Infidelity Counselling in Ilkeston
Sometimes it’s hard to know where to turn, life can feel very overwhelming and exhausting. It can be lots of wee things or a big life change and sometimes we just can’t put our finger on it. What we do know is that we’ve had enough, we want to enjoy life and relationships and bring more lightness and laughter into the everyday. Maybe work is getting us down or family and relationships. How good would it be to feel more at ease? In therapy we can explore together to find a way through the fog.
Sometimes it’s hard to know where to turn, life can feel very overwhelming and exhausting. It can be lots of wee things or a big life change and sometimes we just can’t put our finger on it. What we do know is that we’ve had enough, we want to enjoy life and relationships and bring more lightness and laughter into the everyday. Maybe work is getting us down or family and relationships. How good would it be to feel more at ease? In therapy we can explore together to find a way through the fog.
Hello my name is Debra. Would you like a quiet and relaxed space where you can begin to explore whatever is on your mind. I am committed to providing confidentiality and empathy in a non-judgmental and safe environment to help you to explore your thoughts, feelings and experiences and feel empowered in your chosen way forward. Counselling can help with many problems such as anxiety, depression, bereavement and loss, disability, life stages, changes and adjustments and help with self-esteem and confidence feelings and other personal issues. I qualified as a Counsellor in 2003 and work in a person centred way.
Hello my name is Debra. Would you like a quiet and relaxed space where you can begin to explore whatever is on your mind. I am committed to providing confidentiality and empathy in a non-judgmental and safe environment to help you to explore your thoughts, feelings and experiences and feel empowered in your chosen way forward. Counselling can help with many problems such as anxiety, depression, bereavement and loss, disability, life stages, changes and adjustments and help with self-esteem and confidence feelings and other personal issues. I qualified as a Counsellor in 2003 and work in a person centred way.
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Complex trauma fuelled, affairs, dishonesty, historical abuse, societal and cultural family influences on individuals or couples that have resulted in short or long term worries and struggles that repeat unhelpful unwanted patterns are where I can help.
Have you been thinking about change for a long time, is the daily task of managing emotions perhaps through constant worrying or you're low and flat, struggling to navigate simple things that used to be easy? Relationships taking a toll on you, impacting friendships, fun, work so you have started to avoid things you want to do?
Life, many years of various training in different interventions connected together as a systemic psychotherapist has furnished me with a range of approaches. Feedback agrees I have an ability to offer a calm and reflective space for you to explore the most troubling of troubles.
Complex trauma fuelled, affairs, dishonesty, historical abuse, societal and cultural family influences on individuals or couples that have resulted in short or long term worries and struggles that repeat unhelpful unwanted patterns are where I can help.
Have you been thinking about change for a long time, is the daily task of managing emotions perhaps through constant worrying or you're low and flat, struggling to navigate simple things that used to be easy? Relationships taking a toll on you, impacting friendships, fun, work so you have started to avoid things you want to do?
Life, many years of various training in different interventions connected together as a systemic psychotherapist has furnished me with a range of approaches. Feedback agrees I have an ability to offer a calm and reflective space for you to explore the most troubling of troubles.
I work in person and via webcam/phone with couples, partners, families and individuals to help clients improve communication, manage conflict, deal with family problems, improve sex lives, cope with separation/divorce, and manage fallout from infidelity or affairs.
I welcome diversity of individuals and relationships. LGBTQIA+, CNM/Polyam, SW and Kink friendly. I welcome neurodivergent clients such as autistic, ADHD, PDA, dyslexic and other neurodivergent folks. I can help with life transitions like menopause, redundancy, and retirement, and I am experienced in working with clients affected by cancer.
I work in person and via webcam/phone with couples, partners, families and individuals to help clients improve communication, manage conflict, deal with family problems, improve sex lives, cope with separation/divorce, and manage fallout from infidelity or affairs.
I welcome diversity of individuals and relationships. LGBTQIA+, CNM/Polyam, SW and Kink friendly. I welcome neurodivergent clients such as autistic, ADHD, PDA, dyslexic and other neurodivergent folks. I can help with life transitions like menopause, redundancy, and retirement, and I am experienced in working with clients affected by cancer.
Whether you are navigating disconnection, conflict, or infidelity, I provide practical tools to help you thrive together.
I’m an integrative psychotherapist and coach passionate about helping individuals and couples thrive. With extensive experience, including 15 years in the international humanitarian sector, I specialize in supporting expats, humanitarian workers, and globally mobile families. Having lived the expat life myself, I understand the complexities of navigating life transitions, frequent relocations, and balancing personal and professional demands. Whether you’re an expat or not, my practice is inclusive and welcoming to all backgrounds. Together, we can explore your challenges and build resilience, connection, and purpose.
Whether you are navigating disconnection, conflict, or infidelity, I provide practical tools to help you thrive together.
I’m an integrative psychotherapist and coach passionate about helping individuals and couples thrive. With extensive experience, including 15 years in the international humanitarian sector, I specialize in supporting expats, humanitarian workers, and globally mobile families. Having lived the expat life myself, I understand the complexities of navigating life transitions, frequent relocations, and balancing personal and professional demands. Whether you’re an expat or not, my practice is inclusive and welcoming to all backgrounds. Together, we can explore your challenges and build resilience, connection, and purpose.
I work with a range of issues, some of which are self-esteem and confidence, anxiety, depression, identity, the impact of the past, infidelity & trust, communication, arguing, the impact of sexual abuse, shame and anger amongst many others.
My approach is integrative meaning I bring together different therapeutic approaches to suit you. I can listen, create a safe space and gently challenge to create movement in your thinking and emotions. We can talk organically at your own pace, or work in a more structured way. We can work creatively to suit what feels comfortable.
I work with a range of issues, some of which are self-esteem and confidence, anxiety, depression, identity, the impact of the past, infidelity & trust, communication, arguing, the impact of sexual abuse, shame and anger amongst many others.
My approach is integrative meaning I bring together different therapeutic approaches to suit you. I can listen, create a safe space and gently challenge to create movement in your thinking and emotions. We can talk organically at your own pace, or work in a more structured way. We can work creatively to suit what feels comfortable.
I work with couples with a wide range of issues including, communication, infidelity, parenting and sexual problems.
I have over 20 years experience of offering relationship Counselling and Psychosexual therapy to both individuals and couples. Maybe you are coming to terms with the ending of a relationship or adapting to new challenges as a couple as a result of an affair, the birth of a child or bereavement. Sometimes loneliness is an issue and maybe a lack of confidence about any possible future relationships. Or maybe you are anxious about your sex life or loss of libido, or perhaps sex is painful or you have lost confidence in your own performance or arousal. It can help to talk openly and in confidence to someone removed from the situation.
I work with couples with a wide range of issues including, communication, infidelity, parenting and sexual problems.
I have over 20 years experience of offering relationship Counselling and Psychosexual therapy to both individuals and couples. Maybe you are coming to terms with the ending of a relationship or adapting to new challenges as a couple as a result of an affair, the birth of a child or bereavement. Sometimes loneliness is an issue and maybe a lack of confidence about any possible future relationships. Or maybe you are anxious about your sex life or loss of libido, or perhaps sex is painful or you have lost confidence in your own performance or arousal. It can help to talk openly and in confidence to someone removed from the situation.
With couples, typical issues include: affairs; conflict & anger; poor communication; life transitions; sexual difficulties; separation & divorce.
I provide warm, confidential, and non-judgemental counselling. I am friendly and passionate about my work. Together, we can reflect on your situation to understand some of the sources of your challenges, and explore ways of moving forward to enable you to lead a more fulfilling life.
With couples, typical issues include: affairs; conflict & anger; poor communication; life transitions; sexual difficulties; separation & divorce.
I provide warm, confidential, and non-judgemental counselling. I am friendly and passionate about my work. Together, we can reflect on your situation to understand some of the sources of your challenges, and explore ways of moving forward to enable you to lead a more fulfilling life.
Struggling with bereavement, loss, infidelity or consensual non-monogamy.
I am a developmentally based, relationship-focused (Integrative) therapeutic counsellor qualified to Post Graduate Diploma level (Level 7) and a member of BACP, working towards UKCP accreditation. Additionally, I have a MSc in Psychology, with a research special interest in grief, bereavement and trauma.
Struggling with bereavement, loss, infidelity or consensual non-monogamy.
I am a developmentally based, relationship-focused (Integrative) therapeutic counsellor qualified to Post Graduate Diploma level (Level 7) and a member of BACP, working towards UKCP accreditation. Additionally, I have a MSc in Psychology, with a research special interest in grief, bereavement and trauma.
I am an expert in relational dynamics, narcissistic behaviour, sexual, emotional and mental abuse, grief, depression, addictions and infidelity.
Feeling SAD, CONFUSED and/or ANGRY? Feeling stuck/trapped? What's the point? Nothing changes? I know the fears of opening up emotionally or mentally. I also know now of how beneficial it is for YOU. To have time to understand your 'self' so that YOU can process and heal, change YOUR future. It's empowering. I have studied for 6 years, to Masters level. Committed to my own personal development. Losing nearly three stone in weight (an emotional eater). Unattached from drinking 5 times a week to now occasionally socially or sometimes I just drink water and ice! Smoking and a fitter body is next. YOU are important! Take control back!
I am an expert in relational dynamics, narcissistic behaviour, sexual, emotional and mental abuse, grief, depression, addictions and infidelity.
Feeling SAD, CONFUSED and/or ANGRY? Feeling stuck/trapped? What's the point? Nothing changes? I know the fears of opening up emotionally or mentally. I also know now of how beneficial it is for YOU. To have time to understand your 'self' so that YOU can process and heal, change YOUR future. It's empowering. I have studied for 6 years, to Masters level. Committed to my own personal development. Losing nearly three stone in weight (an emotional eater). Unattached from drinking 5 times a week to now occasionally socially or sometimes I just drink water and ice! Smoking and a fitter body is next. YOU are important! Take control back!
We can also work through any challenges/traumas that may have occurred within the relationship, such as infidelity.
I'm an experienced integrative psychotherapist and couples counsellor with a background within the NHS and a domestic and sexual abuse charity. I specialise in helping clients overcome trauma, unhealthy patterns and behaviours, abuse, relationship problems, adoption, health conditions and more.
I provide a safe space to explore and navigate difficult emotions and complexities which are impacting your life/relationship.
Together, we will work on building a trusting, collaborative connection to work through challenging issues to build stronger connections, be it with yourself or within your relationship.
We can also work through any challenges/traumas that may have occurred within the relationship, such as infidelity.
I'm an experienced integrative psychotherapist and couples counsellor with a background within the NHS and a domestic and sexual abuse charity. I specialise in helping clients overcome trauma, unhealthy patterns and behaviours, abuse, relationship problems, adoption, health conditions and more.
I provide a safe space to explore and navigate difficult emotions and complexities which are impacting your life/relationship.
Together, we will work on building a trusting, collaborative connection to work through challenging issues to build stronger connections, be it with yourself or within your relationship.
We hear of relationships falling apart for a myriad of reasons; money, trust issues, infidelity, loss of connection to name a few.
My approach to counselling enables greater insight and raises self-awareness to help improve your sense of self and wellbeing. My couples' counselling helps to encourage an ability to reach out during times of distress and hurt.
We hear of relationships falling apart for a myriad of reasons; money, trust issues, infidelity, loss of connection to name a few.
My approach to counselling enables greater insight and raises self-awareness to help improve your sense of self and wellbeing. My couples' counselling helps to encourage an ability to reach out during times of distress and hurt.
I work with relationship difficulties such as affairs, feeling disconnected or dissatisfied, communication issues and separation.
As an accredited Sexual and Relationship Psychotherapist and and EMDR therapist, I specialise in working with individuals and couples experiencing difficulties with their relationships, sexual function, sexuality and gender. I consider a client’s relationship or sexual problems in terms of their individual, cultural and societal identity and am trauma informed. My aim is to work therapeutically with clients in achieving relationship, personal and sexual wellbeing whatever that may look like.
I work with relationship difficulties such as affairs, feeling disconnected or dissatisfied, communication issues and separation.
As an accredited Sexual and Relationship Psychotherapist and and EMDR therapist, I specialise in working with individuals and couples experiencing difficulties with their relationships, sexual function, sexuality and gender. I consider a client’s relationship or sexual problems in terms of their individual, cultural and societal identity and am trauma informed. My aim is to work therapeutically with clients in achieving relationship, personal and sexual wellbeing whatever that may look like.
In Couple's work, we can explore intimacy, attachment styles, conflict resolution, affairs, communication and blended families.
I work with couples and my aim is to help you to move forwards in the way that works for both of you. This may be improving communication between you both, recognising and changing patterns of behaviour or working through conflict. This can be an important time for you both to proactively work on your intimate relationship. This can be a protected time and space for you to express your thoughts and be heard.
Communication, resentment, intimacy and differing parenting styles are some of the themes that I regularly work with.
Our work is focussed on your relationship, whilst also respecting your separate needs.
In Couple's work, we can explore intimacy, attachment styles, conflict resolution, affairs, communication and blended families.
I work with couples and my aim is to help you to move forwards in the way that works for both of you. This may be improving communication between you both, recognising and changing patterns of behaviour or working through conflict. This can be an important time for you both to proactively work on your intimate relationship. This can be a protected time and space for you to express your thoughts and be heard.
Communication, resentment, intimacy and differing parenting styles are some of the themes that I regularly work with.
Our work is focussed on your relationship, whilst also respecting your separate needs.
My work has supported those facing multiple struggles, notably: grief, depression, loneliness, infidelity, the processing of new diagnoses, anxiety, suicidal ideation, self-esteem struggles, relationship complexities, and control around alcohol, weight and compulsive behaviours.
I work anti-diagnostically, believing that these behaviours often make sense in the context of your life, but that together, the therapeutic relationship can help you develop an understanding about where these behaviours and thoughts originate, and how you might develop more helpful behaviours in the future.
My work has supported those facing multiple struggles, notably: grief, depression, loneliness, infidelity, the processing of new diagnoses, anxiety, suicidal ideation, self-esteem struggles, relationship complexities, and control around alcohol, weight and compulsive behaviours.
I work anti-diagnostically, believing that these behaviours often make sense in the context of your life, but that together, the therapeutic relationship can help you develop an understanding about where these behaviours and thoughts originate, and how you might develop more helpful behaviours in the future.
I also enjoy working with couples to address a wide range of issues such as improving communication, working through infidelity, managing conflict, improving intimacy and rebuilding trust.
Hi, I'm Matthew and I am a MBACP Accredited Person-centred psychotherapist passionate about supporting people to live happier and healthier lives. I have been in practice for over 10 years and have worked in range of different settings (local authority, schools, universities and privately) with individuals from all walks of life. I aim to support my clients to develop the tools and resilience to better cope with the world around them, be at peace with the events of the past and more confident about approaching the future.
I also enjoy working with couples to address a wide range of issues such as improving communication, working through infidelity, managing conflict, improving intimacy and rebuilding trust.
Hi, I'm Matthew and I am a MBACP Accredited Person-centred psychotherapist passionate about supporting people to live happier and healthier lives. I have been in practice for over 10 years and have worked in range of different settings (local authority, schools, universities and privately) with individuals from all walks of life. I aim to support my clients to develop the tools and resilience to better cope with the world around them, be at peace with the events of the past and more confident about approaching the future.
I am an experienced relationship counsellor and worked with a wide range of issues for example affairs, trust, communication, divorce, separation and family matters.
I am warm, plain speaking and consider myself to be a down to earth person. I understand life can be difficult sometimes, so I like to take a practical approach and like to encourage clients to look at situations from different perspectives.
I am an experienced relationship counsellor and worked with a wide range of issues for example affairs, trust, communication, divorce, separation and family matters.
I am warm, plain speaking and consider myself to be a down to earth person. I understand life can be difficult sometimes, so I like to take a practical approach and like to encourage clients to look at situations from different perspectives.
I have worked with issues such as child sexual abuse, infidelity, domestic abuse, childhood trauma, bereavement, PTSD, anxiety and depression.
Using a psychodynamic approach, I offer both comfort and support while working with current issues such as anxiety, depression, stress, or bereavement and traumatic experiences both in childhood and adulthood. I can help you reflect on your past experiences and connect them with current issues— helping you better understand yourself, your thoughts, actions, and the relationships you have in your life. I will offer you a safe space where you can speak freely about your thoughts, feelings and concerns. These issues are reflected within a confidential and empathetic environment, building a safe and non-judgemental space.
I have worked with issues such as child sexual abuse, infidelity, domestic abuse, childhood trauma, bereavement, PTSD, anxiety and depression.
Using a psychodynamic approach, I offer both comfort and support while working with current issues such as anxiety, depression, stress, or bereavement and traumatic experiences both in childhood and adulthood. I can help you reflect on your past experiences and connect them with current issues— helping you better understand yourself, your thoughts, actions, and the relationships you have in your life. I will offer you a safe space where you can speak freely about your thoughts, feelings and concerns. These issues are reflected within a confidential and empathetic environment, building a safe and non-judgemental space.
Additional training completed to meet clients needs:- Working with Adoption, Anger, Rage & Relationships, Sex and Ageing, Dealing with Affairs, Communication & Difference, Trauma Informed Grounding Techniques, Manging Suicidal Risk.
There are times when life feels unfair and too difficult to manage. Talking to a counsellor can enable you to explore your options without being judged or told what it is you should do. I am a fully qualified Counsellor and Supervisor with over 10 years experience of working with adults of all ages experiencing a wide range of difficulties; practical and emotional. It may be one aspect in life that you are finding difficult and only need a few sessions or several aspects that may need long term therapy. If you feel therapy may help, please call or email me to find out more.
Additional training completed to meet clients needs:- Working with Adoption, Anger, Rage & Relationships, Sex and Ageing, Dealing with Affairs, Communication & Difference, Trauma Informed Grounding Techniques, Manging Suicidal Risk.
There are times when life feels unfair and too difficult to manage. Talking to a counsellor can enable you to explore your options without being judged or told what it is you should do. I am a fully qualified Counsellor and Supervisor with over 10 years experience of working with adults of all ages experiencing a wide range of difficulties; practical and emotional. It may be one aspect in life that you are finding difficult and only need a few sessions or several aspects that may need long term therapy. If you feel therapy may help, please call or email me to find out more.
My professional journey spans over two decades. I've dedicated over 20 years to the field of education, where I have played a crucial role in supporting children's mental health to foster resilience. This experience includes two years as a school counsellor and mental health lead, providing students with the guidance and support they need to overcome their challenges. I've also spent five years as a divorce coach, assisting couples and individuals as they navigate the often difficult process of separation and divorce.
My professional journey spans over two decades. I've dedicated over 20 years to the field of education, where I have played a crucial role in supporting children's mental health to foster resilience. This experience includes two years as a school counsellor and mental health lead, providing students with the guidance and support they need to overcome their challenges. I've also spent five years as a divorce coach, assisting couples and individuals as they navigate the often difficult process of separation and divorce.
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Infidelity Counsellors
How does therapy for infidelity work?
A skilled infidelity therapist will provide a safe space for clients to communicate their feelings and concerns. The goal is to be completely honest about what led to the cheating and how it has affected the entire family to prevent it from recurring in the future. The therapist will help the clients work on rebuilding mutual trust and respect and developing better communication and conflict-resolution skills. If the goal is to remain a couple, clients will learn the “danger signs” for their specific relationship, and they will make a renewed commitment to be faithful.
How long does therapy for infidelity take?
Recovery from infidelity can take time, and it can vary from person to person. Generally, a therapist will want to see the clients at least once a week for around six months. Then the sessions can be arranged as needed, depending on the clients’ individual needs. While therapy may end or shift to an as-needed basis, it can take up to two years or more for some clients to fully recover from infidelity.
How does therapy help the partner who was cheated on?
When a client discovers their partner’s infidelity, their trust in the relationship and in the life they had together may be shattered. They often experience mental health symptoms, such as anxiety, depression, grief, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). They don’t always want to stay in the relationship; they may feel ambivalent or may even want to leave. Therapy gives these clients a safe and healthy way to communicate all of their complicated emotions and concerns.
How does therapy help the partner who committed infidelity?
Infidelity often occurs when one or both partners’ emotional needs are not being met in the relationship. Therapy can help this client understand why they cheated and figure out how to address those unmet needs without resorting to infidelity in the future. This can lessen (but not entirely eliminate) the risk of repeated infidelity. Clients who cheat may also feel intense guilt about deceiving their partners, a sentiment that they can work through in therapy.