I have a hard time with this approach when it is used on me, especially repeatedly. I have an ex who still will always say "Let me know when you want to ...." instead of just outright asking. e will do this repeatedly and honestly I have started to take it as he is not really truly interested in hanging together. I have been able to get him to ask outright and re-shape his approach, but it takes months. When I do bite he may cancel. It is weird, so I see it as disingenuine and manipulative. Of course, this could be just peculiar to our disfunctional relationship but I definitely prefer the outright ask and I will do the same for you! I don't need the game-y thing; I don't even know the rules anyways!

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