Sex Therapy Counselling in Folkestone

Having a fulfilling sexual life is often what we aspire to, but anxiety, physical pain and relationship issues might make it difficult to achieve. I believe everyone has an innate ability to connect to others and to build healthy relationships. As a sex and relationship therapist, my aim is to help you find your inner resources to overcome the challenges you are coming with. Whether you need your relationship to achieve its full potential or to overcome a crisis, we will work together to identify the issues you are struggling with and support you in the areas where you feel change is needed.

If you are struggling with any form of addiction, I can help. I provide a proven therapy that helps people change - have a look at the testimonials page on my website. I treat Sexual addiction and compulsion, betrayal, serial infidelity, alcohol problems, anger management and depression. I see clients with relationship and grief problems. I am a registered senior accredited counsellor and psychotherapist with 25 years experience.

I offer Counselling and Therapy for a range of issues including: Anxiety, Depression, Alcohol, Drugs, Relationship/Sexual issues, Gambling, Anger Management, Divorce and Separation, Bereavement: Grief and Loss, Low Self-esteem, Eating Disorders, Co-Dependency, Prescription Drug dependency, Internet Addiction, Compulsive Shopping, Shame & Guilt issues. I also offer Recovery Coaching and mentoring. I provide counselling support and advice to families and employers where a loved-one or valued employee is struggling. I have been working in counselling and advisory roles for over twenty years. I have a wide range of experience of working with people from diverse backgrounds, covering many different faiths and belief systems.

Therapy can be a catalyst for change helping us to regain a sense of control in our lives and begin to live life more towards our true potential. I have experience of working with a wide range of issues that impact on clients' wellbeing, offering support, empathy and a safe space to share their concerns. I work with individuals, couples, families, children, young people on short and long-term contracts in Canterbury and Waltham. I use different approaches and techniques that are tailored to clients' needs, believing that we are all individual and that ‘one size does not fit all’. I have also lived and worked extensively overseas.

There isn’t really an ideal client in terms of issues or problems. Therapy works whatever the presentation when the connection with the client/patient is a positive one and it becomes a mutual endeavor to feel better. The majority of clients present with wanting help with relationships either getting them or deepening them, this can include physical intimacy and sex and invariably the need to understand themselves in relationships. Many of my clients want to understand the meaning of sex to themselves and any sexual compulsivity that might be going on. People want to be understood and not shamed for their thoughts, actions feelings

As a Gender, Sexual, Sex and Relationship Diversity Therapist, my aim is to help you explore all aspects of your gender, sexuality , and relationships. I offer full acceptance of who you are. I will work positively with you and support your gender and sexuality . Whatever you bring I feel we will be able to explore together, leading to greater self-acceptance, plus greater personal peace. No issue is considered more important than another. Every area you bring is of unique importance. We are each unique, so the way we work together will be unique. My aim is to help you in your journey.

Perhaps you’ve felt stuck for a while, or have been feeling that something isn’t right but can’t quite identify what that is. You may be anxious, depressed, have low self-esteem. Maybe you are struggling in relationships, or finding it difficult getting your needs met? You may have often felt that you don’t belong, or that you’re not supposed to be doing the work you do. Perhaps you’d like to feel less frustrated, angry or alone? You may be experiencing grief, or struggling with addiction, you might have low libido, or want to explore your sexuality . It might be a family or historic issue you’d like to make sense of. I can help.

Life at times can be challenging, people can often feel isolated and stuck in their struggles, confused about what to do to change the things in life that are troubling them. Reaching out can be hard, trusting others can feel even more difficult. It's at these times that therapy can make a difference. I am a sex -positive, kink-knowledgeable psychotherapist and am familiar working with a range of relationship models and gender dynamics. I work with people from a diverse range of cultural backgrounds, including individuals from straight, queer, poly and kink communities, sex workers, and people who identify across the gender spectrum.

I am an experienced Relate Trained Relationship & Sex Therapist. I work with couples & individuals who are in an intimate relationship. I extend that service to clients who are single, plus couples & individuals in the process of separating, deciding Therapy to be a more appropriate service when mediation is considered unnecessary, but closure is. I promote clients to feel valued & respected by inviting them to tap into their own resources & ideas about what suits them to make changes to move forward, by providing impartial, unbiased & a neutral lens into the relationship.

I have a broad and in-depth experience of working with survivors of childhood sexual abuse and rape, including those going through court proceedings, since 2008. I work through the therapy process, with the client, to understand how their experiences have shaped who they are today, to ultimately empower and make better choices seem more possible. I have supported many women who have experienced abortion, as well as miscarriage, stillbirth, fertility issues, IVF, egg donor through to adoption. Infidelity and sexuality are also areas where I can offer support and work towards acceptance and change.

Most of us will experience sexual and relationship difficulties at some point in our lives and yet it can still be very challenging and embarrassing discussing them. Talking to an experienced and qualified psychosexual and relationship therapist can help you identify the difficulties you are experiencing, understand and explore different ways you can overcome these challenges and move forward. I aim to create a confidential and safe place where you feel able to talk about these issues in a non-shaming way. I am a sex positive therapist and I am comfortable exploring alternative sexual interests.

My clients are often under investigation by the police for downloading illegal images of children or for chatting online to children. They are usually looking for an answer to "how and why did I get into doing this" and "how do I ensure that I dont do it again". Some clients may have an attraction to children but the majority do not. Instead they have become addicted to porn and moved into a variety of illegal images as they get out of control. Often the partner and family group also seek help with understanding and coming to terms with the not insignificant consequences of this crime.

I am a fully qualified Integrative Sex therapist, Psychosexual and Relationship therapist providing therapy to individuals and couples. After completing a BSc (Hons) in Psychology, I trained at the London Diploma in Psychosexual and Relationship therapy accredited by Middlesex University in London. I am currently participating in the following clinical research programmes: George Loewenstein and Olga Salodini (in progress) – Sexual Excitement and Disgust: A Signaling Model. George Loewenstein and Olga Salodini (in progress) – What is their secret?: Maintaining sexual excitement in long-term relationships.

I have worked as a psychotherapist for over 15 years. I work with a range of people presenting with complex difficulties. Such as ADHD , bipolar disorder, BPD, Anxeity, Depression, relationship difficulties, sexual problems , low self esteem, self doubt , imposter syndrome. I'm here to help you understand the lables given by yourself and others, and how they form part of your self-belief system and which can be supportive or undermining. I love seeing how clients thrive by having a confidential space to express themselves honestly and gain a deep perspective on their life.

At times it’s really hard to face life’s challenges and find a way forward, to make important decisions, to understand our emotions..It may be stress, anxiety, self esteem or unresolved issues from the past resurfacing in your present…If you feel stuck and need change,I am here to help you make sense of what you are going through.. I offer an empathetic,safe, private, confidential,non-judgemental space for you to explore the reasons that bring you here today. Counselling can help you gain more insight, more self awareness and help you gain positive skills to improve your whole well-being and find your own paths to move forward …