Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counselling in Cobham
We are a multi-award winning psychological therapies clinic based in Cobham offering fast and effective, evidence-based treatment to support people of all ages and with a variety of mental health difficulties. Our team consists of clinical and counselling psychologists, psychotherapists, an ADHD coach and family therapy. Our beautiful clinic rooms offer a tranquil setting for your sessions. We know the value of the therapeutic relationship and think that it is vital to find a therapist you 'click' with. Our team are personable, warm and empathetic which has helped many people overcome the difficulties holding them back in life.
We are a multi-award winning psychological therapies clinic based in Cobham offering fast and effective, evidence-based treatment to support people of all ages and with a variety of mental health difficulties. Our team consists of clinical and counselling psychologists, psychotherapists, an ADHD coach and family therapy. Our beautiful clinic rooms offer a tranquil setting for your sessions. We know the value of the therapeutic relationship and think that it is vital to find a therapist you 'click' with. Our team are personable, warm and empathetic which has helped many people overcome the difficulties holding them back in life.
Are you feeling anxious? Depressed? Low self-esteem? I offer a safe space to adults and adolescents, free of judgement, where shame, embarrassment, sadness and anger are welcome. I (she/her) am a trained integrative psychotherapeutic counsellor, ecopsychotherapist and practising artist. I will answer your questions and also challenge you. I work with grief, relationships, divorce, life direction, stress, burnout, trauma, attachment, creative blocks, insecurity, intimacy, abuse, sexuality, OCD, religion, body issues, family problems, money, spiritual disconnection, psychedelic integration, retirement and living abroad.
Are you feeling anxious? Depressed? Low self-esteem? I offer a safe space to adults and adolescents, free of judgement, where shame, embarrassment, sadness and anger are welcome. I (she/her) am a trained integrative psychotherapeutic counsellor, ecopsychotherapist and practising artist. I will answer your questions and also challenge you. I work with grief, relationships, divorce, life direction, stress, burnout, trauma, attachment, creative blocks, insecurity, intimacy, abuse, sexuality, OCD, religion, body issues, family problems, money, spiritual disconnection, psychedelic integration, retirement and living abroad.
Specialising in men’s issues, including sex problems (erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, sex addiction / sexual compulsions, and problematic pornography use / porn addiction); sexual abuse; trauma and PTSD; intrusive sexual thoughts; anger issues; anxiety; depression; adjusting to a physical health condition; relationship issues; stress; sexuality and more. I am a chartered clinical psychologist and EMDR therapist with over 15 years NHS experience of working in mental health and now work full time in private practice online.
Specialising in men’s issues, including sex problems (erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, sex addiction / sexual compulsions, and problematic pornography use / porn addiction); sexual abuse; trauma and PTSD; intrusive sexual thoughts; anger issues; anxiety; depression; adjusting to a physical health condition; relationship issues; stress; sexuality and more. I am a chartered clinical psychologist and EMDR therapist with over 15 years NHS experience of working in mental health and now work full time in private practice online.
Have you always felt different from other people? Maybe your mind never stops analysing, you get overwhelmed faster than others, or you’ve spent years masking just to fit in. You might be highly sensitive, autistic, ADHD, queer, or childfree, or simply someone who doesn’t have a "standard" way of life. From the outside it looks like you’ve got it all together, but you’ve started wondering if life really has to feel this hard.
Have you always felt different from other people? Maybe your mind never stops analysing, you get overwhelmed faster than others, or you’ve spent years masking just to fit in. You might be highly sensitive, autistic, ADHD, queer, or childfree, or simply someone who doesn’t have a "standard" way of life. From the outside it looks like you’ve got it all together, but you’ve started wondering if life really has to feel this hard.
Hello and welcome. I am a HCPC-registered Clinical Psychologist who has over 15 years experience working with individuals and couples to support mental health and relational well-being. I specialise in working with people who have had difficult early experiences, including trauma, that continue to impact them and their ways of relating to others as adults.
I believe understanding ourselves and our ways of relating to others is the first step in creating change, and that, from here, we can move towards processing and healing past traumas, and developing new skills and strategies to transform ourselves and our relationships.
Hello and welcome. I am a HCPC-registered Clinical Psychologist who has over 15 years experience working with individuals and couples to support mental health and relational well-being. I specialise in working with people who have had difficult early experiences, including trauma, that continue to impact them and their ways of relating to others as adults.
I believe understanding ourselves and our ways of relating to others is the first step in creating change, and that, from here, we can move towards processing and healing past traumas, and developing new skills and strategies to transform ourselves and our relationships.
Most of us, at some time or another, will experience difficulties with our thoughts, feelings, behaviour or relationships. Some of us might experience physical symptoms for which our GP can find no organic cause. Almost all of us want to get the most out of life. This is where I can help. I am a Senior Consultant Counselling Psychologist Specialising in Psychotherapy. I am Chartered by the British Psychological Society (BPS) and Registered with the Health and Care Professions Council (HCPC).
Most of us, at some time or another, will experience difficulties with our thoughts, feelings, behaviour or relationships. Some of us might experience physical symptoms for which our GP can find no organic cause. Almost all of us want to get the most out of life. This is where I can help. I am a Senior Consultant Counselling Psychologist Specialising in Psychotherapy. I am Chartered by the British Psychological Society (BPS) and Registered with the Health and Care Professions Council (HCPC).
In a confidential, welcoming space, we talk about sex. I offer a safe, compassionate place to talk about intimacy, relationships, sexual behaviours, erotic and sexual orientations, sexual bodies, and real vs. fantasised experiences. We look for a positive way forward to deal with something that feels stuck or unmanageable, in a therapy space that welcomes and understands sexual differences and experiences, and treats you with respect.
In a confidential, welcoming space, we talk about sex. I offer a safe, compassionate place to talk about intimacy, relationships, sexual behaviours, erotic and sexual orientations, sexual bodies, and real vs. fantasised experiences. We look for a positive way forward to deal with something that feels stuck or unmanageable, in a therapy space that welcomes and understands sexual differences and experiences, and treats you with respect.
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While I work in other areas, I specialise in intimacy issues including sex and kink positivity, sex addiction and mens work.
You may feel stuck in repeating cycles—around addiction, relationships, or intimacy—even though you understand your patterns and genuinely want things to change. Shame, attachment wounds, or codependency often sit underneath, leaving you longing for connection, self-acceptance, and a sense of freedom. Many of the people I work with feel tired of looking outside themselves for answers and are ready to begin a more grounded, authentic kind of healing.
Most people come to therapy feeling unsure or ambivalent — often that’s exactly where meaningful change begins....
While I work in other areas, I specialise in intimacy issues including sex and kink positivity, sex addiction and mens work.
You may feel stuck in repeating cycles—around addiction, relationships, or intimacy—even though you understand your patterns and genuinely want things to change. Shame, attachment wounds, or codependency often sit underneath, leaving you longing for connection, self-acceptance, and a sense of freedom. Many of the people I work with feel tired of looking outside themselves for answers and are ready to begin a more grounded, authentic kind of healing.
Most people come to therapy feeling unsure or ambivalent — often that’s exactly where meaningful change begins....
I’m Saida (she/her), a neurodivergent sex-positive counsellor offering online therapy for adults who want to explore their identity, emotions, experiences and relationships without shame.
My clients often come to therapy after noticing a lack of motivation or feeling disconnected. They may feel overwhelmed by daily pressures, weighed down by anxiety, depression, or trauma, or left questioning their sense of self. Many describe feeling misunderstood, not fitting in, or never feeling “good enough.”
I work with neurodivergent adults (ADHD, autism and AuDHD, diagnosed or exploring), and those navigating questions about identity, relationships, or sexuality. Together, we’ll create a safe space where you can process your past, understand yourself more deeply, and move through life with greater confidence and ease.
I’m Saida (she/her), a neurodivergent sex-positive counsellor offering online therapy for adults who want to explore their identity, emotions, experiences and relationships without shame.
My clients often come to therapy after noticing a lack of motivation or feeling disconnected. They may feel overwhelmed by daily pressures, weighed down by anxiety, depression, or trauma, or left questioning their sense of self. Many describe feeling misunderstood, not fitting in, or never feeling “good enough.”
I work with neurodivergent adults (ADHD, autism and AuDHD, diagnosed or exploring), and those navigating questions about identity, relationships, or sexuality. Together, we’ll create a safe space where you can process your past, understand yourself more deeply, and move through life with greater confidence and ease.
Soho Couples Therapy is a specialist psychotherapy service for LGBTQ+ couples and individuals who are facing relationship challenges. You may be struggling with intimacy, trust, communication, navigating open relationships, or parenting. Sometimes personal struggles, such as anxiety, questions of identity, or past trauma, are hard to negotiate in a partnership and create distance. We can help you understand the deeper dynamics of your relationship, consider what has created the challenges you are experiencing, and explore how to overcome them.
Soho Couples Therapy is a specialist psychotherapy service for LGBTQ+ couples and individuals who are facing relationship challenges. You may be struggling with intimacy, trust, communication, navigating open relationships, or parenting. Sometimes personal struggles, such as anxiety, questions of identity, or past trauma, are hard to negotiate in a partnership and create distance. We can help you understand the deeper dynamics of your relationship, consider what has created the challenges you are experiencing, and explore how to overcome them.
If you are feeling stuck, isolated or overwhelmed in your life I can provide a space where we can work together to gain understanding of what is going on for you and help you find healthier and more positive ways to cope
I am a sex-positive, GDSR, Kink-affirming therapist who supports those exploring their sexualities and desires without shame or judgment.
I work with both couples and individuals navigating sexual, relationship and intimacy difficulties. My work is neuroaffirming, and I support adults exploring life through the lens of neurodivergence (including Autism, ADHD). My approach is non-judgemental, compassionate, and tailored to each individual or couple I work with.
If you are feeling stuck, isolated or overwhelmed in your life I can provide a space where we can work together to gain understanding of what is going on for you and help you find healthier and more positive ways to cope
I am a sex-positive, GDSR, Kink-affirming therapist who supports those exploring their sexualities and desires without shame or judgment.
I work with both couples and individuals navigating sexual, relationship and intimacy difficulties. My work is neuroaffirming, and I support adults exploring life through the lens of neurodivergence (including Autism, ADHD). My approach is non-judgemental, compassionate, and tailored to each individual or couple I work with.
I work with LGBTQ people, those in polyamorous or ethically non-monogamous relationships, and people seeking a sex-positive and kink-affirming therapeutic space.
Perhaps you are struggling with anxiety, low mood, shame, disconnection, or a sense of being stuck in familiar patterns. You may want to understand how earlier experiences continue to shape your relationships, identity, sexuality or intimacy. As a Queer UKCP-registered psychotherapist, I work with adults of all identities, with particular experience supporting LGBTQ+ people and working with Gender, Sexuality and Relationship Diversity (GSRD), sexual health & HIV, and the impact of early relationships and attachment. Together, we can begin to understand not only your current difficulties, but also what may be keeping them in place.
I work with LGBTQ people, those in polyamorous or ethically non-monogamous relationships, and people seeking a sex-positive and kink-affirming therapeutic space.
Perhaps you are struggling with anxiety, low mood, shame, disconnection, or a sense of being stuck in familiar patterns. You may want to understand how earlier experiences continue to shape your relationships, identity, sexuality or intimacy. As a Queer UKCP-registered psychotherapist, I work with adults of all identities, with particular experience supporting LGBTQ+ people and working with Gender, Sexuality and Relationship Diversity (GSRD), sexual health & HIV, and the impact of early relationships and attachment. Together, we can begin to understand not only your current difficulties, but also what may be keeping them in place.
Working with myself, we will explore the most important relationship you will ever have, the one with yourself.
Working with myself, we will explore the most important relationship you will ever have, the one with yourself.
I am also kink-aware and sex positive.
Hello, I’m Rebecca. I will be by your side as you explore whatever you wish to share, accepting all parts of you and bringing all parts of myself. As a person-centred therapist I offer a space that is non-judgemental, open and supportive. I offer you space that is just for you, to have the time to be heard and express yourself. I'm passionate about social justice and embed this in my practice, curious about how your identities and life experiences are felt and perceived. Here, you are welcome and accepted.
I am also kink-aware and sex positive.
Hello, I’m Rebecca. I will be by your side as you explore whatever you wish to share, accepting all parts of you and bringing all parts of myself. As a person-centred therapist I offer a space that is non-judgemental, open and supportive. I offer you space that is just for you, to have the time to be heard and express yourself. I'm passionate about social justice and embed this in my practice, curious about how your identities and life experiences are felt and perceived. Here, you are welcome and accepted.
I am Kink and poly informed and friendly and, whilst these can be a part of a client's life, I know it is not always the reason clients come to therapy.
I specialise in helping individuals with sexual behaviour they feel is compulsive or out of control, including problematic porn use and sex addiction.
I offer an empathic and non-shaming environment to explore what is going in for you. I know how important it is to work at your pace. Of course, I also help with sex problems, including disappointing erections (ED), rapid or delayed ejaculation, as well as low libido.
I am Kink and poly informed and friendly and, whilst these can be a part of a client's life, I know it is not always the reason clients come to therapy.
I specialise in helping individuals with sexual behaviour they feel is compulsive or out of control, including problematic porn use and sex addiction.
I offer an empathic and non-shaming environment to explore what is going in for you. I know how important it is to work at your pace. Of course, I also help with sex problems, including disappointing erections (ED), rapid or delayed ejaculation, as well as low libido.
I also welcome people at the intersection of queerness, kink, and alternative subcultures.
In invite you to contact me to speak confidentially about anything that you feel you need at this point in your life.
This could be difficulties in your everyday life or with others. This could be thoughts, feelings, or sensations that are too much. This could be a lack of desire or enjoyment in life. This could be a loss or a destabilising event. This could also be a question about yourself, which you wish to explore in a non-judgemental space.
I welcome people of all ethnicities, cultures, and alternative subcultures; and people of all genders, sexual orientations, types of relationships, and sexual activities.
I also welcome people at the intersection of queerness, kink, and alternative subcultures.
In invite you to contact me to speak confidentially about anything that you feel you need at this point in your life.
This could be difficulties in your everyday life or with others. This could be thoughts, feelings, or sensations that are too much. This could be a lack of desire or enjoyment in life. This could be a loss or a destabilising event. This could also be a question about yourself, which you wish to explore in a non-judgemental space.
I welcome people of all ethnicities, cultures, and alternative subcultures; and people of all genders, sexual orientations, types of relationships, and sexual activities.
Much of my practice is working with folks in the LGBTQIA, psychedelic, activist, kink, neurodiverse and/or polyamory communities.
Counselling with me offers a space of radical acceptance to explore your beliefs, your experiences of the world, and who you are. Together, we will co-create a space to experiment with new ways of being. Or a place to integrate or challenge yourself. Or simply some time and space to be heard, and get curious about the meaning of your life (past, present, future).
I work with a wide range of people and you are welcome to get in touch if my profile resonates with you. Often, I work with activists, the LGBTQIA+ community, kinky people, poly people, neurodiverse people, outsiders and edge-walkers (and more).
Much of my practice is working with folks in the LGBTQIA, psychedelic, activist, kink, neurodiverse and/or polyamory communities.
Counselling with me offers a space of radical acceptance to explore your beliefs, your experiences of the world, and who you are. Together, we will co-create a space to experiment with new ways of being. Or a place to integrate or challenge yourself. Or simply some time and space to be heard, and get curious about the meaning of your life (past, present, future).
I work with a wide range of people and you are welcome to get in touch if my profile resonates with you. Often, I work with activists, the LGBTQIA+ community, kinky people, poly people, neurodiverse people, outsiders and edge-walkers (and more).
I aim to provide a safe welcoming, non-judgmental space where clients can freely express their thoughts, feelings and truly be heard. I am here to listen to you and help you find the best way forward. I use a collaborative approach where we examine thoughts and feelings from the past and examine how those past feelings affect the client in the here and now. My hope is to help clients realise that they have the tools to help themselves move forward in life and I’ll assist in finding new perspectives that help to bring self-awareness, strength, self-belief and enable positive change.
I aim to provide a safe welcoming, non-judgmental space where clients can freely express their thoughts, feelings and truly be heard. I am here to listen to you and help you find the best way forward. I use a collaborative approach where we examine thoughts and feelings from the past and examine how those past feelings affect the client in the here and now. My hope is to help clients realise that they have the tools to help themselves move forward in life and I’ll assist in finding new perspectives that help to bring self-awareness, strength, self-belief and enable positive change.
I offer a non‑judgmental, anti‑oppressive space and have extensive experience with LGBTQIA+ clients, kink, and alternative sexual lifestyles.
I specialize in psychodynamic and relational therapy, using TLDP and humanistic approaches to explore the patterns shaping identity, intimacy, and sexuality. I offer a sex-positive, affirming, anti‑oppressive space that values individuality, equality, and personal freedom, supporting insight, emotional depth, and lasting change.
I offer a non‑judgmental, anti‑oppressive space and have extensive experience with LGBTQIA+ clients, kink, and alternative sexual lifestyles.
I specialize in psychodynamic and relational therapy, using TLDP and humanistic approaches to explore the patterns shaping identity, intimacy, and sexuality. I offer a sex-positive, affirming, anti‑oppressive space that values individuality, equality, and personal freedom, supporting insight, emotional depth, and lasting change.
I work affirmatively with neurodivergent clients (including ADHD and autism) and GSRD (gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity) - this includes LGBT+, kink and BDSM, non-monogamy, and sex work, where questions of belonging, safety, and identity often sit under the surface.
You might be feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or stuck in patterns that keep repeating despite everything you’ve tried to change. For some people this shows up as anxiety, panic attacks, a harsh internal voice, persistent stress, or perfectionism that never seems to let up. Others come carrying the impact of trauma, emotional or sexual abuse, or attachment wounds that began long before they had language for what was happening. Depression, low self-worth, loneliness, and self-harm can emerge when there hasn’t been a safe place for difficult feelings to go.
I work affirmatively with neurodivergent clients (including ADHD and autism) and GSRD (gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity) - this includes LGBT+, kink and BDSM, non-monogamy, and sex work, where questions of belonging, safety, and identity often sit under the surface.
You might be feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or stuck in patterns that keep repeating despite everything you’ve tried to change. For some people this shows up as anxiety, panic attacks, a harsh internal voice, persistent stress, or perfectionism that never seems to let up. Others come carrying the impact of trauma, emotional or sexual abuse, or attachment wounds that began long before they had language for what was happening. Depression, low self-worth, loneliness, and self-harm can emerge when there hasn’t been a safe place for difficult feelings to go.
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Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counsellors
Why might an individual want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
A sex-positive or kinky individual may want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist because the client may feel safer and more supported discussing their experiences and challenges. A therapist who identifies as kink-friendly will have experience with clients having diverse sexual preferences and will likely be nonjudgmental and supportive about issues brought to the table. It is important to note that sex-positive, kink-allied individuals may find equal success with therapists who do not have such specialised knowledge and background. The most important factor in the success of therapy is for the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in sex-positive, kink-allied treatment?
Generally, no. There are limited training programs and unofficial accreditations that therapists can pursue, but a therapist’s expertise will ultimately come from their previous experience with similar clients, their engagement with organisations that promote sex positivity or kink-allied lifestyles, and the importance they place on safety and cultural sensitivity.
How can individuals recognise a good sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
An experienced therapist is able to help clients explore their sexual identity and expression and relieve any discomfort or stigma attached to discussing such matters and the client’s overall challenges. A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-allied is able to create an environment that honors a client’s experience and sexual preferences. To recognise a good therapist, clients can simply ask directly about topics and issues important to them and gauge their comfort level and connection with a clinician based on the responses.
Can clients benefit from having a therapist with a focus on sex positivity and alternative sexual lifestyles?
Some individuals may feel most comfortable knowing that the clinician they’re working with has a commitment to creating an atmosphere of sex positivity and has experience with relationship diversity and alternative relationship structures. Working with a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist may help clients respect their own challenges and improve identity-affirming treatment.