No problem with the article.
I wonder, do we need to spend yet more money for studies to tell us over and over what we already know.
No better use of our resources ?
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Humor is sexy. People with a great sense of humor are attractive as mates and enjoy better mating success. This is true especially for men who use humor to attract mates, as humor is one of the most desired traits by women when choosing a mate. I have written in the past about why a man with a sense of humor is more attractive and what information humor conveys to potential partners. Basically, humor is a sign of intelligence, and women want intelligent partners, as intelligence helped individuals survive in ancestral environments, made men better partners, and in today’s world, helps men get a better job and higher status.
A new study examines whether women whose partners have a great sense of humor also have more orgasms. Previous studies demonstrate how women with partners who have more symmetrical faces, are more attractive, richer, or who are more muscular, experience more orgasms. The purpose of this study is to expand on these findings by examining additional features, one of which is a sense of humor.
The study included 54 female students who were in a relationship with a man. For the purpose of this study, only vaginal orgasms were counted, largely because they are the most relevant to reproduction. Obviously, orgasms as a result of oral sex are not directly related to the birth of a child.
The results showed that the best predictors of the number and intensity of orgasms were how satisfied a woman is with her partner, how much she was attracted to him, his income, and his self-confidence, as rated by his partner. Also, the more orgasms a woman had, the stronger her orgasms were.
Other factors that predicted the woman's sexual pleasure were the age when she had sex for the first time (the younger the woman was, the more orgasms she has now), the number of sexual partners (more partners resulted in greater enjoyment). Partner's intelligence, motivation, determination and his ability to concentrate, were also good indicators of a woman's orgasms, which means that even those who are not blessed with other features still have hope.
Perhaps most interesting for the purposes of this blog, a sense of humor was also a good predictor of sexual pleasure. Women with partners who had a great sense of humor enjoyed more orgasms and stronger ones as well. Women also reported that funny partners were more popular, more intelligent, more creative, and had better leadership skills than men who did not have a great sense of humor. Women also initiated more sex with men who have a great sense of humor, and had more sex with them in general (for good reason apparently). They also felt safer and more committed to their partner.
In conclusion, a partner with a great sense of humor has many advantages for women, including a better sex life and more sexual enjoyment. It is important to note that the relationships found in this study, while only correlational, are consistent with what we know about the allure of humor. The study reinforces the importance of humor in relationships, and it will be interesting to examine whether this relationship is also true for men who have sex with funny women (my prediction would be that it would not exist or would be much weaker).
No problem with the article.
I wonder, do we need to spend yet more money for studies to tell us over and over what we already know.
No better use of our resources ?
You might predict that this is the case but did you really think that sense of humor would be correlated with female orgasms?
The idea that a good sense of humor would be correlated with female orgasms I do not find surprising at all. I'm sure anyone who has put any research into the subject knows how stress and worry are correlated with a lack of sexual satisfaction.
From personal experience, being genuinely humored seems to alleviate stress or other negative feelings. I'm sure research has been conducted on how humor may improve depression, defensiveness or anxiety (at least temporarily).
From those two pieces of information alone, if correct, a pretty obvious hypothesis would be that humor has a way of helping us forget our troubles (or accept them in a healthier way). And most importantly, when you're humored, notice how your guard simply drops? How there seems to be little to no desire on needed to protect your self-esteem? Additionally, typically humor seems to be social and associated with connecting with others in nonthreatening ways, romantic or not. I'm not sure how it is for others, but when I see or hear something funny, if I'm alone, one of my first instincts is to share it with a friend.
To summarize, I'd guess that humor's ability to drop our defenses, paired with the social bonding aspect, is what correlates with more sex and better sex. If a woman has been laughing all night, I doubt they'd be worrying about whether or not this funny guy will call her a slut to his friends. Well... that worry may appear a few days later...
Another poorly stated hypothesis: I surmise that the type of humor used and how it is expressed is crucial to this correlation. I'd be skeptical that offensive humor, delivered in a self-righteous tone of voice (or some other non-playful tone), would probably stir a mixed feelings. I doubt that type of humor has any correlation with orgasms.
I apologize for any grammatical mistakes, poor writing, and the use of the term "personal experience." Writing in a respectable scientific manner takes quite a bit of energy. I hope my response contains some wisdom at least, and my surmises make some sense.
Gil Greengross Ph.D. wrote:You might predict that this is the case but did you really think that sense of humor would be correlated with female orgasms?
It's also the best vibrator.
Anonymous wrote:No problem with the article.
I wonder, do we need to spend yet more money for studies to tell us over and over what we already know.
No better use of our resources ?
Cause I didn't. Maybe you should get off the mailing list or something.
Tis true. In my Life. Ive Loved them more. Good article butt not very funny.
Even when writing about humor.
Anonymous wrote:Tis true. In my Life. Ive Loved them more. Good article butt not very funny.
Did it mention butts?
As I read the first paragraph, I already had three questions:
1. Is there any robust evidence that humor is a heritable trait? I mean, is it really shaped mostly by "nature", rather than "nurture"? If not, all of that science is doomed.
2. What do we really know about humor abilities of our remote ancestors to draw conclusions about females preferring humorous mates as potentially more intelligent?
3. Humor does not unambiguously imply intelligence, at least nowadays. More often it implies stupidity. Humors differ ;)
Yes, there is evidence that humor is heritable. Studies comparing identical twins to fraternal twins and adoptive twins found that identical twins share a more similar sense of humor which indicates that humor is heritable. Of course, that does not mean that all humor is heritable or that culture has no role in humor. As we all know there is a large variation in humor across the world.
You can look at earlier posts where I discuss the converging evidence showing that humor and laughter has evolutionary bases. We know that other primates laugh and smile but humor is quite unique to humans. Using evolutionary reasoning we can hypothesize about the role of humor in mating and we don't really need to know about other ancestors for that matter. If you go to the posts I link in this post you will see the theory behind it (based on sexual selection theory).
3) Yes, some humor is indeed stupid but overall, people who are considered funny are also seen as intelligence. Think about the funny people around you, do you talso think that they are more intelligent?
"Vaginal orgasms"? Seems like you mean orgasms during intercourse.
Also, saying oral sex is not related to reproduction seems lie a big leap involving multiple assumptions.
That what I meant or as the authors put it: "orgasms that occurred as a result of vaginal-penile intercourse."
I don't understand your second point. What is there to assume exactly? I am just stating the obvious that you can't have kids from oral sex.
Anonymous wrote:"Vaginal orgasms"? Seems like you mean orgasms during intercourse.
Also, saying oral sex is not related to reproduction seems lie a big leap involving multiple assumptions.
Ilean....
...You're welcome for the orgasm
Well, perhaps women who have orgasms from oral sex are more likely to have intercourse with their partners and thus more likely to procreate. Your assumption seems to be the opposite.
You are offering a an indirect effect that is possible but less likely since it assumes that it enhance fertility through other means. To show that your explanation is true requires additional assumptions such that there is some kind of relationship between other types of sex and reproduction while it is obvious through penile intercourse and doesn't require to assume anything.
The assumption I found questionable is that orgasms from intercourse are most relevant for reproduction.
This is the only way (at least without the use of technology) to get pregnant.
the finding may be spurious: more humorous men may select more ready-to-orgasm women for mating. even women who reach better to orgasm may mate more with more humorous men.
More studies are needed to determine if humor per se is responsible for more orgasms or it's something else, also I suspect your explanation is unlikely. Why would that happened exactly and how would they know it in advance?
the confounding OR intermediate factor can be their personality.
The researchers in this study did not control for other factors when assessing the influence of humor on orgasms.
what the hell? this study didn't use control variables?. Then this study doesn't count.
It may not be a perfect study (no such study exists) and have some limitation, but they did find a strong correlation that is interesting and merit further studies.
It may still count, but without control it makes the hypothesis weak.
Does the study have subjects still having good orgasm without having funny men couple?
There were several variables that were tested together in a regression model meaning that each variable had a unique contribution. This statistical control is common in science thought it is not an experiment.
You can always think about other variables that may influence as well but to your question, there is always a variation in the data so yes, there were couples where the men wasn't as funny but the women still had orgasms but overall, the trend was pretty clear that women had more orgasms when they had sex with funny men.
Women who enjoy sex more also have had more partners in their life." Seems like if she's having great sex that her current man will soon be her former man. Maybe an emphasis on great sex is a recipe for short-term mating strategies. Great for a humorous man with the same strategy
Thought, sense of humor is a good predictor of long-term partners as well.
I have been in a non-sexual relationship with my neighbor for the past 2-3 months. Became attracted to him because of his personality - and he is attractive to me. He is the funniest man I have ever known! He makes me laugh!!! I told him that I would like a more intimate relationship - he's held off for his own reasons which I totally respect. But I told him a few weeks ago that I never knew that humor could be such a turn on. Anyway, we are happily working on a nice relationship. And am falling a little bit in love with him! Yum.
Have a humorous relationship!
44 women and they some how come to this "finding". What a god awful scientific study attempt with such a ridiculous sample size it holds 0 weight.
and the correlations they found are quite strong. So, while there is always a need for larger samples you should not dismiss this findings based on the sample size alone.
I think it's great to study humor and the positive effects on a relationship. However, there are some misleading items in this article. For example, the reference to the mythical "vaginal orgasm." Perhaps you meant to say an orgasm during vaginal intercourse. Orgasms originate from the clitoris not the vagina so the term "vaginal orgasm" is very misleading. Also, tying female orgasm to reproduction is a fallacy as only the male orgasm is needed for reproduction. It is great to have additional research being conducted between the female orgasm and other correlations factors but perhaps consulting with a researcher more familiar with female sexuality would be beneficial before publishing an article containing such misleading information.
First note that this in not my research. Indeed, another reader commented that the term I used is confusing and I pointed out to the actual phrasing the authors used to as: "orgasms that occurred as a result of vaginal-penile intercourse."
Regarding your second point, you are right that you don't need an orgasm to get pregnant but research shows that orgasms during an intercouse do tend to increase the chances of pregnancy. For the very least they contribute to mate retention which can lead to future reproduction, so that is why from an evolutionary perspective it would be good to have a partner with a good sense of humor (among other reasons).
This article just supports what most women know intuitively; make her laugh and your almost there. By "funny" we are assume you mean "witty," as opposed to "funny-acting." Wit being an indicator of intelligence and a facile mind.
Social predators/ the personalty disordered often have a poor sense of humor, though they may be able to deliver the odd joke. Thus, a facile-minded and consistently witty man is often a "safe" man.
Yes, indeed by funny I mean witty. The key is to know how to be funny for your partner and not just know how to tell jokes in general. Things that are funny to one person may not make others laugh.
I'm bummed only vaginal orgasms were counted.
But hopefully this topic will be studied in the future more thoroughly.
All research based on sexual selection theory suggest to be more attractive man for women, you should be more humorous. Interestingly, I came across study ( http://citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/download?doi=10.1.1.186.5043&rep=rep1&type=pdf) suggesting if girls already find you attractive, they would appreciate your jokes more even if your jokes isn't funny. That is more plausible for me because laughter is sign of happiness, and happiness is indicator of interest.
You will be happier to get cheap candy from someone you already attracted to than getting expensive chocolate from you're not attracted to.
and it does not contradict the sexual selection theory. Obviously, you would appreciate someone you like or care about more that strangers and this is true not just for humor. However, the study you mentioned ignore clear sex differences we find in regard to humor. Women are more attracted to men with a great sense of humor while the opposite is less true, and men try to impress women with humor while women don't. Women laugh more in response to men which men find attractive.
In other words, using your analogy, you may like a cheap chocolate from a friend over an expensive chocolate from a stranger, but if a stranger offers you a whole candy store, which one would you prefer?
Of course i prefer a whole candy store from stranger then cheap chocolate from friend. But if you change the word of your question 'friend' with 'lovers', it is another case.
To answer it, it depends on what pleasure you seeking. Just for the sake of chocolate's pleasure, I will take stranger's offer and i won't get pleasure of love. If I wanna seek pleasure of love and chocolate together, I will take cheap chocolate from my lover though the chocolate's pleasure smaller than from stranger.
You nailed it in the head when you mention the difference between a friend and a lover. Chocolates are good for friends but humor is sexually attractive and for the reasons I and other specified. The whole point is that a sense of humor does something that many other attributes to do not: make men more attractive to women. So while it has other benefits as well, you cannot ignore this part and how it has a differential influence on men and women.
Sense of humor indeed is a value of men counted by women. But it still bellow other value such as wealth, physical attractiveness, intelligence, and dominance.My argument is without other strong value i mention above, the funny men still not attractive for romantic relationship. Men having that strong value(s) though in common situation not funny, have greater chance to be perceived funny (if they wanna put a little effort to be witty and fun) than the funny men not having other strong value.
Sense of humor almost always one of the two traits that women seek in a man. Above attractiveness and in par or just below status and wealth. I don't know if you are a man or women but I suggest asking your female friends about this!
If a man only rely on sense of humor but poor or average in wealth, physical attractiveness, intelligence, dominance and status, is he still attractive as romantic partner?. Sense of humor can't inflate other value. But value bar sense of humor I mention, can inflate poor sense of humor
so you can't really find someone funny who isn't intelligence. And many comedians are poor are still are attractive so yes, a good sense of humor can get you quite far in the mating game.
Yes I still can find someone funny who is intelligence, but I can still find someone funny who isn't intelligence too. And yes many poor comedians attractive. Still, many other variables confound. I believe sense of humor can give us a favour in mating game but not too significant.
but to really understand the world you need data to support you. The research available to us is quite clear by showing that most funny people are intelligence and humor is one of the two most important attributes for women seeking a mate.
I shouldn't have used word believe since study i cited supports my argument.
Could you give me references studies supporting most funny people are intelligence and humor is on of the two most important attributes for women seeking a mate. Thanks
http://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-006-9151-2
and here: http://www.yourtango.com/201176681/top-10-traits-attract-woman-man
and search for any survey, humor will be on top or close to it for women.
Ok, in college I thought my jokes were beyond the coed's comprehension. But after college, they struck gold; So can you be too good humor-wise as a male? I guess a better comedian would dumb down a little bit, in order to get laid?
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