Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counselling in Barnsley
As a COSRT registered Sex, Relationship and Trauma therapist and Clinical Supervisor, I understand that you might feel disconnected — from yourself, your partner, or your sense of desire and confidence. Perhaps you’re repeating relationship patterns, navigating mismatched libido, struggling with shame around sex, or feeling the long shadow of past experiences in your body and intimacy. You want relationships and a sexual life that feel secure, honest and alive — but you’re not sure how to get there.
As a COSRT registered Sex, Relationship and Trauma therapist and Clinical Supervisor, I understand that you might feel disconnected — from yourself, your partner, or your sense of desire and confidence. Perhaps you’re repeating relationship patterns, navigating mismatched libido, struggling with shame around sex, or feeling the long shadow of past experiences in your body and intimacy. You want relationships and a sexual life that feel secure, honest and alive — but you’re not sure how to get there.
I am an experienced, well-established BACP registered and NCPS accredited counsellor and supervisor with 15 years of experience in private practice in Barnsley, South Yorkshire. I accept private clients, including those covered by BUPA and AVIVA, offering face-to-face and online sessions. Whilst my focus is on anxiety and stress management, I have extensive experience in supporting clients through issues related to abuse, addiction, and bereavement. I use Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and other therapeutic modalities to help clients develop practical strategies to regain control of their lives and find peace.
I am an experienced, well-established BACP registered and NCPS accredited counsellor and supervisor with 15 years of experience in private practice in Barnsley, South Yorkshire. I accept private clients, including those covered by BUPA and AVIVA, offering face-to-face and online sessions. Whilst my focus is on anxiety and stress management, I have extensive experience in supporting clients through issues related to abuse, addiction, and bereavement. I use Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and other therapeutic modalities to help clients develop practical strategies to regain control of their lives and find peace.
Most clients contact us with surface negative symptoms or challenges. Every client is totally unique, therefore our truly one-off, made-to-measure approach is needed and always provided. Most clients help us to slowly identify the real current trigger(s), creating the negative presenting symptoms or challenges. Finally, our last step in helping you gain a positive, confident and happier future, is to discover your deepest root causes, which created the very first trigger(s). To put it simply, our driving force from day one is to help you quickly ensure you gain much improved: thinking, feeling and behaviour.
Most clients contact us with surface negative symptoms or challenges. Every client is totally unique, therefore our truly one-off, made-to-measure approach is needed and always provided. Most clients help us to slowly identify the real current trigger(s), creating the negative presenting symptoms or challenges. Finally, our last step in helping you gain a positive, confident and happier future, is to discover your deepest root causes, which created the very first trigger(s). To put it simply, our driving force from day one is to help you quickly ensure you gain much improved: thinking, feeling and behaviour.
Hi, it can be hard to share your feelings, so I offer a relaxed approach to therapy in a welcoming private safe space and the option to work remotely by telephone or video call.
With the right support and guidance we can start to make your world more manageable through achieving your personal goals, problem solving, alleviation of stress, low mood and anxieties.
We can explore your life dynamics, past, present and future by using different therapy approaches to make long term changes, realisations and maintainable improvements.
Your first time or not, we will go along at your pace and for your duration.
Hi, it can be hard to share your feelings, so I offer a relaxed approach to therapy in a welcoming private safe space and the option to work remotely by telephone or video call.
With the right support and guidance we can start to make your world more manageable through achieving your personal goals, problem solving, alleviation of stress, low mood and anxieties.
We can explore your life dynamics, past, present and future by using different therapy approaches to make long term changes, realisations and maintainable improvements.
Your first time or not, we will go along at your pace and for your duration.
Hello, I'm Jamie, a qualified therapeutic counsellor, looking forward to understanding and supporting you on your counselling journey.
I work with adult individuals and couples.
I invite you to bring your whole authentic self, free from judgement or assumption. At its core, my approach centres on understanding and affirming your identity and how you relate to the world around you. Together, we will work collaboratively to alleviate your distress, build healthier, more meaningful relationships with yourself and others, and empower you to feel more certain of who you truly are.
Hello, I'm Jamie, a qualified therapeutic counsellor, looking forward to understanding and supporting you on your counselling journey.
I work with adult individuals and couples.
I invite you to bring your whole authentic self, free from judgement or assumption. At its core, my approach centres on understanding and affirming your identity and how you relate to the world around you. Together, we will work collaboratively to alleviate your distress, build healthier, more meaningful relationships with yourself and others, and empower you to feel more certain of who you truly are.
Hello, life can feel overwhelming at times. Anxiety, fear, depression and other emotional struggles are part of being human — yet when they become too heavy, it can be difficult to cope alone.
As a trauma-informed integrative counsellor, I provide a safe and supportive space to help you explore your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours, so you can develop a deeper understanding of yourself and begin to make sense of what’s happening beneath the surface. Together, we’ll work towards uncovering what you need to feel more balanced, connected, and in control of your life.
Hello, life can feel overwhelming at times. Anxiety, fear, depression and other emotional struggles are part of being human — yet when they become too heavy, it can be difficult to cope alone.
As a trauma-informed integrative counsellor, I provide a safe and supportive space to help you explore your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours, so you can develop a deeper understanding of yourself and begin to make sense of what’s happening beneath the surface. Together, we’ll work towards uncovering what you need to feel more balanced, connected, and in control of your life.
Are you wanting to work out why patterns keep repeating in your relationships, or maybe you are a couple wanting to improve communication and intimacy? I am a UKCP registered psychotherapist and trauma therapist, offering therapy to individuals, couples and groups. My main approach is Transactional Analysis, a model to help us understand ourselves and our relationships better, and find ways to make the changes we want.
Are you wanting to work out why patterns keep repeating in your relationships, or maybe you are a couple wanting to improve communication and intimacy? I am a UKCP registered psychotherapist and trauma therapist, offering therapy to individuals, couples and groups. My main approach is Transactional Analysis, a model to help us understand ourselves and our relationships better, and find ways to make the changes we want.
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Feeling stuck and frustrated in your relationship, repeating patterns that you both don't know how to stop? Couples therapy can help work through what is happening and can get to the route of why ? Therapy can help you navigate towards repair and reconnection. Couples often come facing challenges with communication, mis matched desires, unmet needs and repeated arguments. We can work with communication techniques and strategies, emotional regulation, and a step by step approach that addresses the needs of everyone.
Book a free 15 minute call with me via my profile to chat through your needs and how we can work together.
Feeling stuck and frustrated in your relationship, repeating patterns that you both don't know how to stop? Couples therapy can help work through what is happening and can get to the route of why ? Therapy can help you navigate towards repair and reconnection. Couples often come facing challenges with communication, mis matched desires, unmet needs and repeated arguments. We can work with communication techniques and strategies, emotional regulation, and a step by step approach that addresses the needs of everyone.
What I offer:
Trauma & Sexual Abuse
Men’s Mental Health
Anxiety & Depression
Anger & Emotional Regulation
LGBTQ+ Support & Kink-Aware Counselling
Relationships & Family Challenges
Self-Esteem & Confidence
Mindfulness & Coping Strategies
Youth & Knife Crime Support
Rehabilitation & Probation Support
I support people from all walks of life who may be struggling with anxiety, depression, grief, relationship difficulties, trauma, or low self-esteem. Many seek a safe, non-judgemental space to talk, explore emotions, and find healthier ways forward. While my practice is open to everyone, I have a specialist focus on men’s mental health, offering a space where men can speak freely about pressures, identity, or past experiences. Together, we work towards greater clarity, resilience, and confidence in life.
What I offer:
Trauma & Sexual Abuse
Men’s Mental Health
Anxiety & Depression
Anger & Emotional Regulation
LGBTQ+ Support & Kink-Aware Counselling
Relationships & Family Challenges
Self-Esteem & Confidence
Mindfulness & Coping Strategies
Youth & Knife Crime Support
Rehabilitation & Probation Support
I support people from all walks of life who may be struggling with anxiety, depression, grief, relationship difficulties, trauma, or low self-esteem. Many seek a safe, non-judgemental space to talk, explore emotions, and find healthier ways forward. While my practice is open to everyone, I have a specialist focus on men’s mental health, offering a space where men can speak freely about pressures, identity, or past experiences. Together, we work towards greater clarity, resilience, and confidence in life.
I am a therapist specialising in kink-aware and sex-positive support for individuals, couples, and those in open or polyamorous relationships.
My therapeutic philosophy is rooted in partnership. I provide a secure space for exploration, questioning, and rebuilding, while working with you to identify and clarify your values.
I am a therapist specialising in kink-aware and sex-positive support for individuals, couples, and those in open or polyamorous relationships.
My therapeutic philosophy is rooted in partnership. I provide a secure space for exploration, questioning, and rebuilding, while working with you to identify and clarify your values.
We support individuals 16+ and couples utilising compassionate evidence based psychotherapy. Putting your trust in a provider can be a tricky place to start, so we offer a free assessment with no pressure to commit without feeling certain we are a therapy service that is right for you.
Our team offers extensive experience working within areas including:
- Eating disorders
- Couples
- Grief
- Self esteem
- Anxiety
- Maladaptive daydreaming
- Attachment
- Neurodiversity
- Sexuality and gender (LGBTQ+)
- Asylum seekers
We offer both short-term and open-ended therapy.
We support individuals 16+ and couples utilising compassionate evidence based psychotherapy. Putting your trust in a provider can be a tricky place to start, so we offer a free assessment with no pressure to commit without feeling certain we are a therapy service that is right for you.
Our team offers extensive experience working within areas including:
- Eating disorders
- Couples
- Grief
- Self esteem
- Anxiety
- Maladaptive daydreaming
- Attachment
- Neurodiversity
- Sexuality and gender (LGBTQ+)
- Asylum seekers
We offer both short-term and open-ended therapy.
I appreciate that it can feel difficult in asking for help and to put trust in someone you have never met, especially with often upsetting and difficult issues. It can feel like we may have somehow failed or its a last resort in trying to resolve difficulties. I have helped many people like yourself, who also felt unsure initially on what to expect and feelings of trepidation or embarrassment in asking for help. I believe that the therapeutic relationship between counsellor and client is all important to be effective in addressing the issues and helping you to make the changes that you want and to get things back on track.
I appreciate that it can feel difficult in asking for help and to put trust in someone you have never met, especially with often upsetting and difficult issues. It can feel like we may have somehow failed or its a last resort in trying to resolve difficulties. I have helped many people like yourself, who also felt unsure initially on what to expect and feelings of trepidation or embarrassment in asking for help. I believe that the therapeutic relationship between counsellor and client is all important to be effective in addressing the issues and helping you to make the changes that you want and to get things back on track.
Feeling overwhelmed, lost or constantly on edge? Communication breaking down in your relationship, or feeling like you can't break old patterns? I've been there and I've helped so many other's who have too. This is a space where you can breathe, talk freely and start to feel like yourself again. To be heard and understood. I bring my true self to sessions, focusing on building a therapeutic relationship where you feel safe and comfortable to be fully you too.
Feeling overwhelmed, lost or constantly on edge? Communication breaking down in your relationship, or feeling like you can't break old patterns? I've been there and I've helped so many other's who have too. This is a space where you can breathe, talk freely and start to feel like yourself again. To be heard and understood. I bring my true self to sessions, focusing on building a therapeutic relationship where you feel safe and comfortable to be fully you too.
Life can feel overwhelming at times, and it's okay to recognise when you could use some extra support. Whether it's the weight of anxiety, the fog of depression, or simply the feeling that something isn't quite right, you're not alone. Maybe you're navigating a difficult chapter from your past, feeling stuck in the present, or searching for more meaning and connection.
Whatever you're carrying, talking things through with someone who isn't part of your everyday circle, and there to listen without judgment, can make a real difference. Therapy can help you to build self-awareness and coping techniques to support your healing.
Life can feel overwhelming at times, and it's okay to recognise when you could use some extra support. Whether it's the weight of anxiety, the fog of depression, or simply the feeling that something isn't quite right, you're not alone. Maybe you're navigating a difficult chapter from your past, feeling stuck in the present, or searching for more meaning and connection.
Whatever you're carrying, talking things through with someone who isn't part of your everyday circle, and there to listen without judgment, can make a real difference. Therapy can help you to build self-awareness and coping techniques to support your healing.
I am an experienced music psychotherapist, who has been privileged to work with children, young adults and older adults, with a range of diagnoses. During this time I am working remotely from home. Therefore, please get in touch if you would like online therapy sessions. Working through the NHS, various charities and independently with: self-esteem, childhood trauma, neurodiversity - such as Autism Spectrum Disorders, LGBTQIA+, self-harm, ADHD, cultural and identity concerns, anxiety and depression.
I am an experienced music psychotherapist, who has been privileged to work with children, young adults and older adults, with a range of diagnoses. During this time I am working remotely from home. Therefore, please get in touch if you would like online therapy sessions. Working through the NHS, various charities and independently with: self-esteem, childhood trauma, neurodiversity - such as Autism Spectrum Disorders, LGBTQIA+, self-harm, ADHD, cultural and identity concerns, anxiety and depression.
I endeavour to provide a safe, comfortable, quiet space for clients to explore sensitive issues. The relationship between myself and the client is at the heart of my approach. I believe that being with a client and offering a compassionate holding presence while they share their story is essential to establish a therapeutic working alliance before offering insight and psycho education. I adapt my approach to suit the needs of each client and integrate suitable interventions or tools work with whatever issue the client is presenting.
I endeavour to provide a safe, comfortable, quiet space for clients to explore sensitive issues. The relationship between myself and the client is at the heart of my approach. I believe that being with a client and offering a compassionate holding presence while they share their story is essential to establish a therapeutic working alliance before offering insight and psycho education. I adapt my approach to suit the needs of each client and integrate suitable interventions or tools work with whatever issue the client is presenting.
Do you feel devastated after an affair, or trapped in the hurt and mistrust that followed? I provide specialist couples counselling for partners facing the hardest challenges - betrayal, sex & intimacy that’s vanished, the same fight on repeat, or the complexities of neurodiverse or poly relationships. By the time people find me, they’ve usually tried everything else. My style is structured, direct, and designed to create change. One couple put it this way: “When all hope was lost, Shan’s help and guidance enabled us to reconnect and be stronger than we have ever been".
Do you feel devastated after an affair, or trapped in the hurt and mistrust that followed? I provide specialist couples counselling for partners facing the hardest challenges - betrayal, sex & intimacy that’s vanished, the same fight on repeat, or the complexities of neurodiverse or poly relationships. By the time people find me, they’ve usually tried everything else. My style is structured, direct, and designed to create change. One couple put it this way: “When all hope was lost, Shan’s help and guidance enabled us to reconnect and be stronger than we have ever been".
Feeling stuck? Low? I work with individuals around ADHD, relationship concerns, depression, anxiety, self-development, social anxiety, and more. In my structured yet warm approach, I equip you with the tools to recognise and challenge your issues, instead of just putting a plaster on the symptoms. While working to uncover, challenge and dissolve unhelpful cognitions, we will also identify suboptimal aspects of your present life that are changeable, and work together to strategise forward.
Feeling stuck? Low? I work with individuals around ADHD, relationship concerns, depression, anxiety, self-development, social anxiety, and more. In my structured yet warm approach, I equip you with the tools to recognise and challenge your issues, instead of just putting a plaster on the symptoms. While working to uncover, challenge and dissolve unhelpful cognitions, we will also identify suboptimal aspects of your present life that are changeable, and work together to strategise forward.
To put it simply, I find that people tend to want therapy for two main reasons - to make a change and to feel heard. If that's what you're looking for - to feel really heard and understood, to make a change in your life, be it a physical change or a mental one, I would be honoured to be your therapist.
To put it simply, I find that people tend to want therapy for two main reasons - to make a change and to feel heard. If that's what you're looking for - to feel really heard and understood, to make a change in your life, be it a physical change or a mental one, I would be honoured to be your therapist.
I support individuals through a variety of life changes, challenges or transitions; including health or disability, sexuality or intimacy, relationships & relational trauma/distress, grief or loss and bereavement. Life's changes can affect multiple aspects of our lives and experiences; this can be overwhelming. I provide a warm, accepting space for you to bring all of yourself, including the hidden/uncomfortable parts. I often work with those who feel a tension between what the outside world expects of them, and their true, natural way of being. I frequently work with LGBTQIA+ and neurodivergent or highly sensitive individuals.
I support individuals through a variety of life changes, challenges or transitions; including health or disability, sexuality or intimacy, relationships & relational trauma/distress, grief or loss and bereavement. Life's changes can affect multiple aspects of our lives and experiences; this can be overwhelming. I provide a warm, accepting space for you to bring all of yourself, including the hidden/uncomfortable parts. I often work with those who feel a tension between what the outside world expects of them, and their true, natural way of being. I frequently work with LGBTQIA+ and neurodivergent or highly sensitive individuals.
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Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Counsellors
Why might an individual want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
A sex-positive or kinky individual may want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist because the client may feel safer and more supported discussing their experiences and challenges. A therapist who identifies as kink-friendly will have experience with clients having diverse sexual preferences and will likely be nonjudgmental and supportive about issues brought to the table. It is important to note that sex-positive, kink-allied individuals may find equal success with therapists who do not have such specialised knowledge and background. The most important factor in the success of therapy is for the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in sex-positive, kink-allied treatment?
Generally, no. There are limited training programs and unofficial accreditations that therapists can pursue, but a therapist’s expertise will ultimately come from their previous experience with similar clients, their engagement with organisations that promote sex positivity or kink-allied lifestyles, and the importance they place on safety and cultural sensitivity.
How can individuals recognise a good sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
An experienced therapist is able to help clients explore their sexual identity and expression and relieve any discomfort or stigma attached to discussing such matters and the client’s overall challenges. A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-allied is able to create an environment that honors a client’s experience and sexual preferences. To recognise a good therapist, clients can simply ask directly about topics and issues important to them and gauge their comfort level and connection with a clinician based on the responses.
Can clients benefit from having a therapist with a focus on sex positivity and alternative sexual lifestyles?
Some individuals may feel most comfortable knowing that the clinician they’re working with has a commitment to creating an atmosphere of sex positivity and has experience with relationship diversity and alternative relationship structures. Working with a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist may help clients respect their own challenges and improve identity-affirming treatment.