Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counselling in Dorking
Do you feel called to work through the depths? I provide somatic trauma resolution and deep healing, helping you navigate the depths of your being, guiding you back home to your full aliveness and vitality. I work with people who feel numb or disconnected to life, unable to move through what is holding them back. Through a creative, empathic space I help you to lovingly meet your shadows, express what has been suppressed, reconnect to your intuition and wisdom and reclaim the joy, love, passion and creativity that has been thwarted. This work is life changing and truly transformational.
Do you feel called to work through the depths? I provide somatic trauma resolution and deep healing, helping you navigate the depths of your being, guiding you back home to your full aliveness and vitality. I work with people who feel numb or disconnected to life, unable to move through what is holding them back. Through a creative, empathic space I help you to lovingly meet your shadows, express what has been suppressed, reconnect to your intuition and wisdom and reclaim the joy, love, passion and creativity that has been thwarted. This work is life changing and truly transformational.
Hello, my name is Gagan. I want to support you on your therapy journey. My approach will enable you to share and explore parts of your identity and difficult or traumatic life experiences. Alongside my expertise in working with common mental health difficulties, I have a special interest in helping people talk about areas such as relationships, sex, sexuality, race, and culture.
Hello, my name is Gagan. I want to support you on your therapy journey. My approach will enable you to share and explore parts of your identity and difficult or traumatic life experiences. Alongside my expertise in working with common mental health difficulties, I have a special interest in helping people talk about areas such as relationships, sex, sexuality, race, and culture.
If you are dealing with a relationship break up or seeking help to address personal issues it can feel difficult to know where to start. I guarantee you a friendly, safe and non judgemental environment to explore and work through whatever is proving problematic - whether online or face to face . I listen to what YOU would like to achieve from our time together and explore what YOU feel is most relevant in each session. I use both traditional and creative therapeutic methods and will be guided by what suits you the best. Please feel free to contact me to discuss your needs in complete confidence.
I am currently taking on new clients.
If you are dealing with a relationship break up or seeking help to address personal issues it can feel difficult to know where to start. I guarantee you a friendly, safe and non judgemental environment to explore and work through whatever is proving problematic - whether online or face to face . I listen to what YOU would like to achieve from our time together and explore what YOU feel is most relevant in each session. I use both traditional and creative therapeutic methods and will be guided by what suits you the best. Please feel free to contact me to discuss your needs in complete confidence.
I am currently taking on new clients.
I am a caring, kind, compassionate and easy to talk to therapist. I work with you to support you in exploring your difficulties and goals. I will provide a safe, confidential environment. in-person or online, to talk about and work on any worries, issues or thoughts affecting you. The time we spend together will be responsive to and guided by you. I don't shy away from challenge in helping you explore and understand yourself, your thoughts and actions but do this always in a gentle, collaborative investigative way, helping you to challenge and understand yourself. Therapy will be directed towards your goals, aims and wishes.
I am a caring, kind, compassionate and easy to talk to therapist. I work with you to support you in exploring your difficulties and goals. I will provide a safe, confidential environment. in-person or online, to talk about and work on any worries, issues or thoughts affecting you. The time we spend together will be responsive to and guided by you. I don't shy away from challenge in helping you explore and understand yourself, your thoughts and actions but do this always in a gentle, collaborative investigative way, helping you to challenge and understand yourself. Therapy will be directed towards your goals, aims and wishes.
Hello and welcome. I am a HCPC-registered Clinical Psychologist who has over 15 years experience working with individuals and couples to support mental health and relational well-being. I specialise in working with people who have had difficult early experiences, including trauma, that continue to impact them and their ways of relating to others as adults.
I believe understanding ourselves and our ways of relating to others is the first step in creating change, and that, from here, we can move towards processing and healing past traumas, and developing new skills and strategies to transform ourselves and our relationships.
Hello and welcome. I am a HCPC-registered Clinical Psychologist who has over 15 years experience working with individuals and couples to support mental health and relational well-being. I specialise in working with people who have had difficult early experiences, including trauma, that continue to impact them and their ways of relating to others as adults.
I believe understanding ourselves and our ways of relating to others is the first step in creating change, and that, from here, we can move towards processing and healing past traumas, and developing new skills and strategies to transform ourselves and our relationships.
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My counselling process is client focused and tailored. You and your personal journey are unique, therefore there is no "one size fits all" approach in my therapy space. Although I have had a long and varied education into counselling, psychology and social forces, I remain convinced by a fact that I learned on the first day of my degree... It is often not the method of counselling which predicts a benefit to our clients, but the relationship between client and practitioner. I prioritise building trust and a sense of safety that healing can bed into and thrive in.
My counselling process is client focused and tailored. You and your personal journey are unique, therefore there is no "one size fits all" approach in my therapy space. Although I have had a long and varied education into counselling, psychology and social forces, I remain convinced by a fact that I learned on the first day of my degree... It is often not the method of counselling which predicts a benefit to our clients, but the relationship between client and practitioner. I prioritise building trust and a sense of safety that healing can bed into and thrive in.
I offer a warm, sex-positive and soul-aligned space where you can speak openly and be fully yourself.
Whatever has brought you here, you’re already taking a step towards understanding yourself more deeply. You may feel things intensely and reflect a lot, but still find it hard to make sense of what’s happening right now. You may notice yourself going round in familiar patterns that leave you feeling stuck, ashamed, or disconnected from others and from yourself. Maybe you’re questioning aspects of identity, desire, sex and intimacy, and wanting more clarity, confidence, and ease in how you show up. At heart, you want to feel more alive, more connected with intuition, more at home in yourself, in your body, and in your relationships.
I offer a warm, sex-positive and soul-aligned space where you can speak openly and be fully yourself.
Whatever has brought you here, you’re already taking a step towards understanding yourself more deeply. You may feel things intensely and reflect a lot, but still find it hard to make sense of what’s happening right now. You may notice yourself going round in familiar patterns that leave you feeling stuck, ashamed, or disconnected from others and from yourself. Maybe you’re questioning aspects of identity, desire, sex and intimacy, and wanting more clarity, confidence, and ease in how you show up. At heart, you want to feel more alive, more connected with intuition, more at home in yourself, in your body, and in your relationships.
Much of my practice is working with folks in the LGBTQIA, psychedelic, activist, kink, neurodiverse and/or polyamory communities.
Counselling with me offers a space of radical acceptance to explore your beliefs, your experiences of the world, and who you are. Together, we will co-create a space to experiment with new ways of being. Or a place to integrate or challenge yourself. Or simply some time and space to be heard, and get curious about the meaning of your life (past, present, future).
I work with a wide range of people and you are welcome to get in touch if my profile resonates with you. Often, I work with activists, the LGBTQIA+ community, kinky people, poly people, neurodiverse people, outsiders and edge-walkers (and more).
Much of my practice is working with folks in the LGBTQIA, psychedelic, activist, kink, neurodiverse and/or polyamory communities.
Counselling with me offers a space of radical acceptance to explore your beliefs, your experiences of the world, and who you are. Together, we will co-create a space to experiment with new ways of being. Or a place to integrate or challenge yourself. Or simply some time and space to be heard, and get curious about the meaning of your life (past, present, future).
I work with a wide range of people and you are welcome to get in touch if my profile resonates with you. Often, I work with activists, the LGBTQIA+ community, kinky people, poly people, neurodiverse people, outsiders and edge-walkers (and more).
I am a psychosexually-informed humanistic counsellor, offering support to individual adults with a diverse range of concerns. Human beings are fundamentally social creatures, shaped by core relationships during childhood and beyond. Together, we can explore how you relate to yourself and others, helping identify patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving that you would like to challenge in order to enjoy more fulfilling relationships. I offer a warm, safe and accepting space for becoming curious about how it feels to be you right now. Whatever you choose to share will be met with compassion and sensitivity.
I am a psychosexually-informed humanistic counsellor, offering support to individual adults with a diverse range of concerns. Human beings are fundamentally social creatures, shaped by core relationships during childhood and beyond. Together, we can explore how you relate to yourself and others, helping identify patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving that you would like to challenge in order to enjoy more fulfilling relationships. I offer a warm, safe and accepting space for becoming curious about how it feels to be you right now. Whatever you choose to share will be met with compassion and sensitivity.
While I work in other areas, I specialise in intimacy issues including sex and kink positivity, sex addiction and mens work.
You may feel stuck in repeating cycles—around addiction, relationships, or intimacy—even though you understand your patterns and genuinely want things to change. Shame, attachment wounds, or codependency often sit underneath, leaving you longing for connection, self-acceptance, and a sense of freedom. Many of the people I work with feel tired of looking outside themselves for answers and are ready to begin a more grounded, authentic kind of healing.
Most people come to therapy feeling unsure or ambivalent — often that’s exactly where meaningful change begins....
While I work in other areas, I specialise in intimacy issues including sex and kink positivity, sex addiction and mens work.
You may feel stuck in repeating cycles—around addiction, relationships, or intimacy—even though you understand your patterns and genuinely want things to change. Shame, attachment wounds, or codependency often sit underneath, leaving you longing for connection, self-acceptance, and a sense of freedom. Many of the people I work with feel tired of looking outside themselves for answers and are ready to begin a more grounded, authentic kind of healing.
Most people come to therapy feeling unsure or ambivalent — often that’s exactly where meaningful change begins....
I am also kink-aware and sex positive.
Hello, I’m Rebecca. I will be by your side as you explore whatever you wish to share, accepting all parts of you and bringing all parts of myself. As a person-centred therapist I offer a space that is non-judgemental, open and supportive. I offer you space that is just for you, to have the time to be heard and express yourself. I'm passionate about social justice and embed this in my practice, curious about how your identities and life experiences are felt and perceived. Here, you are welcome and accepted.
I am also kink-aware and sex positive.
Hello, I’m Rebecca. I will be by your side as you explore whatever you wish to share, accepting all parts of you and bringing all parts of myself. As a person-centred therapist I offer a space that is non-judgemental, open and supportive. I offer you space that is just for you, to have the time to be heard and express yourself. I'm passionate about social justice and embed this in my practice, curious about how your identities and life experiences are felt and perceived. Here, you are welcome and accepted.
I would like to help you. As a bisexual woman, I know the challenges of navigating identity and sexuality. That is why I approach every story with an open mind and empathic curiosity. I will engage you from a non-pathologizing, sex-positive, gender-affirming stance, so that you may embrace every part of yourself. I provide individual and couples therapy, as well as sessions for those in alternative relationships. Together we can navigate our way through your relationship and personal challenges, overcome cultural limitations that seek to restrict us, and ultimately find inner joy during times when it appears out of reach.
I would like to help you. As a bisexual woman, I know the challenges of navigating identity and sexuality. That is why I approach every story with an open mind and empathic curiosity. I will engage you from a non-pathologizing, sex-positive, gender-affirming stance, so that you may embrace every part of yourself. I provide individual and couples therapy, as well as sessions for those in alternative relationships. Together we can navigate our way through your relationship and personal challenges, overcome cultural limitations that seek to restrict us, and ultimately find inner joy during times when it appears out of reach.
Working with myself, we will explore the most important relationship you will ever have, the one with yourself.
Working with myself, we will explore the most important relationship you will ever have, the one with yourself.
I'm Byrd, a pluralistic therapist offering counselling therapy sessions for adults, rooted in radical empathy. My approach is laid back, candid, collaborative and consent driven. I offer a non-judgemental space for you to come exactly as you are and be met with compassion, understanding and care. I bring my full self, so you can bring yours, to a space for open exploration, collaborative processing and healing. To me, therapy is about us working together for you to better understand yourself, and find ways to navigate challenges.
I'm Byrd, a pluralistic therapist offering counselling therapy sessions for adults, rooted in radical empathy. My approach is laid back, candid, collaborative and consent driven. I offer a non-judgemental space for you to come exactly as you are and be met with compassion, understanding and care. I bring my full self, so you can bring yours, to a space for open exploration, collaborative processing and healing. To me, therapy is about us working together for you to better understand yourself, and find ways to navigate challenges.
I am sex-positive and kink-aware.
I offer individual psychotherapy for adults, with a particular interest in psychologically complex and often hard-to-speak-about experiences. My work commonly involves shame, guilt, and self-criticism; patterns that repeat despite insight or effort; sexuality, desire, and taboo; the impact of sexual harm; sexual behaviour that feels troubling or conflicted; questions of gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity; and difficulties in relationships and intimacy. My approach is exploratory, and suited to people who want to think more deeply about what is troubling them.
I am sex-positive and kink-aware.
I offer individual psychotherapy for adults, with a particular interest in psychologically complex and often hard-to-speak-about experiences. My work commonly involves shame, guilt, and self-criticism; patterns that repeat despite insight or effort; sexuality, desire, and taboo; the impact of sexual harm; sexual behaviour that feels troubling or conflicted; questions of gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity; and difficulties in relationships and intimacy. My approach is exploratory, and suited to people who want to think more deeply about what is troubling them.
Many people carry deep emotions like shame or fear, or feel stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns. By exploring the unconscious and reflecting on past and present relationships, we can uncover insights to help with life’s challenges. I have experience with LGBTQIA+ clients and those from multicultural backgrounds, dealing with issues such as relationship problems, anxiety, depression, trauma, and identity. Counselling can offer a safe yet challenging space to explore and gain clarity, whether you have specific concerns or are unsure of the cause.
Many people carry deep emotions like shame or fear, or feel stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns. By exploring the unconscious and reflecting on past and present relationships, we can uncover insights to help with life’s challenges. I have experience with LGBTQIA+ clients and those from multicultural backgrounds, dealing with issues such as relationship problems, anxiety, depression, trauma, and identity. Counselling can offer a safe yet challenging space to explore and gain clarity, whether you have specific concerns or are unsure of the cause.
Perhaps you're carrying shame about your sexuality or kink life, navigating the emotional landscape of a BDSM dynamic, or simply longing for a space where you don't have to edit yourself before walking in.
I offer a non-judgmental and anti-oppressive space where your whole self is welcome. Drawing on psychodynamic and person-centred approaches, I work with curiosity and care to help you explore desire, identity, and relationship, alongside anxiety, disconnection, or whatever else you're carrying.
Perhaps you're carrying shame about your sexuality or kink life, navigating the emotional landscape of a BDSM dynamic, or simply longing for a space where you don't have to edit yourself before walking in.
I offer a non-judgmental and anti-oppressive space where your whole self is welcome. Drawing on psychodynamic and person-centred approaches, I work with curiosity and care to help you explore desire, identity, and relationship, alongside anxiety, disconnection, or whatever else you're carrying.
I also welcome people at the intersection of queerness, kink, and alternative subcultures.
In invite you to contact me to speak confidentially about anything that you feel you need at this point in your life.
This could be difficulties in your everyday life or with others. This could be thoughts, feelings, or sensations that are too much. This could be a lack of desire or enjoyment in life. This could be a loss or a destabilising event. This could also be a question about yourself, which you wish to explore in a non-judgemental space.
I welcome people of all ethnicities, cultures, and alternative subcultures; and people of all genders, sexual orientations, types of relationships, and sexual activities.
I also welcome people at the intersection of queerness, kink, and alternative subcultures.
In invite you to contact me to speak confidentially about anything that you feel you need at this point in your life.
This could be difficulties in your everyday life or with others. This could be thoughts, feelings, or sensations that are too much. This could be a lack of desire or enjoyment in life. This could be a loss or a destabilising event. This could also be a question about yourself, which you wish to explore in a non-judgemental space.
I welcome people of all ethnicities, cultures, and alternative subcultures; and people of all genders, sexual orientations, types of relationships, and sexual activities.
Updated August 2026 - I have space for two people, queer or straight, who want to know and understand their sex, sexuality, desires and intimate relationships better.
I consider it a sign of bravery that you’re thinking about coming to see me for therapy. We all experience difficult and painful things in life and we all need other people to lean on, to help us through some of the more painful or challenging situations or to help us grow into kind, loving people. Working together, you'll move towards feeling better and showing up differently in the world. Together, life can get brighter.
Updated August 2026 - I have space for two people, queer or straight, who want to know and understand their sex, sexuality, desires and intimate relationships better.
I consider it a sign of bravery that you’re thinking about coming to see me for therapy. We all experience difficult and painful things in life and we all need other people to lean on, to help us through some of the more painful or challenging situations or to help us grow into kind, loving people. Working together, you'll move towards feeling better and showing up differently in the world. Together, life can get brighter.
You feel different, and you have for a long time. You have carried silence, or shame, or questions that never quite let go. Many of the people I work with are queer, neurodiverse, or moving through change that feels heavier than they let on. Together we step outside the box of just talking. We cannot always think our way out of what hurts, we have to feel it, move with it, and live our way into something new. I work online, wherever you are in the UK. If you are ready for a space that welcomes the whole of you, I offer a free 15 minute consultation. As Tagore wrote, the butterfly counts not months but moments, and has time enough.
You feel different, and you have for a long time. You have carried silence, or shame, or questions that never quite let go. Many of the people I work with are queer, neurodiverse, or moving through change that feels heavier than they let on. Together we step outside the box of just talking. We cannot always think our way out of what hurts, we have to feel it, move with it, and live our way into something new. I work online, wherever you are in the UK. If you are ready for a space that welcomes the whole of you, I offer a free 15 minute consultation. As Tagore wrote, the butterfly counts not months but moments, and has time enough.
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Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counsellors
Why might an individual want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
A sex-positive or kinky individual may want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist because the client may feel safer and more supported discussing their experiences and challenges. A therapist who identifies as kink-friendly will have experience with clients having diverse sexual preferences and will likely be nonjudgmental and supportive about issues brought to the table. It is important to note that sex-positive, kink-allied individuals may find equal success with therapists who do not have such specialised knowledge and background. The most important factor in the success of therapy is for the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in sex-positive, kink-allied treatment?
Generally, no. There are limited training programs and unofficial accreditations that therapists can pursue, but a therapist’s expertise will ultimately come from their previous experience with similar clients, their engagement with organisations that promote sex positivity or kink-allied lifestyles, and the importance they place on safety and cultural sensitivity.
How can individuals recognise a good sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
An experienced therapist is able to help clients explore their sexual identity and expression and relieve any discomfort or stigma attached to discussing such matters and the client’s overall challenges. A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-allied is able to create an environment that honors a client’s experience and sexual preferences. To recognise a good therapist, clients can simply ask directly about topics and issues important to them and gauge their comfort level and connection with a clinician based on the responses.
Can clients benefit from having a therapist with a focus on sex positivity and alternative sexual lifestyles?
Some individuals may feel most comfortable knowing that the clinician they’re working with has a commitment to creating an atmosphere of sex positivity and has experience with relationship diversity and alternative relationship structures. Working with a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist may help clients respect their own challenges and improve identity-affirming treatment.