Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counselling in Buckhurst Hill
If you’ve been carrying too much for too long, feeling burnt out, overlooked or stuck in patterns you can’t quite shift, you’re not alone. Maybe you’re the one who holds everything together, the reliable one who keeps going even when something inside feels tired or overwhelmed.
You might find yourself saying “yes” when you want to say “no”, replaying conversations, feeling guilty for resting, or sensing that something in you is asking for more space, clarity or ease.
If you’ve been carrying too much for too long, feeling burnt out, overlooked or stuck in patterns you can’t quite shift, you’re not alone. Maybe you’re the one who holds everything together, the reliable one who keeps going even when something inside feels tired or overwhelmed.
You might find yourself saying “yes” when you want to say “no”, replaying conversations, feeling guilty for resting, or sensing that something in you is asking for more space, clarity or ease.
I am an integrative psychotherapist With qualifications in psycho dynamic, psychoanalytic counselling. C.B.T E.M.D.R ACT and a senior qualified accredited hypnotherapist . My practice is in Clacton on Sea i offer evening and afternoon appointments on Mon and Tues i also offer a full range of remote online appointments
I am an integrative psychotherapist With qualifications in psycho dynamic, psychoanalytic counselling. C.B.T E.M.D.R ACT and a senior qualified accredited hypnotherapist . My practice is in Clacton on Sea i offer evening and afternoon appointments on Mon and Tues i also offer a full range of remote online appointments
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My practice is sex positive; neuro affirming and I am and an ally to the LGBTQ community.
We can all remember times in our lives when we have felt something was missing. Times where we’ve needed assistance, but not known where to turn. We’ve been overwhelmed or exhausted; confused or isolated; lost and in need of something more that we can’t put our finger on. I am interested in what has brought an individual to the point they’re at currently – what is working for them and what do they want to change. With a warm, person-centred approach I respect the individuality of my clients and help them to find ways to take more control over their lives without judgement or barriers.
My practice is sex positive; neuro affirming and I am and an ally to the LGBTQ community.
We can all remember times in our lives when we have felt something was missing. Times where we’ve needed assistance, but not known where to turn. We’ve been overwhelmed or exhausted; confused or isolated; lost and in need of something more that we can’t put our finger on. I am interested in what has brought an individual to the point they’re at currently – what is working for them and what do they want to change. With a warm, person-centred approach I respect the individuality of my clients and help them to find ways to take more control over their lives without judgement or barriers.
My name is Dawn (she / they) & I am a social activist art therapist providing arts psychotherapy & sex positive therapy to adults in West & SouthWest London.
The arts are an alternative approach to traditional talking therapy & can provide a deeper insight when it is hard to find the words for your experiences and feelings.
In my sessions, the seven art forms are available for you;
Art
Sand-play
Music
Bodywork / Movement
Poetry
Sculpture / Clay
Drama / Puppetry
My name is Dawn (she / they) & I am a social activist art therapist providing arts psychotherapy & sex positive therapy to adults in West & SouthWest London.
The arts are an alternative approach to traditional talking therapy & can provide a deeper insight when it is hard to find the words for your experiences and feelings.
In my sessions, the seven art forms are available for you;
Art
Sand-play
Music
Bodywork / Movement
Poetry
Sculpture / Clay
Drama / Puppetry
I'm experienced in supporting clients to work through issues relating to low or mismatched desire, sexual functioning, unreliable erections, early or delayed ejaculation, painful sex, vaginismus, gender and sexuality, relationship issues, affairs and infidelity, problematic sexual behaviours, sex/porn addiction and understanding kink/BDSM identities.
Hi, my name is Loki. I’m a psychosexual & relationships therapist and I'm committed to co-creating a safe, inclusive and non-judgmental space where clients can work through their sex & relationship issues, explore their erotic life, (re)discover themselves, make sense of their relationships... and bring about lasting change.
I'm experienced in supporting clients to work through issues relating to low or mismatched desire, sexual functioning, unreliable erections, early or delayed ejaculation, painful sex, vaginismus, gender and sexuality, relationship issues, affairs and infidelity, problematic sexual behaviours, sex/porn addiction and understanding kink/BDSM identities.
Hi, my name is Loki. I’m a psychosexual & relationships therapist and I'm committed to co-creating a safe, inclusive and non-judgmental space where clients can work through their sex & relationship issues, explore their erotic life, (re)discover themselves, make sense of their relationships... and bring about lasting change.
I am Kink and poly informed and friendly and, whilst these can be a part of a client's life, I know it is not always the reason clients come to therapy.
I specialise in helping individuals with sexual behaviour they feel is compulsive or out of control, including problematic porn use and sex addiction.
I offer an empathic and non-shaming environment to explore what is going in for you. I know how important it is to work at your pace. Of course, I also help with sex problems, including disappointing erections (ED), rapid or delayed ejaculation, as well as low libido.
I am Kink and poly informed and friendly and, whilst these can be a part of a client's life, I know it is not always the reason clients come to therapy.
I specialise in helping individuals with sexual behaviour they feel is compulsive or out of control, including problematic porn use and sex addiction.
I offer an empathic and non-shaming environment to explore what is going in for you. I know how important it is to work at your pace. Of course, I also help with sex problems, including disappointing erections (ED), rapid or delayed ejaculation, as well as low libido.
Alongside this, many are also curious about expanding into more aliveness: intimacy, fantasy, kink, alternative relating, emotional honesty, and relational depth.
I offer sex and relationship support for individuals and couples exploring sexual challenges, communication, intimacy, desire, and relational patterns. My work integrates embodiment, consent, expansive thinking and relational awareness to support deeper connection, clarity, and the ability to meet more of yourself both in your sexuality and relationships.
Alongside this, many are also curious about expanding into more aliveness: intimacy, fantasy, kink, alternative relating, emotional honesty, and relational depth.
I offer sex and relationship support for individuals and couples exploring sexual challenges, communication, intimacy, desire, and relational patterns. My work integrates embodiment, consent, expansive thinking and relational awareness to support deeper connection, clarity, and the ability to meet more of yourself both in your sexuality and relationships.
I am a qualified counsellor and psychotherapist, offering counselling to adults, online and face to face in Sutton, Surrey. I facilitate short term (6-12 sessions) and long term (open-ended) therapy. I believe in a holistic approach to health and wellbeing, taking into account all of our being - psychological, cultural, physical, social and spiritual. I work in a way that is gentle, warm and holding. I endeavour to provide a safe, non-judgmental space for you to talk through the experiences you are facing. I work collaboratively to ensure that you have the autonomy in deciding the content, pace and depth of our work.
I am a qualified counsellor and psychotherapist, offering counselling to adults, online and face to face in Sutton, Surrey. I facilitate short term (6-12 sessions) and long term (open-ended) therapy. I believe in a holistic approach to health and wellbeing, taking into account all of our being - psychological, cultural, physical, social and spiritual. I work in a way that is gentle, warm and holding. I endeavour to provide a safe, non-judgmental space for you to talk through the experiences you are facing. I work collaboratively to ensure that you have the autonomy in deciding the content, pace and depth of our work.
I work affirmatively with neurodivergent clients (including ADHD and autism) and GSRD (gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity) - this includes LGBT+, kink and BDSM, non-monogamy, and sex work, where questions of belonging, safety, and identity often sit under the surface.
You might be feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or stuck in patterns that keep repeating despite everything you’ve tried to change. For some people this shows up as anxiety, panic attacks, a harsh internal voice, persistent stress, or perfectionism that never seems to let up. Others come carrying the impact of trauma, emotional or sexual abuse, or attachment wounds that began long before they had language for what was happening. Depression, low self-worth, loneliness, and self-harm can emerge when there hasn’t been a safe place for difficult feelings to go.
I work affirmatively with neurodivergent clients (including ADHD and autism) and GSRD (gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity) - this includes LGBT+, kink and BDSM, non-monogamy, and sex work, where questions of belonging, safety, and identity often sit under the surface.
You might be feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or stuck in patterns that keep repeating despite everything you’ve tried to change. For some people this shows up as anxiety, panic attacks, a harsh internal voice, persistent stress, or perfectionism that never seems to let up. Others come carrying the impact of trauma, emotional or sexual abuse, or attachment wounds that began long before they had language for what was happening. Depression, low self-worth, loneliness, and self-harm can emerge when there hasn’t been a safe place for difficult feelings to go.
Updated June 2026 - I consider it a sign of bravery that you’re thinking about coming to see me for therapy. We all experience difficult and painful things in life and we all need other people to lean on, to help us through some of the more painful or challenging situations or to help us grow into kind, loving people. Working together, you'll move towards feeling better and showing up differently in the world. Together, life can get brighter.
Updated June 2026 - I consider it a sign of bravery that you’re thinking about coming to see me for therapy. We all experience difficult and painful things in life and we all need other people to lean on, to help us through some of the more painful or challenging situations or to help us grow into kind, loving people. Working together, you'll move towards feeling better and showing up differently in the world. Together, life can get brighter.
I am kink aware.
I also offer support in coming to terms with narcissistic abuse, or being in relationship with someone with a personality disorder. I am now working with clients with complex trauma and PTSD and use a combination of psychotherapy, CBT and tapping to help work through the psychological, physical and spiritual aspects of healing.
I am kink aware.
I also offer support in coming to terms with narcissistic abuse, or being in relationship with someone with a personality disorder. I am now working with clients with complex trauma and PTSD and use a combination of psychotherapy, CBT and tapping to help work through the psychological, physical and spiritual aspects of healing.
Your life may look successful and beautiful on the outside, yet inside you may feel anxious, low or burnt out, caught in people-pleasing, especially around family, partners, your sexuality or identity. Perhaps you are coming out, or afraid of disappointing those you love. You may long to stop performing, quieten shame and feel more at home in yourself. Together we slow down, map your story and gently honour your uniqueness, reclaiming your needs, boundaries and desires so life feels steadier, kinder and more spacious. I offer a warm, confidential space in Harley Street and online to explore, feel understood & trust your way forward.
Your life may look successful and beautiful on the outside, yet inside you may feel anxious, low or burnt out, caught in people-pleasing, especially around family, partners, your sexuality or identity. Perhaps you are coming out, or afraid of disappointing those you love. You may long to stop performing, quieten shame and feel more at home in yourself. Together we slow down, map your story and gently honour your uniqueness, reclaiming your needs, boundaries and desires so life feels steadier, kinder and more spacious. I offer a warm, confidential space in Harley Street and online to explore, feel understood & trust your way forward.
I am a qualified Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist working with individuals, couples, and polycules, with issues around communication, desire/arousal, orgasm, erectile difficulties, vaginal discomfort/pain, trauma, body image, gender and sexuality related issues, menopause, affairs, non monogamous, polyamorous relationships, porn addiction, kink, and bdsm.
My aim is to help you explore your feelings, thoughts and emotions and the affect they have on your behaviour and mood. I see the therapeutic process as a collaborative one, with us working side-by-side to develop your inner resources, communication skills, improve awareness of yourself, your body and your relationships with others.
I am a qualified Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist working with individuals, couples, and polycules, with issues around communication, desire/arousal, orgasm, erectile difficulties, vaginal discomfort/pain, trauma, body image, gender and sexuality related issues, menopause, affairs, non monogamous, polyamorous relationships, porn addiction, kink, and bdsm.
My aim is to help you explore your feelings, thoughts and emotions and the affect they have on your behaviour and mood. I see the therapeutic process as a collaborative one, with us working side-by-side to develop your inner resources, communication skills, improve awareness of yourself, your body and your relationships with others.
I also welcome people at the intersection of queerness, kink, and alternative subcultures.
In invite you to contact me to speak confidentially about anything that you feel you need at this point in your life.
This could be difficulties in your everyday life or with others. This could be thoughts, feelings, or sensations that are too much. This could be a lack of desire or enjoyment in life. This could be a loss or a destabilising event. This could also be a question about yourself, which you wish to explore in a non-judgemental space.
I welcome people of all ethnicities, cultures, and alternative subcultures; and people of all genders, sexual orientations, types of relationships, and sexual activities.
I also welcome people at the intersection of queerness, kink, and alternative subcultures.
In invite you to contact me to speak confidentially about anything that you feel you need at this point in your life.
This could be difficulties in your everyday life or with others. This could be thoughts, feelings, or sensations that are too much. This could be a lack of desire or enjoyment in life. This could be a loss or a destabilising event. This could also be a question about yourself, which you wish to explore in a non-judgemental space.
I welcome people of all ethnicities, cultures, and alternative subcultures; and people of all genders, sexual orientations, types of relationships, and sexual activities.
My clients often come to therapy after noticing a lack of motivation or feeling disconnected. They may feel overwhelmed by daily pressures, weighed down by anxiety, depression, or trauma, or left questioning their sense of self. Many describe feeling misunderstood, not fitting in, or never feeling “good enough.”
I work with neurodivergent adults (ADHD, autism and AuDHD, diagnosed or exploring), and those navigating questions about identity, relationships, or sexuality. Together, we’ll create a safe space where you can process your past, understand yourself more deeply, and move through life with greater confidence and ease.
My clients often come to therapy after noticing a lack of motivation or feeling disconnected. They may feel overwhelmed by daily pressures, weighed down by anxiety, depression, or trauma, or left questioning their sense of self. Many describe feeling misunderstood, not fitting in, or never feeling “good enough.”
I work with neurodivergent adults (ADHD, autism and AuDHD, diagnosed or exploring), and those navigating questions about identity, relationships, or sexuality. Together, we’ll create a safe space where you can process your past, understand yourself more deeply, and move through life with greater confidence and ease.
I support anxiety, confidence and work pressures, and offer LGBTQIA+, identity, relationship diversity and kink-aware counselling to help you move forward authentically.
Many of the people who reach out to me are thoughtful, self-aware, and used to coping alone. From the outside life may look steady, but internally they feel overwhelmed, stuck in overthinking, self-doubt, or emotional exhaustion. Some are questioning identity, relationships, or direction in life; others feel pressure at work or struggle to feel “enough.” They want a space where they don’t have to perform, explain everything perfectly, or be judged. Their goal is to understand themselves more clearly, feel calmer and more confident, and make choices that feel authentic rather than driven by fear or expectation.
I support anxiety, confidence and work pressures, and offer LGBTQIA+, identity, relationship diversity and kink-aware counselling to help you move forward authentically.
Many of the people who reach out to me are thoughtful, self-aware, and used to coping alone. From the outside life may look steady, but internally they feel overwhelmed, stuck in overthinking, self-doubt, or emotional exhaustion. Some are questioning identity, relationships, or direction in life; others feel pressure at work or struggle to feel “enough.” They want a space where they don’t have to perform, explain everything perfectly, or be judged. Their goal is to understand themselves more clearly, feel calmer and more confident, and make choices that feel authentic rather than driven by fear or expectation.
As a therapist with experience working in the NHS and in private practice, I specialise in Anxiety (GAD, Social Anxiety, OCD and Panic Disorder), Addiction, Depression, Trauma and Relationship Issues (Infidelity, Intimacy Issues, Compulsive Sexual Behaviour and Shame) . I am also LGBTQIA+ and Neurodiverse affirming. I believe that therapy should be tailored specifically for your individual needs. It can feel daunting sharing your problems, sometimes for the first time, and I like to work in a collaborative way, helping you learn more about yourself, your issues and developing strategies to manage them.
As a therapist with experience working in the NHS and in private practice, I specialise in Anxiety (GAD, Social Anxiety, OCD and Panic Disorder), Addiction, Depression, Trauma and Relationship Issues (Infidelity, Intimacy Issues, Compulsive Sexual Behaviour and Shame) . I am also LGBTQIA+ and Neurodiverse affirming. I believe that therapy should be tailored specifically for your individual needs. It can feel daunting sharing your problems, sometimes for the first time, and I like to work in a collaborative way, helping you learn more about yourself, your issues and developing strategies to manage them.
I work mostly with issues around love, sex and kink, identity, and self-worth.
Whatever has brought you here, you’re already taking a step towards understanding yourself more deeply. You may feel things intensely and reflect a lot, but still find it hard to make sense of what’s happening right now. You may notice yourself going round in familiar patterns that leave you feeling stuck, ashamed, or disconnected from others and from yourself. Maybe you’re questioning aspects of identity, desire, sex and intimacy, and wanting more clarity, confidence, and ease in how you show up. At heart, you want to feel more alive, more connected with intuition, more at home in yourself, in your body, and in your relationships.
I work mostly with issues around love, sex and kink, identity, and self-worth.
Whatever has brought you here, you’re already taking a step towards understanding yourself more deeply. You may feel things intensely and reflect a lot, but still find it hard to make sense of what’s happening right now. You may notice yourself going round in familiar patterns that leave you feeling stuck, ashamed, or disconnected from others and from yourself. Maybe you’re questioning aspects of identity, desire, sex and intimacy, and wanting more clarity, confidence, and ease in how you show up. At heart, you want to feel more alive, more connected with intuition, more at home in yourself, in your body, and in your relationships.
I have experience working with anxiety, grief, depression, interpersonal and relational issues, intimacy, sexuality, self‑confidence, self‑esteem, self‑awareness, and personality. I am committed to anti‑oppressive practice, freedom from judgement or marginalization, and client empowerment. I have extensive experience working with the LGBTQIA+ community and with issues relating to sexuality and alternative sexual lifestyles. I have completed specialty training in sex therapy. I also work with dreams, symbolism, and depth psychologies.
I offer a fully virtual, cross‑border practice serving adults in both the UK and Canada.
I have experience working with anxiety, grief, depression, interpersonal and relational issues, intimacy, sexuality, self‑confidence, self‑esteem, self‑awareness, and personality. I am committed to anti‑oppressive practice, freedom from judgement or marginalization, and client empowerment. I have extensive experience working with the LGBTQIA+ community and with issues relating to sexuality and alternative sexual lifestyles. I have completed specialty training in sex therapy. I also work with dreams, symbolism, and depth psychologies.
I offer a fully virtual, cross‑border practice serving adults in both the UK and Canada.
If you are feeling stuck, isolated or overwhelmed in your life I can provide a space where we can work together to gain understanding of what is going on for you and help you find healthier and more positive ways to cope
I am a sex-positive, GDSR, Kink-affirming therapist who supports those exploring their sexualities and desires without shame or judgment.
I work with both couples and individuals navigating sexual, relationship and intimacy difficulties. My work is neuroaffirming, and I support adults exploring life through the lens of neurodivergence (including Autism, ADHD). My approach is non-judgemental, compassionate, and tailored to each individual or couple I work with.
If you are feeling stuck, isolated or overwhelmed in your life I can provide a space where we can work together to gain understanding of what is going on for you and help you find healthier and more positive ways to cope
I am a sex-positive, GDSR, Kink-affirming therapist who supports those exploring their sexualities and desires without shame or judgment.
I work with both couples and individuals navigating sexual, relationship and intimacy difficulties. My work is neuroaffirming, and I support adults exploring life through the lens of neurodivergence (including Autism, ADHD). My approach is non-judgemental, compassionate, and tailored to each individual or couple I work with.
Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counsellors
Why might an individual want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
A sex-positive or kinky individual may want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist because the client may feel safer and more supported discussing their experiences and challenges. A therapist who identifies as kink-friendly will have experience with clients having diverse sexual preferences and will likely be nonjudgmental and supportive about issues brought to the table. It is important to note that sex-positive, kink-allied individuals may find equal success with therapists who do not have such specialised knowledge and background. The most important factor in the success of therapy is for the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in sex-positive, kink-allied treatment?
Generally, no. There are limited training programs and unofficial accreditations that therapists can pursue, but a therapist’s expertise will ultimately come from their previous experience with similar clients, their engagement with organisations that promote sex positivity or kink-allied lifestyles, and the importance they place on safety and cultural sensitivity.
How can individuals recognise a good sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
An experienced therapist is able to help clients explore their sexual identity and expression and relieve any discomfort or stigma attached to discussing such matters and the client’s overall challenges. A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-allied is able to create an environment that honors a client’s experience and sexual preferences. To recognise a good therapist, clients can simply ask directly about topics and issues important to them and gauge their comfort level and connection with a clinician based on the responses.
Can clients benefit from having a therapist with a focus on sex positivity and alternative sexual lifestyles?
Some individuals may feel most comfortable knowing that the clinician they’re working with has a commitment to creating an atmosphere of sex positivity and has experience with relationship diversity and alternative relationship structures. Working with a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist may help clients respect their own challenges and improve identity-affirming treatment.