I experienced nearly all of this with my ex-husband. In addition add gaslighting. What I advise to anyone in a relationship with an SO who demonstrates these behaviors before permanent entanglement- DON'T DO IT. It won't change once you are legally or financially or reproductively involved. There were all the red flags before we got married and in my co-dependent, low self-esteem misery, I tolerated it even though I was constantly angry and insecure in the relationship because of his constant manipulation. After 10 years in a miserable marriage, I left and learned a great deal about why I agreed to be treated so badly. A high price to pay and a lot of years to give to such a toxic person.