There are many temptations to organize our life around the experience of earlier trauma. But that may short-change the future—which starts by our envisioning something better.
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Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP
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Have you ever been perplexed by emotions—those of others, or even your own? Here's why this might not be good for you, and why it's more common than you think.
The COVID-19 pandemic may have brought with it a second pandemic of loneliness and social isolation. Here's what you can do about it.
Have you wondered why so many people are talking about, joking about, or singing the praises of ASMR? Here's what it might mean for you.
If you're feeling devalued or disregarded in your romantic relationship, your partner's behavior may result from narcissistic tendencies. Here's how to tell, and what to do next.
Do you criticize yourself too much? Does it seem like you're always on your own case? Decentering means gaining distance on thoughts like these so you can choose how to respond.
Do you feel excessively self-conscious and uncomfortable in social situations? Here's what's really going on, and what you can do about it.
Are you chronically afraid of being rejected or rebuffed by the people you care for? Here's what you can do about it.
Have you met someone who may not be good for you? Knowing the facts about Dark Triad personality types can help you decide what to do.
Do you become frustrated when others don't get what you're trying to say? These four tips can help you achieve better, clearer communication.
Do you get into arguments frequently? Consider the possibility that your own outlook is biased in ways that are not always easy to see.
Are you about to have a difficult talk with someone important in your life? These communication strategies may help.
How can seemingly clear requests become so confusing? Why isn't it easier to understand what other people want? It could be the curse of knowledge.
Are you hoping to make new progress on your personal goals as COVID restrictions lift? Here's how.
The COVID winter has been long, dark, and cold—and for many people, depressing. Here's one practical suggestion for how to lift your mood.
How much of your day do you spend staring out the window, fantasizing about the future? Far from a bad habit, daydreaming might actually be exactly what you need.
Ever feel as though your days are racing by, all alike, without leaving a trace? Here's how to slow time back down to something resembling normal again.
Is it hard to stop yourself from constantly checking the news? Do you stay up late swiping through arguments on social media? Here's how to make healthier decisions online.
What if you want to stop going to therapy, but you don't know how to get out of it? Ending your treatment properly can be a psychologically healthy thing to do.
Are you stressed out by conflicts with others, or by the notion of today's divided America? Learning to see another person's point of view can often help to broaden your own.
Are you and a partner, friend, or family member arguing over what's safe to do during the pandemic? These tips can help smooth out those well-meant differences of opinion.
What the debate about Gaming Disorder means for your video gaming habit.
If you've ever wondered if your use of foul language made you look dumb, or advertised a poor vocabulary, or alienated you from others, think again.
Do you believe you're always right about the things you're certain of? The Dunning-Kruger effect suggests caution is warranted.
Are you lonely, but uncomfortable with meeting someone new via video chat? Consider this new perspective.
Is the COVID-19 outbreak keeping you up at night worrying about the future? Use these psychological strategies to manage your anxiety.
Misophonia is just beginning to be understood, but it can have serious effects on a sufferer's life and livelihood. Here's what we know, and what you can do about it.
Do you worry too much about problems in your relationship? Do you feel distant from the people in your life? Understanding your attachment style can help.
Why should we trouble ourselves to have empathy for other people—to see their problems through their eyes? Why might these efforts be good for us too?
Do you feel pressured to "man up" when you're down? Suppressing negative emotions can cause more damage than letting them out.
Loren Soeiro, Ph.D., ABPP, is a psychologist in private practice in New York City, specializing in helping people find success, fulfillment, and peace in their relationships and their work.