Sex Therapy Counselling in South East London, London

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Regina Arnold
Counsellor, MA, COSRT General
Verified Verified
South East London, London SE13  (Online Only)
Not accepting new clients
I believe that sex, intimacy, and love are skills we get to learn and practice.
Firstly, thank you for being here. Deciding to work with a therapist is a big step - I've been there! While I'm not currently taking on new clients, if you do decide to start therapy with me in the future, we'll work together towards the best possible outcome for you. Sessions are a time for you to tap into your needs in a space free of judgement - a space for you to just be. All of my training as an integrative therapist and relationship coach are available to you in our sessions. This means we can work exploratively, creatively or more pragmatically - depending on what would best support you.
I believe that sex, intimacy, and love are skills we get to learn and practice.
Firstly, thank you for being here. Deciding to work with a therapist is a big step - I've been there! While I'm not currently taking on new clients, if you do decide to start therapy with me in the future, we'll work together towards the best possible outcome for you. Sessions are a time for you to tap into your needs in a space free of judgement - a space for you to just be. All of my training as an integrative therapist and relationship coach are available to you in our sessions. This means we can work exploratively, creatively or more pragmatically - depending on what would best support you.
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Charisse Peters
Psychotherapist, MBACP
Verified Verified
South East London, London SE25
I am a qualified Individual, Relationship & Sex Therapist, as your therapist I aim to help you change the aspects of your life that are preventing you from living in a more fulfilling way. I will help you gain insight into your thoughts and feelings and together we can look at new ways of approaching those difficulties.
I am a qualified Individual, Relationship & Sex Therapist, as your therapist I aim to help you change the aspects of your life that are preventing you from living in a more fulfilling way. I will help you gain insight into your thoughts and feelings and together we can look at new ways of approaching those difficulties.
07481 358647 View 07481 358647
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Sexuality Space
Counsellor, MBACP
Verified Verified
South East London, London SE1
Waitlist for new clients
As a GSRD (Gender, Sexuality & Relationship Diversities) therapist, my practice is integrative and responsive to your unique experiences and needs.
Welcome! I am Kalvin at Sexuality Space, a modern therapy practice that specialises in mental health, sexual identity, relationships, LGBTQIA+, kink, confidence building, sexual health, non-monogamy, sex worker support and so much more. I offer a non-judgmental and supportive space for everyone, where all lifestyles, identities, and orientations are affirmed and embraced. If you are new to therapy, I know how nervous you may feel, and I understand how important it is to find the right therapist; for this very reason, our first consultation is free of charge. Visit SexualitySpace.com to book your free first session.
As a GSRD (Gender, Sexuality & Relationship Diversities) therapist, my practice is integrative and responsive to your unique experiences and needs.
Welcome! I am Kalvin at Sexuality Space, a modern therapy practice that specialises in mental health, sexual identity, relationships, LGBTQIA+, kink, confidence building, sexual health, non-monogamy, sex worker support and so much more. I offer a non-judgmental and supportive space for everyone, where all lifestyles, identities, and orientations are affirmed and embraced. If you are new to therapy, I know how nervous you may feel, and I understand how important it is to find the right therapist; for this very reason, our first consultation is free of charge. Visit SexualitySpace.com to book your free first session.
020 3856 8839 View 020 3856 8839
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Loxley Sexology
Psychotherapist, COSRT General
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
South East London, London SE7  (Online Only)
I am a queer nonbinary sex and relationship therapist who provides therapy for couples, multiple partnered relationships (ie non monogamy, colleagues, friends, families) and individuals online only. As a Clinical Sexologist and Relationship Therapist I can help you with three sectors: Sex: desire & arousal, sexuality, sexual health, sexual function & pain, low-esteem. Relationships: intimacy, conflict management, infidelity, life changes, family issues. Gender & sexual identity: LGBTQIA+, Kink, gender dysphoria, sex work, diverse relationship styles (nonmonogamy etc). When I reply to your email, please check your junk/spam too!
I am a queer nonbinary sex and relationship therapist who provides therapy for couples, multiple partnered relationships (ie non monogamy, colleagues, friends, families) and individuals online only. As a Clinical Sexologist and Relationship Therapist I can help you with three sectors: Sex: desire & arousal, sexuality, sexual health, sexual function & pain, low-esteem. Relationships: intimacy, conflict management, infidelity, life changes, family issues. Gender & sexual identity: LGBTQIA+, Kink, gender dysphoria, sex work, diverse relationship styles (nonmonogamy etc). When I reply to your email, please check your junk/spam too!
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Marek Julian Mironski
Psychotherapist, MA, COSRT Accred
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
South East London, London SE1  (Online Only)
Psychosexual therapy is a form of talking therapy that helps you to understand, manage and overcome any sex related difficulties you may have been experiencing. Those difficulties can arise through physical, psychological, emotional and situational aspects affecting our sexual wellbeing. I offer therapy to individuals and couples who might experience difficulties such as: •Erectile dysfunction •Rapid and delayed ejaculation •Painful sex •Sexual health issues (HIV; herpes or anxiety)•Issues relating to intimacy, sexuality and Chem Sex •Low libido •Inability to orgasm• Relationship issues •Compulsive sexual behaviours and more.
Psychosexual therapy is a form of talking therapy that helps you to understand, manage and overcome any sex related difficulties you may have been experiencing. Those difficulties can arise through physical, psychological, emotional and situational aspects affecting our sexual wellbeing. I offer therapy to individuals and couples who might experience difficulties such as: •Erectile dysfunction •Rapid and delayed ejaculation •Painful sex •Sexual health issues (HIV; herpes or anxiety)•Issues relating to intimacy, sexuality and Chem Sex •Low libido •Inability to orgasm• Relationship issues •Compulsive sexual behaviours and more.
020 3872 2506 View 020 3872 2506
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Saundra Rhoden (Sex And Relationship Therapy)
Counsellor, COSRT General
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
South East London, London SE1
I offer specialist support to overcome sex and relationship difficulties, including erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, low desire, lack of orgasm, pain during sex, and communication problems.
Life can feel overwhelming sometimes. Perhaps you’re feeling stressed and anxious about work, or your relationships are not going well. You want things to get better but you are losing hope that anything will ever change. Or, you have spent too long ignoring the situation and hoping it will go away. Why not take some time out for yourself. You’ve either tried talking to friends/ family or you don’t want to burden them. The answer may be to find a relatable counsellor who will listen calmly and guide you towards a better awareness of how to move forward. I am here to help.
I offer specialist support to overcome sex and relationship difficulties, including erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, low desire, lack of orgasm, pain during sex, and communication problems.
Life can feel overwhelming sometimes. Perhaps you’re feeling stressed and anxious about work, or your relationships are not going well. You want things to get better but you are losing hope that anything will ever change. Or, you have spent too long ignoring the situation and hoping it will go away. Why not take some time out for yourself. You’ve either tried talking to friends/ family or you don’t want to burden them. The answer may be to find a relatable counsellor who will listen calmly and guide you towards a better awareness of how to move forward. I am here to help.
020 3962 1511 View 020 3962 1511
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Rachel Seymour
Psychotherapist, MA, COSRT General
Verified Verified
South East London, London SE1
Hi, I'm Rachel. I am a psychosexual and relationship therapist. I work with people from all backgrounds and walks of life, although most often I work with clients who fall into the category of gender, sexuality or relationship diverse (GSRD), whether that means someone is kinky, polyamorous, a sex worker, queer (or a combination!). I work with people on a wide variety of issues: I see couples who want to work on improving communication in their relationship; I see individuals who are struggling to identify what they want sexually; I see people who want a space to process their feelings more generally.
Hi, I'm Rachel. I am a psychosexual and relationship therapist. I work with people from all backgrounds and walks of life, although most often I work with clients who fall into the category of gender, sexuality or relationship diverse (GSRD), whether that means someone is kinky, polyamorous, a sex worker, queer (or a combination!). I work with people on a wide variety of issues: I see couples who want to work on improving communication in their relationship; I see individuals who are struggling to identify what they want sexually; I see people who want a space to process their feelings more generally.
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Domonique Hillam-Thompson
Counsellor, MSc, MBACP Accred
Verified Verified
South East London, London SE1  (Online Only)
I am Relate trained specialising in Relationship and Sex Therapy. In order to keep our relationships healthy we need to attend to them to ensure they remain respectful, trusting, sexual and happy. Because of the busyness of day to day life, we can easily disconnect from our partners without realising it leading to a lack of communication, conflict, affairs, and dissatisfaction. When married, or when children are involved, these problems become even more complex. It might even be that since the country's lockdown, you are now realising there are issues in your relationship. Now could be a good time to resolve these.
I am Relate trained specialising in Relationship and Sex Therapy. In order to keep our relationships healthy we need to attend to them to ensure they remain respectful, trusting, sexual and happy. Because of the busyness of day to day life, we can easily disconnect from our partners without realising it leading to a lack of communication, conflict, affairs, and dissatisfaction. When married, or when children are involved, these problems become even more complex. It might even be that since the country's lockdown, you are now realising there are issues in your relationship. Now could be a good time to resolve these.
020 3962 2135 View 020 3962 2135
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Dr Riona Tweed
Psychologist, PsychD, HCPC - Clin. Psych.
Verified Verified
South East London, London SE5  (Online Only)
Not accepting new clients
I have expertise working with individuals and couples experiencing sexual problems including painful sex, erectile dysfunction, problems with orgasm, compulsive sex or porn use, and sexual trauma.
Hello, I am a Clinical Psychologist with 9 years’ experience providing psychological therapy in the NHS across a range of settings. My approach is warm, compassionate, and down to earth. I aim to make you feel at ease and to work collaboratively with you to identify, understand, and address the issues you are facing. I have experience working with people from many backgrounds, including with racially minoritised groups and those who identify as LGBTQ+. I provide evidence-based therapy drawing on several models to best meet your needs. This includes CBT, CFT, mindfulness-based approaches including ACT, EMDR and psychosexual therapy.
I have expertise working with individuals and couples experiencing sexual problems including painful sex, erectile dysfunction, problems with orgasm, compulsive sex or porn use, and sexual trauma.
Hello, I am a Clinical Psychologist with 9 years’ experience providing psychological therapy in the NHS across a range of settings. My approach is warm, compassionate, and down to earth. I aim to make you feel at ease and to work collaboratively with you to identify, understand, and address the issues you are facing. I have experience working with people from many backgrounds, including with racially minoritised groups and those who identify as LGBTQ+. I provide evidence-based therapy drawing on several models to best meet your needs. This includes CBT, CFT, mindfulness-based approaches including ACT, EMDR and psychosexual therapy.
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Susi Halley
Psychotherapist, COSRT Accred
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
South East London, London SE1
If you are looking for a specialist therapist who can help you with issues related to sex and intimacy then you have come to the right place. I know it can be difficult opening up about issues related to sex, sexuality and sexual function and the impact this can have on you and your relationships. I am an accredited Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist with extensive experience working in the NHS and Private Practice. I have worked in sexual health for the majority of my career and it's my job to make you feel at ease straight away. I am hugely passionate about my work and helping you make the changes you desire.
If you are looking for a specialist therapist who can help you with issues related to sex and intimacy then you have come to the right place. I know it can be difficult opening up about issues related to sex, sexuality and sexual function and the impact this can have on you and your relationships. I am an accredited Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist with extensive experience working in the NHS and Private Practice. I have worked in sexual health for the majority of my career and it's my job to make you feel at ease straight away. I am hugely passionate about my work and helping you make the changes you desire.
020 8059 8388 View 020 8059 8388
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David Peña-Charlon
Psychotherapist, MA, MBACP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
South East London, London SE11
Sometimes life, sex and relationships might seem confusing and difficult.
As a therapist, I believe in the ability of individuals to heal and better their lives, transforming difficulties, trauma, and anxiety into personal insight. If you or you and your partner are experiencing relationship or sex difficulties, feel at loss, and wish to transform them into growth and understanding, I am here to help you.
Sometimes life, sex and relationships might seem confusing and difficult.
As a therapist, I believe in the ability of individuals to heal and better their lives, transforming difficulties, trauma, and anxiety into personal insight. If you or you and your partner are experiencing relationship or sex difficulties, feel at loss, and wish to transform them into growth and understanding, I am here to help you.
020 3962 0540 View 020 3962 0540
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Cássia Testa Gallas Bhattacharya
Verified Verified
South East London, London SE1  (Online Only)
I help clients to deal with anxiety, conflict in the relationship, vaginismus, erectile dysfunction, rapid/delayed ejaculation, pain during sex, fear of sex, discomfort around sexual practices, sexual trauma, lack of pleasure during sex, communication issues, desire to change the dynamics of the relationship, change in circumstance, and more.
Hi! I believe everyone has the right for decent relationships (with friends, family and partners) as it has tremendous influence in their quality of life. Many things influence the way people behave in relationships - I am here to help you explore what might be getting in the way of you getting the relationships you want. I work with all sorts of issues in relationships and sexual difficulties, and will offer you a non-judgmental environment while facilitating the therapeutic process for self-discovery and actualisation.
I help clients to deal with anxiety, conflict in the relationship, vaginismus, erectile dysfunction, rapid/delayed ejaculation, pain during sex, fear of sex, discomfort around sexual practices, sexual trauma, lack of pleasure during sex, communication issues, desire to change the dynamics of the relationship, change in circumstance, and more.
Hi! I believe everyone has the right for decent relationships (with friends, family and partners) as it has tremendous influence in their quality of life. Many things influence the way people behave in relationships - I am here to help you explore what might be getting in the way of you getting the relationships you want. I work with all sorts of issues in relationships and sexual difficulties, and will offer you a non-judgmental environment while facilitating the therapeutic process for self-discovery and actualisation.
020 8059 2130 View 020 8059 2130
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Lotte van Kouwen
Psychotherapist, MA, HCPC-Art Therap.
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
South East London, London SE15
I offer Psycho Sexual and Relationship therapy, EMDR and Art Psychotherapy for individuals and couples. Psycho Sexual Therapy is a type of talking therapy that is designed to help individuals and couples address medical, psychological, personal, and/or interpersonal factors impacting on sexual satisfaction. In this therapy we explore sexual issues and the impact these may have on your life and relationships either individually or with your partner. I will support you in exploring your sexuality and help you to develop a more conscious sexual self-esteem and enjoyment of your sexuality.
I offer Psycho Sexual and Relationship therapy, EMDR and Art Psychotherapy for individuals and couples. Psycho Sexual Therapy is a type of talking therapy that is designed to help individuals and couples address medical, psychological, personal, and/or interpersonal factors impacting on sexual satisfaction. In this therapy we explore sexual issues and the impact these may have on your life and relationships either individually or with your partner. I will support you in exploring your sexuality and help you to develop a more conscious sexual self-esteem and enjoyment of your sexuality.
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Lee Jones
Psychologist, PsychD, HCPC - Couns. Psych.
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
South East London, London SE1
Not accepting new clients
Difficulties around sex can be an isolating experience affecting many areas of your life - especially relationships and self-esteem. Sex is complex! Problems may occur with desire, arousal, pleasure and orgasm. You may struggle with managing your sexual health or sexual behaviours. Difficulties can be present alone or whilst in a relationship.
Difficulties around sex can be an isolating experience affecting many areas of your life - especially relationships and self-esteem. Sex is complex! Problems may occur with desire, arousal, pleasure and orgasm. You may struggle with managing your sexual health or sexual behaviours. Difficulties can be present alone or whilst in a relationship.
020 3929 3714 View 020 3929 3714
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Dr Benedict Hoff
Psychotherapist, PhD, MBACP
Verified Verified
South East London, London SE15
Not accepting new clients
I work with a range of issues including: anxiety, addiction, depression, chemsex, gender identity, gender dysphoria and transitioning, pain and chronic illness, psychosexual issues, sexuality and sexual identity, suicidality and self-harm.
I’m interested in what works. For you. So I take a pluralistic, integrative approach and don’t limit myself to one particular way of working. Whether you’re seeing me for counselling, schema-based therapy or psychosexual therapy, I'll tailor my approach to suit your needs. And it’s the relationship between you and I which will be central to the work. Because I’m not a friend, colleague or family member, you can think the unthinkable and speak the unspeakable in a judgement-free space. You can rely on me to be honest with you, and bring into your awareness your blind spots, and things on the edge of your awareness you might missing.
I work with a range of issues including: anxiety, addiction, depression, chemsex, gender identity, gender dysphoria and transitioning, pain and chronic illness, psychosexual issues, sexuality and sexual identity, suicidality and self-harm.
I’m interested in what works. For you. So I take a pluralistic, integrative approach and don’t limit myself to one particular way of working. Whether you’re seeing me for counselling, schema-based therapy or psychosexual therapy, I'll tailor my approach to suit your needs. And it’s the relationship between you and I which will be central to the work. Because I’m not a friend, colleague or family member, you can think the unthinkable and speak the unspeakable in a judgement-free space. You can rely on me to be honest with you, and bring into your awareness your blind spots, and things on the edge of your awareness you might missing.
01748 902515 View 01748 902515
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Alice Best
Psychotherapist, COSRT General
Verified Verified
South East London, London SE15
I am a Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist, working with individuals and couples. Experiencing an issue with sex or sexuality can be enormously upsetting and damaging to self esteem. Often relationships suffer as a result. Perhaps you have lived with a sexual issue or question about your sexuality for a while and have decided that now is the time to understand it better and work towards a goal. You may be in a relationship where the same argument or sequence plays out, or perhaps you find forming and maintaining relationships difficult and want to understand this better.
I am a Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist, working with individuals and couples. Experiencing an issue with sex or sexuality can be enormously upsetting and damaging to self esteem. Often relationships suffer as a result. Perhaps you have lived with a sexual issue or question about your sexuality for a while and have decided that now is the time to understand it better and work towards a goal. You may be in a relationship where the same argument or sequence plays out, or perhaps you find forming and maintaining relationships difficult and want to understand this better.
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Michelle Harrison-Lee
Psychotherapist, MUKCP
Verified Verified
South East London, London SE12
Counselling & Psychotherapy / Relationship Issues / Couples Counselling / Psychosexual Therapy / Gender, Sexuality and Relationship Diversities Therapist (LGBTQ+) / Clinical Supervision.
Hello, my name is Michelle, As a counsellor and psychotherapist, I am all too aware of just how daunting taking that initial step towards counselling can be. The mere fact that you are reading this now means you are just a phone call away from putting that right. While we sometimes turn to a friend or family member in our hour of need, it is when the problem lies with our nearest and dearest that we should consult with a professional.
Counselling & Psychotherapy / Relationship Issues / Couples Counselling / Psychosexual Therapy / Gender, Sexuality and Relationship Diversities Therapist (LGBTQ+) / Clinical Supervision.
Hello, my name is Michelle, As a counsellor and psychotherapist, I am all too aware of just how daunting taking that initial step towards counselling can be. The mere fact that you are reading this now means you are just a phone call away from putting that right. While we sometimes turn to a friend or family member in our hour of need, it is when the problem lies with our nearest and dearest that we should consult with a professional.
07481 345693 View 07481 345693
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Joanna Strong
Psychotherapist, MSc, MBACP Accred
Verified Verified
South East London, London SE9
Hi! I'm Jo, a qualified accredited BACP/NCPS Integrative Counsellor, EMDR, and trainee Sex & Relationship Therapist (COSRT). Are you wondering why one moment you felt fine moving through life, and then one day it felt like it all changed? Maybe sadness, fear, anger, or intrusive thoughts began to plague your mind and body, or your mood dropped, and you don't know why. You feel on the edge, which is distressing and confusing. Maybe your sex life or life, in general, isn't going how you would like it, preventing you from reaching your full potential. This may have plagued you for a while, and you want it to stop. I can help.
Hi! I'm Jo, a qualified accredited BACP/NCPS Integrative Counsellor, EMDR, and trainee Sex & Relationship Therapist (COSRT). Are you wondering why one moment you felt fine moving through life, and then one day it felt like it all changed? Maybe sadness, fear, anger, or intrusive thoughts began to plague your mind and body, or your mood dropped, and you don't know why. You feel on the edge, which is distressing and confusing. Maybe your sex life or life, in general, isn't going how you would like it, preventing you from reaching your full potential. This may have plagued you for a while, and you want it to stop. I can help.
07766 141091 View 07766 141091
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Milton Sattler Therapy
Psychotherapist, MSc, MBACP Accred
Verified Verified
South East London, London SE23
Please Get In Touch And Book An Initial FREE ON-LINE 30-Minute Session. I am an experienced counsellor and psychotherapist with more than 10 years of experience in working with people of different sexual orientations, races, economic, social and cultural backgrounds and of different ages. I offer psychodynamic therapy, CBT, Gender Sexuality and Relationship Diverse (GSRD) Therapy, Intimate Partner Therapy (IPT) & Psychosexual Therapy or a combination of them tailored accordingly to the client’s needs or a combination of them tailored accordingly to the client’s needs. I am MBACP Accred., BPC registrant and an ACTO Level 2 Member.
Please Get In Touch And Book An Initial FREE ON-LINE 30-Minute Session. I am an experienced counsellor and psychotherapist with more than 10 years of experience in working with people of different sexual orientations, races, economic, social and cultural backgrounds and of different ages. I offer psychodynamic therapy, CBT, Gender Sexuality and Relationship Diverse (GSRD) Therapy, Intimate Partner Therapy (IPT) & Psychosexual Therapy or a combination of them tailored accordingly to the client’s needs or a combination of them tailored accordingly to the client’s needs. I am MBACP Accred., BPC registrant and an ACTO Level 2 Member.
020 4538 5750 View 020 4538 5750
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Dr Remziye Kunelaki
Counsellor, PhD, MUKCP
Verified Verified
South East London, London SE3
I offer time-limited or longer-term sex therapy to individuals or couples.
I am a highly experienced psychosexual and relationship therapist and offer talking therapy for the following issues: relationship difficulties, erectile dysfunction, premature or delayed ejaculation, compulsive sexual behaviour, pain during sex, difficulties with orgasm, arousal or desire issues, sexuality or sex education. I specialize in helping clients achieve sober sex after chemsex. In addition, I offer the space to explore spirituality and faith (regardless of religion) within the framework of sexuality.
I offer time-limited or longer-term sex therapy to individuals or couples.
I am a highly experienced psychosexual and relationship therapist and offer talking therapy for the following issues: relationship difficulties, erectile dysfunction, premature or delayed ejaculation, compulsive sexual behaviour, pain during sex, difficulties with orgasm, arousal or desire issues, sexuality or sex education. I specialize in helping clients achieve sober sex after chemsex. In addition, I offer the space to explore spirituality and faith (regardless of religion) within the framework of sexuality.
020 3962 1638 View 020 3962 1638
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Sex Therapy Counsellors

Who is sex therapy for?

Sex problems are common in relationships. Many people want a better sex life and want to feel loved and desired by their partner. It is difficult for couples to resolve sexual problems on their own because people often feel ashamed to talk about their sexual desires fearing they are not normal, when in fact a very broad range of preferences and behaviors are normal. A sex therapist can help clarify this and other matters.

Why do people need sex therapy?

Many people do not know how to talk about their erotic needs or their emotional needs, both of which are addressed in sex therapy. Couples often live with sexual difficulties for years before seeking help, and in that time, partners may experience so much disappointment and alienation that they may fear their problems mean they are incompatible. Once people experience disappointment, it is difficult to find resolution without help.

What happens in sex therapy?

People have many misconceptions about what takes place in sex therapy. First, it is a form of talk therapy in which partners discuss their sexual concerns; it does not involve touching or physical exploration of any kind. Sex therapy typically helps couples get comfortable talking to each other about sex so that, in the privacy of their home life, they can openly discuss their sexual desires and make decisions about what they want to do. Couples are typically assigned activities to do at home that build intimacy skills.

What kinds of problems do sex therapists treat?

Very often, partners differ in their degree of sexual desire and struggle over how often to have sex. Or they may have fights about porn use or have difficulty connecting sexually after one partner is unfaithful. Men may have problems with premature ejaculation. Women may find themselves struggling to become aroused or to achieve an orgasm. Sometimes partners feel like they have lost the sense of attraction to their partner. These are all common issues dealt with in sex therapy.