Here, There, and Everywhere

Self-Hatred

Chronic Self-Blame: What if You're Not the Problem?

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. on June 1, 2025

Chronic self-blame often starts in childhood, but what if you were never the problem in the first place? It's time to stop the self-blame cycle.

Chronic self-blame often starts in childhood, but what if you were never the problem in the first place? It's time to stop the self-blame cycle.

Grief

When Healing Feels Like Backsliding

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. on April 28, 2025

Healing isn’t linear—setbacks are part of growth, not a sign of failure.

Healing isn’t linear—setbacks are part of growth, not a sign of failure.

Friends

The "Good Enough" Friend

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. on March 30, 2025

Many of us long for perfect adult friendships. But real connection is built on consistency, vulnerability, and being “good enough”—not flawless.

Many of us long for perfect adult friendships. But real connection is built on consistency, vulnerability, and being “good enough”—not flawless.

Anxiety

What to Do When You Just Can't Let It Go

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. on March 27, 2025

Recognize it, disrupt it, and shift to action.

Recognize it, disrupt it, and shift to action.

Appetite

Quieting the Food Noise

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. on March 24, 2025

Struggling with constant thoughts about food? Learn how to quiet the “food noise,” reconnect with your body, and find peace in your relationship with eating.

Struggling with constant thoughts about food? Learn how to quiet the “food noise,” reconnect with your body, and find peace in your relationship with eating.

Depression

Coping With Post-Holiday Blues

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. on December 23, 2024

A post-holiday let-down is a normal response to the transition from a festive season to the grind of everyday life. Learn practical strategies to help you cope.

A post-holiday let-down is a normal response to the transition from a festive season to the grind of everyday life. Learn practical strategies to help you cope.

Depression

Help for Seasonal Affective Disorder

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. on December 19, 2024

SAD is more than just feeling “down” in gloomy weather. It’s a diagnosable condition that impacts functioning. Coping can be challenging, but there are solutions.

SAD is more than just feeling “down” in gloomy weather. It’s a diagnosable condition that impacts functioning. Coping can be challenging, but there are solutions.

Growth Mindset

A Fresh Start for Mind, Body, and Soul

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. on December 18, 2024

A new year is a time to reimagine the life you want. Instead of focusing on big goals that can overwhelm you, consider focusing on smaller, consistent actions.

A new year is a time to reimagine the life you want. Instead of focusing on big goals that can overwhelm you, consider focusing on smaller, consistent actions.

Narcissism

Back to School With a Narcissistic Co-Parent

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. on August 20, 2024

Narcissists often need control and have a lack of empathy. This can make co-parenting particularly difficult, especially during the beginning of a school year.

Narcissists often need control and have a lack of empathy. This can make co-parenting particularly difficult, especially during the beginning of a school year.

Sport and Competition

The Psychology of Competitiveness

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. on August 1, 2024

Competitiveness is a genetic and environmental trait. Here, we explore its origins, the factors that influence it, and how it affects us in different areas.

Competitiveness is a genetic and environmental trait. Here, we explore its origins, the factors that influence it, and how it affects us in different areas.

Projection

Dealing With the Defense Mechanism of Projection

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. on July 18, 2024

Projection, a defense mechanism, can destroy relationships and erode the receiver's self-esteem. Learn how to cope when you are subjected to this kind of behavior.

Projection, a defense mechanism, can destroy relationships and erode the receiver's self-esteem. Learn how to cope when you are subjected to this kind of behavior.

ADHD

Coping With Summer Unstructured Time When You Have ADHD

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. on June 24, 2024

When you have ADHD, the unstructured nature of summer can cause increased anxiety, depression, and ADHD symptoms. Learn how you can cope.

When you have ADHD, the unstructured nature of summer can cause increased anxiety, depression, and ADHD symptoms. Learn how you can cope.

Mindfulness

Practicing Mindfulness at Work: When It Helps and Doesn’t Help

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. on June 11, 2024

Employers are promoting mindfulness as a way to improve employee well-being. However, what works and doesn't work with employer-promoted mindfulness?

Employers are promoting mindfulness as a way to improve employee well-being. However, what works and doesn't work with employer-promoted mindfulness?

Narcissism

Coping With Narcissistic In-Laws

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. on April 18, 2024

Having narcissistic in-laws can be extremely stressful and affect your marriage and well-being. These are the best ways to cope.

Having narcissistic in-laws can be extremely stressful and affect your marriage and well-being. These are the best ways to cope.

ADHD

Understanding ADHD: Navigating Guilt and Shame

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. on March 28, 2024

Feelings of guilt and shame can often accompany ADHD. Learn what triggers guilt and shame and how you can best cope with it.

Feelings of guilt and shame can often accompany ADHD. Learn what triggers guilt and shame and how you can best cope with it.

Narcissism

How Narcissists Impact Your Daily Life

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. on March 25, 2024

Narcissists can drain you emotionally and physically. Learn what you can do to decrease the impact of a narcissist on your life.

Narcissists can drain you emotionally and physically. Learn what you can do to decrease the impact of a narcissist on your life.

Narcissism

7 Strategies for Coping With a Narcissistic Boss

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. on February 27, 2024

Working with a narcissistic boss can seriously impact your emotional and physical health. Learn how you can best cope with a workplace nightmare.

Working with a narcissistic boss can seriously impact your emotional and physical health. Learn how you can best cope with a workplace nightmare.

Relationships

New Year's Resolutions for Dealing With Toxic Relationships

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. on December 22, 2023

The new year can give us opportunities to review and evaluate our relationships. Learn how to nurture and protect yourself from people who don't have your best interests in mind.

The new year can give us opportunities to review and evaluate our relationships. Learn how to nurture and protect yourself from people who don't have your best interests in mind.

Projection

Why Toxic People Accuse Others of Being Toxic

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. on December 9, 2023

Toxic people use projection as a defense mechanism, attributing their issues onto you.

Toxic people use projection as a defense mechanism, attributing their issues onto you.

Relationships

Navigating Toxic Relationships During the Holidays

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. on November 29, 2023

During the holidays, you might be around toxic people more than usual. Here's how to navigate the negativity.

During the holidays, you might be around toxic people more than usual. Here's how to navigate the negativity.