Emotionally Focused Counselling in South London, London
My specialist training is in cognitive analytic therapy (CAT), emotion-focused therapy ( EFT), cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and art therapy (IATE).
If you are struggling with loneliness, anxiety and depression, or grappling to balance your own needs with those of others, in relationships, work or family, I can support you to regulate your emotions and manage your behaviours. If you are lacking in confidence and self-worth, I can work with you to build self-awareness and respect. If you are suffering the loss of a loved one, a job, a home, a marriage, I can support you through your sadness and confusion. If you are feeling at risk of abuse or self-harm, I can work with your trauma to help you find clarity and direction. I offer therapy to adults and couples of all ages.
My specialist training is in cognitive analytic therapy (CAT), emotion-focused therapy ( EFT), cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and art therapy (IATE).
If you are struggling with loneliness, anxiety and depression, or grappling to balance your own needs with those of others, in relationships, work or family, I can support you to regulate your emotions and manage your behaviours. If you are lacking in confidence and self-worth, I can work with you to build self-awareness and respect. If you are suffering the loss of a loved one, a job, a home, a marriage, I can support you through your sadness and confusion. If you are feeling at risk of abuse or self-harm, I can work with your trauma to help you find clarity and direction. I offer therapy to adults and couples of all ages.
Natasha Menoni: ADHD & Autism Specialist
Psychologist, MSc, HCPC - Couns. Psych.
Verified Verified
South London, London SW18 (Online Only)
I have experience using CBT, CFT, ACT, TF-ACT, EFT & ADHD Coaching.
I am an HCPC registered Counselling Psychologist dedicated to serving adults who have been diagnosed or believe they might have Autism and/or ADHD. I invite you to work together on a therapeutic journey especially catered to your goals and needs. We can work together to identify and make the most out of your own unique strengths, establish robust coping strategies, and build self-awareness to develop a greater understanding of yourself so you can live a more fulfilling life.
I have experience using CBT, CFT, ACT, TF-ACT, EFT & ADHD Coaching.
I am an HCPC registered Counselling Psychologist dedicated to serving adults who have been diagnosed or believe they might have Autism and/or ADHD. I invite you to work together on a therapeutic journey especially catered to your goals and needs. We can work together to identify and make the most out of your own unique strengths, establish robust coping strategies, and build self-awareness to develop a greater understanding of yourself so you can live a more fulfilling life.
As an integrative therapist I have various healing modalities to draw from including art therapy, drama therapy, attachment theory, person-centred approach, Gestalt, body work, existential therapy, body awareness, visualisation, neuro-linguistic programming, EFT Tapping and breathwork.
Are you feeling anxious? Depressed? Low self-esteem? I offer therapeutic counselling using talking and creative therapy so you can plant the seeds of awareness and grow change in your life. I (she/her) am a trained integrative psychotherapeutic counsellor, ecopsychotherapist and practising artist. I work with adults and adolescents struggling with anxiety, depression, grief, loss, low self-esteem, relationships, life direction, stress, burnout, trauma, attachment, creative blocks, divorce, intimacy, abuse, sexuality, OCD, religion, family problems, money stories, spiritual disconnection, psychedelic integration and living abroad.
As an integrative therapist I have various healing modalities to draw from including art therapy, drama therapy, attachment theory, person-centred approach, Gestalt, body work, existential therapy, body awareness, visualisation, neuro-linguistic programming, EFT Tapping and breathwork.
Are you feeling anxious? Depressed? Low self-esteem? I offer therapeutic counselling using talking and creative therapy so you can plant the seeds of awareness and grow change in your life. I (she/her) am a trained integrative psychotherapeutic counsellor, ecopsychotherapist and practising artist. I work with adults and adolescents struggling with anxiety, depression, grief, loss, low self-esteem, relationships, life direction, stress, burnout, trauma, attachment, creative blocks, divorce, intimacy, abuse, sexuality, OCD, religion, family problems, money stories, spiritual disconnection, psychedelic integration and living abroad.
I'm Kasia Cole, psychotherapist, the founder and coach behind Balance Psychotherapy, a specialist wellbeing trauma and relationships clinic. Please don't hesitate to book an enquiry call or a longer consultation via the Online Booking on my website. This gives us a space to talk about how I can help and what Balance Psychotherapy can offer, with its emotional processing tools, such as EFT tapping, EMDR in combination with traditional approaches. All of these to get ready for the colder months ahead!
I'm Kasia Cole, psychotherapist, the founder and coach behind Balance Psychotherapy, a specialist wellbeing trauma and relationships clinic. Please don't hesitate to book an enquiry call or a longer consultation via the Online Booking on my website. This gives us a space to talk about how I can help and what Balance Psychotherapy can offer, with its emotional processing tools, such as EFT tapping, EMDR in combination with traditional approaches. All of these to get ready for the colder months ahead!
Dr Caroline Douglas-Pennant
Psychologist, HCPC - Couns. Psych.
Verified Verified
South London, London SW3
My special interest is working with couples and families using systemic training as well as Terry Neal, Ester Perel and Dr Sue Johnson's Emotionally Focused Therapy.
I have worked in the NHS for 25 years, across a variety of settings and am currently undertaking an MA in Family Therapy. Neuro-biology and Somatic psychology are also areas that inform my practice. This includes helping individuals to understand choices around mental health medication, how the body and mind are 'one' and are both informed by the 'fight or flight' response, attachment styles and survival strategies. I use NVR (Non-Violent Resolution) to support families and young people with challenging behaviours.
My special interest is working with couples and families using systemic training as well as Terry Neal, Ester Perel and Dr Sue Johnson's Emotionally Focused Therapy.
I have worked in the NHS for 25 years, across a variety of settings and am currently undertaking an MA in Family Therapy. Neuro-biology and Somatic psychology are also areas that inform my practice. This includes helping individuals to understand choices around mental health medication, how the body and mind are 'one' and are both informed by the 'fight or flight' response, attachment styles and survival strategies. I use NVR (Non-Violent Resolution) to support families and young people with challenging behaviours.
Dr Hannah Jenkins
Psychologist, HCPC - Clin. Psych.
Verified Verified
South London, London SW2 (Online Only)
My name is Hannah and I offer a kind, safe, highly specialised space for couples counselling and individual sessions. My couples work uses Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT). This focuses on unpicking the types of disagreements couples find themselves in again and again, getting to the heart of the issue and creating meaningful change within the relationship. My individual work can be structured (for example, using strategies and techniques), more exploratory or a blend of both. The purpose of all of the therapies I use is to develop your understanding of your problems, break unhelpful behaviours and build better coping strategies.
My name is Hannah and I offer a kind, safe, highly specialised space for couples counselling and individual sessions. My couples work uses Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT). This focuses on unpicking the types of disagreements couples find themselves in again and again, getting to the heart of the issue and creating meaningful change within the relationship. My individual work can be structured (for example, using strategies and techniques), more exploratory or a blend of both. The purpose of all of the therapies I use is to develop your understanding of your problems, break unhelpful behaviours and build better coping strategies.
Magdalena Rybarczyk
Psychologist, MSc, HCPC - Couns. Psych.
Verified Verified
South London, London SE1
My clinical interests include Psychoanalytic and Attachment approaches, EMDR, DBT and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy.
I hope that the information you can find here will help you to initiate positive changes in your life. I offer therapy for clients struggling with their emotions, experiencing a crisis, relationship difficulties or career and work related concerns. I am experienced in providing effective therapy for depression, anxiety, trauma, stress, self esteem problems, body image concerns, as well as medically unexplained symptoms, sexual and intimacy problems and other psychological challenges. My way of working is emphatic, flexible and receptive to your individual needs.
My clinical interests include Psychoanalytic and Attachment approaches, EMDR, DBT and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy.
I hope that the information you can find here will help you to initiate positive changes in your life. I offer therapy for clients struggling with their emotions, experiencing a crisis, relationship difficulties or career and work related concerns. I am experienced in providing effective therapy for depression, anxiety, trauma, stress, self esteem problems, body image concerns, as well as medically unexplained symptoms, sexual and intimacy problems and other psychological challenges. My way of working is emphatic, flexible and receptive to your individual needs.
I am a systemic and family psychotherapist with 18 years of experience working in mental health services in the NHS.. I have experience working with children and adults who suffer from mental health or emotional difficulties such as depression, anxiety and panic, and eating disorders. I also work with couples who are looking to improve their relationship, and I am registered with the Emotionally Focused Therapy Institute (ICEEFT). My approach to therapy recognises that the individual, as well as their family members all have strengths and strategies which can be used to overcome symptoms and difficulties.
I am a systemic and family psychotherapist with 18 years of experience working in mental health services in the NHS.. I have experience working with children and adults who suffer from mental health or emotional difficulties such as depression, anxiety and panic, and eating disorders. I also work with couples who are looking to improve their relationship, and I am registered with the Emotionally Focused Therapy Institute (ICEEFT). My approach to therapy recognises that the individual, as well as their family members all have strengths and strategies which can be used to overcome symptoms and difficulties.
Sam works with couples using Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Dr Sam Bottrill spent almost a decade working at the world renowned Maudsley Hospital Child & Adolescent Eating Disorder Service supporting teenagers and their families through recovery from Anorexia and Bulimia. Sam has worked privately with clients since 2012, working with adolescents, adults and families with a wide range of difficulties, including anxiety, stress, depression, eating disorders, and trauma. Sam also specialises in couples therapy.
Sam works with couples using Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Dr Sam Bottrill spent almost a decade working at the world renowned Maudsley Hospital Child & Adolescent Eating Disorder Service supporting teenagers and their families through recovery from Anorexia and Bulimia. Sam has worked privately with clients since 2012, working with adolescents, adults and families with a wide range of difficulties, including anxiety, stress, depression, eating disorders, and trauma. Sam also specialises in couples therapy.
I am an Intercultural Integrative Psychotherapist with a holistic approach, embracing of culture and spirituality. I support in various challenges such as Abandonment, Addiction, Anger management, Anxiety, Bereavement & loss, Depression, Dissociation, Low self esteem, Identity, PTSD, Relationship problems, Stress, Suicidal ideation, Self harm and much more. I am adept at building genuine, empathic and productive therapeutic working relationships, with clients wishing to gain a deeper sense and understanding of themselves & to build on their inner resources. Counselling Foundation Tutor and Certified EFT practitioner.
I am an Intercultural Integrative Psychotherapist with a holistic approach, embracing of culture and spirituality. I support in various challenges such as Abandonment, Addiction, Anger management, Anxiety, Bereavement & loss, Depression, Dissociation, Low self esteem, Identity, PTSD, Relationship problems, Stress, Suicidal ideation, Self harm and much more. I am adept at building genuine, empathic and productive therapeutic working relationships, with clients wishing to gain a deeper sense and understanding of themselves & to build on their inner resources. Counselling Foundation Tutor and Certified EFT practitioner.
I’m also a Certified EFT Couples therapist.
Hello and welcome. I’m here to help you find the inner strengths you need to unblock what’s troubling you and move on with your life. My clients tell me I’m warm, kind and insightful – which is good, because my main aim is to offer a safe, welcoming place where you feel willing and able to consider making changes. Most of us aren’t used to reaching out for professional support. We’re brought up to think asking for help can be a sign of weakness. But whatever you’re facing, working together with a professional therapist can let you see a way forward.
I’m also a Certified EFT Couples therapist.
Hello and welcome. I’m here to help you find the inner strengths you need to unblock what’s troubling you and move on with your life. My clients tell me I’m warm, kind and insightful – which is good, because my main aim is to offer a safe, welcoming place where you feel willing and able to consider making changes. Most of us aren’t used to reaching out for professional support. We’re brought up to think asking for help can be a sign of weakness. But whatever you’re facing, working together with a professional therapist can let you see a way forward.
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I work integratively, where I combine approaches (such as MBT, Schema Therapy, CBT & EFT couples therapy) tailored to best fit with your needs and goals.
Are you experiencing challenges with your relationships, difficult feelings, such as anxiety or depression, or feeling stuck in unhelpful patterns in your life? Perhaps you deal with your pressures so that others around you don’t seem to notice yet inwardly feel troubled or unsettled. Or you might have had a difficult recent life event or yet to deal fully with early life experiences that are impacting you now? I’m a Senior Counselling Psychologist and accredited Mentalisation Based Therapist. I can help you, as an individual or couple, to understand what is happening at a deeper level, so you can find new ways of moving forward.
I work integratively, where I combine approaches (such as MBT, Schema Therapy, CBT & EFT couples therapy) tailored to best fit with your needs and goals.
Are you experiencing challenges with your relationships, difficult feelings, such as anxiety or depression, or feeling stuck in unhelpful patterns in your life? Perhaps you deal with your pressures so that others around you don’t seem to notice yet inwardly feel troubled or unsettled. Or you might have had a difficult recent life event or yet to deal fully with early life experiences that are impacting you now? I’m a Senior Counselling Psychologist and accredited Mentalisation Based Therapist. I can help you, as an individual or couple, to understand what is happening at a deeper level, so you can find new ways of moving forward.
I am fully qualified Relationship and Psychosexual therapist trained as a Medical Doctor in my 1st career. I help people who come stuck in distress, to change their destructive patterns of ‘blame-distance’ or 'attack-withdraw' into safe emotional connection, repair their relationships and learn to resolve differences. I work mainly in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) model, integrating other approaches when needed, with different and challenging life stage transitions and all kinds of relationships, or individuals. I am founding director of Re-connect. EFT Clinic in Central London leading a team of experienced EFT practitioners.
I am fully qualified Relationship and Psychosexual therapist trained as a Medical Doctor in my 1st career. I help people who come stuck in distress, to change their destructive patterns of ‘blame-distance’ or 'attack-withdraw' into safe emotional connection, repair their relationships and learn to resolve differences. I work mainly in Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT) model, integrating other approaches when needed, with different and challenging life stage transitions and all kinds of relationships, or individuals. I am founding director of Re-connect. EFT Clinic in Central London leading a team of experienced EFT practitioners.
Mila Palma | EFT Therapist | Clinical Supervisor
Psychotherapist, MA, MUKCP
Verified Verified
South London, London SW3 (Online Only)
Waitlist for new clients
I'm a Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist (EFCT) and Individual Therapist (EFIT).
I work with couples in crisis wanting to re-establish an emotional connection with each other, or perhaps repair and re-establish trust after an affair. I also work with individuals experiencing high levels of anxiety and stress in their lives, relationship difficulties, or feelings of depression, isolation and meaninglessness, as well as people recovering from traumatic events or losses. I have a specialism in working with cross-cultural couples and expats (abroad and in the UK); I also have first-hand experience, being part of a cross-cultural family and having lived half of my life away from my country of birth.
I'm a Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist (EFCT) and Individual Therapist (EFIT).
I work with couples in crisis wanting to re-establish an emotional connection with each other, or perhaps repair and re-establish trust after an affair. I also work with individuals experiencing high levels of anxiety and stress in their lives, relationship difficulties, or feelings of depression, isolation and meaninglessness, as well as people recovering from traumatic events or losses. I have a specialism in working with cross-cultural couples and expats (abroad and in the UK); I also have first-hand experience, being part of a cross-cultural family and having lived half of my life away from my country of birth.
I specialize in trauma, depression, stress, and relationship issues, offering a safe, non-judgmental space for clients to explore their challenges, set goals, and develop the skills they need to thrive. My compassionate approach is customized to each client's unique situation, whether addressing negative thought patterns or healing from trauma. I integrate evidence-based modalities such as Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Focused Therapy, EMDR Therapy, and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy into my practice.Drawing from diverse clinical experience and extensive training, I tailor my approach to meet individual or couple needs.
I specialize in trauma, depression, stress, and relationship issues, offering a safe, non-judgmental space for clients to explore their challenges, set goals, and develop the skills they need to thrive. My compassionate approach is customized to each client's unique situation, whether addressing negative thought patterns or healing from trauma. I integrate evidence-based modalities such as Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Focused Therapy, EMDR Therapy, and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy into my practice.Drawing from diverse clinical experience and extensive training, I tailor my approach to meet individual or couple needs.
Dr Connie Geyer
Psychologist, PsychD, HCPC - Clin. Psych.
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
South London, London SE1
My approach is evidence-based and grounded in Schema Therapy and Psychodynamic Therapy, complemented by DBT coping skills coaching, Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing (EMDR) and Emotion-focused Therapy for couples ( EFT).
Perhaps you cope well in some areas of life but have been troubled by difficult feelings, thoughts or life patterns for a while. Maybe loss, trauma, PTSD, or other difficult life events are impacting you. There are many times when speaking with a trained professional can help. I am a Consultant Clinical Psychologist, certified MBT and Schema Therapist, and Supervisor with extensive experience in providing and leading therapy services in the NHS and private practice. I work with adolescents, adults and couples presenting with a wide range of emotional and relational difficulties, which may be rooted in adverse childhood experiences.
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V Talk Psychotherapy
Psychotherapist, MSc, MBACP
Verified Verified
South London, London SE1 (Online Only)
Transform Your Tomorrow: Begin Your Journey with Psychotherapy. I'm a dedicated psychotherapist and a hypnotherapist specializing in uncovering the depths of the unconscious mind to facilitate genuine healing and transformation by guiding individuals on a journey of self-exploration and understanding. Together, we'll embark on a journey towards healing and growth, fostering awareness of core issues and facilitating transformative change as you explore and understand more about yourself.
Transform Your Tomorrow: Begin Your Journey with Psychotherapy. I'm a dedicated psychotherapist and a hypnotherapist specializing in uncovering the depths of the unconscious mind to facilitate genuine healing and transformation by guiding individuals on a journey of self-exploration and understanding. Together, we'll embark on a journey towards healing and growth, fostering awareness of core issues and facilitating transformative change as you explore and understand more about yourself.
Daniel Eliseo García Higuera
Psychologist, MSc, GMBPsS
Verified Verified
South London, London SW18 (Online Only)
Hey there! I am Daniel, thank you very much for taking some time to see my profile. I am a licensed Psychologist accredited with BPS (British Psychological Society) and COP (Colegio Oficial de Psicología) and a licensed Counsellor accredited with NCS (National Counselling Society). I have over 12 years of qualifications and experience working with addictions, anxiety, emotional issues, self-esteem, communication issues, depression, obsessive thoughts, relationship issues, eating disorders, career problems and existential issues. I can help you clarify your values and we can work to set goals for your life.
Hey there! I am Daniel, thank you very much for taking some time to see my profile. I am a licensed Psychologist accredited with BPS (British Psychological Society) and COP (Colegio Oficial de Psicología) and a licensed Counsellor accredited with NCS (National Counselling Society). I have over 12 years of qualifications and experience working with addictions, anxiety, emotional issues, self-esteem, communication issues, depression, obsessive thoughts, relationship issues, eating disorders, career problems and existential issues. I can help you clarify your values and we can work to set goals for your life.
Michelle Denny-Browne
Counsellor, DCounsPsych, MBACP Accred
Verified Verified
South London, London SE19 (Online Only)
I am an experienced and qualified Therapist and Supervisor, registered member of the BACP and accredited member of NCS (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy/National counselling Society). I have been working therapeutically in the community for nearly 20 years. My background is in family health. I am committed to working ethically and within a contracted relationship, and I have extensive experience with childhood trauma, relationship issues, abuse, anger management, addictions, work/employment dynamics, sexual identity, loss/bereavement, cultural identity issues, family dynamics, anxiety and depression.
I am an experienced and qualified Therapist and Supervisor, registered member of the BACP and accredited member of NCS (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy/National counselling Society). I have been working therapeutically in the community for nearly 20 years. My background is in family health. I am committed to working ethically and within a contracted relationship, and I have extensive experience with childhood trauma, relationship issues, abuse, anger management, addictions, work/employment dynamics, sexual identity, loss/bereavement, cultural identity issues, family dynamics, anxiety and depression.
Dr. Madeleine Vieira is a Clinical Child & Adolescent Psychologist specialised in Anxiety Disorders and has also extensively worked with the following: Depression, Anxiety, ADHD, ADD, Autism Spectrum Disorder, Third Culture Kids' Issues, Grief, Family Change, Cultural Adaptation, Transitions, Friendships, Academic Achievement, Learning Difficulties, Behavioural Difficulties, Illness, Social Isolation, Teenager / Adolescent Issues.
Dr. Madeleine Vieira is a Clinical Child & Adolescent Psychologist specialised in Anxiety Disorders and has also extensively worked with the following: Depression, Anxiety, ADHD, ADD, Autism Spectrum Disorder, Third Culture Kids' Issues, Grief, Family Change, Cultural Adaptation, Transitions, Friendships, Academic Achievement, Learning Difficulties, Behavioural Difficulties, Illness, Social Isolation, Teenager / Adolescent Issues.
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Who is emotionally focused therapy for?
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.
Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?
People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.
What happens in emotionally focused therapy?
Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.
What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?
EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.