Sexual Addiction Counselling in Esher
Sex is a natural, normal and enjoyable part of our lives but sometimes it can become something that feels out of control, damaging and destructive. Some people find themselves addicted to porn, watching it for hours every day, and as a result their work and their relationships suffer. Others become addicted to having sex with strangers or with escorts. They may find themselves spending huge amounts of money, putting themselves and their partners at risk of sexually transmitted diseases and damaging their relationships. When sex feels like it has become out of control, then it is time to seek help.
Sex is a natural, normal and enjoyable part of our lives but sometimes it can become something that feels out of control, damaging and destructive. Some people find themselves addicted to porn, watching it for hours every day, and as a result their work and their relationships suffer. Others become addicted to having sex with strangers or with escorts. They may find themselves spending huge amounts of money, putting themselves and their partners at risk of sexually transmitted diseases and damaging their relationships. When sex feels like it has become out of control, then it is time to seek help.
In a confidential, welcoming space, we talk about sex. I offer a safe, compassionate place to talk about intimacy, relationships, sexual behaviours, erotic and sexual orientations, sexual bodies, and real vs. fantasised experiences. We look for a positive way forward to deal with something that feels stuck or unmanageable, in a therapy space that welcomes and understands sexual differences and experiences, and treats you with respect.
In a confidential, welcoming space, we talk about sex. I offer a safe, compassionate place to talk about intimacy, relationships, sexual behaviours, erotic and sexual orientations, sexual bodies, and real vs. fantasised experiences. We look for a positive way forward to deal with something that feels stuck or unmanageable, in a therapy space that welcomes and understands sexual differences and experiences, and treats you with respect.
I work with individuals and couples and am a fully qualified, accredited psychosexual therapist and relationship psychotherapist. My core specialism is relationship difficulties, including sexual dysfunction concerns and connections.
I work with individuals and couples and am a fully qualified, accredited psychosexual therapist and relationship psychotherapist. My core specialism is relationship difficulties, including sexual dysfunction concerns and connections.
Is life a struggle? Are the coping mechanisms you use to deal with difficult feelings not working anymore? Want a change? I understand how tough life can get, and what it needs to make things better. Just by looking at this website you are deciding to start making that change.
Is life a struggle? Are the coping mechanisms you use to deal with difficult feelings not working anymore? Want a change? I understand how tough life can get, and what it needs to make things better. Just by looking at this website you are deciding to start making that change.
Hi, I'm Jess, a Registered Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist based in Surrey but working remotely via Zoom, allowing me to support individuals across the UK.
I offer evening sessions, which can be helpful when you have a busy work / family life.
I work with all thing sex and relationships and have specialised in working with difficulties in sexual function (such as Erectile Dysfunction), low/high libido, painful penetration including vaginismus, exploring your sexual identity and much more. As well as working with couples to work to improve communication, build connection and desire, and reconnect.
Hi, I'm Jess, a Registered Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist based in Surrey but working remotely via Zoom, allowing me to support individuals across the UK.
I offer evening sessions, which can be helpful when you have a busy work / family life.
I work with all thing sex and relationships and have specialised in working with difficulties in sexual function (such as Erectile Dysfunction), low/high libido, painful penetration including vaginismus, exploring your sexual identity and much more. As well as working with couples to work to improve communication, build connection and desire, and reconnect.
Hello and Welcome, Life can indeed be difficult at times. Many are struggling with mental health in ways that are no longer manageable. Our past and present hurts, our unprocessed feelings can rise to the surface. We find ourselves thinking, feeling and acting in ways that do not reflect who we want to be. Some of us have Grief, Trauma or Addiction that we just can’t seem to work through. As a Senior Accredited Psychotherapist with a PHD(Hon), Master Degree and EMDR(Accredited), I've seen thousands come through my door, with various presenting issues and undergo genuine transformation, healing and leave with hope for the future.
Hello and Welcome, Life can indeed be difficult at times. Many are struggling with mental health in ways that are no longer manageable. Our past and present hurts, our unprocessed feelings can rise to the surface. We find ourselves thinking, feeling and acting in ways that do not reflect who we want to be. Some of us have Grief, Trauma or Addiction that we just can’t seem to work through. As a Senior Accredited Psychotherapist with a PHD(Hon), Master Degree and EMDR(Accredited), I've seen thousands come through my door, with various presenting issues and undergo genuine transformation, healing and leave with hope for the future.
If you are looking for couples therapy, or if you are seeking individual counselling with a focus on relationships (whether intimate, work or family) I can potentially help. I trained to MA level at a leading centre for relationship therapy, and I'm one of very few men working in the field. When working with couples, my aim is to enable better conversations, build understanding, so that both partners can be more content. With individuals, it's often about having a conversation with yourself, and to consider how you are in relation to others.
If you are looking for couples therapy, or if you are seeking individual counselling with a focus on relationships (whether intimate, work or family) I can potentially help. I trained to MA level at a leading centre for relationship therapy, and I'm one of very few men working in the field. When working with couples, my aim is to enable better conversations, build understanding, so that both partners can be more content. With individuals, it's often about having a conversation with yourself, and to consider how you are in relation to others.
The terminology of therapy is often confusing, but the way I work means that: although whatever has brought you to therapy is manifesting itself in your day to day life, behaviours, thoughts and feelings, I believe that it's roots could be in your past, possibly as far back as early childhood. Perhaps you are feeling anxious, or are experiencing low mood. Maybe you have experienced a trauma, or are dealing with a lot of stress. You might have suffered a loss, or simply feel that something isn't quite right, and that you need some help and support.
The terminology of therapy is often confusing, but the way I work means that: although whatever has brought you to therapy is manifesting itself in your day to day life, behaviours, thoughts and feelings, I believe that it's roots could be in your past, possibly as far back as early childhood. Perhaps you are feeling anxious, or are experiencing low mood. Maybe you have experienced a trauma, or are dealing with a lot of stress. You might have suffered a loss, or simply feel that something isn't quite right, and that you need some help and support.
We can all have difficulties in everyday life and encounter problems that we simply find hard to cope with alone. You may feel worried, anxious, low, confused, isolated or may be experience difficulties in relationships. You may be suffering from feelings of low self esteem or low self confidence. You may have been diagnosed with anxiety, generalised anxiety disorder, depression, or maybe you are just feeling sad. When these feelings and thoughts persist and become overwhelming it may be difficult to know which way to turn.
We can all have difficulties in everyday life and encounter problems that we simply find hard to cope with alone. You may feel worried, anxious, low, confused, isolated or may be experience difficulties in relationships. You may be suffering from feelings of low self esteem or low self confidence. You may have been diagnosed with anxiety, generalised anxiety disorder, depression, or maybe you are just feeling sad. When these feelings and thoughts persist and become overwhelming it may be difficult to know which way to turn.
Whether you are looking for support or trying to make sense of your life, I'm here to help. During the sessions you are given the space needed to wonder, reflect and explore new ways/perspectives about yourself, gaining insight in order to make positive changes. My strengths as a therapist include showing compassion, empathy, patience and sensitivity to create a safe environment to explore difficult feelings freely.
Whether you are looking for support or trying to make sense of your life, I'm here to help. During the sessions you are given the space needed to wonder, reflect and explore new ways/perspectives about yourself, gaining insight in order to make positive changes. My strengths as a therapist include showing compassion, empathy, patience and sensitivity to create a safe environment to explore difficult feelings freely.
Maybe you’ve been carrying something for a long time, something you’ve never quite said out loud to anyone. It might be an exhausting pattern you keep returning to. A part of yourself that feels like too much, or not enough. Something about who you are, your sexuality, your identity, your history, that you’ve never fully brought into the light.
I work with people navigating addiction and recovery, including chemsex; childhood trauma and shame; and questions around sexuality and gender. These aren’t separate territories to me. I know how deeply they can overlap and how tiring it is to hold them alone.
Maybe you’ve been carrying something for a long time, something you’ve never quite said out loud to anyone. It might be an exhausting pattern you keep returning to. A part of yourself that feels like too much, or not enough. Something about who you are, your sexuality, your identity, your history, that you’ve never fully brought into the light.
I work with people navigating addiction and recovery, including chemsex; childhood trauma and shame; and questions around sexuality and gender. These aren’t separate territories to me. I know how deeply they can overlap and how tiring it is to hold them alone.
Hello and Welcome, Life can indeed be difficult at times. Many are struggling with mental health in ways that are no longer manageable. Our past and present hurts, our unprocessed feelings can rise to the surface. We find ourselves thinking, feeling and acting in ways that do not reflect who we want to be. Some of us have Grief, Trauma or Addiction that we just can’t seem to work through. As a Senior Accredited Psychotherapist with a PHD(Hon), Master Degree and EMDR(Accredited), I've seen thousands come through my door, with various presenting issues and undergo genuine transformation, healing and leave with hope for the future.
Hello and Welcome, Life can indeed be difficult at times. Many are struggling with mental health in ways that are no longer manageable. Our past and present hurts, our unprocessed feelings can rise to the surface. We find ourselves thinking, feeling and acting in ways that do not reflect who we want to be. Some of us have Grief, Trauma or Addiction that we just can’t seem to work through. As a Senior Accredited Psychotherapist with a PHD(Hon), Master Degree and EMDR(Accredited), I've seen thousands come through my door, with various presenting issues and undergo genuine transformation, healing and leave with hope for the future.
If you are having difficulties in your relationship with your partner or your family, if you are at a crossroad where you need to reassess your choices, do not hesitate to contact me. I have more than 14 years experience in Relationship counselling, and in supporting clients through their sex and porn addiction journey. I offer a warm friendly and confidential approach face to face or online. Counselling in French available
If you are having difficulties in your relationship with your partner or your family, if you are at a crossroad where you need to reassess your choices, do not hesitate to contact me. I have more than 14 years experience in Relationship counselling, and in supporting clients through their sex and porn addiction journey. I offer a warm friendly and confidential approach face to face or online. Counselling in French available
Today, more and more people are faced with overwhelming stress, in their relationships, at work and in their personal circumstances. However more and more people are becoming aware and motivated to take steps towards a more fulfilled and happy life. If you feel worried or depressed in your present situation and/or stuck and unhappy in your relationship, talking to a therapist may be the best choice you make. Therapy offers a safe and confidential space for you to explore your thoughts and feelings, get support, understanding and professional guidance towards a resolution and peace of mind.
Today, more and more people are faced with overwhelming stress, in their relationships, at work and in their personal circumstances. However more and more people are becoming aware and motivated to take steps towards a more fulfilled and happy life. If you feel worried or depressed in your present situation and/or stuck and unhappy in your relationship, talking to a therapist may be the best choice you make. Therapy offers a safe and confidential space for you to explore your thoughts and feelings, get support, understanding and professional guidance towards a resolution and peace of mind.
Founding Partner/Clinical Lead
The Practice
Jane is an experienced integrative psychotherapist/counsellor, executive coach.
She practices using a combination of therapeutic approaches, ensuring that therapy is tailored to meet the individual need, be it short or long term. She currently works with adults, couples, and children, with GP referrals in the private sector. She has wide experience of working with depression, anxiety, panic, stress, loss, addiction, life limiting illness, self-harm, eating disorders, phobias and abuse and believes that to be heard in a safe, confidential environment is essential to effective therapy.
Founding Partner/Clinical Lead
The Practice
Jane is an experienced integrative psychotherapist/counsellor, executive coach.
She practices using a combination of therapeutic approaches, ensuring that therapy is tailored to meet the individual need, be it short or long term. She currently works with adults, couples, and children, with GP referrals in the private sector. She has wide experience of working with depression, anxiety, panic, stress, loss, addiction, life limiting illness, self-harm, eating disorders, phobias and abuse and believes that to be heard in a safe, confidential environment is essential to effective therapy.
Welcome to my profile! Whether you’re feeling anxious or carrying things you’d like to work through, reaching out for support is always a step worth taking. So often, we convince ourselves we’re okay despite a major life change, a loss, or the pressures of a demanding lifestyle. We keep pushing forward until the cracks begin to show — sleepless nights, constant stress, strained relationships, or a noticeable dip in mood.
If you’re ready for things to be different, I’ll guide you in transforming stuckness into momentum, self-doubt into self-trust, and anxiety into calm, helping you thrive with renewed confidence and purpose.
Welcome to my profile! Whether you’re feeling anxious or carrying things you’d like to work through, reaching out for support is always a step worth taking. So often, we convince ourselves we’re okay despite a major life change, a loss, or the pressures of a demanding lifestyle. We keep pushing forward until the cracks begin to show — sleepless nights, constant stress, strained relationships, or a noticeable dip in mood.
If you’re ready for things to be different, I’ll guide you in transforming stuckness into momentum, self-doubt into self-trust, and anxiety into calm, helping you thrive with renewed confidence and purpose.
My name is Ishpal and I am a Senior Counselling Psychologist and I offer individual and couple therapy. I have specialist experience in sexual health and HIV, as well as other long term health conditions, and sexual difficulties, depression and anxiety. I am an anti-racist psychologist and an active ally of the LGBTQ+ communities. I offer psychological therapy for individuals and couples and I work using an integrative approach, drawing on a number of theories, including: humanistic, psychodynamic, cognitive behavioural, narrative, and psychosexual therapies.
My name is Ishpal and I am a Senior Counselling Psychologist and I offer individual and couple therapy. I have specialist experience in sexual health and HIV, as well as other long term health conditions, and sexual difficulties, depression and anxiety. I am an anti-racist psychologist and an active ally of the LGBTQ+ communities. I offer psychological therapy for individuals and couples and I work using an integrative approach, drawing on a number of theories, including: humanistic, psychodynamic, cognitive behavioural, narrative, and psychosexual therapies.
More Therapists Nearby
Chi is a Sex and Relationship Psychotherapist, accredited by BACP and COSRT. He also works with people with sexual addictive behaviour and compulsivity. He has an excellent working knowledge on a range of psychiatric and mental health conditions.
Chi is a Sex and Relationship Psychotherapist, accredited by BACP and COSRT. He also works with people with sexual addictive behaviour and compulsivity. He has an excellent working knowledge on a range of psychiatric and mental health conditions.
I have also had the privilege of supporting individuals and families dealing with addiction, trauma, and life transitions, including divorce and separation, parental alienation, and bereavement. My therapeutic approach is integrative, drawing on a range of modalities such as cognitive-behavioural therapy, mindfulness practices, and person-centered techniques to foster healing and growth. I also specialize in ADHD screening, offering non-drug approaches to manage symptoms, as well as sleep coaching to promote better rest and overall well-being. I strive to create a safe, non-judgmental space where clients can grow!
I have also had the privilege of supporting individuals and families dealing with addiction, trauma, and life transitions, including divorce and separation, parental alienation, and bereavement. My therapeutic approach is integrative, drawing on a range of modalities such as cognitive-behavioural therapy, mindfulness practices, and person-centered techniques to foster healing and growth. I also specialize in ADHD screening, offering non-drug approaches to manage symptoms, as well as sleep coaching to promote better rest and overall well-being. I strive to create a safe, non-judgmental space where clients can grow!
Hello there …my name is Joanne and I specialise in Couples Therapy, Psychosexual Therapy and Sex/Porn addiction. All relationships have up’s and downs, this is quite normal and we have to re-adjust when life throws up new challenges. If you are experiencing any of the following difficulties and are finding it hard to resolve, then it may be time to seek experienced support:
Do you no longer feel able to talk to your partner or conversations always end in an argument?
Or maybe you are experiencing sexual difficulties loss of desire, erectile dysfunction, vaginismus, which are causing you a great deal of distress.
Hello there …my name is Joanne and I specialise in Couples Therapy, Psychosexual Therapy and Sex/Porn addiction. All relationships have up’s and downs, this is quite normal and we have to re-adjust when life throws up new challenges. If you are experiencing any of the following difficulties and are finding it hard to resolve, then it may be time to seek experienced support:
Do you no longer feel able to talk to your partner or conversations always end in an argument?
Or maybe you are experiencing sexual difficulties loss of desire, erectile dysfunction, vaginismus, which are causing you a great deal of distress.
Nearby Sexual Addiction Counsellors Searches for Esher
- Cobham
- East Molesey
- Epsom
- Hampton
- Kingston upon Thames
- New Malden
- Surbiton
- Teddington
- Twickenham
- Walton-on-Thames
- West Byfleet
- Weybridge
Sexual Addiction Counsellors
When should someone seek treatment for sex addiction?
People should seek treatment for sex addiction if they cannot control their sexual thoughts or behaviours to the point that it disrupts their ability to function in daily life, for example by threatening their finances, career, or relationships. This may include spending an excessive amount of time obsessing over sex, planning sex, watching pornography, or masturbating, as well as consistently engaging in risky sexual activities, using sex to escape distressing feelings, or attempting yet failing to control sexual behaviour.
What are the most common treatment options for sex addiction?
Psychotherapy is the most common treatment for sex addiction; therapy helps patients better understand their compulsive thoughts and behaviours and develop strategies to manage their desires. Therapy may be supplemented by medications, such as antidepressants, mood stabilizers, anti-androgens, alcohol and substance use medications, as well as support groups, such as 12-step programs.
How long does therapy take for sex addiction?
Recovering from compulsive behaviour takes time and effort. There’s no precise timeline for treatment, but research suggests 12 therapy sessions may be enough to see change. Treatment for sexual compulsions requires honesty in therapy, a commitment to understanding triggers and developing coping skills, and potential lifestyle changes such as cutting out alcohol or drugs.
What if sex addiction is left untreated?
Compulsive sexual behaviour can have serious repercussions if left unaddressed. For example, if sexual obsessions consume the vast majority of a person’s time, they may lose their job. If they can’t stop paying for sex, their finances may suffer. If they’re dishonest in their relationships, their partner may leave them. If they consistently feel shame, they may struggle with anxiety, depression, or loneliness. Therapy can help people develop the tools to manage sexual thoughts and behaviours that feel uncontrollable.