Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counselling in Kingston upon Thames
Are you navigating life with neurodivergence such as Autism and ADHD, exploring your gender identity, healing from trauma, managing addiction, or facing challenges like menopause and family estrangement? You deserve a compassionate, trauma-informed space that honours your unique experience without judgment. Together, we’ll move at a pace that feels safe and empowering, helping you build self-understanding and connection, so you can live more authentically and with greater ease.
Are you navigating life with neurodivergence such as Autism and ADHD, exploring your gender identity, healing from trauma, managing addiction, or facing challenges like menopause and family estrangement? You deserve a compassionate, trauma-informed space that honours your unique experience without judgment. Together, we’ll move at a pace that feels safe and empowering, helping you build self-understanding and connection, so you can live more authentically and with greater ease.
If you are looking for a specialist therapist who can help you with issues related to intimacy, sex and relationships then you have come to the right place. I know it can be difficult opening up about issues related to sex, sexuality and sexual function and the impact this can have on you and your relationships. I am a Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist with extensive experience working in the NHS and Private Practice. Difficulties with intimacy can be caused by many different factors that may overlap. Together we can work holistically to help you gain greater understanding and give you strategies to make positive changes.
If you are looking for a specialist therapist who can help you with issues related to intimacy, sex and relationships then you have come to the right place. I know it can be difficult opening up about issues related to sex, sexuality and sexual function and the impact this can have on you and your relationships. I am a Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist with extensive experience working in the NHS and Private Practice. Difficulties with intimacy can be caused by many different factors that may overlap. Together we can work holistically to help you gain greater understanding and give you strategies to make positive changes.
Do you find life or relationships difficult ? Do you feel anxious, depressed, vulnerable, wanting to change but uncertain on how to proceed ? I am a London based BACP Senior Accredited Psychodynamic Psychotherapist, BPC Psychodynamic Counsellor and COSRT Registered Psychosexual Therapist in private practice in Wimbledon, London, and Online. I specialise in Chronic and life-threatening health conditions, Personality and Psychosomatic Presentations, Relationship and Psychosexual issues (intimacy, desire, compulsive sexual behaviours, arousal disorders), and provide psychotherapy to adult individuals and couples in English and Italian.
Do you find life or relationships difficult ? Do you feel anxious, depressed, vulnerable, wanting to change but uncertain on how to proceed ? I am a London based BACP Senior Accredited Psychodynamic Psychotherapist, BPC Psychodynamic Counsellor and COSRT Registered Psychosexual Therapist in private practice in Wimbledon, London, and Online. I specialise in Chronic and life-threatening health conditions, Personality and Psychosomatic Presentations, Relationship and Psychosexual issues (intimacy, desire, compulsive sexual behaviours, arousal disorders), and provide psychotherapy to adult individuals and couples in English and Italian.
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My name is Leanna and I am Integrative Relational Psychotherapist
I work with individuals and couples who may be grappling with anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties, trauma, low self-esteem, work related stress, family issues, or a sense of feeling stuck.
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Thank you for taking the time to read my profile,
My name is Leanna and I am Integrative Relational Psychotherapist
I work with individuals and couples who may be grappling with anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties, trauma, low self-esteem, work related stress, family issues, or a sense of feeling stuck.
Whatever your reasons for seeking therapy, I will offer a safe, non-judgemental space, where we can explore the difficulties you are facing. I am calm, warm and open, with a deep respect for your uniquness and individuality. My aim is to build a trusting relationship with you, to help you find the peace, change or growth you seek.
Whatever your reasons for seeking therapy, I will offer a safe, non-judgemental space, where we can explore the difficulties you are facing. I am calm, warm and open, with a deep respect for your uniquness and individuality. My aim is to build a trusting relationship with you, to help you find the peace, change or growth you seek.
I am an experienced and professionally qualified sex & relationship therapist, specialising in working with couples and individuals on restoring desire and intimacy, better communication, surviving affairs, sexual problems such as painful intercourse and ED, and compulsive sexual behavior (AKA sex addiction). I am a member of COSRT.
First sessions are free, without any obligation to continue, so you can check out you're comfortable working with me. I can usually see you within 48 hours and sometimes the same day. I work evenings, weekends, and daytimes. I offer in-person and online sessions.
I am an experienced and professionally qualified sex & relationship therapist, specialising in working with couples and individuals on restoring desire and intimacy, better communication, surviving affairs, sexual problems such as painful intercourse and ED, and compulsive sexual behavior (AKA sex addiction). I am a member of COSRT.
First sessions are free, without any obligation to continue, so you can check out you're comfortable working with me. I can usually see you within 48 hours and sometimes the same day. I work evenings, weekends, and daytimes. I offer in-person and online sessions.
My name is Ishpal and I am a Senior Counselling Psychologist and I offer individual and couple therapy. I have specialist experience in sexual health and HIV, as well as other long term health conditions, and sexual difficulties, depression and anxiety. I am an anti-racist psychologist and an active ally of the LGBTQ+ communities. I offer psychological therapy for individuals and couples and I work using an integrative approach, drawing on a number of theories, including: humanistic, psychodynamic, cognitive behavioural, narrative, and psychosexual therapies.
My name is Ishpal and I am a Senior Counselling Psychologist and I offer individual and couple therapy. I have specialist experience in sexual health and HIV, as well as other long term health conditions, and sexual difficulties, depression and anxiety. I am an anti-racist psychologist and an active ally of the LGBTQ+ communities. I offer psychological therapy for individuals and couples and I work using an integrative approach, drawing on a number of theories, including: humanistic, psychodynamic, cognitive behavioural, narrative, and psychosexual therapies.
Hi I'm Daniel (He/Him). I'm a counsellor who provides support for people that are struggling with feelings of depression, anxiety and grief. I work with people seeking support with difficult life decisions and challenges in their relationships. Often people attend because they are feeling 'stuck'; finding themselves arriving at the same place, despite trying really hard to change. Perhaps they are drinking, shopping or eating to cope or escape. The sex and relationships they're having has stopped feeling safe or fulfilling. They're doing things to 'feel better' while avoiding people, places or decisions due to fear or shame.
Hi I'm Daniel (He/Him). I'm a counsellor who provides support for people that are struggling with feelings of depression, anxiety and grief. I work with people seeking support with difficult life decisions and challenges in their relationships. Often people attend because they are feeling 'stuck'; finding themselves arriving at the same place, despite trying really hard to change. Perhaps they are drinking, shopping or eating to cope or escape. The sex and relationships they're having has stopped feeling safe or fulfilling. They're doing things to 'feel better' while avoiding people, places or decisions due to fear or shame.
Are you feeling stuck in painful relationship dynamics, struggling with intimacy or sexual challenges, or navigating the complexities of cultural transition and identity? Do you feel like some parts of you are lost, wounded, or out of sync - with your partner, your body, or your sense of self? You may be carrying stories that no longer serve you, shaped by culture, past relationships, or unspoken wounds. As an integrative counsellor, psychosexual and relationship therapist, I offer a space where all of you is welcome - where we slow down, listen deeply, and gently reconnect you with who you are, and how you want to live and love.
Are you feeling stuck in painful relationship dynamics, struggling with intimacy or sexual challenges, or navigating the complexities of cultural transition and identity? Do you feel like some parts of you are lost, wounded, or out of sync - with your partner, your body, or your sense of self? You may be carrying stories that no longer serve you, shaped by culture, past relationships, or unspoken wounds. As an integrative counsellor, psychosexual and relationship therapist, I offer a space where all of you is welcome - where we slow down, listen deeply, and gently reconnect you with who you are, and how you want to live and love.
Welcome! My clients say that I am warm and supportive counsellor who is also very practical. I work with individuals, couples and families who are having difficulties with life, or relationship issues or facing new challenges when it seems old solutions are no longer effective. I am always optimistic that it is never too late to make changes and live life more fully. My commitment to you is to listen deeply with respect and understanding and to enable you to reach your goals and to live a rewarding life
Welcome! My clients say that I am warm and supportive counsellor who is also very practical. I work with individuals, couples and families who are having difficulties with life, or relationship issues or facing new challenges when it seems old solutions are no longer effective. I am always optimistic that it is never too late to make changes and live life more fully. My commitment to you is to listen deeply with respect and understanding and to enable you to reach your goals and to live a rewarding life
I am specialised in treating problems such as ADHD, Anxiety, Depression, Low Self-Esteem, OCD, Stress, Perfectionism, People Pleasing and Conflict Avoidance. I have over 13 years of experience. I emphasise the use of Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapies as these offer a wealth of scientific evidence backing their effectiveness.
From the first session onwards, we will focus on getting a tailored understanding of your concerns. We will then engage in an individualised treatment plan using scientifically backed methods.
I am fully accredited by the BABCP and use a sophisticated form of CBT called the UCL Case Formulation Model.
I am specialised in treating problems such as ADHD, Anxiety, Depression, Low Self-Esteem, OCD, Stress, Perfectionism, People Pleasing and Conflict Avoidance. I have over 13 years of experience. I emphasise the use of Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapies as these offer a wealth of scientific evidence backing their effectiveness.
From the first session onwards, we will focus on getting a tailored understanding of your concerns. We will then engage in an individualised treatment plan using scientifically backed methods.
I am fully accredited by the BABCP and use a sophisticated form of CBT called the UCL Case Formulation Model.
Time and space to breathe, let go, be heard - without judgement. Together, we will make sense of your current situation, and identify the ways in which our time together will best serve you. Most of us were not shown how to understand and interact with our emotions and feelings so when faced with complex situations or unfamiliar/overwhelming feelings, it can feel too much to bear alone. I offer a safe space and empathetic attitude to support you through the challenges you are facing. Whether you are coming to therapy feeling curious, anxious, heavy, afraid or positive, I will meet you where you are and accept you as you are.
Time and space to breathe, let go, be heard - without judgement. Together, we will make sense of your current situation, and identify the ways in which our time together will best serve you. Most of us were not shown how to understand and interact with our emotions and feelings so when faced with complex situations or unfamiliar/overwhelming feelings, it can feel too much to bear alone. I offer a safe space and empathetic attitude to support you through the challenges you are facing. Whether you are coming to therapy feeling curious, anxious, heavy, afraid or positive, I will meet you where you are and accept you as you are.
To change an unhelpful pattern of thinking, feeling and behaving, it is often not enough to learn techniques for modifying our behaviour. To achieve lasting change, we need to understand why we internalised certain patterns that may repeatedly lead us into difficult situations - both with our environment, with people we love and, not least, with ourselves. Gaining this understanding requires us to examine our early relationships with significant others and the way we were brought up and learned to react and regulate ourselves.
To change an unhelpful pattern of thinking, feeling and behaving, it is often not enough to learn techniques for modifying our behaviour. To achieve lasting change, we need to understand why we internalised certain patterns that may repeatedly lead us into difficult situations - both with our environment, with people we love and, not least, with ourselves. Gaining this understanding requires us to examine our early relationships with significant others and the way we were brought up and learned to react and regulate ourselves.
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I also welcome people at the intersection of queerness, kink, and alternative subcultures.
In invite you to contact me to speak confidentially about anything that you feel you need at this point in your life.
This could be difficulties in your everyday life or with others. This could be thoughts, feelings, or sensations that are too much. This could be a lack of desire or enjoyment in life. This could be a loss or a destabilising event. This could also be a question about yourself, which you wish to explore in a non-judgemental space.
I welcome people of all ethnicities, cultures, and alternative subcultures; and people of all genders, sexual orientations, types of relationships, and sexual activities.
I also welcome people at the intersection of queerness, kink, and alternative subcultures.
In invite you to contact me to speak confidentially about anything that you feel you need at this point in your life.
This could be difficulties in your everyday life or with others. This could be thoughts, feelings, or sensations that are too much. This could be a lack of desire or enjoyment in life. This could be a loss or a destabilising event. This could also be a question about yourself, which you wish to explore in a non-judgemental space.
I welcome people of all ethnicities, cultures, and alternative subcultures; and people of all genders, sexual orientations, types of relationships, and sexual activities.
I work affirmatively with neurodivergent clients (including ADHD and autism) and GSRD (gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity) - this includes LGBT+, kink and BDSM, non-monogamy, and sex work, where questions of belonging, safety, and identity often sit under the surface.
You might be feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or stuck in patterns that keep repeating despite everything you’ve tried to change. For some people this shows up as anxiety, panic attacks, a harsh internal voice, persistent stress, or perfectionism that never seems to let up. Others come carrying the impact of trauma, emotional or sexual abuse, or attachment wounds that began long before they had language for what was happening. Depression, low self-worth, loneliness, and self-harm can emerge when there hasn’t been a safe place for difficult feelings to go.
I work affirmatively with neurodivergent clients (including ADHD and autism) and GSRD (gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity) - this includes LGBT+, kink and BDSM, non-monogamy, and sex work, where questions of belonging, safety, and identity often sit under the surface.
You might be feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or stuck in patterns that keep repeating despite everything you’ve tried to change. For some people this shows up as anxiety, panic attacks, a harsh internal voice, persistent stress, or perfectionism that never seems to let up. Others come carrying the impact of trauma, emotional or sexual abuse, or attachment wounds that began long before they had language for what was happening. Depression, low self-worth, loneliness, and self-harm can emerge when there hasn’t been a safe place for difficult feelings to go.
You may be feeling worried, down, stressed, fed up, conflicted, confused, or simply wishing for change. It may feel difficult to manage life and you may have no idea why, or you might have some ideas. Perhaps you’ve had difficult experiences during childhood, adolescence or adulthood. Perhaps the thought of talking to someone feels a bit scary but better than keeping everything bottled up. You may wish to improve your relationship or relationships in general. Perhaps things happen in your life and you don’t understand why, or how. You might find that you’re drawn to distractions like the internet, or overspending.
You may be feeling worried, down, stressed, fed up, conflicted, confused, or simply wishing for change. It may feel difficult to manage life and you may have no idea why, or you might have some ideas. Perhaps you’ve had difficult experiences during childhood, adolescence or adulthood. Perhaps the thought of talking to someone feels a bit scary but better than keeping everything bottled up. You may wish to improve your relationship or relationships in general. Perhaps things happen in your life and you don’t understand why, or how. You might find that you’re drawn to distractions like the internet, or overspending.
I’m Saida (she/her), a neurodivergent sex-positive counsellor offering online therapy for adults who want to explore their identity, emotions, experiences and relationships without shame.
My clients often come to therapy after noticing a lack of motivation or feeling disconnected. They may feel overwhelmed by daily pressures, weighed down by anxiety, depression, or trauma, or left questioning their sense of self. Many describe feeling misunderstood, not fitting in, or never feeling “good enough.”
I work with neurodivergent adults (ADHD, autism and AuDHD, diagnosed or exploring), and those navigating questions about identity, relationships, or sexuality. Together, we’ll create a safe space where you can process your past, understand yourself more deeply, and move through life with greater confidence and ease.
I’m Saida (she/her), a neurodivergent sex-positive counsellor offering online therapy for adults who want to explore their identity, emotions, experiences and relationships without shame.
My clients often come to therapy after noticing a lack of motivation or feeling disconnected. They may feel overwhelmed by daily pressures, weighed down by anxiety, depression, or trauma, or left questioning their sense of self. Many describe feeling misunderstood, not fitting in, or never feeling “good enough.”
I work with neurodivergent adults (ADHD, autism and AuDHD, diagnosed or exploring), and those navigating questions about identity, relationships, or sexuality. Together, we’ll create a safe space where you can process your past, understand yourself more deeply, and move through life with greater confidence and ease.
I am based online and in South and East London - I provide LGBTQ+ therapy and counselling for those who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, non-binary, queer, questioning, polyamorous, kink, ace etc.
I am trained within an integrative approach to counselling and psychotherapy. This means I combine different approaches to create a therapy experience that is queer and sex positive, kink-affirming and practiced with an open mindset. Intersectionality, privilege, discrimination and difference are experiences I’m committed to exploring with you safely.
I am based online and in South and East London - I provide LGBTQ+ therapy and counselling for those who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, non-binary, queer, questioning, polyamorous, kink, ace etc.
I am trained within an integrative approach to counselling and psychotherapy. This means I combine different approaches to create a therapy experience that is queer and sex positive, kink-affirming and practiced with an open mindset. Intersectionality, privilege, discrimination and difference are experiences I’m committed to exploring with you safely.
I offer a non‑judgmental, anti‑oppressive space and have extensive experience with LGBTQIA+ clients, kink, and alternative sexual lifestyles.
I specialize in psychodynamic and relational therapy, using TLDP and humanistic approaches to explore the patterns shaping identity, intimacy, and sexuality. I offer a sex-positive, affirming, anti‑oppressive space that values individuality, equality, and personal freedom, supporting insight, emotional depth, and lasting change.
I offer a non‑judgmental, anti‑oppressive space and have extensive experience with LGBTQIA+ clients, kink, and alternative sexual lifestyles.
I specialize in psychodynamic and relational therapy, using TLDP and humanistic approaches to explore the patterns shaping identity, intimacy, and sexuality. I offer a sex-positive, affirming, anti‑oppressive space that values individuality, equality, and personal freedom, supporting insight, emotional depth, and lasting change.
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Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counsellors
Why might an individual want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
A sex-positive or kinky individual may want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist because the client may feel safer and more supported discussing their experiences and challenges. A therapist who identifies as kink-friendly will have experience with clients having diverse sexual preferences and will likely be nonjudgmental and supportive about issues brought to the table. It is important to note that sex-positive, kink-allied individuals may find equal success with therapists who do not have such specialised knowledge and background. The most important factor in the success of therapy is for the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in sex-positive, kink-allied treatment?
Generally, no. There are limited training programs and unofficial accreditations that therapists can pursue, but a therapist’s expertise will ultimately come from their previous experience with similar clients, their engagement with organisations that promote sex positivity or kink-allied lifestyles, and the importance they place on safety and cultural sensitivity.
How can individuals recognise a good sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
An experienced therapist is able to help clients explore their sexual identity and expression and relieve any discomfort or stigma attached to discussing such matters and the client’s overall challenges. A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-allied is able to create an environment that honors a client’s experience and sexual preferences. To recognise a good therapist, clients can simply ask directly about topics and issues important to them and gauge their comfort level and connection with a clinician based on the responses.
Can clients benefit from having a therapist with a focus on sex positivity and alternative sexual lifestyles?
Some individuals may feel most comfortable knowing that the clinician they’re working with has a commitment to creating an atmosphere of sex positivity and has experience with relationship diversity and alternative relationship structures. Working with a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist may help clients respect their own challenges and improve identity-affirming treatment.