Smart Relationships

Affirmations can be used to reprogram the subconscious mind, to encourage us to believe certain things about ourselves or about the world and our place within it.

As we enter the holiday season, we should expect the stressors that have the potential to frustrate and anger us and also messages about how we should feel. Never fear, it is possible to change our reactions by altering aspects of the emotional experience.

Self-change is hard. It’s hard because there are psychological mechanisms in place – identity-level mechanisms – that privilege consistency over change, not to mention pleasure over pain. There are also social mechanisms in place, such as our obligations to and our relationships with others.

Say it graciously and definitively. And mean it. Don’t hem or hah. Stick to your guns. And don’t feel bad about it. Life’s tough. Do you think someone who can’t accept your heartfelt "no" would feel badly if the tables were turned?

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An introduction, a justification, and an intention.