Self-Talk
3 Simple Words That Will Positively Change Your Life
How to embrace your worth in a world obsessed with perfection.
Posted December 18, 2024 Reviewed by Lybi Ma
Key points
- Your value doesn’t come from likes or praise—it exists simply because you do.
- Follow social media accounts that uplift you, and unfollow those that feed insecurity or comparison.
- Acknowledge your daily victories, no matter how small.
What if the key to a fulfilling and authentic life isn’t tied to wealth, fame, or your number of followers? What if it lies in three simple yet transformative words: Know my value?
In a world where external validation often dictates self-worth, these words offer a powerful antidote—a return to an inner truth that isn’t swayed by fleeting likes, curated feeds, or superficial comparisons. Imagine breaking free from the exhausting cycle of measuring yourself against others’ “perfect” lives. Imagine celebrating who you are—not who the world expects you to be.
When embraced, these three words can revolutionize how you approach challenges, relationships, and even your reflection in the mirror. Let’s explore how know my value can help you build a life filled with confidence, purpose, and joy.
How Social Media Undermines Our Value
Because of its connectivity, social media often traps us in a dangerous comparison loop. We scroll through highlight reels of luxurious vacations, career wins, and flawless bodies, silently measuring our lives against others. This endless cycle can erode self-esteem and leave us feeling like we’re constantly falling short.
One of my counseling clients, Allie, came to me to become her "best self" in response to "everyone I see on social media being so happy." We addressed right away how unfavorable comparisons of ourselves to others are, like being on the expressway to misery.
Yet when you know your value, you liberate yourself from this modern-day epidemic of self-doubt. You stop seeking worth in external markers and begin to root it in something unshakable: your intrinsic self-worth.
Why Know My Value Matters
It Grounds You in Self-Worth
Knowing your value means recognizing your inherent worth—independent of achievements, appearances, or other’s opinions. It’s not about arrogance; it’s about owning who you are, including your strengths and imperfections. Your value doesn’t come from likes or praise—it exists simply because you do.
It Shields You from Negative Comparisons
When you know your value, you’re no longer derailed by other people’s successes. Instead of feeling inadequate, you can appreciate their wins while staying confident in your unique path. You understand that someone else’s highlight reel doesn’t define your worth.
It Empowers You to Set Boundaries
Understanding your worth equips you to set boundaries that protect your energy and spirit. You’ll no longer tolerate relationships, jobs, or situations that diminish self-esteem. Knowing your value helps you prioritize what truly matters.
How to Truly Know Your Value
Practice Self-Reflection
Take time to understand yourself deeply—your strengths, passions, and areas for growth. Journaling or meditating on questions like, “What unique qualities do I bring to the world?” can reconnect you to your intrinsic value.
Curate Your Social Media Experience
Follow accounts that inspire and uplift you, and unfollow those that feed insecurity or comparison. Social media is a tool—use it intentionally so it works for you, not against you.
Celebrate Small Wins
Acknowledge your daily victories, no matter how small. Whether you completed a task, overcame a challenge, or showed kindness, these moments reinforce your value and remind you of your potential.
Seek Validation from Within
External praise fades quickly, but self-affirmation lasts. Cultivate an inner dialogue that builds confidence: “I am enough.” “I am proud of my efforts.” This practice strengthens your sense of worth from the inside out.
Surround Yourself with Supportive People
Choose relationships that lift you. Friends, family, and mentors who see your worth can help you stay grounded and resilient when self-doubt creeps in.
A Lifelong Journey
Knowing your value isn’t a one-time realization—it’s a lifelong commitment. Some days will feel more challenging than others, but repeating these empowering words—know my value—can guide you back to the center.
Whether navigating challenges, celebrating achievements, or simply showing up for yourself, these three words are your anchor. They remind you that your worth is not up for negotiation.
The next time you feel tempted to compare yourself to someone else’s highlight reel, pause. Take a deep breath and say it out loud: I know my value. Because when you do, you unlock life’s greatest gift—living fully and authentically as you.