in Nature.
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Virginia L Fick
Psychologist, HCPC - Couns. Psych.
1 Endorsed
Online Only
Hello! I’m Virginia. I work with adults who feel stuck and are struggling in life/their interpersonal relationships, for a variety of reasons - perhaps attachment difficulties, trauma, or impulsivity and lack of interpersonal/communication skills. If you are wanting to process difficult life experiences, overcome engrained/habitual ways of being, and discover new facets of yourself, I would love to help.
Hello! I’m Virginia. I work with adults who feel stuck and are struggling in life/their interpersonal relationships, for a variety of reasons - perhaps attachment difficulties, trauma, or impulsivity and lack of interpersonal/communication skills. If you are wanting to process difficult life experiences, overcome engrained/habitual ways of being, and discover new facets of yourself, I would love to help.
020 4572 9290 View 020 4572 9290
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Rebecca Goldie
Psychotherapist, MSc, BACP
London N13
I would like to help you. As a bisexual woman, I know the challenges of navigating identity and sexuality. That is why I approach every story with an open mind and empathic curiosity. I will engage you from a non-pathologizing, sex-positive, gender-affirming stance, so that you may embrace every part of yourself. I provide individual and couples therapy, as well as sessions for those in alternative relationships. Together we can navigate our way through your relationship and personal challenges, overcome cultural limitations that seek to restrict us, and ultimately find inner joy during times when it appears out of reach.
I would like to help you. As a bisexual woman, I know the challenges of navigating identity and sexuality. That is why I approach every story with an open mind and empathic curiosity. I will engage you from a non-pathologizing, sex-positive, gender-affirming stance, so that you may embrace every part of yourself. I provide individual and couples therapy, as well as sessions for those in alternative relationships. Together we can navigate our way through your relationship and personal challenges, overcome cultural limitations that seek to restrict us, and ultimately find inner joy during times when it appears out of reach.
020 8016 3381 View 020 8016 3381
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I am kink aware.
I also offer support in coming to terms with narcissistic abuse, or being in relationship with someone with a personality disorder. I am now working with clients with complex trauma and PTSD and use a combination of psychotherapy, CBT and tapping to help work through the psychological, physical and spiritual aspects of healing.
I am kink aware.
I also offer support in coming to terms with narcissistic abuse, or being in relationship with someone with a personality disorder. I am now working with clients with complex trauma and PTSD and use a combination of psychotherapy, CBT and tapping to help work through the psychological, physical and spiritual aspects of healing.
020 4572 4552 View 020 4572 4552
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Jonathan Husbands
Counsellor, MBACP
London SE24
I aim to provide a safe welcoming, non-judgmental space where clients can freely express their thoughts, feelings and truly be heard. I am here to listen to you and help you find the best way forward. I use a collaborative approach where we examine thoughts and feelings from the past and examine how those past feelings affect the client in the here and now. My hope is to help clients realise that they have the tools to help themselves move forward in life and I’ll assist in finding new perspectives that help to bring self-awareness, strength, self-belief and enable positive change.
I aim to provide a safe welcoming, non-judgmental space where clients can freely express their thoughts, feelings and truly be heard. I am here to listen to you and help you find the best way forward. I use a collaborative approach where we examine thoughts and feelings from the past and examine how those past feelings affect the client in the here and now. My hope is to help clients realise that they have the tools to help themselves move forward in life and I’ll assist in finding new perspectives that help to bring self-awareness, strength, self-belief and enable positive change.
020 4538 3458 View 020 4538 3458
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Sophia Rozalina Madriaga
Counsellor, MBACP
Online Only
I provide online counselling for clients exploring LGBTQ+ identities, gender, sexuality, kink, and relationship diversity, as well as those managing anxiety, stress, low mood, self-esteem, or life transitions.
My ideal client is seeking a safe, accepting, and confidential online space to explore their experiences, identity, and relationships. They may be navigating anxiety, stress, low mood, self-esteem challenges, life transitions, or questions about gender, sexuality, or relationship diversity. They want clarity, practical strategies, and reflective support to better understand themselves, set boundaries, improve well-being, and feel empowered to live authentically. As a transgender woman, I provide collaborative, pluralistic, and LGBTQ+-affirming support tailored to each individual’s goals.
I provide online counselling for clients exploring LGBTQ+ identities, gender, sexuality, kink, and relationship diversity, as well as those managing anxiety, stress, low mood, self-esteem, or life transitions.
My ideal client is seeking a safe, accepting, and confidential online space to explore their experiences, identity, and relationships. They may be navigating anxiety, stress, low mood, self-esteem challenges, life transitions, or questions about gender, sexuality, or relationship diversity. They want clarity, practical strategies, and reflective support to better understand themselves, set boundaries, improve well-being, and feel empowered to live authentically. As a transgender woman, I provide collaborative, pluralistic, and LGBTQ+-affirming support tailored to each individual’s goals.
020 4634 1390 View 020 4634 1390
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Andrea Pavarini
Counsellor, DCounsPsych, MBACP
London W1G
Your life may look successful and beautiful on the outside, yet inside you may feel anxious, low or burnt out, caught in people-pleasing, especially around family, partners, your sexuality or identity. Perhaps you are coming out, or afraid of disappointing those you love. You may long to stop performing, quieten shame and feel more at home in yourself. Together we slow down, map your story and gently honour your uniqueness, reclaiming your needs, boundaries and desires so life feels steadier, kinder and more spacious. I offer a warm, confidential space in Harley Street and online to explore, feel understood & trust your way forward.
Your life may look successful and beautiful on the outside, yet inside you may feel anxious, low or burnt out, caught in people-pleasing, especially around family, partners, your sexuality or identity. Perhaps you are coming out, or afraid of disappointing those you love. You may long to stop performing, quieten shame and feel more at home in yourself. Together we slow down, map your story and gently honour your uniqueness, reclaiming your needs, boundaries and desires so life feels steadier, kinder and more spacious. I offer a warm, confidential space in Harley Street and online to explore, feel understood & trust your way forward.
020 3835 2797 View 020 3835 2797
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Soho Couples Therapy
Psychotherapist, BPC
London W1F
Soho Couples Therapy is a specialist psychotherapy service for LGBTQ+ couples and individuals who are facing relationship challenges. You may be struggling with intimacy, trust, communication, navigating open relationships, or parenting. Sometimes personal struggles, such as anxiety, questions of identity, or past trauma, are hard to negotiate in a partnership and create distance. We can help you understand the deeper dynamics of your relationship, consider what has created the challenges you are experiencing, and explore how to overcome them.
Soho Couples Therapy is a specialist psychotherapy service for LGBTQ+ couples and individuals who are facing relationship challenges. You may be struggling with intimacy, trust, communication, navigating open relationships, or parenting. Sometimes personal struggles, such as anxiety, questions of identity, or past trauma, are hard to negotiate in a partnership and create distance. We can help you understand the deeper dynamics of your relationship, consider what has created the challenges you are experiencing, and explore how to overcome them.
020 4572 6507 View 020 4572 6507
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Saida Melgar
Counsellor, MA, MBACP
3 Endorsed
London SW9
My clients often come to therapy after noticing a lack of motivation or feeling disconnected. They may feel overwhelmed by daily pressures, weighed down by anxiety, depression, or trauma, or left questioning their sense of self. Many describe feeling misunderstood, not fitting in, or never feeling “good enough.” I work with neurodivergent adults (ADHD, autism and AuDHD, diagnosed or exploring), and those navigating questions about identity, relationships, or sexuality. Together, we’ll create a safe space where you can process your past, understand yourself more deeply, and move through life with greater confidence and ease.
My clients often come to therapy after noticing a lack of motivation or feeling disconnected. They may feel overwhelmed by daily pressures, weighed down by anxiety, depression, or trauma, or left questioning their sense of self. Many describe feeling misunderstood, not fitting in, or never feeling “good enough.” I work with neurodivergent adults (ADHD, autism and AuDHD, diagnosed or exploring), and those navigating questions about identity, relationships, or sexuality. Together, we’ll create a safe space where you can process your past, understand yourself more deeply, and move through life with greater confidence and ease.
020 4572 7386 View 020 4572 7386
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Alexandra Lowe
Psychotherapist, COSRT Reg.
1 Endorsed
London N8
I am a qualified Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist working with individuals, couples, and polycules, with issues around communication, desire/arousal, orgasm, erectile difficulties, vaginal discomfort/pain, trauma, body image, gender and sexuality related issues, menopause, affairs, non monogamous, polyamorous relationships, porn addiction, kink, and bdsm.
My aim is to help you explore your feelings, thoughts and emotions and the affect they have on your behaviour and mood. I see the therapeutic process as a collaborative one, with us working side-by-side to develop your inner resources, communication skills, improve awareness of yourself, your body and your relationships with others.
I am a qualified Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist working with individuals, couples, and polycules, with issues around communication, desire/arousal, orgasm, erectile difficulties, vaginal discomfort/pain, trauma, body image, gender and sexuality related issues, menopause, affairs, non monogamous, polyamorous relationships, porn addiction, kink, and bdsm.
My aim is to help you explore your feelings, thoughts and emotions and the affect they have on your behaviour and mood. I see the therapeutic process as a collaborative one, with us working side-by-side to develop your inner resources, communication skills, improve awareness of yourself, your body and your relationships with others.
020 3879 4641 View 020 3879 4641
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James O'Callaghan
Counsellor, MBACP
3 Endorsed
London NW6
I work affirmatively with neurodivergent clients (including ADHD and autism) and GSRD (gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity) - this includes LGBT+, kink and BDSM, non-monogamy, and sex work, where questions of belonging, safety, and identity often sit under the surface.
You might be feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or stuck in patterns that keep repeating despite everything you’ve tried to change.  For some people this shows up as anxiety, panic attacks, a harsh internal voice, persistent stress, or perfectionism that never seems to let up.  Others come carrying the impact of trauma, emotional or sexual abuse, or attachment wounds that began long before they had language for what was happening. Depression, low self-worth, loneliness, and self-harm can emerge when there hasn’t been a safe place for difficult feelings to go.
I work affirmatively with neurodivergent clients (including ADHD and autism) and GSRD (gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity) - this includes LGBT+, kink and BDSM, non-monogamy, and sex work, where questions of belonging, safety, and identity often sit under the surface.
You might be feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or stuck in patterns that keep repeating despite everything you’ve tried to change.  For some people this shows up as anxiety, panic attacks, a harsh internal voice, persistent stress, or perfectionism that never seems to let up.  Others come carrying the impact of trauma, emotional or sexual abuse, or attachment wounds that began long before they had language for what was happening. Depression, low self-worth, loneliness, and self-harm can emerge when there hasn’t been a safe place for difficult feelings to go.
020 4538 6080 View 020 4538 6080
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Vicente Partida
Counsellor, MBACP
1 Endorsed
London SE1
Many people carry deep emotions like shame or fear, or feel stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns. By exploring the unconscious and reflecting on past and present relationships, we can uncover insights to help with life’s challenges. I have experience with LGBTQIA+ clients and those from multicultural backgrounds, dealing with issues such as relationship problems, anxiety, depression, trauma, and identity. Counselling can offer a safe yet challenging space to explore and gain clarity, whether you have specific concerns or are unsure of the cause.
Many people carry deep emotions like shame or fear, or feel stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns. By exploring the unconscious and reflecting on past and present relationships, we can uncover insights to help with life’s challenges. I have experience with LGBTQIA+ clients and those from multicultural backgrounds, dealing with issues such as relationship problems, anxiety, depression, trauma, and identity. Counselling can offer a safe yet challenging space to explore and gain clarity, whether you have specific concerns or are unsure of the cause.
020 4572 8499 View 020 4572 8499
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Dawn Lucas
Psychotherapist, MA, HCPC-Art Therap.
London SW5
My name is Dawn (she / they) & I am a social activist art therapist providing arts psychotherapy & sex positive therapy to adults in West & SouthWest London.
The arts are an alternative approach to traditional talking therapy & can provide a deeper insight when it is hard to find the words for your experiences and feelings. In my sessions, the seven art forms are available for you; Art Sand-play Music Bodywork / Movement Poetry Sculpture / Clay Drama / Puppetry
My name is Dawn (she / they) & I am a social activist art therapist providing arts psychotherapy & sex positive therapy to adults in West & SouthWest London.
The arts are an alternative approach to traditional talking therapy & can provide a deeper insight when it is hard to find the words for your experiences and feelings. In my sessions, the seven art forms are available for you; Art Sand-play Music Bodywork / Movement Poetry Sculpture / Clay Drama / Puppetry
020 4572 2327 View 020 4572 2327
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Laura Jayne Nice
Counsellor, MBACP
2 Endorsed
London E14
I'm sex positive, sex worker allied and have experience of kink dynamics.
I have found that interpersonal relationship issues often intersect with deeper themes, such as patterns of relating formed in childhood, feelings of anxiety or overwhelm, identity exploration, or a sense of being stuck. I aim to provide a safe, non-judgmental space where we can explore these interconnected areas together and work toward positive change.
I'm sex positive, sex worker allied and have experience of kink dynamics.
I have found that interpersonal relationship issues often intersect with deeper themes, such as patterns of relating formed in childhood, feelings of anxiety or overwhelm, identity exploration, or a sense of being stuck. I aim to provide a safe, non-judgmental space where we can explore these interconnected areas together and work toward positive change.
020 3828 7396 View 020 3828 7396
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Emma Hacking
Counsellor, MNCPS Acc.
1 Endorsed
Online Only
I specialise in working with the whole person, but much of my practice is working with folks in the LGBTQIA plus, psychedelic, activist, kink, neurodiverse and/or polyamory communities.
Counselling with me provides you with a space of radical acceptance to explore your beliefs, your identities, and your experiences of the world. Together, we will co-create a space to experiment with new ways of being. Or a place to integrate or challenge yourself. Or simply some time and space to be heard, and get curious about the meaning of your life (past, present, future). I work with a wide range of people and you are welcome to get in touch if my profile resonates with you. Often, I work with activists, the LGBTQIA+ community, kinky people, poly people, neurodiverse people, outsiders and edge-walkers (and more).
I specialise in working with the whole person, but much of my practice is working with folks in the LGBTQIA plus, psychedelic, activist, kink, neurodiverse and/or polyamory communities.
Counselling with me provides you with a space of radical acceptance to explore your beliefs, your identities, and your experiences of the world. Together, we will co-create a space to experiment with new ways of being. Or a place to integrate or challenge yourself. Or simply some time and space to be heard, and get curious about the meaning of your life (past, present, future). I work with a wide range of people and you are welcome to get in touch if my profile resonates with you. Often, I work with activists, the LGBTQIA+ community, kinky people, poly people, neurodiverse people, outsiders and edge-walkers (and more).
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Loki Grey
Counsellor, COSRT Reg.
London WC1X
I'm experienced in supporting clients to work through issues relating to low or mismatched desire, sexual functioning, unreliable erections, early or delayed ejaculation, painful sex, vaginismus, gender and sexuality, relationship issues, affairs and infidelity, problematic sexual behaviours, sex/porn addiction and understanding kink/BDSM identities.
Hi, my name is Loki. I’m a psychosexual & relationships therapist and I'm committed to co-creating a safe, inclusive and non-judgmental space where clients can work through their sex & relationship issues, explore their erotic life, (re)discover themselves, make sense of their relationships... and bring about lasting change.
I'm experienced in supporting clients to work through issues relating to low or mismatched desire, sexual functioning, unreliable erections, early or delayed ejaculation, painful sex, vaginismus, gender and sexuality, relationship issues, affairs and infidelity, problematic sexual behaviours, sex/porn addiction and understanding kink/BDSM identities.
Hi, my name is Loki. I’m a psychosexual & relationships therapist and I'm committed to co-creating a safe, inclusive and non-judgmental space where clients can work through their sex & relationship issues, explore their erotic life, (re)discover themselves, make sense of their relationships... and bring about lasting change.
01273 110445 View 01273 110445
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Sex Therapist - Chloe Jones
Counsellor, COSRT Reg.
Online Only
I work with people that have barriers to a fulfilling sex life. This can include conditions such as erectile dysfunction, premature/delayed ejaculation, low desire, pain during penetration and difficulty achieving orgasm.
I work with people that have barriers to a fulfilling sex life. This can include conditions such as erectile dysfunction, premature/delayed ejaculation, low desire, pain during penetration and difficulty achieving orgasm.
020 4634 1092 View 020 4634 1092
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Rebecca Fox
Psychotherapist, MBACP
2 Endorsed
Online Only
I am also kink-aware and sex positive.
Hello, I’m Rebecca. I will be by your side as you explore whatever you wish to share, accepting all parts of you and bringing all parts of myself. As a person-centred therapist I offer a space that is non-judgemental, open and supportive. I offer you space that is just for you, to have the time to be heard and express yourself. I'm passionate about social justice and embed this in my practice, curious about how your identities and life experiences are felt and perceived. It feels like a really hard time to be queer and/or trans at the moment, I'm here to hold you and have understanding and experience. You are welcome and accepted.
I am also kink-aware and sex positive.
Hello, I’m Rebecca. I will be by your side as you explore whatever you wish to share, accepting all parts of you and bringing all parts of myself. As a person-centred therapist I offer a space that is non-judgemental, open and supportive. I offer you space that is just for you, to have the time to be heard and express yourself. I'm passionate about social justice and embed this in my practice, curious about how your identities and life experiences are felt and perceived. It feels like a really hard time to be queer and/or trans at the moment, I'm here to hold you and have understanding and experience. You are welcome and accepted.
0161 524 6947 View 0161 524 6947

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Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counsellors

Why might an individual want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?

A sex-positive or kinky individual may want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist because the client may feel safer and more supported discussing their experiences and challenges. A therapist who identifies as kink-friendly will have experience with clients having diverse sexual preferences and will likely be nonjudgmental and supportive about issues brought to the table. It is important to note that sex-positive, kink-allied individuals may find equal success with therapists who do not have such specialised knowledge and background. The most important factor in the success of therapy is for the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond.

Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in sex-positive, kink-allied treatment?

Generally, no. There are limited training programs and unofficial accreditations that therapists can pursue, but a therapist’s expertise will ultimately come from their previous experience with similar clients, their engagement with organisations that promote sex positivity or kink-allied lifestyles, and the importance they place on safety and cultural sensitivity.

How can individuals recognise a good sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?

An experienced therapist is able to help clients explore their sexual identity and expression and relieve any discomfort or stigma attached to discussing such matters and the client’s overall challenges. A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-allied is able to create an environment that honors a client’s experience and sexual preferences. To recognise a good therapist, clients can simply ask directly about topics and issues important to them and gauge their comfort level and connection with a clinician based on the responses.

Can clients benefit from having a therapist with a focus on sex positivity and alternative sexual lifestyles?

Some individuals may feel most comfortable knowing that the clinician they’re working with has a commitment to creating an atmosphere of sex positivity and has experience with relationship diversity and alternative relationship structures. Working with a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist may help clients respect their own challenges and improve identity-affirming treatment.