Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counselling in Leatherhead

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Collective Psychology
Psychologist, PsychD, HCPC - Clin. Psych.
2 Endorsed
Serves Area
We are a multi-award winning psychological therapies clinic based in Cobham offering fast and effective, evidence-based treatment to support people of all ages and with a variety of mental health difficulties. Our team consists of clinical and counselling psychologists, psychotherapists, an ADHD coach and family therapy. Our beautiful clinic rooms offer a tranquil setting for your sessions. We know the value of the therapeutic relationship and think that it is vital to find a therapist you 'click' with. Our team are personable, warm and empathetic which has helped many people overcome the difficulties holding them back in life.
We are a multi-award winning psychological therapies clinic based in Cobham offering fast and effective, evidence-based treatment to support people of all ages and with a variety of mental health difficulties. Our team consists of clinical and counselling psychologists, psychotherapists, an ADHD coach and family therapy. Our beautiful clinic rooms offer a tranquil setting for your sessions. We know the value of the therapeutic relationship and think that it is vital to find a therapist you 'click' with. Our team are personable, warm and empathetic which has helped many people overcome the difficulties holding them back in life.
01732 617467 View 01732 617467
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Dr Gagan Bangar
Psychologist, HCPC - Clin. Psych.
3 Endorsed
Serves Area
Hello, my name is Gagan. I want to support you on your therapy journey. My approach will enable you to share and explore parts of your identity and difficult or traumatic life experiences. Alongside my expertise in working with common mental health difficulties, I have a special interest in helping people talk about areas such as relationships, sex, sexuality, gender, race, and culture.
Hello, my name is Gagan. I want to support you on your therapy journey. My approach will enable you to share and explore parts of your identity and difficult or traumatic life experiences. Alongside my expertise in working with common mental health difficulties, I have a special interest in helping people talk about areas such as relationships, sex, sexuality, gender, race, and culture.
01372 233629 View 01372 233629
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Gemma Autumn
Counsellor, MBABCP
Serves Area
Are you feeling anxious? Depressed? Low self-esteem? I offer a safe space to adults and adolescents, free of judgement, where shame, embarrassment, sadness and anger are welcome. I (she/her) am a trained integrative psychotherapeutic counsellor, ecopsychotherapist and practising artist. I will answer your questions and also challenge you. I work with grief, relationships, divorce, life direction, stress, burnout, trauma, attachment, creative blocks, insecurity, intimacy, abuse, sexuality, OCD, religion, body issues, family problems, money, spiritual disconnection, psychedelic integration, retirement and living abroad.
Are you feeling anxious? Depressed? Low self-esteem? I offer a safe space to adults and adolescents, free of judgement, where shame, embarrassment, sadness and anger are welcome. I (she/her) am a trained integrative psychotherapeutic counsellor, ecopsychotherapist and practising artist. I will answer your questions and also challenge you. I work with grief, relationships, divorce, life direction, stress, burnout, trauma, attachment, creative blocks, insecurity, intimacy, abuse, sexuality, OCD, religion, body issues, family problems, money, spiritual disconnection, psychedelic integration, retirement and living abroad.
020 4538 2317 View 020 4538 2317
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Mark Shipton
Counsellor, MBACP
1 Endorsed
Serves Area
If you’ve arrived here, you’re likely looking for support to help you make meaningful changes in your life. Perhaps you’re experiencing confusing emotions, struggling with your mental health, or feel that life has reached a point where things just aren’t working anymore. Maybe you feel lost, unsure of exactly what needs to change - but something in your gut tells you that things don’t feel right. The good news is, these kinds of experiences are incredibly common, and they’re exactly where therapy can help. It can empower you to understand what’s going on and begin to move forward.
If you’ve arrived here, you’re likely looking for support to help you make meaningful changes in your life. Perhaps you’re experiencing confusing emotions, struggling with your mental health, or feel that life has reached a point where things just aren’t working anymore. Maybe you feel lost, unsure of exactly what needs to change - but something in your gut tells you that things don’t feel right. The good news is, these kinds of experiences are incredibly common, and they’re exactly where therapy can help. It can empower you to understand what’s going on and begin to move forward.
01737 306449 View 01737 306449

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Kaitlyn Hillier
Psychologist, PhD, CPsychol
Online Only
I have experience working with anxiety, grief, depression, interpersonal-relational issues, intimacy, sexuality, self-confidence, self-esteem, self-awareness, and personality. I am committed to anti-oppressive practice, freedom from judgement or marginalization, and empowerment. I have experience working with the LGBTQIA + community and with issues relating to Sexuality and Alternative sexual lifestyles. I have underwent specialty training in sex therapy. I also have experience with dreams, symbolism, and depth psychologies.
I have experience working with anxiety, grief, depression, interpersonal-relational issues, intimacy, sexuality, self-confidence, self-esteem, self-awareness, and personality. I am committed to anti-oppressive practice, freedom from judgement or marginalization, and empowerment. I have experience working with the LGBTQIA + community and with issues relating to Sexuality and Alternative sexual lifestyles. I have underwent specialty training in sex therapy. I also have experience with dreams, symbolism, and depth psychologies.
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Photo of Zoe Leanne Hedderly - Zoe Hedderly Transpersonal Psychotherapy , Psychotherapist, MBACP
I am kink aware.
I also offer support in coming to terms with narcissistic abuse, or being in relationship with someone with a personality disorder. I am now working with clients with complex trauma and PTSD and use a combination of psychotherapy, CBT and tapping to help work through the psychological, physical and spiritual aspects of healing.
I am kink aware.
I also offer support in coming to terms with narcissistic abuse, or being in relationship with someone with a personality disorder. I am now working with clients with complex trauma and PTSD and use a combination of psychotherapy, CBT and tapping to help work through the psychological, physical and spiritual aspects of healing.
020 4572 4552 View 020 4572 4552
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James O'Callaghan
Counsellor, MBACP
2 Endorsed
London NW6
I work affirmatively with neurodivergent clients (including ADHD and autism) and GSRD (gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity) - this includes LGBT+, kink and BDSM, non-monogamy, and sex work, where questions of belonging, safety, and identity often sit under the surface.
You might be feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or stuck in patterns that keep repeating despite everything you’ve tried to change.  For some people this shows up as anxiety, panic attacks, a harsh internal voice, persistent stress, or perfectionism that never seems to let up.  Others come carrying the impact of trauma, emotional or sexual abuse, or attachment wounds that began long before they had language for what was happening. Depression, low self-worth, loneliness, and self-harm can emerge when there hasn’t been a safe place for difficult feelings to go.
I work affirmatively with neurodivergent clients (including ADHD and autism) and GSRD (gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity) - this includes LGBT+, kink and BDSM, non-monogamy, and sex work, where questions of belonging, safety, and identity often sit under the surface.
You might be feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or stuck in patterns that keep repeating despite everything you’ve tried to change.  For some people this shows up as anxiety, panic attacks, a harsh internal voice, persistent stress, or perfectionism that never seems to let up.  Others come carrying the impact of trauma, emotional or sexual abuse, or attachment wounds that began long before they had language for what was happening. Depression, low self-worth, loneliness, and self-harm can emerge when there hasn’t been a safe place for difficult feelings to go.
020 4538 6080 View 020 4538 6080
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Soho Couples Therapy
Psychotherapist, BPC
London W1F
Soho Couples Therapy is a specialist psychotherapy service for LGBTQ+ couples and individuals who are facing relationship challenges. You may be struggling with intimacy, trust, communication, navigating open relationships, or parenting. Sometimes personal struggles, such as anxiety, questions of identity, or past trauma, are hard to negotiate in a partnership and create distance. We can help you understand the deeper dynamics of your relationship, consider what has created the challenges you are experiencing, and explore how to overcome them.
Soho Couples Therapy is a specialist psychotherapy service for LGBTQ+ couples and individuals who are facing relationship challenges. You may be struggling with intimacy, trust, communication, navigating open relationships, or parenting. Sometimes personal struggles, such as anxiety, questions of identity, or past trauma, are hard to negotiate in a partnership and create distance. We can help you understand the deeper dynamics of your relationship, consider what has created the challenges you are experiencing, and explore how to overcome them.
020 4572 6507 View 020 4572 6507
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Simon Milton
Counsellor, MBACP
Online Only
As a member of the queer and neurodivergent communities, I have hands on experience of what it's like to be different. I don't assume that we're the same, but there's a common language that we speak and this can make the therapeutic relationship work on a deeper level. My ideal client is very much someone who wants to gain an understanding of who they are as much as someone who wants a private space to check in around things.
As a member of the queer and neurodivergent communities, I have hands on experience of what it's like to be different. I don't assume that we're the same, but there's a common language that we speak and this can make the therapeutic relationship work on a deeper level. My ideal client is very much someone who wants to gain an understanding of who they are as much as someone who wants a private space to check in around things.
0113 519 1986 View 0113 519 1986
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Sophia Rozalina Madriaga
Counsellor, MBACP
Online Only
I provide online counselling for clients exploring LGBTQ+ identities, gender, sexuality, kink, and relationship diversity, as well as those managing anxiety, stress, low mood, self-esteem, or life transitions.
My ideal client is seeking a safe, accepting, and confidential online space to explore their experiences, identity, and relationships. They may be navigating anxiety, stress, low mood, self-esteem challenges, life transitions, or questions about gender, sexuality, or relationship diversity. They want clarity, practical strategies, and reflective support to better understand themselves, set boundaries, improve well-being, and feel empowered to live authentically. As a transgender woman, I provide collaborative, pluralistic, and LGBTQ+-affirming support tailored to each individual’s goals.
I provide online counselling for clients exploring LGBTQ+ identities, gender, sexuality, kink, and relationship diversity, as well as those managing anxiety, stress, low mood, self-esteem, or life transitions.
My ideal client is seeking a safe, accepting, and confidential online space to explore their experiences, identity, and relationships. They may be navigating anxiety, stress, low mood, self-esteem challenges, life transitions, or questions about gender, sexuality, or relationship diversity. They want clarity, practical strategies, and reflective support to better understand themselves, set boundaries, improve well-being, and feel empowered to live authentically. As a transgender woman, I provide collaborative, pluralistic, and LGBTQ+-affirming support tailored to each individual’s goals.
020 4634 1390 View 020 4634 1390
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Azbel Szczepaniak
Counsellor, MBACP
1 Endorsed
Online Only
Hi I'm Azbel (they/them) I’m a BACP registered integrative counsellor offering Ecotherapy sessions in Wanstead Flats. Together with Nature’s nurturing presence we can explore themes such as gender and sexuality, life transitions and change, emotional dysregulation and burnout. Or we can focus more directly on your relationship with Nature, where I will facilitate this bond through guided exercises and emotional exploration. Ecotherapy offers the healing potential of a reparative relationship with a therapist, paired with finding meaning and belonging in Nature.
Hi I'm Azbel (they/them) I’m a BACP registered integrative counsellor offering Ecotherapy sessions in Wanstead Flats. Together with Nature’s nurturing presence we can explore themes such as gender and sexuality, life transitions and change, emotional dysregulation and burnout. Or we can focus more directly on your relationship with Nature, where I will facilitate this bond through guided exercises and emotional exploration. Ecotherapy offers the healing potential of a reparative relationship with a therapist, paired with finding meaning and belonging in Nature.
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Will Hardy
Counsellor, MBACP
London SE15
I am based online and in South and East London - I provide LGBTQ+ therapy and counselling for those who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, non-binary, queer, questioning, polyamorous, kink, ace etc.
I am trained within an integrative approach to counselling and psychotherapy. This means I combine different approaches to create a therapy experience that is queer and sex positive, kink-affirming and practiced with an open mindset. Intersectionality, privilege, discrimination and difference are experiences I’m committed to exploring with you safely.
I am based online and in South and East London - I provide LGBTQ+ therapy and counselling for those who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, non-binary, queer, questioning, polyamorous, kink, ace etc.
I am trained within an integrative approach to counselling and psychotherapy. This means I combine different approaches to create a therapy experience that is queer and sex positive, kink-affirming and practiced with an open mindset. Intersectionality, privilege, discrimination and difference are experiences I’m committed to exploring with you safely.
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Jonathan Husbands
Counsellor, MBACP
London SE24
I aim to provide a safe welcoming, non-judgmental space where clients can freely express their thoughts, feelings and truly be heard. I am here to listen to you and help you find the best way forward. I use a collaborative approach where we examine thoughts and feelings from the past and examine how those past feelings affect the client in the here and now. My hope is to help clients realise that they have the tools to help themselves move forward in life and I’ll assist in finding new perspectives that help to bring self-awareness, strength, self-belief and enable positive change.
I aim to provide a safe welcoming, non-judgmental space where clients can freely express their thoughts, feelings and truly be heard. I am here to listen to you and help you find the best way forward. I use a collaborative approach where we examine thoughts and feelings from the past and examine how those past feelings affect the client in the here and now. My hope is to help clients realise that they have the tools to help themselves move forward in life and I’ll assist in finding new perspectives that help to bring self-awareness, strength, self-belief and enable positive change.
020 4538 3458 View 020 4538 3458
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Andrea Pavarini
Counsellor, DCounsPsych, MBACP
London W1G
Your life may look successful and beautiful on the outside, yet inside you may feel anxious, low or burnt out, caught in people-pleasing, especially around family, partners, your sexuality or identity. Perhaps you are coming out, or afraid of disappointing those you love. You may long to stop performing, quieten shame and feel more at home in yourself. Together we slow down, map your story and gently honour your uniqueness, reclaiming your needs, boundaries and desires so life feels steadier, kinder and more spacious. I offer a warm, confidential space in Harley Street and online to explore, feel understood & trust your way forward.
Your life may look successful and beautiful on the outside, yet inside you may feel anxious, low or burnt out, caught in people-pleasing, especially around family, partners, your sexuality or identity. Perhaps you are coming out, or afraid of disappointing those you love. You may long to stop performing, quieten shame and feel more at home in yourself. Together we slow down, map your story and gently honour your uniqueness, reclaiming your needs, boundaries and desires so life feels steadier, kinder and more spacious. I offer a warm, confidential space in Harley Street and online to explore, feel understood & trust your way forward.
020 3835 2797 View 020 3835 2797
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Kyle James
Psychotherapist, MBABCP
1 Endorsed
Online Only
Hello. If you’re here, you're likely going through a tough time, whether you're feeling anxious, low, or stuck, and looking for support. Reaching out takes courage, and I aim to offer a calm, non-judgmental space where you can feel understood and start to make sense of what’s happening. I’m a qualified and accredited CBT Psychotherapist and Trainee Counselling Psychologist in the final stage of training. My main approach is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), helping you understand the links between your thoughts, feelings, and actions while developing practical tools to move forward. I also integrate ideas from other approaches.
Hello. If you’re here, you're likely going through a tough time, whether you're feeling anxious, low, or stuck, and looking for support. Reaching out takes courage, and I aim to offer a calm, non-judgmental space where you can feel understood and start to make sense of what’s happening. I’m a qualified and accredited CBT Psychotherapist and Trainee Counselling Psychologist in the final stage of training. My main approach is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), helping you understand the links between your thoughts, feelings, and actions while developing practical tools to move forward. I also integrate ideas from other approaches.
01446 506822 View 01446 506822
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Alexandra Lowe
Psychotherapist, COSRT Reg.
1 Endorsed
London N8
I am a qualified Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist working with individuals, couples, and polycules, with issues around communication, desire/arousal, orgasm, erectile difficulties, vaginal discomfort/pain, trauma, body image, gender and sexuality related issues, menopause, affairs, non monogamous, polyamorous relationships, porn addiction, kink, and bdsm.
My aim is to help you explore your feelings, thoughts and emotions and the affect they have on your behaviour and mood. I see the therapeutic process as a collaborative one, with us working side-by-side to develop your inner resources, communication skills, improve awareness of yourself, your body and your relationships with others.
I am a qualified Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist working with individuals, couples, and polycules, with issues around communication, desire/arousal, orgasm, erectile difficulties, vaginal discomfort/pain, trauma, body image, gender and sexuality related issues, menopause, affairs, non monogamous, polyamorous relationships, porn addiction, kink, and bdsm.
My aim is to help you explore your feelings, thoughts and emotions and the affect they have on your behaviour and mood. I see the therapeutic process as a collaborative one, with us working side-by-side to develop your inner resources, communication skills, improve awareness of yourself, your body and your relationships with others.
020 3879 4641 View 020 3879 4641
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Virginia L Fick
Psychologist, HCPC - Couns. Psych.
1 Endorsed
Online Only
Hello! I’m Virginia. I work with adults who feel stuck and are struggling in life/their interpersonal relationships, for a variety of reasons - perhaps attachment difficulties, trauma, or impulsivity and lack of interpersonal/communication skills. If you are wanting to process difficult life experiences, overcome engrained/habitual ways of being, and discover new facets of yourself, I would love to help.
Hello! I’m Virginia. I work with adults who feel stuck and are struggling in life/their interpersonal relationships, for a variety of reasons - perhaps attachment difficulties, trauma, or impulsivity and lack of interpersonal/communication skills. If you are wanting to process difficult life experiences, overcome engrained/habitual ways of being, and discover new facets of yourself, I would love to help.
020 4572 9290 View 020 4572 9290
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Sarah Kathryn Pettifer
Counsellor, MBACP Accred
Serves Area
Are you someone who wants to get to know themselves better? Someone who is ready to explore and understand some of the patterns that might be shaping your life. Maybe curious about gender,sexuality,identity,relationships,neurodivergence,processes around emotions or thoughts... I might be able to help... As I understand it, some challenges to good mental health come from tensions between what you are/want/need and what's actually happening in your reality, it might make you feel low or anxious.
Are you someone who wants to get to know themselves better? Someone who is ready to explore and understand some of the patterns that might be shaping your life. Maybe curious about gender,sexuality,identity,relationships,neurodivergence,processes around emotions or thoughts... I might be able to help... As I understand it, some challenges to good mental health come from tensions between what you are/want/need and what's actually happening in your reality, it might make you feel low or anxious.
01283 249272 View 01283 249272
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Selwyn Warren
Counsellor, BACP
Serves Area
While I work in other areas, I specialise in intimacy issues including sex and kink positivity, sex addiction and mens work.
My clients are often seeking healing from addiction, relationship struggles, or intimacy challenges. They often carry attachment wounds, shame, or patterns of codependency and feel stuck in repeating cycles. They long for connection, self-acceptance, and freedom from old patterns. Their goal is to build healthier relationships—with themselves and others—by finding self-compassion, forgiveness, and responsibility. They want to live authentically, grounded in their body and values, because they’re ready to stop looking outside themselves and start transforming from within.
While I work in other areas, I specialise in intimacy issues including sex and kink positivity, sex addiction and mens work.
My clients are often seeking healing from addiction, relationship struggles, or intimacy challenges. They often carry attachment wounds, shame, or patterns of codependency and feel stuck in repeating cycles. They long for connection, self-acceptance, and freedom from old patterns. Their goal is to build healthier relationships—with themselves and others—by finding self-compassion, forgiveness, and responsibility. They want to live authentically, grounded in their body and values, because they’re ready to stop looking outside themselves and start transforming from within.
01273 110359 View 01273 110359
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Saida Melgar
Counsellor, MA, MBACP
3 Endorsed
London SW9
My clients often come to therapy after noticing a lack of motivation or feeling disconnected. They may feel overwhelmed by daily pressures, weighed down by anxiety, depression, or trauma, or left questioning their sense of self. Many describe feeling misunderstood, not fitting in, or never feeling “good enough.” I work with neurodivergent adults (ADHD, autism and AuDHD, diagnosed or exploring), and those navigating questions about identity, relationships, or sexuality. Together, we’ll create a safe space where you can process your past, understand yourself more deeply, and move through life with greater confidence and ease.
My clients often come to therapy after noticing a lack of motivation or feeling disconnected. They may feel overwhelmed by daily pressures, weighed down by anxiety, depression, or trauma, or left questioning their sense of self. Many describe feeling misunderstood, not fitting in, or never feeling “good enough.” I work with neurodivergent adults (ADHD, autism and AuDHD, diagnosed or exploring), and those navigating questions about identity, relationships, or sexuality. Together, we’ll create a safe space where you can process your past, understand yourself more deeply, and move through life with greater confidence and ease.
020 4572 7386 View 020 4572 7386
Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counsellors

Why might an individual want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?

A sex-positive or kinky individual may want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist because the client may feel safer and more supported discussing their experiences and challenges. A therapist who identifies as kink-friendly will have experience with clients having diverse sexual preferences and will likely be nonjudgmental and supportive about issues brought to the table. It is important to note that sex-positive, kink-allied individuals may find equal success with therapists who do not have such specialised knowledge and background. The most important factor in the success of therapy is for the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond.

Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in sex-positive, kink-allied treatment?

Generally, no. There are limited training programs and unofficial accreditations that therapists can pursue, but a therapist’s expertise will ultimately come from their previous experience with similar clients, their engagement with organisations that promote sex positivity or kink-allied lifestyles, and the importance they place on safety and cultural sensitivity.

How can individuals recognise a good sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?

An experienced therapist is able to help clients explore their sexual identity and expression and relieve any discomfort or stigma attached to discussing such matters and the client’s overall challenges. A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-allied is able to create an environment that honors a client’s experience and sexual preferences. To recognise a good therapist, clients can simply ask directly about topics and issues important to them and gauge their comfort level and connection with a clinician based on the responses.

Can clients benefit from having a therapist with a focus on sex positivity and alternative sexual lifestyles?

Some individuals may feel most comfortable knowing that the clinician they’re working with has a commitment to creating an atmosphere of sex positivity and has experience with relationship diversity and alternative relationship structures. Working with a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist may help clients respect their own challenges and improve identity-affirming treatment.