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How to raise self-disciplined, connected, happy humans
Laura Markham Ph.D.
There are only learning opportunities, for us — the adults — as we try to make the best decisions we can in the face of uncertainty.
The solution is to put ourselves back on the list, and tend to ourselves as well as we can each moment of the day, just as we do our child.
You'll almost certainly find that unplugging for some time in nature is as good for you as it is for your child.
Nothing is stopping you from being happier, starting today.
When we interrupt play, the child has to start over, so it keeps the child from playing deeply.
If you've found yourself wishing that your child would play by him or herself more often, and for longer periods of time, you don't need to feel guilty about that.
Pandemics and marathons are overwhelming. Hey, even without a pandemic, parenting is frequently overwhelming.
Every parent is under tremendous stress right now. You can't be the emotionally generous parent you want to be unless you work through your big emotions and replenish your reserves.
In the end, your child's success will depend less on academics and more on emotional intelligence. Use this opportunity to build EQ.
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The only way to get through disappointment is the way we get through any other kind of loss: We grieve.
You're being heroic, just keeping your child home and yourself sane. You don't have to prove a thing to anyone. Give yourself a hand.
Every time you and your child are able to pull this off, your child is building inner resources and self-discipline.
Take responsibility for managing yourself.
Over time, you'll see that as you change, your child changes. And you'll find your whole family living with a lot less drama—and a lot more love.
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Whatever the question, love is the answer.
Children raised with compassion are more likely to spread compassion. And every time you choose love, you're healing something that would otherwise cause more pain in the world.
Every family deserves the regular opportunity to pause and consider their life. Use this New Year as an opportunity to reflect.
Look around the pandemonium and remind yourself to be grateful for every minute you get to spend with your children as they grow.
Punishing a child who hits doesn't stop the hitting. It just increases the child's fear, making future hitting more likely.
Stopping a child's problematic behavior is just the first step — encouraging empathy and redirecting his or actions is also important.
Consider that maybe what our children need more than anything else is for us to enjoy and appreciate them for exactly who they are, right now.
Notice what your words and actions are actually modeling, and teaching, your child. Are those the lessons you want to teach?
If you want your child to be her best self, catch her doing things right all day long — including all the things that you think it's about time she did right!
I've been told by teachers I respect that we can be guided by the same ideas that guide us in parenting peacefully.
Punishment destroys a child's desire to behave.
Every bit of love and patience you extend toward your child makes a huge difference. Your child is giving you an opportunity to help her heal.
Being with other families is good for both parents and children. But what happens when your parenting approaches differ?
One way to quiet the inner critic is by shifting into your heart. Our hearts have access to a whole different level of problem-solving.
Laura Markham, Ph.D., is the author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How To Stop Yelling and Start Connecting.