Couples Counselling in Caterham
Twenty years ago I was asking many of the same questions as the couples I have specialised in helping for the past 15 years.
Most couples can see the difficulties they are experiencing but have little understanding of what is actually keeping them stuck. They can see the arguments, distance, resentment, loss of intimacy or breakdown in trust, but often cannot see the dynamic operating between them that creates and maintains these difficulties. Until this becomes visible,
Twenty years ago I was asking many of the same questions as the couples I have specialised in helping for the past 15 years.
Most couples can see the difficulties they are experiencing but have little understanding of what is actually keeping them stuck. They can see the arguments, distance, resentment, loss of intimacy or breakdown in trust, but often cannot see the dynamic operating between them that creates and maintains these difficulties. Until this becomes visible,
I bring creativity, empathy, and extensive therapeutic experience working with adults, couples, young people and families to my work as a talk psychotherapist and Art Therapist.
Our sessions together would typically last 60-90 minutes and I would take the lead from you, (if that feels ok to you) on where you would like to begin. We can talk together and explore what brings you to therapy or we can work using some art based techniques. In my practice different activates depending on client’s needs to help explore areas of your life/
I bring creativity, empathy, and extensive therapeutic experience working with adults, couples, young people and families to my work as a talk psychotherapist and Art Therapist.
Our sessions together would typically last 60-90 minutes and I would take the lead from you, (if that feels ok to you) on where you would like to begin. We can talk together and explore what brings you to therapy or we can work using some art based techniques. In my practice different activates depending on client’s needs to help explore areas of your life/
I work with children individuals, couples & families.
20+ years experience working with relational, behavioural & mental health issues. I am a Principal Psychotherapist within the NHS with specialism in Family/ Couple/child relationship & emotional issues, Co-Parenting, Self-Harm, Child/adult mental health, Childhood anxiety/OCD, Grief, Trauma & parent coaching for child to parent violence/behavioural issues
I work with children individuals, couples & families.
20+ years experience working with relational, behavioural & mental health issues. I am a Principal Psychotherapist within the NHS with specialism in Family/ Couple/child relationship & emotional issues, Co-Parenting, Self-Harm, Child/adult mental health, Childhood anxiety/OCD, Grief, Trauma & parent coaching for child to parent violence/behavioural issues
By paying attention to the relationship that unfolds between us, you can gain a better understanding of yourself, and discover alternative behaviours and new possibilities in your relationships.
I work with people who are struggling with different life situations such as addictive behaviours, fertility concerns, alcoholism, chronic illness, depression, anxiety, miscarriage and bereavement and many more. I help you to empower and resource yourself so that change feels possible. I am here to listen and encourage you to become more attuned to your inner needs, providing you with greater freedom of choice and creativity. I am passionate about providing a safe space where you feel comfortable and heard.
By paying attention to the relationship that unfolds between us, you can gain a better understanding of yourself, and discover alternative behaviours and new possibilities in your relationships.
I work with people who are struggling with different life situations such as addictive behaviours, fertility concerns, alcoholism, chronic illness, depression, anxiety, miscarriage and bereavement and many more. I help you to empower and resource yourself so that change feels possible. I am here to listen and encourage you to become more attuned to your inner needs, providing you with greater freedom of choice and creativity. I am passionate about providing a safe space where you feel comfortable and heard.
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I'm Fiona, a qualified and experienced therapist specialising in working with adults, couples, young people and children.
Specialisations: Childhood Trauma, Self-Esteem and Identity, Addiction, Relationship Issues, Anger Management. In our sessions, you can expect a warm, empathetic, and confidential environment. I work collaboratively with you, helping you gain insight, develop effective coping strategies, and make meaningful changes in your life.
I'm Fiona, a qualified and experienced therapist specialising in working with adults, couples, young people and children.
Specialisations: Childhood Trauma, Self-Esteem and Identity, Addiction, Relationship Issues, Anger Management. In our sessions, you can expect a warm, empathetic, and confidential environment. I work collaboratively with you, helping you gain insight, develop effective coping strategies, and make meaningful changes in your life.
I have advance training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a collaborative approach for working with couples, families, and individuals.
I'm a Systemic Psychotherapist, Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist and EMDR therapists. I help individuals and Couples overcome difficulties, enabling them to lead the fulfilling lives they desire. I have over 16 years’ experience working with relationships. I work with a wide range of identity types with people facing various forms of distress, both as individuals and the context of relationships. My ultimate goal is to provide a supportive, empathetic non-judgemental environment where people can explore their challenges, gain a deeper understanding of themselves, and develop their ability to bring about positive change.
I have advance training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a collaborative approach for working with couples, families, and individuals.
I'm a Systemic Psychotherapist, Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist and EMDR therapists. I help individuals and Couples overcome difficulties, enabling them to lead the fulfilling lives they desire. I have over 16 years’ experience working with relationships. I work with a wide range of identity types with people facing various forms of distress, both as individuals and the context of relationships. My ultimate goal is to provide a supportive, empathetic non-judgemental environment where people can explore their challenges, gain a deeper understanding of themselves, and develop their ability to bring about positive change.
Some people can get back on track with a couple of sessions, whereas others may need longer term treatment.
At The Feel Better Psychological Services we provide psychological therapy to adults, adolescents and their families. All of our clinicians are accredited members of the British Association for Behavioural and Cognitive Psychotherapies (BABCP) in the United Kingdom or United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP).
Some people can get back on track with a couple of sessions, whereas others may need longer term treatment.
At The Feel Better Psychological Services we provide psychological therapy to adults, adolescents and their families. All of our clinicians are accredited members of the British Association for Behavioural and Cognitive Psychotherapies (BABCP) in the United Kingdom or United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP).
Hi there, I'm Laura. I am a Clinical Psychologist qualified at doctoral level, practicing in Central London and Hertfordshire. I am registered with the Health and Care Professional Council (HCPC) with over fifteen years experience working within the NHS and charity sector. I have led NHS teams and developed and grown a private practice.
Whatever your reasons for seeking therapy, I offer a safe and non-judgemental space, which is your time to explore some of the difficulties you have been facing and work together to find ways forward in your life.
Hi there, I'm Laura. I am a Clinical Psychologist qualified at doctoral level, practicing in Central London and Hertfordshire. I am registered with the Health and Care Professional Council (HCPC) with over fifteen years experience working within the NHS and charity sector. I have led NHS teams and developed and grown a private practice.
Whatever your reasons for seeking therapy, I offer a safe and non-judgemental space, which is your time to explore some of the difficulties you have been facing and work together to find ways forward in your life.
My blend of Art Psychotherapy and Systemic Family Therapy supports individuals, couples, and families facing trauma, anxiety, addiction, cultural adjustment, and significant life changes.
I provide a warm, compassionate, and collaborative space where we can gently explore your experiences, values, and relationships at your own pace. Through creative expression (if you wish) and systemic insight, we will uncover hidden strengths and develop practical strategies for meaningful, lasting change.
My blend of Art Psychotherapy and Systemic Family Therapy supports individuals, couples, and families facing trauma, anxiety, addiction, cultural adjustment, and significant life changes.
I provide a warm, compassionate, and collaborative space where we can gently explore your experiences, values, and relationships at your own pace. Through creative expression (if you wish) and systemic insight, we will uncover hidden strengths and develop practical strategies for meaningful, lasting change.
As children, most of us, are taught how to brush our teeth , wash our hands and tie our laces. However, we are not always taught how to take care of our hearts, how to feed our souls and nurture our body and minds. Moving through life without these skills can leave us feeling overwhelmed, lost, confused and hopeless when faced with life challenges and change. We may find it difficult or not know how to, altogether cope or regulate our emotions and body and practice self-care.These experiences can manifest as interruptions, disconnecting us and leave us feeling stuck, afraid, angry, stressed.
As children, most of us, are taught how to brush our teeth , wash our hands and tie our laces. However, we are not always taught how to take care of our hearts, how to feed our souls and nurture our body and minds. Moving through life without these skills can leave us feeling overwhelmed, lost, confused and hopeless when faced with life challenges and change. We may find it difficult or not know how to, altogether cope or regulate our emotions and body and practice self-care.These experiences can manifest as interruptions, disconnecting us and leave us feeling stuck, afraid, angry, stressed.
Counselling & Psychotherapy / Relationship Issues / Couples Counselling / Psychosexual Therapy / Gender, Sexuality and Relationship Diversities Therapist (LGBTQ+) / Clinical Supervision
Hello, my name is Michelle, As a counsellor and psychotherapist, I am all too aware of just how daunting taking that initial step towards counselling can be. The mere fact that you are reading this now means you are just a phone call away from putting that right. While we sometimes turn to a friend or family member in our hour of need, it is when the problem lies with our nearest and dearest that we should consult with a professional.
Counselling & Psychotherapy / Relationship Issues / Couples Counselling / Psychosexual Therapy / Gender, Sexuality and Relationship Diversities Therapist (LGBTQ+) / Clinical Supervision
Hello, my name is Michelle, As a counsellor and psychotherapist, I am all too aware of just how daunting taking that initial step towards counselling can be. The mere fact that you are reading this now means you are just a phone call away from putting that right. While we sometimes turn to a friend or family member in our hour of need, it is when the problem lies with our nearest and dearest that we should consult with a professional.
I am a BACP registered psychotherapist who has experience of helping people (individuals and couples) at life’s most difficult junctions.
It can be helpful to look at early attachment patterns, behaviours and scripts which can help to uncover outdated modes of operation that can still (unhelpfully) rule our lives today. I work with clients to reframe unhelpful thinking patterns, regulate emotions and learn to relate to others in a healthy way.
I am a BACP registered psychotherapist who has experience of helping people (individuals and couples) at life’s most difficult junctions.
It can be helpful to look at early attachment patterns, behaviours and scripts which can help to uncover outdated modes of operation that can still (unhelpfully) rule our lives today. I work with clients to reframe unhelpful thinking patterns, regulate emotions and learn to relate to others in a healthy way.
As you have arrived at this page, I imagine you are looking for some help – either for yourself or someone you know? Sometimes it’s not easy to ask for help when we need it. Seeing a therapist can be a scary idea but I know that seeing one helped me through some difficult times. Counselling and psychotherapy offer a safe space for you to speak about your concerns and difficulties without being judged or criticised. Whatever your presenting issues, concerns or goals may be, I would like to reassure you that you will always be accepted and be treated as a unique individual.
As you have arrived at this page, I imagine you are looking for some help – either for yourself or someone you know? Sometimes it’s not easy to ask for help when we need it. Seeing a therapist can be a scary idea but I know that seeing one helped me through some difficult times. Counselling and psychotherapy offer a safe space for you to speak about your concerns and difficulties without being judged or criticised. Whatever your presenting issues, concerns or goals may be, I would like to reassure you that you will always be accepted and be treated as a unique individual.
For couples I use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
I work with challenges that may arise for parents at different stages, including fertility issues and baby loss, gender disappointment, fear of birth, birth trauma, intrusive thoughts and obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), antenatal and postnatal anxiety and depression, difficulty bonding. I support parents to adjust whether it is their first child or they are juggling a growing family. I believe that people are always trying their best to cope, but sometimes these ways of coping stop working as well or become problems themselves. I know how much pressure there is to be ‘perfect’ parents and how much strain that can cause.
For couples I use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
I work with challenges that may arise for parents at different stages, including fertility issues and baby loss, gender disappointment, fear of birth, birth trauma, intrusive thoughts and obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), antenatal and postnatal anxiety and depression, difficulty bonding. I support parents to adjust whether it is their first child or they are juggling a growing family. I believe that people are always trying their best to cope, but sometimes these ways of coping stop working as well or become problems themselves. I know how much pressure there is to be ‘perfect’ parents and how much strain that can cause.
Perhaps you have reached a point where continuing without help has proven to be impossible and affecting your relationship - not only with others but yourself too.
I am a qualified HCPC registered counselling psychologist. I currently work in the NHS, privately and with charitable organisations. I have over 6 years of experience working with clients. My areas of expertise focuses on personality disorders, chronic difficulties rooted in adverse childhood experiences and identity development through schema lens.
Perhaps you have reached a point where continuing without help has proven to be impossible and affecting your relationship - not only with others but yourself too.
I am a qualified HCPC registered counselling psychologist. I currently work in the NHS, privately and with charitable organisations. I have over 6 years of experience working with clients. My areas of expertise focuses on personality disorders, chronic difficulties rooted in adverse childhood experiences and identity development through schema lens.
I am also trained in Couple's Therapy, working in an Integrative way to work on issues such as communication, loss, infidelity and more!
I have 6 years counselling experience working with a wide range of clients and presenting issues. I work in an integrative way, using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Attachment Theory and a Person Centred Approach. I am Trauma informed and Eating Disorder informed. I am Neurodivergent and have a long term health condition & help others to manage with theirs.
I am also trained in Couple's Therapy, working in an Integrative way to work on issues such as communication, loss, infidelity and more!
I have 6 years counselling experience working with a wide range of clients and presenting issues. I work in an integrative way, using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Attachment Theory and a Person Centred Approach. I am Trauma informed and Eating Disorder informed. I am Neurodivergent and have a long term health condition & help others to manage with theirs.
From time to time everyone experiences stress, sadness, anger, relational conflict and grief which we often suffer alone. Accepting help from others can be difficult but maybe you feel you’ve toughing it out on your own for too long.
Whether you are struggling with an identifiable trauma or you’ve reached a point where recurring feelings are becoming unmanageable; a course of psychotherapeutic counselling may help you make sense of what is happening and enable you to gain and maintain some stability. Feelings of fear, anger, rejection and lack of confidence are difficult areas and discussing them with friends too raw and personal.
From time to time everyone experiences stress, sadness, anger, relational conflict and grief which we often suffer alone. Accepting help from others can be difficult but maybe you feel you’ve toughing it out on your own for too long.
Whether you are struggling with an identifiable trauma or you’ve reached a point where recurring feelings are becoming unmanageable; a course of psychotherapeutic counselling may help you make sense of what is happening and enable you to gain and maintain some stability. Feelings of fear, anger, rejection and lack of confidence are difficult areas and discussing them with friends too raw and personal.
I work with a broad client base presenting with varied issues ranging from feeling sad to generalised anxiety disorder and panic disorder, relationship issues to seasonal affective disorder.
Whilst I am experienced with, and enjoy continuing to work with, clients struggling with many issues, my area of particular interest is perinatal mental health and I run a free peer support group for new parents on Monday mornings. Please email bellahird@gmail.com to find out more.
I work with a broad client base presenting with varied issues ranging from feeling sad to generalised anxiety disorder and panic disorder, relationship issues to seasonal affective disorder.
Whilst I am experienced with, and enjoy continuing to work with, clients struggling with many issues, my area of particular interest is perinatal mental health and I run a free peer support group for new parents on Monday mornings. Please email bellahird@gmail.com to find out more.
I focus on the deeper patterns which shape how you behave, think and feel- especially around money, self-worth, relationships and belonging.
Most people come to me when they have reached a point where insight alone is not enough. They are successful, capable and often appear very composed whilst privately they are overwhelmed with anxiety (often with a financial aspect), relational conflict, burnout, identity shifts, or long standing patterns they cannot seem to change. They have tried managing, coping and pushing through but something deeper needs to be understood.
If this is where you find yourself, you are not alone and we can navigate this together.
I work well with adults who are reflective and ready to understand themselves at depth.
I focus on the deeper patterns which shape how you behave, think and feel- especially around money, self-worth, relationships and belonging.
Most people come to me when they have reached a point where insight alone is not enough. They are successful, capable and often appear very composed whilst privately they are overwhelmed with anxiety (often with a financial aspect), relational conflict, burnout, identity shifts, or long standing patterns they cannot seem to change. They have tried managing, coping and pushing through but something deeper needs to be understood.
If this is where you find yourself, you are not alone and we can navigate this together.
I work well with adults who are reflective and ready to understand themselves at depth.
Counselling, hypnotherapy and life coaching can help with many types of problems such as: Physical or Psychological abuse, Alcohol or Drug abuse, Self-harming or eating disorders, Relationship or Marriage problems, Bereavement/Grief/Loss Anxiety or Depression
Counselling 'talking therapy' offers a number of flexible multi-model approaches to help meet your needs, allowing you to explore your behaviours, feelings and thought processes, guiding you to take positive steps to resolve your problem through understanding and behavioural change, empowering you to take back control of your life.
Counselling, hypnotherapy and life coaching can help with many types of problems such as: Physical or Psychological abuse, Alcohol or Drug abuse, Self-harming or eating disorders, Relationship or Marriage problems, Bereavement/Grief/Loss Anxiety or Depression
Counselling 'talking therapy' offers a number of flexible multi-model approaches to help meet your needs, allowing you to explore your behaviours, feelings and thought processes, guiding you to take positive steps to resolve your problem through understanding and behavioural change, empowering you to take back control of your life.
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Does couples counseling work?
Research shows that couples counseling is effective; it can reduce relationship distress and improve emotional awareness, communication, empathy, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction. For example, emotionally focused therapy was found to be effective for about 75 percent of couples, and those benefits lasted at least two years.
When should a couple seek counseling?
Couples can benefit from counseling if they consistently struggle in their relationship. They may have lost the ability to communicate effectively, become entrenched in harmful patterns, begun to fight more than usual, broken the other’s trust, suffered from a mental or physical illness, or faced any number of other challenges. Many therapists offer free consultations, so if a couple isn’t sure whether therapy is necessary, asking directly can provide clarity.
How can I get my partner to go to couples therapy?
The decision to seek couples therapy is often driven by one partner, who then convinces the other to participate. When discussing the idea, the initiator should be direct and assertive. They can state the problems they see and explain how the relationship would benefit from therapy. In more serious cases, they can also explain how their relationship may suffer without making any changes or seeking professional help.
How does a couple prepare for couples counseling?
The anticipation of beginning couples counseling can be difficult—sometimes more difficult than the first session itself. Taking a few moments to reflect can allay those concerns: What are the current challenges? When and how did they begin? What do they want the relationship to look like in the future? Reflecting on these questions can help individuals or couples articulate their goals. Of course, the therapist will also ask questions and guide couples through the process.