Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counselling in Esher
The terminology of therapy is often confusing, but the way I work means that: although whatever has brought you to therapy is manifesting itself in your day to day life, behaviours, thoughts and feelings, I believe that it's roots could be in your past, possibly as far back as early childhood. Perhaps you are feeling anxious, or are experiencing low mood. Maybe you have experienced a trauma, or are dealing with a lot of stress. You might have suffered a loss, or simply feel that something isn't quite right, and that you need some help and support.
The terminology of therapy is often confusing, but the way I work means that: although whatever has brought you to therapy is manifesting itself in your day to day life, behaviours, thoughts and feelings, I believe that it's roots could be in your past, possibly as far back as early childhood. Perhaps you are feeling anxious, or are experiencing low mood. Maybe you have experienced a trauma, or are dealing with a lot of stress. You might have suffered a loss, or simply feel that something isn't quite right, and that you need some help and support.
Are you feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or uncertain about your next steps? Maybe you’re navigating a big change, questioning aspects of yourself or your relationships, or simply feeling like life isn’t quite how you’d like it to be.
You might be struggling with stress or burnout, stuck in patterns of perfectionism or self-criticism, or finding it hard to set boundaries and put your own needs first. Perhaps you’re exploring your identity, sexuality, or rethinking your faith or spirituality. Maybe you are adjusting to becoming a parent, trying to conceive, or navigating changing relationships with your own ageing parents.
Are you feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or uncertain about your next steps? Maybe you’re navigating a big change, questioning aspects of yourself or your relationships, or simply feeling like life isn’t quite how you’d like it to be.
You might be struggling with stress or burnout, stuck in patterns of perfectionism or self-criticism, or finding it hard to set boundaries and put your own needs first. Perhaps you’re exploring your identity, sexuality, or rethinking your faith or spirituality. Maybe you are adjusting to becoming a parent, trying to conceive, or navigating changing relationships with your own ageing parents.
Hi, I'm Jess, a Registered Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist based in Surrey but working remotely via Zoom, allowing me to support individuals across the UK.
I work with all thing sex and relationships and have specialised in working with difficulties in sexual function (such as Erectile Dysfunction), low/high libido, painful penetration including vaginismus, exploring your sexual identity and much more. As well as working with couples to work to improve communication, build connection and desire, and reconnect.
Hi, I'm Jess, a Registered Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist based in Surrey but working remotely via Zoom, allowing me to support individuals across the UK.
I work with all thing sex and relationships and have specialised in working with difficulties in sexual function (such as Erectile Dysfunction), low/high libido, painful penetration including vaginismus, exploring your sexual identity and much more. As well as working with couples to work to improve communication, build connection and desire, and reconnect.
Most of us, at some time or another, will experience difficulties with our thoughts, feelings, behaviour or relationships. Some of us might experience physical symptoms for which our GP can find no organic cause. Almost all of us want to get the most out of life. This is where I can help. I am a Senior Consultant Counselling Psychologist Specialising in Psychotherapy. I am Chartered by the British Psychological Society (BPS) and Registered with the Health and Care Professions Council (HCPC).
Most of us, at some time or another, will experience difficulties with our thoughts, feelings, behaviour or relationships. Some of us might experience physical symptoms for which our GP can find no organic cause. Almost all of us want to get the most out of life. This is where I can help. I am a Senior Consultant Counselling Psychologist Specialising in Psychotherapy. I am Chartered by the British Psychological Society (BPS) and Registered with the Health and Care Professions Council (HCPC).
I work with individuals and couples and am a fully qualified, accredited psychosexual therapist and relationship psychotherapist. My core specialism is relationship difficulties, including sexual dysfunction concerns and connections.
I work with individuals and couples and am a fully qualified, accredited psychosexual therapist and relationship psychotherapist. My core specialism is relationship difficulties, including sexual dysfunction concerns and connections.
In a confidential, welcoming space, we talk about sex. I offer a safe, compassionate place to talk about intimacy, relationships, sexual behaviours, erotic and sexual orientations, sexual bodies, and real vs. fantasised experiences. We look for a positive way forward to deal with something that feels stuck or unmanageable, in a therapy space that welcomes and understands sexual differences and experiences, and treats you with respect.
In a confidential, welcoming space, we talk about sex. I offer a safe, compassionate place to talk about intimacy, relationships, sexual behaviours, erotic and sexual orientations, sexual bodies, and real vs. fantasised experiences. We look for a positive way forward to deal with something that feels stuck or unmanageable, in a therapy space that welcomes and understands sexual differences and experiences, and treats you with respect.
My name is Ishpal and I am a Senior Counselling Psychologist and I offer individual and couple therapy. I have specialist experience in sexual health and HIV, as well as other long term health conditions, and sexual difficulties, depression and anxiety. I am an anti-racist psychologist and an active ally of the LGBTQ+ communities. I offer psychological therapy for individuals and couples and I work using an integrative approach, drawing on a number of theories, including: humanistic, psychodynamic, cognitive behavioural, narrative, and psychosexual therapies.
My name is Ishpal and I am a Senior Counselling Psychologist and I offer individual and couple therapy. I have specialist experience in sexual health and HIV, as well as other long term health conditions, and sexual difficulties, depression and anxiety. I am an anti-racist psychologist and an active ally of the LGBTQ+ communities. I offer psychological therapy for individuals and couples and I work using an integrative approach, drawing on a number of theories, including: humanistic, psychodynamic, cognitive behavioural, narrative, and psychosexual therapies.
I could tell you at length how I practice or what therapy means to me. However, the truth is that this is your therapy, your counselling. Your journey matters. I will hold the space for you to drive the work, and I will simply help navigate. I will support you and challenge you through the struggles you face, and we will work together during our time to reach your destination. It takes a lot to decide you need help or want to talk to someone and so the fact you are looking at this website is a positive step that not everyone feels they can take. Talking is hard, looking for help is brave, just keep going.
I could tell you at length how I practice or what therapy means to me. However, the truth is that this is your therapy, your counselling. Your journey matters. I will hold the space for you to drive the work, and I will simply help navigate. I will support you and challenge you through the struggles you face, and we will work together during our time to reach your destination. It takes a lot to decide you need help or want to talk to someone and so the fact you are looking at this website is a positive step that not everyone feels they can take. Talking is hard, looking for help is brave, just keep going.
Hello, and welcome. I’m a warm and creative psychotherapist based in London, with many years of experience supporting people through anxiety, depression, self-harm, family trauma, experiences related to neurodiversity and other. I offer a safe, understanding space where you can explore your experiences, feel heard, and begin to find clarity, balance, and healing.
Hello, and welcome. I’m a warm and creative psychotherapist based in London, with many years of experience supporting people through anxiety, depression, self-harm, family trauma, experiences related to neurodiversity and other. I offer a safe, understanding space where you can explore your experiences, feel heard, and begin to find clarity, balance, and healing.
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I offer queer-affirming, sex-positive & kink-aware therapy online across the UK for individuals (not couples at this time), with particular experience in ENM/polyamory.
Hi! I’m Ro (they/them). You might be navigating jealousy, attachment anxiety, communication breakdown, or feeling stuck in relational patterns that keep repeating. Perhaps you're exploring ethical non-monogamy (ENM), polyamory, or questioning monogamy, and want relationships that feel honest and sustainable. You may feel disconnected from yourself, carrying old relational wounds, struggling with emotional regulation, or unsure how past experiences are shaping intimacy now. You’re looking for space to slow down, untangle what’s happening, and build more secure, intentional ways of relating.
I offer queer-affirming, sex-positive & kink-aware therapy online across the UK for individuals (not couples at this time), with particular experience in ENM/polyamory.
Hi! I’m Ro (they/them). You might be navigating jealousy, attachment anxiety, communication breakdown, or feeling stuck in relational patterns that keep repeating. Perhaps you're exploring ethical non-monogamy (ENM), polyamory, or questioning monogamy, and want relationships that feel honest and sustainable. You may feel disconnected from yourself, carrying old relational wounds, struggling with emotional regulation, or unsure how past experiences are shaping intimacy now. You’re looking for space to slow down, untangle what’s happening, and build more secure, intentional ways of relating.
Soho Couples Therapy is a specialist psychotherapy service for LGBTQ+ couples and individuals who are facing relationship challenges. You may be struggling with intimacy, trust, communication, navigating open relationships, or parenting. Sometimes personal struggles, such as anxiety, questions of identity, or past trauma, are hard to negotiate in a partnership and create distance. We can help you understand the deeper dynamics of your relationship, consider what has created the challenges you are experiencing, and explore how to overcome them.
Soho Couples Therapy is a specialist psychotherapy service for LGBTQ+ couples and individuals who are facing relationship challenges. You may be struggling with intimacy, trust, communication, navigating open relationships, or parenting. Sometimes personal struggles, such as anxiety, questions of identity, or past trauma, are hard to negotiate in a partnership and create distance. We can help you understand the deeper dynamics of your relationship, consider what has created the challenges you are experiencing, and explore how to overcome them.
I aim to provide a safe welcoming, non-judgmental space where clients can freely express their thoughts, feelings and truly be heard. I am here to listen to you and help you find the best way forward. I use a collaborative approach where we examine thoughts and feelings from the past and examine how those past feelings affect the client in the here and now. My hope is to help clients realise that they have the tools to help themselves move forward in life and I’ll assist in finding new perspectives that help to bring self-awareness, strength, self-belief and enable positive change.
I aim to provide a safe welcoming, non-judgmental space where clients can freely express their thoughts, feelings and truly be heard. I am here to listen to you and help you find the best way forward. I use a collaborative approach where we examine thoughts and feelings from the past and examine how those past feelings affect the client in the here and now. My hope is to help clients realise that they have the tools to help themselves move forward in life and I’ll assist in finding new perspectives that help to bring self-awareness, strength, self-belief and enable positive change.
Updated October 2026 - I have space for one person, queer or straight, who want to know and understand their sex, sexuality, desires and intimate relationships better.
I consider it a sign of bravery that you’re thinking about coming to see me for therapy. We all experience difficult and painful things in life and we all need other people to lean on, to help us through some of the more painful or challenging situations or to help us grow into kind, loving people. Working together, you'll move towards feeling better and showing up differently in the world. Together, life can get brighter.
Updated October 2026 - I have space for one person, queer or straight, who want to know and understand their sex, sexuality, desires and intimate relationships better.
I consider it a sign of bravery that you’re thinking about coming to see me for therapy. We all experience difficult and painful things in life and we all need other people to lean on, to help us through some of the more painful or challenging situations or to help us grow into kind, loving people. Working together, you'll move towards feeling better and showing up differently in the world. Together, life can get brighter.
I am based online and in South and East London - I provide LGBTQ+ therapy and counselling for those who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, non-binary, queer, questioning, polyamorous, kink, ace etc.
I am trained within an integrative approach to counselling and psychotherapy. This means I combine different approaches to create a therapy experience that is queer and sex positive, kink-affirming and practiced with an open mindset. Intersectionality, privilege, discrimination and difference are experiences I’m committed to exploring with you safely.
I am based online and in South and East London - I provide LGBTQ+ therapy and counselling for those who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, non-binary, queer, questioning, polyamorous, kink, ace etc.
I am trained within an integrative approach to counselling and psychotherapy. This means I combine different approaches to create a therapy experience that is queer and sex positive, kink-affirming and practiced with an open mindset. Intersectionality, privilege, discrimination and difference are experiences I’m committed to exploring with you safely.
I'm sex positive, sex worker allied and have experience of kink dynamics.
I have found that interpersonal relationship issues often intersect with deeper themes, such as patterns of relating formed in childhood, feelings of anxiety or overwhelm, identity exploration, or a sense of being stuck. I aim to provide a safe, non-judgmental space where we can explore these interconnected areas together and work toward positive change.
I'm sex positive, sex worker allied and have experience of kink dynamics.
I have found that interpersonal relationship issues often intersect with deeper themes, such as patterns of relating formed in childhood, feelings of anxiety or overwhelm, identity exploration, or a sense of being stuck. I aim to provide a safe, non-judgmental space where we can explore these interconnected areas together and work toward positive change.
Are you looking for someone to help you understand WHY you feel the way you do, and to help you feel more empowered to CHOOSE how you go forward?
It’s amazing how many of us are locked into a struggle with ourselves. As if life isn’t challenging enough, our inner conflicts, judgements and critiques add a whole second layer that can leave us feeling confused, exhausted and unsafe. My aim is to help you step onto your own team, so that when life gets rough, you have support, tools, and the insight to know what you need to be well. This includes naming and acknowledging the places where systemic oppression touches our lives.
Are you looking for someone to help you understand WHY you feel the way you do, and to help you feel more empowered to CHOOSE how you go forward?
It’s amazing how many of us are locked into a struggle with ourselves. As if life isn’t challenging enough, our inner conflicts, judgements and critiques add a whole second layer that can leave us feeling confused, exhausted and unsafe. My aim is to help you step onto your own team, so that when life gets rough, you have support, tools, and the insight to know what you need to be well. This includes naming and acknowledging the places where systemic oppression touches our lives.
Do others view you as a calm river with a constant, steady flow? Does this stop you from telling them about the disarming undercurrent that pulls you in all directions? Perhaps you feel like you need to maintain the outward appearance of being someone who ‘has it all’ when inwardly you are scared that you aren’t enough. Appearing perfect can be exhausting, it can also be isolating and erode our true sense of self. I am here so that you can rest your mask down for a while. By tapping into and meeting the needs of your inner self you will find that you feel resourced enough to fortify your relationships with others.
Do others view you as a calm river with a constant, steady flow? Does this stop you from telling them about the disarming undercurrent that pulls you in all directions? Perhaps you feel like you need to maintain the outward appearance of being someone who ‘has it all’ when inwardly you are scared that you aren’t enough. Appearing perfect can be exhausting, it can also be isolating and erode our true sense of self. I am here so that you can rest your mask down for a while. By tapping into and meeting the needs of your inner self you will find that you feel resourced enough to fortify your relationships with others.
Embarking on therapy for the first time can feel daunting, especially when navigating the deeply personal terrain of sex and relationships. Taking the first step is often the most difficult part, but within that initial apprehension lies the profound potential for transformation and healing. As a sex & relationship therapist, and a qualified Yoga teacher, I work with individuals & couples on their mind-body connection, through somatic awareness and psychosexual therapy, to help foster greater wellbeing in sexual expression and pleasure. I offer a flexible, tailor-made approach that evolves alongside you.
Embarking on therapy for the first time can feel daunting, especially when navigating the deeply personal terrain of sex and relationships. Taking the first step is often the most difficult part, but within that initial apprehension lies the profound potential for transformation and healing. As a sex & relationship therapist, and a qualified Yoga teacher, I work with individuals & couples on their mind-body connection, through somatic awareness and psychosexual therapy, to help foster greater wellbeing in sexual expression and pleasure. I offer a flexible, tailor-made approach that evolves alongside you.
If you are feeling stuck, isolated or overwhelmed in your life I can provide a therapeutic space where we can work together to gain understanding of what is going on for you and help you find healthier and more positive ways to cope
I am a sex-positive, GSRD, Kink-affirming therapist who supports those exploring their sexualities and desires without shame or judgment.
I work with both couples and individuals navigating sexual, relationship and intimacy difficulties. My work is neurodivergent affirming. I support adults exploring life through the lens of Autism, & ADHD. Including those navigating a later in life diagnosis, helping them make sense of their experiences, identity and relationships.
If you are feeling stuck, isolated or overwhelmed in your life I can provide a therapeutic space where we can work together to gain understanding of what is going on for you and help you find healthier and more positive ways to cope
I am a sex-positive, GSRD, Kink-affirming therapist who supports those exploring their sexualities and desires without shame or judgment.
I work with both couples and individuals navigating sexual, relationship and intimacy difficulties. My work is neurodivergent affirming. I support adults exploring life through the lens of Autism, & ADHD. Including those navigating a later in life diagnosis, helping them make sense of their experiences, identity and relationships.
I am kink aware.
I also offer support in coming to terms with narcissistic abuse, or being in relationship with someone with a personality disorder. I am now working with clients with complex trauma and PTSD and use a combination of psychotherapy, CBT and tapping to help work through the psychological, physical and spiritual aspects of healing.
I am kink aware.
I also offer support in coming to terms with narcissistic abuse, or being in relationship with someone with a personality disorder. I am now working with clients with complex trauma and PTSD and use a combination of psychotherapy, CBT and tapping to help work through the psychological, physical and spiritual aspects of healing.
Nearby Sex-Positive & Kink-Friendly Counsellors Searches for Esher
- Cobham
- Dorking
- Epsom
- Kingston upon Thames
- Leatherhead
- Richmond
- South Croydon
- Sutton
- Teddington
- Twickenham
- Walton-on-Thames
- Weybridge
Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counsellors
Why might an individual want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
A sex-positive or kinky individual may want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist because the client may feel safer and more supported discussing their experiences and challenges. A therapist who identifies as kink-friendly will have experience with clients having diverse sexual preferences and will likely be nonjudgmental and supportive about issues brought to the table. It is important to note that sex-positive, kink-allied individuals may find equal success with therapists who do not have such specialised knowledge and background. The most important factor in the success of therapy is for the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in sex-positive, kink-allied treatment?
Generally, no. There are limited training programs and unofficial accreditations that therapists can pursue, but a therapist’s expertise will ultimately come from their previous experience with similar clients, their engagement with organisations that promote sex positivity or kink-allied lifestyles, and the importance they place on safety and cultural sensitivity.
How can individuals recognise a good sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
An experienced therapist is able to help clients explore their sexual identity and expression and relieve any discomfort or stigma attached to discussing such matters and the client’s overall challenges. A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-allied is able to create an environment that honors a client’s experience and sexual preferences. To recognise a good therapist, clients can simply ask directly about topics and issues important to them and gauge their comfort level and connection with a clinician based on the responses.
Can clients benefit from having a therapist with a focus on sex positivity and alternative sexual lifestyles?
Some individuals may feel most comfortable knowing that the clinician they’re working with has a commitment to creating an atmosphere of sex positivity and has experience with relationship diversity and alternative relationship structures. Working with a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist may help clients respect their own challenges and improve identity-affirming treatment.