Emotionally Focused Counselling in Edgware

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Sharon Zeidman
Psychotherapist, MBACP
Verified Verified
Edgware HA8
Hi, Im Sharon Zeidman an accredited Psychotherapist dedicated to guiding individuals through their well-being journeys with empathy, compassion, and professional expertise. I provide a safe and supportive environment for clients to improve their emotional, psychological, and behavioural well-being. A space where your thoughts and feelings can be shared without fear of judgment. I work in a person centred and relational manner-we work on what is important and meaningful to You. This could be personal growth, issues causing relationship strain or any other mental health concerns.
Hi, Im Sharon Zeidman an accredited Psychotherapist dedicated to guiding individuals through their well-being journeys with empathy, compassion, and professional expertise. I provide a safe and supportive environment for clients to improve their emotional, psychological, and behavioural well-being. A space where your thoughts and feelings can be shared without fear of judgment. I work in a person centred and relational manner-we work on what is important and meaningful to You. This could be personal growth, issues causing relationship strain or any other mental health concerns.
020 4572 1711 View 020 4572 1711
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Dianne McCormick
Psychologist, MA, HCPC - Clin. Psych.
Verified Verified
Online Only
"Dianne helped my husband and I bridge seemingly impossible gaps in our understanding of each other and ability to communicate despite considerable differences. Dianne took us from a place where we encountered apparently unresolvable emotional blockages daily, from a place of frustration and chronic misunderstanding to a place where we were able to appreciate each other's feelings and show love to one another increasingly unreservedly. She was skilfully professional, without ever faltering in compassion or humanity. She has given us the tools we needed to succeed in our marriage and we are hugely grateful for her help. " Annon
"Dianne helped my husband and I bridge seemingly impossible gaps in our understanding of each other and ability to communicate despite considerable differences. Dianne took us from a place where we encountered apparently unresolvable emotional blockages daily, from a place of frustration and chronic misunderstanding to a place where we were able to appreciate each other's feelings and show love to one another increasingly unreservedly. She was skilfully professional, without ever faltering in compassion or humanity. She has given us the tools we needed to succeed in our marriage and we are hugely grateful for her help. " Annon
082 492 0090 View 082 492 0090
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Roxanne Blumgart
Counsellor, BACP
Verified Verified
Serves Area
Life is not always easy and there may be certain times where you feel stuck, unsupported, overwhelmed or confused. Perhaps a recent occurrence has caused you to feel emotional, or perhaps something from the past keeps revisiting but you cannot face it alone. Whatever your reason for seeking counselling, here you can feel free to explore your feelings at your own pace in a safe, non-judgmental environment, and can arrive at a place where you can better manage them. Through the therapy you can build resilience and emerge with a better understanding of yourself and feel happier and more comfortable within yourself.
Life is not always easy and there may be certain times where you feel stuck, unsupported, overwhelmed or confused. Perhaps a recent occurrence has caused you to feel emotional, or perhaps something from the past keeps revisiting but you cannot face it alone. Whatever your reason for seeking counselling, here you can feel free to explore your feelings at your own pace in a safe, non-judgmental environment, and can arrive at a place where you can better manage them. Through the therapy you can build resilience and emerge with a better understanding of yourself and feel happier and more comfortable within yourself.
07446 898255 View 07446 898255
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Elizabeth Stennett
Psychotherapist, MSc, MUKCP
Verified Verified
Serves Area
My clients are individuals, couples and families who are in search of effective tools and strategies to address any communication and relationship difficulties which may be leaving them feeling stuck, overwhelmed and unhappy. I have several years of experience of work in private & public sector settings, particularly with children and families & high performing professionals. I also have a particular interest in providing neuro-affirming therapy and coaching to anyone who maybe grappling with difficulties related to neurodiversity. Some of these include Autism, ADHD, ADD, Sensory Processing Difficulties, Dyslexia & Dyspraxia.
My clients are individuals, couples and families who are in search of effective tools and strategies to address any communication and relationship difficulties which may be leaving them feeling stuck, overwhelmed and unhappy. I have several years of experience of work in private & public sector settings, particularly with children and families & high performing professionals. I also have a particular interest in providing neuro-affirming therapy and coaching to anyone who maybe grappling with difficulties related to neurodiversity. Some of these include Autism, ADHD, ADD, Sensory Processing Difficulties, Dyslexia & Dyspraxia.
01923 961263 View 01923 961263
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Dr Mana Barnett
Psychologist, HCPC - Couns. Psych.
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Serves Area
Empathy, warmth, and curiosity are human qualities I very much value. They are central to the way I work as a therapist, enabling me to foster strong therapeutic relationships in a safe, confidential space where clients can feel understood and supported. I work collaboratively with my clients to help them gain a deeper understanding of themselves, their experiences and difficulties, and to facilitate an authentic engagement with the process of growth and meaningful change. In recognising that each person and their lived experience is unique, I strive to maintain an open and curious attitude rather than being guided by assumptions
Empathy, warmth, and curiosity are human qualities I very much value. They are central to the way I work as a therapist, enabling me to foster strong therapeutic relationships in a safe, confidential space where clients can feel understood and supported. I work collaboratively with my clients to help them gain a deeper understanding of themselves, their experiences and difficulties, and to facilitate an authentic engagement with the process of growth and meaningful change. In recognising that each person and their lived experience is unique, I strive to maintain an open and curious attitude rather than being guided by assumptions
020 3984 9044 View 020 3984 9044

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The Love Clinic-Family, Couple, Individual Therapy
Psychotherapist, MBACP Accred
Verified Verified
Chertsey KT16
I am BACP Accredited and Internationally Certified as an Emotionally Focused Individual, Couple & Family Therapist and Love & Life Breakthrough Coach.
Welcome to TLC. I am Andrea Tibbitts, a family and romantic Relationship Therapist and Coach. My heart and my expertise is for you to break painful recurring relational cycles and live a life you love. Whether it is a raw spot you keep landing on with your children, or your partner, or unhappiness within you, TLC is here for you. Maybe you are longing to restore relational harmony and connection but you are stuck in communication breakdown, escalating conflict, intimacy issues, growing distance or distress. Maybe you feel alone and sad about the disconnection from those you love, then this is your invitation to 'come home to happy'.
I am BACP Accredited and Internationally Certified as an Emotionally Focused Individual, Couple & Family Therapist and Love & Life Breakthrough Coach.
Welcome to TLC. I am Andrea Tibbitts, a family and romantic Relationship Therapist and Coach. My heart and my expertise is for you to break painful recurring relational cycles and live a life you love. Whether it is a raw spot you keep landing on with your children, or your partner, or unhappiness within you, TLC is here for you. Maybe you are longing to restore relational harmony and connection but you are stuck in communication breakdown, escalating conflict, intimacy issues, growing distance or distress. Maybe you feel alone and sad about the disconnection from those you love, then this is your invitation to 'come home to happy'.
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Mila Palma | EFT Therapist | Clinical Supervisor
Psychotherapist, MA, MUKCP
Verified Verified
Online Only
I'm a Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist (EFCT) and Individual Therapist (EFIT).
I work with couples in crisis wanting to re-establish an emotional connection with each other, or perhaps repair and re-establish trust after an affair. I also work with individuals experiencing high levels of anxiety and stress in their lives, relationship difficulties, depression, isolation and meaninglessness, loss, as well as people recovering from traumatic events, including narcissistic abuse. I have a specialism in working with cross-cultural couples and expats (abroad and in the UK); I also have first-hand experience, being part of a cross-cultural family and having lived half of my life away from my country of birth.
I'm a Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist (EFCT) and Individual Therapist (EFIT).
I work with couples in crisis wanting to re-establish an emotional connection with each other, or perhaps repair and re-establish trust after an affair. I also work with individuals experiencing high levels of anxiety and stress in their lives, relationship difficulties, depression, isolation and meaninglessness, loss, as well as people recovering from traumatic events, including narcissistic abuse. I have a specialism in working with cross-cultural couples and expats (abroad and in the UK); I also have first-hand experience, being part of a cross-cultural family and having lived half of my life away from my country of birth.
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Melanie Menell
Psychotherapist, PsychD, MUKCP
Verified Verified
London W2
I use EFT and energy psychotherapy.
Welcome. If you are in distress, not sure where to turn, or you may be feeling lonely, in need of a safe space to just be. Please know that however difficult it has been to reach out, that you are now beginning a process to alleviate the suffering and pain you might be currently experiencing. Whether that's depression, anxiety, grief, loss, bereavement, abuse, or just feeling bewildered, deflated by life, I offer a compassionate and safe space to talk. I will walk alongside you in the process of self discovery. Anyone and everyone welcome.ie inclusivity around race, gender, sexuality or age is important to me.
I use EFT and energy psychotherapy.
Welcome. If you are in distress, not sure where to turn, or you may be feeling lonely, in need of a safe space to just be. Please know that however difficult it has been to reach out, that you are now beginning a process to alleviate the suffering and pain you might be currently experiencing. Whether that's depression, anxiety, grief, loss, bereavement, abuse, or just feeling bewildered, deflated by life, I offer a compassionate and safe space to talk. I will walk alongside you in the process of self discovery. Anyone and everyone welcome.ie inclusivity around race, gender, sexuality or age is important to me.
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Luiza Neumayer
Psychotherapist, MSc, HCPC-Couns. Psych.
Verified Verified
London W1U
I’m also a Certified EFT Couples therapist.
Hello and welcome. I’m here to help you find the inner strengths you need to unblock what’s troubling you and move on with your life. My clients tell me I’m warm, kind and insightful – which is good, because my main aim is to offer a safe, welcoming place where you feel willing and able to consider making changes. Most of us aren’t used to reaching out for professional support. We’re brought up to think asking for help can be a sign of weakness. But whatever you’re facing, working together with a professional therapist can let you see a way forward.
I’m also a Certified EFT Couples therapist.
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Re-connect EFT Clinic
Psychotherapist, MSc, MUKCP
Verified Verified
London W1K
As skilled practitioners specialising in the renowned Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), we offer compassionate expert guidance towards reconnection, healing and greater life success.
By seeking therapy you have already taken the first step towards change. Our role is to help guide you in your journey towards a brighter future and to carry hope that things will get better even in times when you may struggle to see the path ahead of you.
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By seeking therapy you have already taken the first step towards change. Our role is to help guide you in your journey towards a brighter future and to carry hope that things will get better even in times when you may struggle to see the path ahead of you.
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Kate-Marie Travis
Psychotherapist, MSc, MUKCP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
London E2
There are many other approaches such as solution focused, emotionally focused and attachment narrative
I have a rich 22 years of experience specialising in children, families, couples, and individuals facing diverse relational, personal, and mental health challenges (inc: anorexia, depression, anxiety, bipolar, EUDP, personality disorders, and schizophrenia). I bring sensitivity and curiosity to navigate these complexities. I strive to be your ally in understanding and overcoming challenges, fostering a safe and flexible space where your unique needs are met. Together, we'll embark on a transformative journey, embracing diversity and cultural nuances. Your goals are my priority.
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Dr Ada Siu
Psychologist, PsychD, HCPC - Health Psych.
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
London SE1
I enjoy working under a holistic care approach while integrating mixed therapy modalities such as CBT, ACT, CFT, EFT, and Mindfulness-based approaches.
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I enjoy working under a holistic care approach while integrating mixed therapy modalities such as CBT, ACT, CFT, EFT, and Mindfulness-based approaches.
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Dr Aoiffe Kilcommons, Happiness in Mind.
Psychologist, PsychD, HCPC - Clin. Psych.
Verified Verified
Serves Area
She is also EFT Level II, Voice Dialogue & Reiki trained.
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Luka Hadrych
Psychotherapist, MSc, MBACP
Verified Verified
London N1
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Philomena Chipman
Counsellor, MBACP Accred
Verified Verified
London E18
I am person centered, integrative therapist and am trained in Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy.
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Manuel Navarro
Psychotherapist, MUKCP
Verified Verified
Online Only
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Counsellor, PsychD, BACP
Verified Verified
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EMDR, PSYCH-K, CBT, EFT, Bach flowers, Homeopathy
Psychotherapist, MSc, GMBPsS
Verified Verified
London EC4N
, Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapy CBT, EFT, Mindfulness.
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Nicola J Foster
Psychotherapist, COSRT General
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Online Only
I draw on the work of Sue Johnson's Emotionally Focused Therapy ' EFT' and I am also trained in the Developmental Model with Ellyn Bader.
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Jamie Chan
Psychologist, HCPC - Couns. Psych.
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
London W1S
Core modalities I use: CBT, DBT, CFT, ACT, EFT, Solutions focused, Integrative, Interpersonal, Psychotherapy
5 star reviews and testimonials from over 15 years. In person sessions available in my Central London clinic now.
Core modalities I use: CBT, DBT, CFT, ACT, EFT, Solutions focused, Integrative, Interpersonal, Psychotherapy
5 star reviews and testimonials from over 15 years. In person sessions available in my Central London clinic now.
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Emotionally Focused Counsellors

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.