Polyamory and ENM Counselling in Christchurch
From adults, to children, young people and couples, LGBGTQ+, kink and polyamorous communities .
Are you at a loss in your relationship? has the intimacy and communication gone or would you like to try something new? You may be troubled by sexual behaviours/compulsions? Whatever the issue you are not alone. I am a sex positive psychosexual and relationship specialist and here to help you navigate your way to a better relationship and or sex life.
From adults, to children, young people and couples, LGBGTQ+, kink and polyamorous communities .
Are you at a loss in your relationship? has the intimacy and communication gone or would you like to try something new? You may be troubled by sexual behaviours/compulsions? Whatever the issue you are not alone. I am a sex positive psychosexual and relationship specialist and here to help you navigate your way to a better relationship and or sex life.
You may feel stuck in patterns that leave you feeling ashamed, disconnected or out of control. Whether you're struggling with, intimacy, low desire, erectile difficulties, compulsive sexual behaviours such as porn use or anxiety around sex, you're not alone. Together we can make sense of what's happening and help you move towards a more fulfilling, connected life.
Alongside psychosexual therapy, I have extensive experience supporting people affected by gambling addiction. This broader understanding of addiction and behavioural patterns informs my work with clients experiencing compulsive sexual behaviours and problematic porn use.
You may feel stuck in patterns that leave you feeling ashamed, disconnected or out of control. Whether you're struggling with, intimacy, low desire, erectile difficulties, compulsive sexual behaviours such as porn use or anxiety around sex, you're not alone. Together we can make sense of what's happening and help you move towards a more fulfilling, connected life.
Alongside psychosexual therapy, I have extensive experience supporting people affected by gambling addiction. This broader understanding of addiction and behavioural patterns informs my work with clients experiencing compulsive sexual behaviours and problematic porn use.
New Horizons Network is a team of counsellors, life coaches and psychotherapists. Being able to explore areas of your life which you may wish to understand, improve on or make changes to can make life better, improve relationships and self esteem. We all deserve the best from life. We believe that coaching, counselling and psychotherapy should be accessible to all. With that in mind we offer these services at varying costs according to the level of experience of our network of practitioners. Contact us for a discussion on how we can help you with your needs and put you in touch with the best person for you.
New Horizons Network is a team of counsellors, life coaches and psychotherapists. Being able to explore areas of your life which you may wish to understand, improve on or make changes to can make life better, improve relationships and self esteem. We all deserve the best from life. We believe that coaching, counselling and psychotherapy should be accessible to all. With that in mind we offer these services at varying costs according to the level of experience of our network of practitioners. Contact us for a discussion on how we can help you with your needs and put you in touch with the best person for you.
Dr Wayne Adlem - Local Expert on Relationships & Psychosexual issues.
Wayne has worked with many individuals and couples overcome issues of an intimate and personal nature to find fulfillment in their lives.
• Fully insured via a combined treatment policy which includes: Professional liability/Indemnity & Public & Products liability.
• Holds an Enhanced DBS Clearance certificate and is subscribed to the update service.
• You can see the reviews from past clients on the Relink Therapy Website.
• Policies & Procedures are in place for clarity and consistency.
• Holds a UK Business bank account for all transactions.
Dr Wayne Adlem - Local Expert on Relationships & Psychosexual issues.
Wayne has worked with many individuals and couples overcome issues of an intimate and personal nature to find fulfillment in their lives.
• Fully insured via a combined treatment policy which includes: Professional liability/Indemnity & Public & Products liability.
• Holds an Enhanced DBS Clearance certificate and is subscribed to the update service.
• You can see the reviews from past clients on the Relink Therapy Website.
• Policies & Procedures are in place for clarity and consistency.
• Holds a UK Business bank account for all transactions.
Everyone thinks you’re coping but you’re not sure you are.
Successful, capable and the person everyone relies on. You keep going, get things done and hold everything together — but privately, you’re exhausted.
Perhaps your mind never switches off. You feel overwhelmed, emotionally drained, angry, stuck or disconnected.
Maybe you’ve spent so long coping with work, relationships, family or life’s demands that you’ve lost touch with what you actually need.
Sometimes you don’t even know exactly what’s wrong. You just know something needs to change.
I work with people who are very good at coping, until coping stops being enough.
Everyone thinks you’re coping but you’re not sure you are.
Successful, capable and the person everyone relies on. You keep going, get things done and hold everything together — but privately, you’re exhausted.
Perhaps your mind never switches off. You feel overwhelmed, emotionally drained, angry, stuck or disconnected.
Maybe you’ve spent so long coping with work, relationships, family or life’s demands that you’ve lost touch with what you actually need.
Sometimes you don’t even know exactly what’s wrong. You just know something needs to change.
I work with people who are very good at coping, until coping stops being enough.
Do you have problems getting up in the mornings, eating? Do you have issues with your self worth? Does everyone else seem to have a better life than you? Have you got mental health difficulties? Addiction including sexual addiction? Problems with understanding or accepting who you are?
Do you have problems getting up in the mornings, eating? Do you have issues with your self worth? Does everyone else seem to have a better life than you? Have you got mental health difficulties? Addiction including sexual addiction? Problems with understanding or accepting who you are?
Are struggling to cope or left with the impact of trauma or abuse? I offer a safe confidential environment to help you overcome the difficulties you may be experiencing. I draw upon a range of different approaches, specialising in Humanistic Integrative & CBT. Perhaps your problems are affecting your relationships or work life? Everybody experiences things differently, and together we can come up with a treatment plan that will fit just for you and help you to progress and change the things you wish to. Gain insight, clarity and direction as you progress toward better understanding, and improved mental health. Jo Henshall MBACP
Are struggling to cope or left with the impact of trauma or abuse? I offer a safe confidential environment to help you overcome the difficulties you may be experiencing. I draw upon a range of different approaches, specialising in Humanistic Integrative & CBT. Perhaps your problems are affecting your relationships or work life? Everybody experiences things differently, and together we can come up with a treatment plan that will fit just for you and help you to progress and change the things you wish to. Gain insight, clarity and direction as you progress toward better understanding, and improved mental health. Jo Henshall MBACP
Do you feel you could develop your potential further? Do you feel anxious or depressed or suffer from PTSD? Is your relationship suffering? Are you finding difficult to manage stressors? Is this getting in the way of you achieving your goals and the quality of life and relationship you desire? I can help!
Do you feel you could develop your potential further? Do you feel anxious or depressed or suffer from PTSD? Is your relationship suffering? Are you finding difficult to manage stressors? Is this getting in the way of you achieving your goals and the quality of life and relationship you desire? I can help!
I am a psychosynthesis therapist with additional training in bereavement and creative expression. My practice allows for the structure of psychoanalysis, whilst welcoming the physical and spiritual way you are in the world. (You do not have to identify as 'spiritual' to enter transpersonal therapy.) It also recognises that we are interconnected. In other words, what is happening to you, involves others too, it is not all of your own creating. I also work with physical symptoms of psychological pain. The way we work with or against our physical-ness has a deep impact on the way we live our lives.
I am a psychosynthesis therapist with additional training in bereavement and creative expression. My practice allows for the structure of psychoanalysis, whilst welcoming the physical and spiritual way you are in the world. (You do not have to identify as 'spiritual' to enter transpersonal therapy.) It also recognises that we are interconnected. In other words, what is happening to you, involves others too, it is not all of your own creating. I also work with physical symptoms of psychological pain. The way we work with or against our physical-ness has a deep impact on the way we live our lives.
Your experience matters, and I would love to provide you with space to explore it. Maybe there are things you feel unable to discuss with other people in your life, or maybe you do discuss these things, but don't feel truly understood, or like other people have the mental space to stay with you as you work through difficult times. Providing that space for you is my goal. I'm here to support you to explore your identity, past traumatic experiences, and how you find your place in the world around you. You don't have to feel lost. Message me to arrange a free online introduction where we can start to explore what's going on for you.
Your experience matters, and I would love to provide you with space to explore it. Maybe there are things you feel unable to discuss with other people in your life, or maybe you do discuss these things, but don't feel truly understood, or like other people have the mental space to stay with you as you work through difficult times. Providing that space for you is my goal. I'm here to support you to explore your identity, past traumatic experiences, and how you find your place in the world around you. You don't have to feel lost. Message me to arrange a free online introduction where we can start to explore what's going on for you.
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Do you often feel overwhelmed? Weighed down by bricks only you can see. Feeling this way can be scary, isolating and hard to deal with. Hi, I'm Will (he/they), and you're not alone.
As someone who has been through therapy myself, I understand just how scary it can be to reach out for help. And I want to take a moment to say that if you are reading this now, you've already started your journey on the way to healing. This is something you should be proud of.
Do you often feel overwhelmed? Weighed down by bricks only you can see. Feeling this way can be scary, isolating and hard to deal with. Hi, I'm Will (he/they), and you're not alone.
As someone who has been through therapy myself, I understand just how scary it can be to reach out for help. And I want to take a moment to say that if you are reading this now, you've already started your journey on the way to healing. This is something you should be proud of.
You might feel caught in an exhausting, repetitive cycle where every conversation feels like a minefield or a drift into "stony silence." My clients are often couples who feel trapped in the Drama Triangle, constantly going through the roles of Rescuer, Victim, or Persecutor without knowing how to stop. You are likely seeking more than just a space to "vent"; you want to understand the deeper "why" behind your patterns. Your goal is to move past the blame and the "invisible scripts" of the past to rediscover emotional safety, mutual respect, and a relationship that finally feels like a partnership again.
You might feel caught in an exhausting, repetitive cycle where every conversation feels like a minefield or a drift into "stony silence." My clients are often couples who feel trapped in the Drama Triangle, constantly going through the roles of Rescuer, Victim, or Persecutor without knowing how to stop. You are likely seeking more than just a space to "vent"; you want to understand the deeper "why" behind your patterns. Your goal is to move past the blame and the "invisible scripts" of the past to rediscover emotional safety, mutual respect, and a relationship that finally feels like a partnership again.
Dr Alesia Moulton-Perkins at Neurodiverseonline
Psychologist, PsychD, HCPC - Clin. Psych.
Online Only
Have you ever wondered why you or your child struggle to fit in, get things done, learn and remember things? Maybe you experience tic-like movements, have meltdowns or live in a constant state of overwhelm? A condition like ASD, ADHD, Tourette's/Tics, dyslexia or a learning disability might be at the root of these problems. We can help you find out with a diagnostic assessment. For our younger (school age) clients, we can offer in-person assessments in Chichester, Guildford or Kent.
Have you ever wondered why you or your child struggle to fit in, get things done, learn and remember things? Maybe you experience tic-like movements, have meltdowns or live in a constant state of overwhelm? A condition like ASD, ADHD, Tourette's/Tics, dyslexia or a learning disability might be at the root of these problems. We can help you find out with a diagnostic assessment. For our younger (school age) clients, we can offer in-person assessments in Chichester, Guildford or Kent.
I have experience working with clients with a wide variety of issues, such as anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, bereavement, self-harm, relationship issues, domestic abuse, weight loss, chronic pain, and PTSD. Some clients have a good understanding of their issues and what they want to achieve, whereas others are not so sure and want help to find these things out. Whilst some issues are fairly clear cut, others can be more complex and have been present for a long time. Regardless of this, all of my clients have wanted to make changes that will improve their situation and help them to enjoy life.
I have experience working with clients with a wide variety of issues, such as anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, bereavement, self-harm, relationship issues, domestic abuse, weight loss, chronic pain, and PTSD. Some clients have a good understanding of their issues and what they want to achieve, whereas others are not so sure and want help to find these things out. Whilst some issues are fairly clear cut, others can be more complex and have been present for a long time. Regardless of this, all of my clients have wanted to make changes that will improve their situation and help them to enjoy life.
Hello! My name is Sam, and I named my service Tender Light Counselling. The reason for this is because I very much believe that by having the right support in a calm and optimistic space, real life change can be achieved.
I challenge my clients to take a thorough look at the whole of themselves and try to understand what factors in life have led to where they are today.
I offer one-to-one and couples counselling with experience working with issues such as Depression, Anxiety, Grief, Sexuality, Identity, Childhood and Sexual, Family tension, Conflict with a partner or friend, Confidence issues and Worries about the future.
Hello! My name is Sam, and I named my service Tender Light Counselling. The reason for this is because I very much believe that by having the right support in a calm and optimistic space, real life change can be achieved.
I challenge my clients to take a thorough look at the whole of themselves and try to understand what factors in life have led to where they are today.
I offer one-to-one and couples counselling with experience working with issues such as Depression, Anxiety, Grief, Sexuality, Identity, Childhood and Sexual, Family tension, Conflict with a partner or friend, Confidence issues and Worries about the future.
Are you feeling overwhelmed by the challenges life presents? Are you looking to explore your motivations, anxiety, depression, relationships, identity? Together through openness, vulnerability, self exploration we can search for meaning, leading to greater self-awareness, growth, and change. I offer a non-judgmental, supportive and calm therapeutic space to enable you to begun to question what goes on for you. By bringing unconscious dynamics to the surface, we can understand how past experiences shape your life.
Are you feeling overwhelmed by the challenges life presents? Are you looking to explore your motivations, anxiety, depression, relationships, identity? Together through openness, vulnerability, self exploration we can search for meaning, leading to greater self-awareness, growth, and change. I offer a non-judgmental, supportive and calm therapeutic space to enable you to begun to question what goes on for you. By bringing unconscious dynamics to the surface, we can understand how past experiences shape your life.
I specialise in working with couples and individuals, and regularly work with clients in areas including: communication, affairs and infidelity, blended families, bereavement (loss and grief), embedded trauma, depression and anxiety. In my practice, I endeavour to work with clients in an empathic, collaborative and non-judgemental way. My integrated approach uses systemic theory (including exploring your thought processes and present situation) and psychodynamic theory (historical exploration linking to unconscious thoughts and behaviour). I also apply aspects of emotionally-focused therapy (EFT); and trauma focused therapies.
I specialise in working with couples and individuals, and regularly work with clients in areas including: communication, affairs and infidelity, blended families, bereavement (loss and grief), embedded trauma, depression and anxiety. In my practice, I endeavour to work with clients in an empathic, collaborative and non-judgemental way. My integrated approach uses systemic theory (including exploring your thought processes and present situation) and psychodynamic theory (historical exploration linking to unconscious thoughts and behaviour). I also apply aspects of emotionally-focused therapy (EFT); and trauma focused therapies.
You might be functioning on the surface, but underneath, something doesn’t feel right. Maybe you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or caught in patterns you can’t shift. You want more than coping strategies; you want real change.
I’m a psychodynamic counsellor working with adults and couples. My approach is direct and thoughtful, focusing on what sits beneath the surface. We’ll explore patterns, reactions, and past experiences that shape your life, creating space for insight and lasting change. This work can be challenging, but it’s where something real begins to move.
You might be functioning on the surface, but underneath, something doesn’t feel right. Maybe you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or caught in patterns you can’t shift. You want more than coping strategies; you want real change.
I’m a psychodynamic counsellor working with adults and couples. My approach is direct and thoughtful, focusing on what sits beneath the surface. We’ll explore patterns, reactions, and past experiences that shape your life, creating space for insight and lasting change. This work can be challenging, but it’s where something real begins to move.
As a Gestalt therapist, I provide a confidential and supportive space to help you explore what may be affecting your life, to feel heard, and work towards meaningful change. By focusing on the here and now, therapy can help identify patterns, unresolved experiences, and relationship dynamics, supporting practical steps towards greater self-understanding and wellbeing.
I offer support with all relationship difficulties, individually or as a couple; depression and anxiety; self-esteem and confidence; grief and bereavement; traumatic experiences in childhood or adulthood; and life challenges that may feel difficult to manage alone.
As a Gestalt therapist, I provide a confidential and supportive space to help you explore what may be affecting your life, to feel heard, and work towards meaningful change. By focusing on the here and now, therapy can help identify patterns, unresolved experiences, and relationship dynamics, supporting practical steps towards greater self-understanding and wellbeing.
I offer support with all relationship difficulties, individually or as a couple; depression and anxiety; self-esteem and confidence; grief and bereavement; traumatic experiences in childhood or adulthood; and life challenges that may feel difficult to manage alone.
I am happy for you to contact me, in whichever way you feel comfortable with, making this first move to contact someone is the hardest step of all and it takes courage. We can have a chat and you can have a think about whether you think and feel I can help you and whether you would feel comfortable to share and work with me. My method is holistic, which involves evaluating and encouraging the alignment of your complete being. Your mind, body and soul.
I am happy for you to contact me, in whichever way you feel comfortable with, making this first move to contact someone is the hardest step of all and it takes courage. We can have a chat and you can have a think about whether you think and feel I can help you and whether you would feel comfortable to share and work with me. My method is holistic, which involves evaluating and encouraging the alignment of your complete being. Your mind, body and soul.
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Nearby Polyamory & ENM Counsellors Searches for Christchurch
- Bournemouth
- Eastleigh
- Fareham
- Frome
- Poole
- Portsmouth
- Ringwood
- Romsey
- Saint Ives
- Southampton
- Wimborne
- Winchester
FAQ - Open Relationships Non-Monogamy Counsellors
Why might an individual want to see a therapist specialising in open relationships and consensual non-monogamy?
A client seeking help with an open or consensually non-monogamous relationship will prefer to talk with a professional whom they can count on to be nonjudgmental. Talking with a supportive therapist may on its own help relieve some of the stigma and challenges partners face. That said, the most important factor in the success of any type of therapy is the ability of the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond. For this reason, an individual or couple could find success with a therapist who does not specialise in non-monogamous relationships but with whom they can build trust.
When should open or consensually non-monogamous partners seek counselling?
Like other couples, polyamorous partners typically seek counseling when they face relationship challenges they can’t solve themselves. In non-monogamous relationships, this could include breaches of trust, including infidelity; unclear rules or violations of boundaries; jealousy of outside partners; the stress of juggling the needs of multiple partners; or the effect of high partner turnover on children. Like those of other couples, polyamorous bonds can be threatened by increasingly frequent arguments, poor or dysfunctional communication, diminished emotional or physical intimacy, or the feeling that something is wrong, even if they don’t know what it is.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in open relationships and consensual non-monogamy?
No, but individuals seeking help with non-monogamous relationships would most likely consult a licensed professional with specific training in couples counseling or couples therapy. Couples counselling and couples therapy both involve teaching concrete strategies to navigate conflict in relationships. A good therapist can engage both partners as they explain these approaches but can also work with a single partner.
How long does therapy for consensually non-monogamous couples typically last?
Couples therapy for any type of couple, tends to be relatively time-limited, lasting around 12 weeks on average. A good therapist will tailor sessions to the individual partners’ emotions and sometimes their past, along with patterns found to be repeating in the relationship. In many cases, clients should expect their therapist to assign “homework” between weekly sessions.