Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counselling in Hertford
The beautiful thing is: although facing our problems is hard, it is also endlessly surprising, joyful, sometimes hilarious, and illuminating.
If you're struggling with ADHD, anxiety, depression or trauma, I can help you to make powerful, practical changes to your life.
I’m a psychotherapist and supervisor, with ADHD, and decades of experience as a lead practitioner in mental health settings.
I know how stuck we can feel- and I've helped hundreds of people just like you to get unstuck.
Contrary to our worst fears, if you're committed to working hard, you don't have to stay stuck. A better world is possible.
The beautiful thing is: although facing our problems is hard, it is also endlessly surprising, joyful, sometimes hilarious, and illuminating.
If you're struggling with ADHD, anxiety, depression or trauma, I can help you to make powerful, practical changes to your life.
I’m a psychotherapist and supervisor, with ADHD, and decades of experience as a lead practitioner in mental health settings.
I know how stuck we can feel- and I've helped hundreds of people just like you to get unstuck.
Contrary to our worst fears, if you're committed to working hard, you don't have to stay stuck. A better world is possible.
Do you feel distant from yourself or your partner ? If you're reading this you've already taken the first brave step in seeking support in whatever is troubling you. I am a integrative counselor, trained in psychodynamic and person centred. I work by looking at what has happened in the past that may be affecting you at present while still being aware of working in the here and now. I have previously worked for theNHS as a pychosexual counselor and have also worked with people with physical disabilities as well as people with learning and social difficulties which I feel has shown me that everyone is different and should be treated
Do you feel distant from yourself or your partner ? If you're reading this you've already taken the first brave step in seeking support in whatever is troubling you. I am a integrative counselor, trained in psychodynamic and person centred. I work by looking at what has happened in the past that may be affecting you at present while still being aware of working in the here and now. I have previously worked for theNHS as a pychosexual counselor and have also worked with people with physical disabilities as well as people with learning and social difficulties which I feel has shown me that everyone is different and should be treated
I'm an integrative psychotherapist specialising in psychosexual and relationship therapy. I trained with London Diploma in Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy and am a registered member of COSRT. I'm passionate about my work, supporting individuals and couples from all backgrounds including sexual trauma survivors, migrants, LGBTQ+, and GSRD. I offer therapy for a wide range of sexual and relationship issues. I tailor my therapeutic tools and approaches to individual clients’ needs. These include CBT, attachment theory, psychodynamic therapy, imago therapy and existential therapy in addition to a wide range of psychosexual tools.
I'm an integrative psychotherapist specialising in psychosexual and relationship therapy. I trained with London Diploma in Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy and am a registered member of COSRT. I'm passionate about my work, supporting individuals and couples from all backgrounds including sexual trauma survivors, migrants, LGBTQ+, and GSRD. I offer therapy for a wide range of sexual and relationship issues. I tailor my therapeutic tools and approaches to individual clients’ needs. These include CBT, attachment theory, psychodynamic therapy, imago therapy and existential therapy in addition to a wide range of psychosexual tools.
You might be living with the impact of trauma, or experiencing anxiety, low mood, shame or stuckness. Or you might need a space to open up and be fully heard, to explore who you are and what matters to you, and how to move towards a fulfilling and meaningful life.
You might struggle with self-harm or intrusive thoughts, depressive episodes or relationship difficulties. We can work together at your own pace, on your own goals to make sense of your experiences and reactions and developing manageable ways of coping with stress and hardship.
You might be living with the impact of trauma, or experiencing anxiety, low mood, shame or stuckness. Or you might need a space to open up and be fully heard, to explore who you are and what matters to you, and how to move towards a fulfilling and meaningful life.
You might struggle with self-harm or intrusive thoughts, depressive episodes or relationship difficulties. We can work together at your own pace, on your own goals to make sense of your experiences and reactions and developing manageable ways of coping with stress and hardship.
Hello and welcome! I am Peter Royal, a licensed and registered counsellor/psychotherapist. I understand that finding a counsellor can be daunting. But rest assured, I aim to make the process smooth for you to start your journey.
Hello and welcome! I am Peter Royal, a licensed and registered counsellor/psychotherapist. I understand that finding a counsellor can be daunting. But rest assured, I aim to make the process smooth for you to start your journey.
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We can all remember times in our lives when we have felt something was missing. Times where we’ve needed assistance, but not known where to turn. We’ve been overwhelmed or exhausted; confused or isolated; lost and in need of something more that we can’t put our finger on. I am interested in what has brought an individual to the point they’re at currently – what is working for them and what do they want to change. With a warm, person-centred approach I respect the individuality of my clients and help them to find ways to take more control over their lives without judgement or barriers.
We can all remember times in our lives when we have felt something was missing. Times where we’ve needed assistance, but not known where to turn. We’ve been overwhelmed or exhausted; confused or isolated; lost and in need of something more that we can’t put our finger on. I am interested in what has brought an individual to the point they’re at currently – what is working for them and what do they want to change. With a warm, person-centred approach I respect the individuality of my clients and help them to find ways to take more control over their lives without judgement or barriers.
I am based online and in South and East London - I provide LGBTQ+ therapy and counselling for those who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, non-binary, queer, questioning, polyamorous, kink, ace etc.
I am trained within an integrative approach to counselling and psychotherapy. This means I combine different approaches to create a therapy experience that is queer and sex positive, kink-affirming and practiced with an open mindset. Intersectionality, privilege, discrimination and difference are experiences I’m committed to exploring with you safely.
I am based online and in South and East London - I provide LGBTQ+ therapy and counselling for those who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, non-binary, queer, questioning, polyamorous, kink, ace etc.
I am trained within an integrative approach to counselling and psychotherapy. This means I combine different approaches to create a therapy experience that is queer and sex positive, kink-affirming and practiced with an open mindset. Intersectionality, privilege, discrimination and difference are experiences I’m committed to exploring with you safely.
I work affirmatively with neurodivergent clients (including ADHD and autism) and GSRD (gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity) - this includes LGBT+, kink and BDSM, non-monogamy, and sex work, where questions of belonging, safety, and identity often sit under the surface.
You might be feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or stuck in patterns that keep repeating despite everything you’ve tried to change. For some people this shows up as anxiety, panic attacks, a harsh internal voice, persistent stress, or perfectionism that never seems to let up. Others come carrying the impact of trauma, emotional or sexual abuse, or attachment wounds that began long before they had language for what was happening. Depression, low self-worth, loneliness, and self-harm can emerge when there hasn’t been a safe place for difficult feelings to go.
I work affirmatively with neurodivergent clients (including ADHD and autism) and GSRD (gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity) - this includes LGBT+, kink and BDSM, non-monogamy, and sex work, where questions of belonging, safety, and identity often sit under the surface.
You might be feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or stuck in patterns that keep repeating despite everything you’ve tried to change. For some people this shows up as anxiety, panic attacks, a harsh internal voice, persistent stress, or perfectionism that never seems to let up. Others come carrying the impact of trauma, emotional or sexual abuse, or attachment wounds that began long before they had language for what was happening. Depression, low self-worth, loneliness, and self-harm can emerge when there hasn’t been a safe place for difficult feelings to go.
I am kink aware.
I also offer support in coming to terms with narcissistic abuse, or being in relationship with someone with a personality disorder. I am now working with clients with complex trauma and PTSD and use a combination of psychotherapy, CBT and tapping to help work through the psychological, physical and spiritual aspects of healing.
I am kink aware.
I also offer support in coming to terms with narcissistic abuse, or being in relationship with someone with a personality disorder. I am now working with clients with complex trauma and PTSD and use a combination of psychotherapy, CBT and tapping to help work through the psychological, physical and spiritual aspects of healing.
I specialise in working with the whole person, but much of my practice is working with folks in the LGBTQIA plus, psychedelic, activist, kink, neurodiverse and/or polyamory communities.
Counselling with me provides you with a space of radical acceptance to explore your beliefs, your identities, and your experiences of the world. Together, we will co-create a space to experiment with new ways of being. Or a place to integrate or challenge yourself. Or simply some time and space to be heard, and get curious about the meaning of your life (past, present, future).
I work with a wide range of people and you are welcome to get in touch if my profile resonates with you. Often, I work with activists, the LGBTQIA+ community, kinky people, poly people, neurodiverse people, outsiders and edge-walkers (and more).
I specialise in working with the whole person, but much of my practice is working with folks in the LGBTQIA plus, psychedelic, activist, kink, neurodiverse and/or polyamory communities.
Counselling with me provides you with a space of radical acceptance to explore your beliefs, your identities, and your experiences of the world. Together, we will co-create a space to experiment with new ways of being. Or a place to integrate or challenge yourself. Or simply some time and space to be heard, and get curious about the meaning of your life (past, present, future).
I work with a wide range of people and you are welcome to get in touch if my profile resonates with you. Often, I work with activists, the LGBTQIA+ community, kinky people, poly people, neurodiverse people, outsiders and edge-walkers (and more).
Struggling with something can feel isolating. You might be going through a rough patch in your relationship, caught in patterns you can't break, carrying grief that feels too heavy, or dealing with something you're not sure how to talk about.
I'm here to help you work through it. This is a space where you can speak freely, without fear of judgement. I've worked with these issues for years, and I know what tends to help people move forward. We'll work together, but I'll guide the process. You don't need to have it all figured out - that's what I'm here for.
Struggling with something can feel isolating. You might be going through a rough patch in your relationship, caught in patterns you can't break, carrying grief that feels too heavy, or dealing with something you're not sure how to talk about.
I'm here to help you work through it. This is a space where you can speak freely, without fear of judgement. I've worked with these issues for years, and I know what tends to help people move forward. We'll work together, but I'll guide the process. You don't need to have it all figured out - that's what I'm here for.
Many people carry deep emotions like shame or fear, or feel stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns. By exploring the unconscious and reflecting on past and present relationships, we can uncover insights to help with life’s challenges. I have experience with LGBTQIA+ clients and those from multicultural backgrounds, dealing with issues such as relationship problems, anxiety, depression, trauma, and identity. Counselling can offer a safe yet challenging space to explore and gain clarity, whether you have specific concerns or are unsure of the cause.
Many people carry deep emotions like shame or fear, or feel stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns. By exploring the unconscious and reflecting on past and present relationships, we can uncover insights to help with life’s challenges. I have experience with LGBTQIA+ clients and those from multicultural backgrounds, dealing with issues such as relationship problems, anxiety, depression, trauma, and identity. Counselling can offer a safe yet challenging space to explore and gain clarity, whether you have specific concerns or are unsure of the cause.
I am sex-positive and kink-aware.
I offer individual psychotherapy for adults, with a particular interest in psychologically complex and often hard-to-speak-about experiences. My work commonly involves shame, guilt, and self-criticism; patterns that repeat despite insight or effort; sexuality, desire, and taboo; the impact of sexual harm; sexual behaviour that feels troubling or conflicted; questions of gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity; and difficulties in relationships and intimacy. The work is exploratory and reflective, and suited to people who want to develop a deeper understanding of what is troubling them.
I am sex-positive and kink-aware.
I offer individual psychotherapy for adults, with a particular interest in psychologically complex and often hard-to-speak-about experiences. My work commonly involves shame, guilt, and self-criticism; patterns that repeat despite insight or effort; sexuality, desire, and taboo; the impact of sexual harm; sexual behaviour that feels troubling or conflicted; questions of gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity; and difficulties in relationships and intimacy. The work is exploratory and reflective, and suited to people who want to develop a deeper understanding of what is troubling them.
This is allowing me to work more in depth with gender, sexuality, diverse relationships, as well as kink and sex positive work.
My ideal client is anybody who needs a safe space to talk. My general goal with a client is to get them to a place of acceptance, congruence, or comfort with who they are.
Some clients have complex or deeprooted challenges, and come to be to engage with those, others need a space to mull things over or simply check in with themselves to see how they are doing, and the rest do both. We take therapy at your pace; I don't set the agenda.
This is allowing me to work more in depth with gender, sexuality, diverse relationships, as well as kink and sex positive work.
My ideal client is anybody who needs a safe space to talk. My general goal with a client is to get them to a place of acceptance, congruence, or comfort with who they are.
Some clients have complex or deeprooted challenges, and come to be to engage with those, others need a space to mull things over or simply check in with themselves to see how they are doing, and the rest do both. We take therapy at your pace; I don't set the agenda.
I would like to help you. As a bisexual woman, I know the challenges of navigating identity and sexuality. That is why I approach every story with an open mind and empathic curiosity. I will engage you from a non-pathologizing, sex-positive, gender-affirming stance, so that you may embrace every part of yourself. I provide individual and couples therapy, as well as sessions for those in alternative relationships. Together we can navigate our way through your relationship and personal challenges, overcome cultural limitations that seek to restrict us, and ultimately find inner joy during times when it appears out of reach.
I would like to help you. As a bisexual woman, I know the challenges of navigating identity and sexuality. That is why I approach every story with an open mind and empathic curiosity. I will engage you from a non-pathologizing, sex-positive, gender-affirming stance, so that you may embrace every part of yourself. I provide individual and couples therapy, as well as sessions for those in alternative relationships. Together we can navigate our way through your relationship and personal challenges, overcome cultural limitations that seek to restrict us, and ultimately find inner joy during times when it appears out of reach.
My clients often come to therapy after noticing a lack of motivation or feeling disconnected. They may feel overwhelmed by daily pressures, weighed down by anxiety, depression, or trauma, or left questioning their sense of self. Many describe feeling misunderstood, not fitting in, or never feeling “good enough.”
I work with neurodivergent adults (ADHD, autism and AuDHD, diagnosed or exploring), and those navigating questions about identity, relationships, or sexuality. Together, we’ll create a safe space where you can process your past, understand yourself more deeply, and move through life with greater confidence and ease.
My clients often come to therapy after noticing a lack of motivation or feeling disconnected. They may feel overwhelmed by daily pressures, weighed down by anxiety, depression, or trauma, or left questioning their sense of self. Many describe feeling misunderstood, not fitting in, or never feeling “good enough.”
I work with neurodivergent adults (ADHD, autism and AuDHD, diagnosed or exploring), and those navigating questions about identity, relationships, or sexuality. Together, we’ll create a safe space where you can process your past, understand yourself more deeply, and move through life with greater confidence and ease.
Are you someone who wants to get to know themselves better? Someone who is ready to explore and understand some of the patterns that might be shaping your life. Maybe curious about gender,sexuality,identity,relationships,neurodivergence,processes around emotions or thoughts... I might be able to help...
As I understand it, some challenges to good mental health come from tensions between what you are/want/need and what's actually happening in your reality, it might make you feel low or anxious.
Are you someone who wants to get to know themselves better? Someone who is ready to explore and understand some of the patterns that might be shaping your life. Maybe curious about gender,sexuality,identity,relationships,neurodivergence,processes around emotions or thoughts... I might be able to help...
As I understand it, some challenges to good mental health come from tensions between what you are/want/need and what's actually happening in your reality, it might make you feel low or anxious.
I have experience working with anxiety, grief, depression, interpersonal-relational issues, intimacy, sexuality, self-confidence, self-esteem, self-awareness, and personality. I am committed to anti-oppressive practice, freedom from judgement or marginalization, and empowerment.
I have experience working with the LGBTQIA + community and with issues relating to Sexuality and Alternative sexual lifestyles. I have underwent specialty training in sex therapy. I also have experience with dreams, symbolism, and depth psychologies.
I have experience working with anxiety, grief, depression, interpersonal-relational issues, intimacy, sexuality, self-confidence, self-esteem, self-awareness, and personality. I am committed to anti-oppressive practice, freedom from judgement or marginalization, and empowerment.
I have experience working with the LGBTQIA + community and with issues relating to Sexuality and Alternative sexual lifestyles. I have underwent specialty training in sex therapy. I also have experience with dreams, symbolism, and depth psychologies.
I support anxiety, confidence and work pressures, and offer LGBTQIA+, identity, relationship diversity and kink-aware counselling to help you move forward authentically.
Many of the people who reach out to me are thoughtful, self-aware, and used to coping alone. From the outside life may look steady, but internally they feel overwhelmed, stuck in overthinking, self-doubt, or emotional exhaustion. Some are questioning identity, relationships, or direction in life; others feel pressure at work or struggle to feel “enough.” They want a space where they don’t have to perform, explain everything perfectly, or be judged. Their goal is to understand themselves more clearly, feel calmer and more confident, and make choices that feel authentic rather than driven by fear or expectation.
I support anxiety, confidence and work pressures, and offer LGBTQIA+, identity, relationship diversity and kink-aware counselling to help you move forward authentically.
Many of the people who reach out to me are thoughtful, self-aware, and used to coping alone. From the outside life may look steady, but internally they feel overwhelmed, stuck in overthinking, self-doubt, or emotional exhaustion. Some are questioning identity, relationships, or direction in life; others feel pressure at work or struggle to feel “enough.” They want a space where they don’t have to perform, explain everything perfectly, or be judged. Their goal is to understand themselves more clearly, feel calmer and more confident, and make choices that feel authentic rather than driven by fear or expectation.
I have particular experience working with compulsive sexual behaviour (sometimes called sex addiction), and I am polyamory-informed and kink-aware.
Welcome - I'm a psychosexual therapist offering a supportive and non-judgmental space to explore sexual and relationship concerns. I work, often with individuals, around issues such as mismatched desire, betrayals, difficulties with communication and connection, and navigating non-monogamy. I support clients with sexual challenges such as unreliable erections (erectile dysfuction), rapid ejaculation (premature ejaculation), delayed or absent ejaculation, low desire, and problematic porn use.
I have particular experience working with compulsive sexual behaviour (sometimes called sex addiction), and I am polyamory-informed and kink-aware.
Welcome - I'm a psychosexual therapist offering a supportive and non-judgmental space to explore sexual and relationship concerns. I work, often with individuals, around issues such as mismatched desire, betrayals, difficulties with communication and connection, and navigating non-monogamy. I support clients with sexual challenges such as unreliable erections (erectile dysfuction), rapid ejaculation (premature ejaculation), delayed or absent ejaculation, low desire, and problematic porn use.
Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counsellors
Why might an individual want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
A sex-positive or kinky individual may want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist because the client may feel safer and more supported discussing their experiences and challenges. A therapist who identifies as kink-friendly will have experience with clients having diverse sexual preferences and will likely be nonjudgmental and supportive about issues brought to the table. It is important to note that sex-positive, kink-allied individuals may find equal success with therapists who do not have such specialised knowledge and background. The most important factor in the success of therapy is for the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in sex-positive, kink-allied treatment?
Generally, no. There are limited training programs and unofficial accreditations that therapists can pursue, but a therapist’s expertise will ultimately come from their previous experience with similar clients, their engagement with organisations that promote sex positivity or kink-allied lifestyles, and the importance they place on safety and cultural sensitivity.
How can individuals recognise a good sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
An experienced therapist is able to help clients explore their sexual identity and expression and relieve any discomfort or stigma attached to discussing such matters and the client’s overall challenges. A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-allied is able to create an environment that honors a client’s experience and sexual preferences. To recognise a good therapist, clients can simply ask directly about topics and issues important to them and gauge their comfort level and connection with a clinician based on the responses.
Can clients benefit from having a therapist with a focus on sex positivity and alternative sexual lifestyles?
Some individuals may feel most comfortable knowing that the clinician they’re working with has a commitment to creating an atmosphere of sex positivity and has experience with relationship diversity and alternative relationship structures. Working with a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist may help clients respect their own challenges and improve identity-affirming treatment.