Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counselling in Epsom
I am a qualified counsellor and psychotherapist, offering counselling to adults, online and face to face in Sutton, Surrey. I facilitate short term (6-12 sessions) and long term (open-ended) therapy. I believe in a holistic approach to health and wellbeing, taking into account all of our being - psychological, cultural, physical, social and spiritual. I work in a way that is gentle, warm and holding. I endeavour to provide a safe, non-judgmental space for you to talk through the experiences you are facing. I work collaboratively to ensure that you have the autonomy in deciding the content, pace and depth of our work.
I am a qualified counsellor and psychotherapist, offering counselling to adults, online and face to face in Sutton, Surrey. I facilitate short term (6-12 sessions) and long term (open-ended) therapy. I believe in a holistic approach to health and wellbeing, taking into account all of our being - psychological, cultural, physical, social and spiritual. I work in a way that is gentle, warm and holding. I endeavour to provide a safe, non-judgmental space for you to talk through the experiences you are facing. I work collaboratively to ensure that you have the autonomy in deciding the content, pace and depth of our work.
If you are dealing with a relationship break up or seeking help to address personal issues it can feel difficult to know where to start. I guarantee you a friendly, safe and non judgemental environment to explore and work through whatever is proving problematic - whether online or face to face . I listen to what YOU would like to achieve from our time together and explore what YOU feel is most relevant in each session. I use both traditional and creative therapeutic methods and will be guided by what suits you the best. Please feel free to contact me to discuss your needs in complete confidence.
I am currently taking on new clients.
If you are dealing with a relationship break up or seeking help to address personal issues it can feel difficult to know where to start. I guarantee you a friendly, safe and non judgemental environment to explore and work through whatever is proving problematic - whether online or face to face . I listen to what YOU would like to achieve from our time together and explore what YOU feel is most relevant in each session. I use both traditional and creative therapeutic methods and will be guided by what suits you the best. Please feel free to contact me to discuss your needs in complete confidence.
I am currently taking on new clients.
If you’ve arrived here, you’re likely looking for support to help you make meaningful changes in your life. Perhaps you’re experiencing confusing emotions, struggling with your mental health, or feel that life has reached a point where things just aren’t working anymore.
Maybe you feel lost, unsure of exactly what needs to change - but something in your gut tells you that things don’t feel right.
The good news is, these kinds of experiences are incredibly common, and they’re exactly where therapy can help. It can empower you to understand what’s going on and begin to move forward.
If you’ve arrived here, you’re likely looking for support to help you make meaningful changes in your life. Perhaps you’re experiencing confusing emotions, struggling with your mental health, or feel that life has reached a point where things just aren’t working anymore.
Maybe you feel lost, unsure of exactly what needs to change - but something in your gut tells you that things don’t feel right.
The good news is, these kinds of experiences are incredibly common, and they’re exactly where therapy can help. It can empower you to understand what’s going on and begin to move forward.
Sometimes, being part of the LGBTQ+ community can be a very lonely existence, and we are not all ‘out and proud’ or lucky enough to feel part of a wider LGBTQ+ family. You may be experiencing isolation, shame, or perhaps you have faced rejection from your family or friends. I do not assume that your struggles are related to your sexuality or gender, but if you are trying to deal with something specific in your personal life, or are simply overwhelmed and feeling alone in your current situation, I can offer you a private and non-judgemental space for the exploration of anything which may be causing you pain.
Sometimes, being part of the LGBTQ+ community can be a very lonely existence, and we are not all ‘out and proud’ or lucky enough to feel part of a wider LGBTQ+ family. You may be experiencing isolation, shame, or perhaps you have faced rejection from your family or friends. I do not assume that your struggles are related to your sexuality or gender, but if you are trying to deal with something specific in your personal life, or are simply overwhelmed and feeling alone in your current situation, I can offer you a private and non-judgemental space for the exploration of anything which may be causing you pain.
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Perhaps you're carrying shame about your sexuality or kink life, navigating the emotional landscape of a BDSM dynamic, or simply longing for a space where you don't have to edit yourself before walking in.
I offer a non-judgmental and anti-oppressive space where your whole self is welcome. Drawing on psychodynamic and person-centred approaches, I work with curiosity and care to help you explore desire, identity, and relationship, alongside anxiety, disconnection, or whatever else you're carrying.
Perhaps you're carrying shame about your sexuality or kink life, navigating the emotional landscape of a BDSM dynamic, or simply longing for a space where you don't have to edit yourself before walking in.
I offer a non-judgmental and anti-oppressive space where your whole self is welcome. Drawing on psychodynamic and person-centred approaches, I work with curiosity and care to help you explore desire, identity, and relationship, alongside anxiety, disconnection, or whatever else you're carrying.
I am kink aware.
I also offer support in coming to terms with narcissistic abuse, or being in relationship with someone with a personality disorder. I am now working with clients with complex trauma and PTSD and use a combination of psychotherapy, CBT and tapping to help work through the psychological, physical and spiritual aspects of healing.
I am kink aware.
I also offer support in coming to terms with narcissistic abuse, or being in relationship with someone with a personality disorder. I am now working with clients with complex trauma and PTSD and use a combination of psychotherapy, CBT and tapping to help work through the psychological, physical and spiritual aspects of healing.
I am introducing afforable therapy - I accept that times are hard and as such it is time to offer low cost therapy, I am accrediated clinical therapist and supervisor , for those who want reach out and have specialist therapy in matters to do with sex , sexual intiamcy, relationship (s) please contact me I have been working since 1997 working with survivors and perpetrators of harm ( sexual, financial, physiacl, emotional abuse) .
I work with people who have differnet sexual scripts and want to explore consent, boundaries, monogamous and non monogamous relationships, sugar daddies , hetronormative lifestyles ; BDSM
I am introducing afforable therapy - I accept that times are hard and as such it is time to offer low cost therapy, I am accrediated clinical therapist and supervisor , for those who want reach out and have specialist therapy in matters to do with sex , sexual intiamcy, relationship (s) please contact me I have been working since 1997 working with survivors and perpetrators of harm ( sexual, financial, physiacl, emotional abuse) .
I work with people who have differnet sexual scripts and want to explore consent, boundaries, monogamous and non monogamous relationships, sugar daddies , hetronormative lifestyles ; BDSM
You feel different, and you have for a long time. You have carried silence, or shame, or questions that never quite let go. Many of the people I work with are queer, neurodiverse, or moving through change that feels heavier than they let on. Together we step outside the box of just talking. We cannot always think our way out of what hurts, we have to feel it, move with it, and live our way into something new. I work online, wherever you are in the UK. If you are ready for a space that welcomes the whole of you, I offer a free 15 minute consultation. As Tagore wrote, the butterfly counts not months but moments, and has time enough.
You feel different, and you have for a long time. You have carried silence, or shame, or questions that never quite let go. Many of the people I work with are queer, neurodiverse, or moving through change that feels heavier than they let on. Together we step outside the box of just talking. We cannot always think our way out of what hurts, we have to feel it, move with it, and live our way into something new. I work online, wherever you are in the UK. If you are ready for a space that welcomes the whole of you, I offer a free 15 minute consultation. As Tagore wrote, the butterfly counts not months but moments, and has time enough.
I'm experienced in supporting clients to work through issues relating to low or mismatched desire, sexual functioning, unreliable erections, early or delayed ejaculation, painful sex, vaginismus, gender and sexuality, relationship issues, affairs and infidelity, problematic sexual behaviours, sex/porn addiction and understanding kink/BDSM identities.
Hi, my name is Loki. I’m a psychosexual & relationships therapist and I'm committed to co-creating a safe, inclusive and non-judgmental space where clients can work through their sex & relationship issues, explore their erotic life, (re)discover themselves, make sense of their relationships... and bring about lasting change.
I'm experienced in supporting clients to work through issues relating to low or mismatched desire, sexual functioning, unreliable erections, early or delayed ejaculation, painful sex, vaginismus, gender and sexuality, relationship issues, affairs and infidelity, problematic sexual behaviours, sex/porn addiction and understanding kink/BDSM identities.
Hi, my name is Loki. I’m a psychosexual & relationships therapist and I'm committed to co-creating a safe, inclusive and non-judgmental space where clients can work through their sex & relationship issues, explore their erotic life, (re)discover themselves, make sense of their relationships... and bring about lasting change.
I am sex-positive and kink-aware.
I offer individual psychotherapy for adults, with a particular interest in psychologically complex and often hard-to-speak-about experiences. My work commonly involves shame, guilt, and self-criticism; patterns that repeat despite insight or effort; sexuality, desire, and taboo; the impact of sexual harm; sexual behaviour that feels troubling or conflicted; questions of gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity; and difficulties in relationships and intimacy. My approach is exploratory, and suited to people who want to think more deeply about what is troubling them.
I am sex-positive and kink-aware.
I offer individual psychotherapy for adults, with a particular interest in psychologically complex and often hard-to-speak-about experiences. My work commonly involves shame, guilt, and self-criticism; patterns that repeat despite insight or effort; sexuality, desire, and taboo; the impact of sexual harm; sexual behaviour that feels troubling or conflicted; questions of gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity; and difficulties in relationships and intimacy. My approach is exploratory, and suited to people who want to think more deeply about what is troubling them.
I support anxiety, confidence and work pressures, and offer LGBTQIA+, identity, relationship diversity and kink-aware counselling to help you move forward authentically.
Many of the people who reach out to me are thoughtful, self-aware, and used to coping alone. From the outside life may look steady, but internally they feel overwhelmed, stuck in overthinking, self-doubt, or emotional exhaustion. Some are questioning identity, relationships, or direction in life; others feel pressure at work or struggle to feel “enough.” They want a space where they don’t have to perform, explain everything perfectly, or be judged. Their goal is to understand themselves more clearly, feel calmer and more confident, and make choices that feel authentic rather than driven by fear or expectation.
I support anxiety, confidence and work pressures, and offer LGBTQIA+, identity, relationship diversity and kink-aware counselling to help you move forward authentically.
Many of the people who reach out to me are thoughtful, self-aware, and used to coping alone. From the outside life may look steady, but internally they feel overwhelmed, stuck in overthinking, self-doubt, or emotional exhaustion. Some are questioning identity, relationships, or direction in life; others feel pressure at work or struggle to feel “enough.” They want a space where they don’t have to perform, explain everything perfectly, or be judged. Their goal is to understand themselves more clearly, feel calmer and more confident, and make choices that feel authentic rather than driven by fear or expectation.
I’m Saida (she/her), a neurodivergent sex-positive counsellor offering online therapy for adults who want to explore their identity, emotions, experiences and relationships without shame.
My clients often come to therapy after noticing a lack of motivation or feeling disconnected. They may feel overwhelmed by daily pressures, weighed down by anxiety, depression, or trauma, or left questioning their sense of self. Many describe feeling misunderstood, not fitting in, or never feeling “good enough.”
I work with neurodivergent adults (ADHD, autism and AuDHD, diagnosed or exploring), and those navigating questions about identity, relationships, or sexuality. Together, we’ll create a safe space where you can process your past, understand yourself more deeply, and move through life with greater confidence and ease.
I’m Saida (she/her), a neurodivergent sex-positive counsellor offering online therapy for adults who want to explore their identity, emotions, experiences and relationships without shame.
My clients often come to therapy after noticing a lack of motivation or feeling disconnected. They may feel overwhelmed by daily pressures, weighed down by anxiety, depression, or trauma, or left questioning their sense of self. Many describe feeling misunderstood, not fitting in, or never feeling “good enough.”
I work with neurodivergent adults (ADHD, autism and AuDHD, diagnosed or exploring), and those navigating questions about identity, relationships, or sexuality. Together, we’ll create a safe space where you can process your past, understand yourself more deeply, and move through life with greater confidence and ease.
My practice is sex positive; neuro affirming and I am and an ally to the LGBTQ community.
We can all remember times in our lives when we have felt something was missing. Times where we’ve needed assistance, but not known where to turn. We’ve been overwhelmed or exhausted; confused or isolated; lost and in need of something more that we can’t put our finger on. I am interested in what has brought an individual to the point they’re at currently – what is working for them and what do they want to change. With a warm, person-centred approach I respect the individuality of my clients and help them to find ways to take more control over their lives without judgement or barriers.
My practice is sex positive; neuro affirming and I am and an ally to the LGBTQ community.
We can all remember times in our lives when we have felt something was missing. Times where we’ve needed assistance, but not known where to turn. We’ve been overwhelmed or exhausted; confused or isolated; lost and in need of something more that we can’t put our finger on. I am interested in what has brought an individual to the point they’re at currently – what is working for them and what do they want to change. With a warm, person-centred approach I respect the individuality of my clients and help them to find ways to take more control over their lives without judgement or barriers.
If you are feeling stuck, isolated or overwhelmed in your life I can provide a space where we can work together to gain understanding of what is going on for you and help you find healthier and more positive ways to cope
I am a sex-positive, GDSR, Kink-affirming therapist who supports those exploring their sexualities and desires without shame or judgment.
I work with both couples and individuals navigating sexual, relationship and intimacy difficulties. My work is neuroaffirming, and I support adults exploring life through the lens of neurodivergence (including Autism, ADHD). My approach is non-judgemental, compassionate, and tailored to each individual or couple I work with.
If you are feeling stuck, isolated or overwhelmed in your life I can provide a space where we can work together to gain understanding of what is going on for you and help you find healthier and more positive ways to cope
I am a sex-positive, GDSR, Kink-affirming therapist who supports those exploring their sexualities and desires without shame or judgment.
I work with both couples and individuals navigating sexual, relationship and intimacy difficulties. My work is neuroaffirming, and I support adults exploring life through the lens of neurodivergence (including Autism, ADHD). My approach is non-judgemental, compassionate, and tailored to each individual or couple I work with.
Do others view you as a calm river with a constant, steady flow? Does this stop you from telling them about the disarming undercurrent that pulls you in all directions? Perhaps you feel like you need to maintain the outward appearance of being someone who ‘has it all’ when inwardly you are scared that you aren’t enough. Appearing perfect can be exhausting, it can also be isolating and erode our true sense of self. I am here so that you can rest your mask down for a while. By tapping into and meeting the needs of your inner self you will find that you feel resourced enough to fortify your relationships with others.
Do others view you as a calm river with a constant, steady flow? Does this stop you from telling them about the disarming undercurrent that pulls you in all directions? Perhaps you feel like you need to maintain the outward appearance of being someone who ‘has it all’ when inwardly you are scared that you aren’t enough. Appearing perfect can be exhausting, it can also be isolating and erode our true sense of self. I am here so that you can rest your mask down for a while. By tapping into and meeting the needs of your inner self you will find that you feel resourced enough to fortify your relationships with others.
I am a qualified Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist working with individuals, couples, and polycules, with issues around communication, desire/arousal, orgasm, erectile difficulties, vaginal discomfort/pain, trauma, body image, gender and sexuality related issues, menopause, affairs, non monogamous, polyamorous relationships, porn addiction, kink, and bdsm.
My aim is to help you explore your feelings, thoughts and emotions and the affect they have on your behaviour and mood. I see the therapeutic process as a collaborative one, with us working side-by-side to develop your inner resources, communication skills, improve awareness of yourself, your body and your relationships with others.
I am a qualified Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist working with individuals, couples, and polycules, with issues around communication, desire/arousal, orgasm, erectile difficulties, vaginal discomfort/pain, trauma, body image, gender and sexuality related issues, menopause, affairs, non monogamous, polyamorous relationships, porn addiction, kink, and bdsm.
My aim is to help you explore your feelings, thoughts and emotions and the affect they have on your behaviour and mood. I see the therapeutic process as a collaborative one, with us working side-by-side to develop your inner resources, communication skills, improve awareness of yourself, your body and your relationships with others.
I am also kink-aware and sex positive.
Hello, I’m Rebecca. I will be by your side as you explore whatever you wish to share, accepting all parts of you and bringing all parts of myself. As a person-centred therapist I offer a space that is non-judgemental, open and supportive. I offer you space that is just for you, to have the time to be heard and express yourself. I'm passionate about social justice and embed this in my practice, curious about how your identities and life experiences are felt and perceived. It feels like a really hard time to be queer and/or trans at the moment, I'm here to hold you and have understanding and experience. You are welcome and accepted.
I am also kink-aware and sex positive.
Hello, I’m Rebecca. I will be by your side as you explore whatever you wish to share, accepting all parts of you and bringing all parts of myself. As a person-centred therapist I offer a space that is non-judgemental, open and supportive. I offer you space that is just for you, to have the time to be heard and express yourself. I'm passionate about social justice and embed this in my practice, curious about how your identities and life experiences are felt and perceived. It feels like a really hard time to be queer and/or trans at the moment, I'm here to hold you and have understanding and experience. You are welcome and accepted.
I would like to help you. As a bisexual woman, I know the challenges of navigating identity and sexuality. That is why I approach every story with an open mind and empathic curiosity. I will engage you from a non-pathologizing, sex-positive, gender-affirming stance, so that you may embrace every part of yourself. I provide individual and couples therapy, as well as sessions for those in alternative relationships. Together we can navigate our way through your relationship and personal challenges, overcome cultural limitations that seek to restrict us, and ultimately find inner joy during times when it appears out of reach.
I would like to help you. As a bisexual woman, I know the challenges of navigating identity and sexuality. That is why I approach every story with an open mind and empathic curiosity. I will engage you from a non-pathologizing, sex-positive, gender-affirming stance, so that you may embrace every part of yourself. I provide individual and couples therapy, as well as sessions for those in alternative relationships. Together we can navigate our way through your relationship and personal challenges, overcome cultural limitations that seek to restrict us, and ultimately find inner joy during times when it appears out of reach.
Hello, I'm Dr Nate Speare (he/him), a Queer UKCP-registered psychotherapist offering online psychotherapy across the UK. I have particular experience working with LGBTQIA+ clients, Gender, Sexuality and Relationship Diversity (GSRD), intimacy and relationship concerns, sexual health and HIV, and the impact of early relationships and attachment. I work with adults experiencing a wide range of difficulties, including anxiety, depression, trauma, identity concerns, shame, disconnection, and feeling stuck in recurring patterns. Together, we can begin to understand not only your current difficulties, but also what may lie beneath them.
Hello, I'm Dr Nate Speare (he/him), a Queer UKCP-registered psychotherapist offering online psychotherapy across the UK. I have particular experience working with LGBTQIA+ clients, Gender, Sexuality and Relationship Diversity (GSRD), intimacy and relationship concerns, sexual health and HIV, and the impact of early relationships and attachment. I work with adults experiencing a wide range of difficulties, including anxiety, depression, trauma, identity concerns, shame, disconnection, and feeling stuck in recurring patterns. Together, we can begin to understand not only your current difficulties, but also what may lie beneath them.
I offer queer-affirming, sex-positive & kink-aware therapy online across the UK, with particular experience in ENM / polyamory.
Hi! I’m Ro (they/them). You might be navigating jealousy, attachment anxiety, communication breakdown, or feeling stuck in relational patterns that keep repeating. Perhaps you're exploring ethical non-monogamy (ENM), polyamory, or questioning monogamy, and want relationships that feel honest and sustainable. You may feel disconnected from yourself, carrying old relational wounds, struggling with emotional regulation, or unsure how past experiences are shaping intimacy now. You’re looking for space to slow down, untangle what’s happening, and build more secure, intentional ways of relating.
I offer queer-affirming, sex-positive & kink-aware therapy online across the UK, with particular experience in ENM / polyamory.
Hi! I’m Ro (they/them). You might be navigating jealousy, attachment anxiety, communication breakdown, or feeling stuck in relational patterns that keep repeating. Perhaps you're exploring ethical non-monogamy (ENM), polyamory, or questioning monogamy, and want relationships that feel honest and sustainable. You may feel disconnected from yourself, carrying old relational wounds, struggling with emotional regulation, or unsure how past experiences are shaping intimacy now. You’re looking for space to slow down, untangle what’s happening, and build more secure, intentional ways of relating.
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Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counsellors
Why might an individual want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
A sex-positive or kinky individual may want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist because the client may feel safer and more supported discussing their experiences and challenges. A therapist who identifies as kink-friendly will have experience with clients having diverse sexual preferences and will likely be nonjudgmental and supportive about issues brought to the table. It is important to note that sex-positive, kink-allied individuals may find equal success with therapists who do not have such specialised knowledge and background. The most important factor in the success of therapy is for the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in sex-positive, kink-allied treatment?
Generally, no. There are limited training programs and unofficial accreditations that therapists can pursue, but a therapist’s expertise will ultimately come from their previous experience with similar clients, their engagement with organisations that promote sex positivity or kink-allied lifestyles, and the importance they place on safety and cultural sensitivity.
How can individuals recognise a good sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
An experienced therapist is able to help clients explore their sexual identity and expression and relieve any discomfort or stigma attached to discussing such matters and the client’s overall challenges. A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-allied is able to create an environment that honors a client’s experience and sexual preferences. To recognise a good therapist, clients can simply ask directly about topics and issues important to them and gauge their comfort level and connection with a clinician based on the responses.
Can clients benefit from having a therapist with a focus on sex positivity and alternative sexual lifestyles?
Some individuals may feel most comfortable knowing that the clinician they’re working with has a commitment to creating an atmosphere of sex positivity and has experience with relationship diversity and alternative relationship structures. Working with a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist may help clients respect their own challenges and improve identity-affirming treatment.