Beverly Engel L.M.F.T.

About

Beverly Engel, L.M.F.T., has been a psychotherapist and marriage and family therapist specializing in working with survivors of emotional, physical and sexual abuse for the past 45 years. She is the author of 30 books, including her bestselling The Emotionally Abusive Relationship, It Wasn’t Your Fault and her new book, Adult Children of Emotionally Abusive Families. Through the years she has shared her expertise on national TV talk shows such as Oprah, CNN, and Starting Over and her work has been cited in newspapers such as The Washington Post, The Los Angeles Times, and the Chicago Tribune as well as magazines such as Oprah Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Ladies Home Journal and Shape.

Many of her books, including The Emotionally Abusive Relationship and The Emotionally Abused Woman, are required reading for domestic violence courses in high schools and colleges. She was a finalist in the Books for a Better Life award for The Power of Apology, and her books have been translated into Spanish, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, Turkish, Polish, Lithuanian, Greek, and Slovenian.

She lives in Los Osos, California.

Books by Beverly Engel L.M.F.T.

Recent Posts

How Is an Emotionally Abusive Family Created?

An emotionally abusive family can be created by children passing on abuse to younger siblings, a parent taking anger out on children, or a parent having an alcohol dependence.

How to Identify an Emotionally Abusive Family

You may have been raised in an emotionally abusive family without realizing it. Here are some of the common features.

How Parents Can Both Contribute to and Prevent Sibling Abuse

Current research shows us how damaging sibling abuse can be and how parents can play a significant role in both setting the stage for it and preventing it.

The Final Two Steps to Alleviating Abusive Behavior

Learn the final two steps for how to stop being abusive. Each of the seven steps will take time and focus, but it will be worth it so you can feel pride instead of shame.

Know Your Triggers and Admit Your Abusive Behavior

Additional steps toward identifying and eliminating abusive behavior: Know your triggers and admit your abusive behavior toward those you have harmed.

Breaking the Cycle of Abuse Requires Self-Reflection

There are action steps you can take to begin focusing on changing your abusive behavior.

Self-Awareness: A Crucial Step in Changing Abusive Behavior

Learning about the characteristics of an abusive person can help those with this tendency to become more self-aware, one of the first steps toward change.

Recognizing Abusive Patterns: A Guide to Change

Abused children tend to repeat the same abusive behavior toward their children and partners. The first step toward change is identifying the behavior.

Why Some Victims of Child Abuse Repeat What Was Done to Them

Those who experienced abuse or neglect in childhood often repeat this behavior with their own children or partners. Here's why this may occur.

Disclosing Abuse: How to Choose the Right Person to Tell

These suggestions can help you determine whether a friend or partner is someone you can trust when it comes to disclosing childhood abuse, especially childhood sexual abuse.