Polyamory and ENM Counselling in Carshalton
Hello, I am Marijke. I have many years of experience in working with different people from all walks of life. First as a social worker, and in the past few years as a psychotherapeutic counsellor. I work with adults, young people and couples. I can help you work through areas in your life where you feel “stuck” and where you experience problems, like anxiety and depression, addiction, phobias, Post Traumatic Stress, feelings of low self-worth and low self-esteem, or problems in your relationship.
Hello, I am Marijke. I have many years of experience in working with different people from all walks of life. First as a social worker, and in the past few years as a psychotherapeutic counsellor. I work with adults, young people and couples. I can help you work through areas in your life where you feel “stuck” and where you experience problems, like anxiety and depression, addiction, phobias, Post Traumatic Stress, feelings of low self-worth and low self-esteem, or problems in your relationship.
I have worked over 25 years with adults, adolescents, couples, and families who feel stuck in repeating emotional or relational patterns shaped by trauma, loss, attachment wounds, anxiety, depression, or family conflict. Many struggle with relationships, identity, emotional regulation, or life transitions. Using an attachment based approach, informed by RECBT, systemic family therapy, psychodynamic psychotherapy, and psychoanalytic thinking, I offer a consistent therapeutic relationship where clients build insight, process difficult experiences, strengthen resilience, and create healthier ways of relating to themselves and others.
I have worked over 25 years with adults, adolescents, couples, and families who feel stuck in repeating emotional or relational patterns shaped by trauma, loss, attachment wounds, anxiety, depression, or family conflict. Many struggle with relationships, identity, emotional regulation, or life transitions. Using an attachment based approach, informed by RECBT, systemic family therapy, psychodynamic psychotherapy, and psychoanalytic thinking, I offer a consistent therapeutic relationship where clients build insight, process difficult experiences, strengthen resilience, and create healthier ways of relating to themselves and others.
I am an a counsellor and psychotherapist in private practice and I am passionate about empowering people. Do you feel overwhelmed, anxious or struggling with self-esteem? Perhaps you feel stuck in patterns of behaviour as if nothing can change? Do you struggle with narcissistic relationships? Do you feel depressed and is hard to cope with certain feelings?. Does it feel as if work and family struggles are increasingly hard to handle? Perhaps you fear social situations? Are you living with a visual impairment or chronic illness? Do you feel burdened by the past and unable to move on? This is when a therapist like me can help.
I am an a counsellor and psychotherapist in private practice and I am passionate about empowering people. Do you feel overwhelmed, anxious or struggling with self-esteem? Perhaps you feel stuck in patterns of behaviour as if nothing can change? Do you struggle with narcissistic relationships? Do you feel depressed and is hard to cope with certain feelings?. Does it feel as if work and family struggles are increasingly hard to handle? Perhaps you fear social situations? Are you living with a visual impairment or chronic illness? Do you feel burdened by the past and unable to move on? This is when a therapist like me can help.
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You may be someone who appears to cope well on the outside while feeling anxious, low, burnt out, or disconnected inside. You might be ADHD or autistic, queer, a person of colour, or living in ways that sit outside the norm. Perhaps you have spent years masking, people-pleasing, or adapting to feel safe, and are now questioning who you are, what you want, or how you relate to others. You want a space where you do not have to explain yourself or be shaped to fit someone else’s framework.
You may be someone who appears to cope well on the outside while feeling anxious, low, burnt out, or disconnected inside. You might be ADHD or autistic, queer, a person of colour, or living in ways that sit outside the norm. Perhaps you have spent years masking, people-pleasing, or adapting to feel safe, and are now questioning who you are, what you want, or how you relate to others. You want a space where you do not have to explain yourself or be shaped to fit someone else’s framework.
I have experience working with neurodiversity, disability, polyamory, and GSRD (gender, sexual and relationship diversity).
Therapy can give us a place to really unmask, unburden and gain some new perspectives. I work collaboratively, so we’ll talk about what helps you and what doesn’t and what you need from therapy - this is different for everyone and is something we can figure out as we go along too.
I primarily use a person-centred approach, offering an authentic, warm, non-judgemental relationship in which you can explore what you’re struggling with. I find that neurodivergent people in particular tend to appreciate the more egalitarian nature of this approach, as do many others who have experienced the impact of social inequalities in their lives.
I have experience working with neurodiversity, disability, polyamory, and GSRD (gender, sexual and relationship diversity).
Therapy can give us a place to really unmask, unburden and gain some new perspectives. I work collaboratively, so we’ll talk about what helps you and what doesn’t and what you need from therapy - this is different for everyone and is something we can figure out as we go along too.
I primarily use a person-centred approach, offering an authentic, warm, non-judgemental relationship in which you can explore what you’re struggling with. I find that neurodivergent people in particular tend to appreciate the more egalitarian nature of this approach, as do many others who have experienced the impact of social inequalities in their lives.
Have you been diagnosed with ADHD or autism as an adult and found that, instead of clarity, it has brought confusion, grief, or shame? Many of the people I work with are in their 30s and beyond, navigating the impact of late diagnosis on identity, self-worth, and relationships.
Have you been diagnosed with ADHD or autism as an adult and found that, instead of clarity, it has brought confusion, grief, or shame? Many of the people I work with are in their 30s and beyond, navigating the impact of late diagnosis on identity, self-worth, and relationships.
From a humanistic perspective and specifically a person centred frame of reference, our work will always be steered by you. Whether it be a lack of confidence or repetitive behaviours that have undermined your path and progression, whether you are experiencing a bereavement or other form of life transition, whether you are struggling with neurodiversity, sexual identity, or power dynamics, or whether you have simply not been seen or heard and have reached the point where you would like to see change, then I am here to actively listen, without judgement.
From a humanistic perspective and specifically a person centred frame of reference, our work will always be steered by you. Whether it be a lack of confidence or repetitive behaviours that have undermined your path and progression, whether you are experiencing a bereavement or other form of life transition, whether you are struggling with neurodiversity, sexual identity, or power dynamics, or whether you have simply not been seen or heard and have reached the point where you would like to see change, then I am here to actively listen, without judgement.
I aim to provide a safe welcoming, non-judgmental space where clients can freely express their thoughts, feelings and truly be heard. I am here to listen to you and help you find the best way forward. I use a collaborative approach where we examine thoughts and feelings from the past and examine how those past feelings affect the client in the here and now. My hope is to help clients realise that they have the tools to help themselves move forward in life and I’ll assist in finding new perspectives that help to bring self-awareness, strength, self-belief and enable positive change.
I aim to provide a safe welcoming, non-judgmental space where clients can freely express their thoughts, feelings and truly be heard. I am here to listen to you and help you find the best way forward. I use a collaborative approach where we examine thoughts and feelings from the past and examine how those past feelings affect the client in the here and now. My hope is to help clients realise that they have the tools to help themselves move forward in life and I’ll assist in finding new perspectives that help to bring self-awareness, strength, self-belief and enable positive change.
My clients are typically people with intercultural background - individuals, couples or groups. They might be facing challenges related to significant change – moving between different countries/cultures, change in their relationship status or professional roles. They might be going through challenging times in life and facing difficult choices: infidelity, separation, opening their relationship, empty nest syndrome. We work in their first or second language - English, Russian or Bulgarian. And even if I don’t speak your native tongue, as someone who is multilingual, I understand the challenges and gifts that come with bilingualism.
My clients are typically people with intercultural background - individuals, couples or groups. They might be facing challenges related to significant change – moving between different countries/cultures, change in their relationship status or professional roles. They might be going through challenging times in life and facing difficult choices: infidelity, separation, opening their relationship, empty nest syndrome. We work in their first or second language - English, Russian or Bulgarian. And even if I don’t speak your native tongue, as someone who is multilingual, I understand the challenges and gifts that come with bilingualism.
Being neurodivergent myself, I've been drawn to work with autism, ADHD and other neurotypes, as well as the gender, sexuality, kink, and relationship diversity ( polyamory/non-monogamy) community, including sex workers.
I believe that every person has the inner wisdom and potential to create a fulfilling life for themselves. However, at some point, most of us will find that we need external perspective and a space to explore issues that might make us feel stuck or hopeless.
To me, counselling is a collaborative and creative relational process, and my role within it is to help people find their own personal power and joy, no matter their circumstances.
I'm an energetic practitioner who will laugh and get excited with you, but also respect your rhythm and create space for grief, pain and stuckness, for as long as it's needed.
Being neurodivergent myself, I've been drawn to work with autism, ADHD and other neurotypes, as well as the gender, sexuality, kink, and relationship diversity ( polyamory/non-monogamy) community, including sex workers.
I believe that every person has the inner wisdom and potential to create a fulfilling life for themselves. However, at some point, most of us will find that we need external perspective and a space to explore issues that might make us feel stuck or hopeless.
To me, counselling is a collaborative and creative relational process, and my role within it is to help people find their own personal power and joy, no matter their circumstances.
I'm an energetic practitioner who will laugh and get excited with you, but also respect your rhythm and create space for grief, pain and stuckness, for as long as it's needed.
We all experience difficulties in our life, but when these difficulties start to impact our ability to enjoy life, work, and manage our relationships, we might want to get some extra support. Counselling provides a unique opportunity to talk through and process your experiences and feelings in a safe, confidential and consistent space. Clients come to me to find a calm environment to work through issues at their own pace. I won't tell you what to do, but I'll be with you each step of the way.
We all experience difficulties in our life, but when these difficulties start to impact our ability to enjoy life, work, and manage our relationships, we might want to get some extra support. Counselling provides a unique opportunity to talk through and process your experiences and feelings in a safe, confidential and consistent space. Clients come to me to find a calm environment to work through issues at their own pace. I won't tell you what to do, but I'll be with you each step of the way.
A warm, culturally aware therapist supporting anxiety, neurodiversity, relationships and intimacy.
You may be living with anxiety, panic, or a constant sense of being on edge. You might be autistic or neurodivergent and feel misunderstood in relationships, work, or intimacy. Perhaps you’re struggling with sexual concerns, shame, or feeling disconnected from your partner, especially within a cross-cultural relationship. You want a space where you don’t have to explain yourself or fit in. Your hope is to feel calmer, more confident, and able to build relationships that feel safe, authentic, and fulfilling.
A warm, culturally aware therapist supporting anxiety, neurodiversity, relationships and intimacy.
You may be living with anxiety, panic, or a constant sense of being on edge. You might be autistic or neurodivergent and feel misunderstood in relationships, work, or intimacy. Perhaps you’re struggling with sexual concerns, shame, or feeling disconnected from your partner, especially within a cross-cultural relationship. You want a space where you don’t have to explain yourself or fit in. Your hope is to feel calmer, more confident, and able to build relationships that feel safe, authentic, and fulfilling.
I would like to help you. As a bisexual woman, I know the challenges of navigating identity and sexuality. That is why I approach every story with an open mind and empathic curiosity. I will engage you from a non-pathologizing, sex-positive, gender-affirming stance, so that you may embrace every part of yourself. I provide individual and couples therapy, as well as sessions for those in alternative relationships. Together we can navigate our way through your relationship and personal challenges, overcome cultural limitations that seek to restrict us, and ultimately find inner joy during times when it appears out of reach.
I would like to help you. As a bisexual woman, I know the challenges of navigating identity and sexuality. That is why I approach every story with an open mind and empathic curiosity. I will engage you from a non-pathologizing, sex-positive, gender-affirming stance, so that you may embrace every part of yourself. I provide individual and couples therapy, as well as sessions for those in alternative relationships. Together we can navigate our way through your relationship and personal challenges, overcome cultural limitations that seek to restrict us, and ultimately find inner joy during times when it appears out of reach.
Hi, I am Ursula (she/her). I am an integrative, LGBTQIA+ affirmative therapist with an additional certification in Sex Counselling and a Master's degree in Sexuality Studies. I am currently undertaking an additional training in Autism & Mental Health.
If you are thinking about having therapy in order to talk about your relationship(s), navigating relationship models (e.g. open relationships, ethical non-monogamy, polamory), dating and being on the apps, sex, sexual issues, your sexual self, your sexual orientation or identity, your gender journey, experiences of non-consent, trauma, etc. I might be the right therapist for you.
Hi, I am Ursula (she/her). I am an integrative, LGBTQIA+ affirmative therapist with an additional certification in Sex Counselling and a Master's degree in Sexuality Studies. I am currently undertaking an additional training in Autism & Mental Health.
If you are thinking about having therapy in order to talk about your relationship(s), navigating relationship models (e.g. open relationships, ethical non-monogamy, polamory), dating and being on the apps, sex, sexual issues, your sexual self, your sexual orientation or identity, your gender journey, experiences of non-consent, trauma, etc. I might be the right therapist for you.
My ideal clients are individuals and couples seeking a deeper, more authentic connection with themselves and others, particularly around intimacy, desire, and sexual wellbeing. They may come feeling disconnected, stuck in patterns, or navigating challenges such as communication, shame, or mismatched needs. I work relationally and authentically, creating a safe, collaborative space where we can explore these experiences together. Through open dialogue, curiosity, and attuned support, I help clients build understanding, strengthen connection, and move toward more fulfilling, embodied relationships.
My ideal clients are individuals and couples seeking a deeper, more authentic connection with themselves and others, particularly around intimacy, desire, and sexual wellbeing. They may come feeling disconnected, stuck in patterns, or navigating challenges such as communication, shame, or mismatched needs. I work relationally and authentically, creating a safe, collaborative space where we can explore these experiences together. Through open dialogue, curiosity, and attuned support, I help clients build understanding, strengthen connection, and move toward more fulfilling, embodied relationships.
Online Couples Therapy, Marriage Counselling & Relationship Therapy - Are you searching for online relationship therapy because communication keeps breaking down?
Trying to recover from an affair or betrayal and unsure whether trust can be rebuilt?
Struggling with sexual difficulties that are creating distance or resentment?
When arguments repeat, intimacy fades, or trust is damaged, it can feel exhausting and uncertain. You may be wondering, “Can we fix this?” or “Are we going to make it?”
Online Couples Therapy, Marriage Counselling & Relationship Therapy - Are you searching for online relationship therapy because communication keeps breaking down?
Trying to recover from an affair or betrayal and unsure whether trust can be rebuilt?
Struggling with sexual difficulties that are creating distance or resentment?
When arguments repeat, intimacy fades, or trust is damaged, it can feel exhausting and uncertain. You may be wondering, “Can we fix this?” or “Are we going to make it?”
Hello, my name is Bjorn Ventris (he/him). I am a relationship and sex therapist based in Hackney. I work with individuals, couples & polycules from all backgrounds and orientations to help them improve their relationships and sex lives.
Some issues I help clients with include: open relationships & consensual non-monogamy, mismatched desire, improving communication, conflict, long term commitment, infidelity and rebuilding trust, improving intimacy, relationship endings & separation, step families, erectile dysfunction, rapid or retarded ejaculation, vaginismus, sexual trauma, compulsive sexual behaviour and problematic porn use.
Hello, my name is Bjorn Ventris (he/him). I am a relationship and sex therapist based in Hackney. I work with individuals, couples & polycules from all backgrounds and orientations to help them improve their relationships and sex lives.
Some issues I help clients with include: open relationships & consensual non-monogamy, mismatched desire, improving communication, conflict, long term commitment, infidelity and rebuilding trust, improving intimacy, relationship endings & separation, step families, erectile dysfunction, rapid or retarded ejaculation, vaginismus, sexual trauma, compulsive sexual behaviour and problematic porn use.
I work with monogamous as well as open/ polyamorous relationships.
Focusing on your goals and using a collaborative approach we will identify what your blocks are to happier relationships and satisfying sex, making changes in the here and now to thoughts, behaviours and patterns. Through agreed tasks outside of therapy, and safe space within therapy we will explore your past and your now to get to the future you desire.
I work with monogamous as well as open/ polyamorous relationships.
Focusing on your goals and using a collaborative approach we will identify what your blocks are to happier relationships and satisfying sex, making changes in the here and now to thoughts, behaviours and patterns. Through agreed tasks outside of therapy, and safe space within therapy we will explore your past and your now to get to the future you desire.
I am a qualified person-centred counsellor and a registered member of the British Association for Counsellors and Psychotherapists (BACP), with ten years of experience. I offer short or long-term one-to-one counselling sessions either online or in person.
My approach is predominantly person-centred- meaning the sessions are centered around you and led by what you would like to bring to counselling. I offer a space for you to talk that is empathic, non-judgemental and accepting where you will feel heard, seen and valued.
The majority of my experience is working with LGBTQIA+ folk. Having said this, everybody is welcome!
I am a qualified person-centred counsellor and a registered member of the British Association for Counsellors and Psychotherapists (BACP), with ten years of experience. I offer short or long-term one-to-one counselling sessions either online or in person.
My approach is predominantly person-centred- meaning the sessions are centered around you and led by what you would like to bring to counselling. I offer a space for you to talk that is empathic, non-judgemental and accepting where you will feel heard, seen and valued.
The majority of my experience is working with LGBTQIA+ folk. Having said this, everybody is welcome!
Hello, my name is Nate (he/him). I am a Queer UKCP-registered psychotherapist offering online psychotherapy across the UK. I have particular experience working with LGBTQIA+ clients and Gender, Sexuality and Relationship Diversity (GSRD), as well as with intimacy and relationship difficulties, sexual health and HIV, and the impact of early relational trauma. I work with adults experiencing a wide range of emotional and psychological difficulties, including anxiety, depression, trauma, identity concerns, shame, disconnection, or feeling stuck in recurring patterns.
Hello, my name is Nate (he/him). I am a Queer UKCP-registered psychotherapist offering online psychotherapy across the UK. I have particular experience working with LGBTQIA+ clients and Gender, Sexuality and Relationship Diversity (GSRD), as well as with intimacy and relationship difficulties, sexual health and HIV, and the impact of early relational trauma. I work with adults experiencing a wide range of emotional and psychological difficulties, including anxiety, depression, trauma, identity concerns, shame, disconnection, or feeling stuck in recurring patterns.
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Open Relationships Non-Monogamy Counsellors
Why might an individual want to see a therapist specialising in open relationships and consensual non-monogamy?
A client seeking help with an open or consensually non-monogamous relationship will prefer to talk with a professional whom they can count on to be nonjudgmental. Talking with a supportive therapist may on its own help relieve some of the stigma and challenges partners face. That said, the most important factor in the success of any type of therapy is the ability of the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond. For this reason, an individual or couple could find success with a therapist who does not specialise in non-monogamous relationships but with whom they can build trust.
When should open or consensually non-monogamous partners seek counselling?
Like other couples, polyamorous partners typically seek counseling when they face relationship challenges they can’t solve themselves. In non-monogamous relationships, this could include breaches of trust, including infidelity; unclear rules or violations of boundaries; jealousy of outside partners; the stress of juggling the needs of multiple partners; or the effect of high partner turnover on children. Like those of other couples, polyamorous bonds can be threatened by increasingly frequent arguments, poor or dysfunctional communication, diminished emotional or physical intimacy, or the feeling that something is wrong, even if they don’t know what it is.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in open relationships and consensual non-monogamy?
No, but individuals seeking help with non-monogamous relationships would most likely consult a licensed professional with specific training in couples counseling or couples therapy. Couples counselling and couples therapy both involve teaching concrete strategies to navigate conflict in relationships. A good therapist can engage both partners as they explain these approaches but can also work with a single partner.
How long does therapy for consensually non-monogamous couples typically last?
Couples therapy for any type of couple, tends to be relatively time-limited, lasting around 12 weeks on average. A good therapist will tailor sessions to the individual partners’ emotions and sometimes their past, along with patterns found to be repeating in the relationship. In many cases, clients should expect their therapist to assign “homework” between weekly sessions.