Attachment-based Counselling in Chessington

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Olesya Holmes
Counsellor, MBACP
1 Endorsed
Serves Area
I am a fully trained & qualified psychotherapeutic counsellor with a First-Class BA (Hons) degree in Integrative-Relational Counselling, Middlesex University. I use various therapeutic approaches (psychodynamic, person-centred, Gestalt, CBT) depending on your individual needs. I offer a safe space where I can help you explore your struggles & find ways to improve your emotional well-being. In the last 8 years I have been working with a wide range of clients in a GP surgery & privately. I am a Member of the British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP) & abide by their Ethical Framework. I am fully insured & DBS-checked.
I am a fully trained & qualified psychotherapeutic counsellor with a First-Class BA (Hons) degree in Integrative-Relational Counselling, Middlesex University. I use various therapeutic approaches (psychodynamic, person-centred, Gestalt, CBT) depending on your individual needs. I offer a safe space where I can help you explore your struggles & find ways to improve your emotional well-being. In the last 8 years I have been working with a wide range of clients in a GP surgery & privately. I am a Member of the British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP) & abide by their Ethical Framework. I am fully insured & DBS-checked.
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Dr Faye Kinirons
Psychologist, DCounsPsych, HCPC - Couns. Psych.
1 Endorsed
Serves Area
My clients are adults and teens who want to understand themselves more deeply. You might be feeling anxious, low, overwhelmed or burnt out, struggling in relationships or at work, or carrying the impact of difficult past experiences. Some are exploring possible neurodivergence or adjusting to an ADHD or autism diagnosis. Together we slow things down, make sense of patterns in your life, and explore new ways of relating to yourself and others so you can move forward with more clarity and choice.
My clients are adults and teens who want to understand themselves more deeply. You might be feeling anxious, low, overwhelmed or burnt out, struggling in relationships or at work, or carrying the impact of difficult past experiences. Some are exploring possible neurodivergence or adjusting to an ADHD or autism diagnosis. Together we slow things down, make sense of patterns in your life, and explore new ways of relating to yourself and others so you can move forward with more clarity and choice.
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Dr Polina Lukanova
Psychologist, DCounsPsych, HCPC - Couns. Psych.
London WC1A
As a Counselling Psychologist, I draw from a range of therapeutic approaches to support you on your healing journey. Every therapeutic encounter is unique, which is why I tailor our work to your individual needs and preferences. I work from a trauma-informed perspective, with a deep awareness of the specific challenges that can arise from past or ongoing trauma. Through both clinical and personal experience, I understand how trauma can affect your sense of self, your safety in the world, and the ways you’ve learned to cope.
As a Counselling Psychologist, I draw from a range of therapeutic approaches to support you on your healing journey. Every therapeutic encounter is unique, which is why I tailor our work to your individual needs and preferences. I work from a trauma-informed perspective, with a deep awareness of the specific challenges that can arise from past or ongoing trauma. Through both clinical and personal experience, I understand how trauma can affect your sense of self, your safety in the world, and the ways you’ve learned to cope.
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Shweta Panchal
Psychotherapist, MUKCP
London SE1
I work in an integrative way, drawing on relational, psychodynamic, attachment-based, trauma-informed and somatic approaches.
I work with adults who feel anxious, low, overwhelmed or distressed, and stuck in patterns that don’t feel helpful. Some come with clear difficulties, while others have a sense that something isn’t quite right. I offer a warm, supportive and collaborative space where you can feel met and understood as we begin to make sense of your experiences and move towards change. The work aims to ease distress while helping you develop greater insight, feel more grounded, and live in a way that feels more aligned and meaningful to you.
I work in an integrative way, drawing on relational, psychodynamic, attachment-based, trauma-informed and somatic approaches.
I work with adults who feel anxious, low, overwhelmed or distressed, and stuck in patterns that don’t feel helpful. Some come with clear difficulties, while others have a sense that something isn’t quite right. I offer a warm, supportive and collaborative space where you can feel met and understood as we begin to make sense of your experiences and move towards change. The work aims to ease distress while helping you develop greater insight, feel more grounded, and live in a way that feels more aligned and meaningful to you.
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Alicia Rogerson
Psychotherapist, COSRT Reg.
2 Endorsed
London W1U
My work as a Psychosexual and Relationships Therapist is underpinned by a decade of experience in psychology, with a specialism in neurodiversity. My clients and I work together across relational and sexual concerns including; intimacy difficulties, desire discrepancy, exploring sexuality or non-monogamy, infidelity, sexual anxiety, past experiences impacting current intimacy and sexual dysfunctions (e.g. painful penetration, difficulty with orgasm, erections, or ejaculation). Whether individually or in a relationship, we’ll explore your struggles, identify patterns, and work toward healing, deeper connection, and lasting change.
My work as a Psychosexual and Relationships Therapist is underpinned by a decade of experience in psychology, with a specialism in neurodiversity. My clients and I work together across relational and sexual concerns including; intimacy difficulties, desire discrepancy, exploring sexuality or non-monogamy, infidelity, sexual anxiety, past experiences impacting current intimacy and sexual dysfunctions (e.g. painful penetration, difficulty with orgasm, erections, or ejaculation). Whether individually or in a relationship, we’ll explore your struggles, identify patterns, and work toward healing, deeper connection, and lasting change.
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Amie Stoppard
Psychotherapist, MUKCP
Bromley BR1
With warm and gentle integrative approach, I tailor therapy to your unique needs, helping you find peace and resilience in a compassionate environment. As a Relational Life Therapy (RLT) couples therapist, I support couples, of any kind, in a safe space in order to help resolve conflict, restore trust, and deepen their connection and intimacy. Life can be challenging, and relationships can be complex, whether you’re seeking personal growth, healing, or support for your relationship, I believe therapy can help and is a collaborative journey.
With warm and gentle integrative approach, I tailor therapy to your unique needs, helping you find peace and resilience in a compassionate environment. As a Relational Life Therapy (RLT) couples therapist, I support couples, of any kind, in a safe space in order to help resolve conflict, restore trust, and deepen their connection and intimacy. Life can be challenging, and relationships can be complex, whether you’re seeking personal growth, healing, or support for your relationship, I believe therapy can help and is a collaborative journey.
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Claudia Croppo
Psychotherapist, MA, MBACP
4 Endorsed
London W1W
You may be feeling overwhelmed, unseen, or at a crossroad in life. Many of my clients are driven, thoughtful, and deeply committed to what they do, but are quietly navigating exhaustion, self-doubt and loneliness, feeling things need to change. At times it’s difficult to identify when repeated patterns that don’t seem to be working anymore could be related to difficult experiences from childhood and how they can still quietly shape how you feel about yourself and others. I work with many people who are in life transitions and needing support to adapt or find different ways with more clarity, including moving to a different country.
You may be feeling overwhelmed, unseen, or at a crossroad in life. Many of my clients are driven, thoughtful, and deeply committed to what they do, but are quietly navigating exhaustion, self-doubt and loneliness, feeling things need to change. At times it’s difficult to identify when repeated patterns that don’t seem to be working anymore could be related to difficult experiences from childhood and how they can still quietly shape how you feel about yourself and others. I work with many people who are in life transitions and needing support to adapt or find different ways with more clarity, including moving to a different country.
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Alex Bickford
Psychotherapist, MBACP
London WC1H
Everyone can find life overwhelming sometimes. I believe in the power of therapy and offer a safe, confidential and non-judgemental space in which you can talk and explore your feelings. Whilst it can be daunting seeking therapy for the first time, I provide a safe and supportive environment to explore thoughts, feeling and concerns. I work relationally, which means that I put the relationship at the heart of work, and will tailor our sessions according to your needs. Often, by exploring our thoughts and behavioural patterns and bringing them into awareness, we feel more able to cope with challenging circumstances.
Everyone can find life overwhelming sometimes. I believe in the power of therapy and offer a safe, confidential and non-judgemental space in which you can talk and explore your feelings. Whilst it can be daunting seeking therapy for the first time, I provide a safe and supportive environment to explore thoughts, feeling and concerns. I work relationally, which means that I put the relationship at the heart of work, and will tailor our sessions according to your needs. Often, by exploring our thoughts and behavioural patterns and bringing them into awareness, we feel more able to cope with challenging circumstances.
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Gay Men's Therapy
Psychotherapist, MUKCP
London WC1H
Gay Men’s Therapy is a psychotherapy service for gay men provided by gay men. Reaching out to a therapist can be daunting. However, we are not just therapist – we are a group of people who share the diverse backgrounds and experiences you may have, which gives us a deeper understanding of your needs. We offer a specialist service by a group of therapists that come together regularly to learn from each other about how best to serve your psychological needs. We aim to create a safe, understanding environment in which you can explore, understand and unfold yourself to become who you truly feel you are.
Gay Men’s Therapy is a psychotherapy service for gay men provided by gay men. Reaching out to a therapist can be daunting. However, we are not just therapist – we are a group of people who share the diverse backgrounds and experiences you may have, which gives us a deeper understanding of your needs. We offer a specialist service by a group of therapists that come together regularly to learn from each other about how best to serve your psychological needs. We aim to create a safe, understanding environment in which you can explore, understand and unfold yourself to become who you truly feel you are.
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Mark Pharoah
Counsellor, DCounsPsych, MBACP
London SE9
There are many reasons why you might be seeking counselling. Your issues might have been triggered by recent events or could stretch far back to past abuse or narcissistic control. There might be anxiety, low self-esteem, feelings of isolation, exclusion, deep loneliness, overwhelm or numbness. I can help with these issues. I have also had specialist training in trauma (PTSD & dissociation) and can offer emotional freedom technique for regulation and processing. I also work with the specific challenges that come with dyslexia, autism (ASD) and ADHD.
There are many reasons why you might be seeking counselling. Your issues might have been triggered by recent events or could stretch far back to past abuse or narcissistic control. There might be anxiety, low self-esteem, feelings of isolation, exclusion, deep loneliness, overwhelm or numbness. I can help with these issues. I have also had specialist training in trauma (PTSD & dissociation) and can offer emotional freedom technique for regulation and processing. I also work with the specific challenges that come with dyslexia, autism (ASD) and ADHD.
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Dr Cecile Bowie
Psychotherapist, PhD, UKCP Trainee
London N19
Are you experiencing anxiety, low mood, conflict within yourself or with others, a diminished or negative sense of self-worth? Psychoanalytical psychotherapy can help you identify concerns and safely explore symptoms, behaviours, and relationships difficulties. It offers a medium to long-term approach helping you to gain increased and transformative insights. With a Doctorate in Psychoanalytic Studies and 20+ years of experience in the field of mental health, I listen without judgement and support you whilst we explore known and unknown parts of your self. I have experience working with individuals from 18 years.
Are you experiencing anxiety, low mood, conflict within yourself or with others, a diminished or negative sense of self-worth? Psychoanalytical psychotherapy can help you identify concerns and safely explore symptoms, behaviours, and relationships difficulties. It offers a medium to long-term approach helping you to gain increased and transformative insights. With a Doctorate in Psychoanalytic Studies and 20+ years of experience in the field of mental health, I listen without judgement and support you whilst we explore known and unknown parts of your self. I have experience working with individuals from 18 years.
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Beth Win
Psychotherapist, MBACP
London E10
My passion and skill is in the supporting of clients in their desire to explore their sense of self, and how this relates to the way they feel in the world, in their relationships and in regards to their fears, hopes, goals, dreams and to be able to confidently move though the world, able to express and communicate their emotional experiences and have more satisfying, honest and fulfilling relationships with themselves and others. Issues I can help with are low self esteem/self confidence, addictive or compulsive behaviours, dis ordered eating, abuse, processing abuse, trauma, life as a neuro divergent person, loss, grief, betrayal
My passion and skill is in the supporting of clients in their desire to explore their sense of self, and how this relates to the way they feel in the world, in their relationships and in regards to their fears, hopes, goals, dreams and to be able to confidently move though the world, able to express and communicate their emotional experiences and have more satisfying, honest and fulfilling relationships with themselves and others. Issues I can help with are low self esteem/self confidence, addictive or compulsive behaviours, dis ordered eating, abuse, processing abuse, trauma, life as a neuro divergent person, loss, grief, betrayal
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Chris Sparvell
Counsellor, MBACP Accred
London SE18
Hi my name is Chris and I have been working as a counsellor for 26 years. As well as having a small private practice, I spent 12 years working in schools with parents who came with a variety of issues - domestic abuse, loss and bereavement, sexual abuse, lack of confidence and self esteem, trauma and adverse childhood experiences. Experience has confirmed for me that a relationship of trust, understanding and empathy needs to be developed before personal growth can start - I feel this is my area of strength.
Hi my name is Chris and I have been working as a counsellor for 26 years. As well as having a small private practice, I spent 12 years working in schools with parents who came with a variety of issues - domestic abuse, loss and bereavement, sexual abuse, lack of confidence and self esteem, trauma and adverse childhood experiences. Experience has confirmed for me that a relationship of trust, understanding and empathy needs to be developed before personal growth can start - I feel this is my area of strength.
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Dr Sukbinder Bilkhu
Psychologist, PsychD, HCPC - Clin. Psych.
Serves Area
Even though you have what might seem like "a good life," you may still feel a deep sense of emptiness and struggle with overwhelming anxiety and difficult emotions. At times, it might be hard to even identify what you're feeling. These challenges could stem from a difficult childhood, particularly in your relationships with your parents or siblings, affecting how you connect with others today. We refer to these experiences as attachment trauma or childhood emotional neglect. However, these patterns don’t have to define your future; healing and change are possible.
Even though you have what might seem like "a good life," you may still feel a deep sense of emptiness and struggle with overwhelming anxiety and difficult emotions. At times, it might be hard to even identify what you're feeling. These challenges could stem from a difficult childhood, particularly in your relationships with your parents or siblings, affecting how you connect with others today. We refer to these experiences as attachment trauma or childhood emotional neglect. However, these patterns don’t have to define your future; healing and change are possible.
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Dr Katie Kalinowski
Psychologist, DCounsPsych, HCPC - Couns. Psych.
London EC2R
Most people want to feel good within themselves and within their lives. I don’t think this is too much to ask. If obstacles have previously prevented this, it does not mean the future need be the same. Change is always possible and often we need a helping hand. I am passionate about collaboration as the most empowering route on a therapeutic journey. You have the strength and the answers and together we can make sense of any hurt, obstacle or fear.
Most people want to feel good within themselves and within their lives. I don’t think this is too much to ask. If obstacles have previously prevented this, it does not mean the future need be the same. Change is always possible and often we need a helping hand. I am passionate about collaboration as the most empowering route on a therapeutic journey. You have the strength and the answers and together we can make sense of any hurt, obstacle or fear.
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Kirsten Utting
Psychotherapist, MA, MUKCP
London N4
Life can be difficult, and the stories we tell ourselves can often limit and block us in leading the life we truly want to lead. Through my work as an integrative therapist, I draw on a variety of different approaches, to assist you in meeting your particular needs and goals. I use the relationship we gradually build together to shine a light on understanding other relationships in your life, to better understand yourself, and develop the resources to live more authentically.
Life can be difficult, and the stories we tell ourselves can often limit and block us in leading the life we truly want to lead. Through my work as an integrative therapist, I draw on a variety of different approaches, to assist you in meeting your particular needs and goals. I use the relationship we gradually build together to shine a light on understanding other relationships in your life, to better understand yourself, and develop the resources to live more authentically.
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Piero Dell'Anno
Psychotherapist, MSc, MUKCP
London NW6
My client's well-being is at the core of my work as clinical psychotherapist. I am sensitive to how difficult it is to start a counselling/psychotherapy journey and how difficult it might be at times to make the first phone call to ask for support. I hope that my kindness, warmth and authenticity create the conditions for my clients to feel welcomed, appreciated, listened and understood. Counselling is a journey of truth, opening up to deep inquiry and self exploration can reveal us the unexpected. Clients tell me that I am warm that they feel listened and understood in a non judgmental way.
My client's well-being is at the core of my work as clinical psychotherapist. I am sensitive to how difficult it is to start a counselling/psychotherapy journey and how difficult it might be at times to make the first phone call to ask for support. I hope that my kindness, warmth and authenticity create the conditions for my clients to feel welcomed, appreciated, listened and understood. Counselling is a journey of truth, opening up to deep inquiry and self exploration can reveal us the unexpected. Clients tell me that I am warm that they feel listened and understood in a non judgmental way.
020 4634 0268 View 020 4634 0268
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Anita Joy Jacob
Psychotherapist, MSc, MBACP
Serves Area
Are you finding your marriage or relationship to be really hard right now? Is it full of tension, disappointment or heartache? Perhaps you are arguing more and you just don't look forward to spending time with your partner anymore. Do you wish you could feel the way you felt about them when you first decided to make a commitment to each other? I'm guessing you want to feel seen and heard, like you matter and like your thoughts and feelings matter, too. You don't just want to be going through the motions of being close, but want something that feels special and secure.
Are you finding your marriage or relationship to be really hard right now? Is it full of tension, disappointment or heartache? Perhaps you are arguing more and you just don't look forward to spending time with your partner anymore. Do you wish you could feel the way you felt about them when you first decided to make a commitment to each other? I'm guessing you want to feel seen and heard, like you matter and like your thoughts and feelings matter, too. You don't just want to be going through the motions of being close, but want something that feels special and secure.
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Michelle Brooks
Psychotherapist, MA, HCPC-Drama Therap.
London N12
I am here to work alongside you with whatever struggles you are dealing with. You no longer have to do this alone. We will work toward healing old wounds and then focus on building the positives in your life and in yourself that are already there but need recognition and nurture to grow and then thrive.
I am here to work alongside you with whatever struggles you are dealing with. You no longer have to do this alone. We will work toward healing old wounds and then focus on building the positives in your life and in yourself that are already there but need recognition and nurture to grow and then thrive.
020 4634 5579 View 020 4634 5579
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Emily Yao
Psychotherapist, MSc
Serves Area
Do you struggle with focus, procrastination, or emotional overwhelm? I support people whose minds are often in hyperdrive, especially those with ADHD and/or anxiety. Over time, living this way can put strain on your relationships, wear down your self-esteem, and drain the joy from life. I offer a space where you don't have to mask and where you'll be supported by someone who has been there personally, and who brings a strong grounding in the research on both ADHD and anxiety. Together we'll work towards more ease and clarity, and a steadier trust in yourself.
Do you struggle with focus, procrastination, or emotional overwhelm? I support people whose minds are often in hyperdrive, especially those with ADHD and/or anxiety. Over time, living this way can put strain on your relationships, wear down your self-esteem, and drain the joy from life. I offer a space where you don't have to mask and where you'll be supported by someone who has been there personally, and who brings a strong grounding in the research on both ADHD and anxiety. Together we'll work towards more ease and clarity, and a steadier trust in yourself.
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Attachment-based Counsellors
Is attachment-based therapy the same as attachment therapy?
Attachment-based therapy may be confused with what is called “attachment therapy” (sometimes called “holding therapy”), a discredited and dangerous approach to treating children with attachment disorders, autism, or other mental health concerns. Attachment therapy—not attachment-based therapy—may involve restraining a child, forcing eye contact, and other coercive or abusive techniques. None of these practices are used in attachment-based therapy and the two modalities are in no way related.

What should I expect from attachment-based therapy?
Attachment-based therapy is based on attachment theory, which posits that children’s early relationships with their caregivers strongly influence their ability to navigate the world later in life. Thus, adults who seek attachment-based therapy should expect to deeply explore their childhood, identifying the dynamics or experiences that disrupted their attachment and the steps necessary to overcome challenges that arose as a result. Parents and children should expect to explore the possible factors that disrupted the parent-child relationship and work toward restoring trust and connection.

How long does attachment-based therapy last?
Certain forms of attachment-based therapy, especially those designed for parents and children, last for a set number of sessions; for example, Attachment and Biobehavioural Catch-Up, a specific attachment-based approach for young children who have undergone early adversity, unfolds over 10 one-hour sessions. When attachment-based therapy is practiced on adults or combined with other modalities, it may not last a specific length of time; clients may wish to ask prospective therapists how long they expect treatment to take.

Does attachment-based therapy work?
Most of the research on attachment-based therapy focuses on children and adolescents. Some of this research shows a positive effect, especially for attachment-based family therapy (ABFT). Other studies, however, have found that attachment-based therapy is no more effective than other approaches to childhood depression, anxiety, or suicidality. Less is known about the therapy’s efficacy on adult populations.