The narcissist I live and work with constantly puts me down by explaining basic things as if I am really stupid and cannot survive or understand English without her help. As angry as this makes me I find it hard to believe someone would go through the trouble of insulting me when we are not fighting and things seem to be going well. These constant fake helpful put downs make it hard for me to focus on things that need to get done. Can a narcissist be so bored that they have to upset you constantly to make their own lives eventful? She also constantly blocks my efforts at work even though it means I earn less money for her to spend and she get mad at the same time over not having enough money. The existence of a passive aggressive person must be so meaningless if they have to create conflict to prove they exist.