Finding Mind

Grief

No More Sour Grapes: Mourning for Personal Continuity Through Life

Deborah L. Cabaniss M.D. on October 7, 2025

Staying connected to our desires for an alternate reality while moving forward with the reality that is helps to keep us whole and healthy.

Staying connected to our desires for an alternate reality while moving forward with the reality that is helps to keep us whole and healthy.

Mindfulness

Slowing Down Without Going Slower

Deborah L. Cabaniss M.D. on April 21, 2025

Personal Perspective: You don't have to be meditating to be mindful. You can even practice mindfulness on your walk to work.

Personal Perspective: You don't have to be meditating to be mindful. You can even practice mindfulness on your walk to work.

Self-Help

Why We Muddle Through

Deborah L. Cabaniss M.D. on November 7, 2024

While the idea of "muddling through" might sound messy, it acknowledges the complexity of reality and can help us cope in difficult times.

While the idea of "muddling through" might sound messy, it acknowledges the complexity of reality and can help us cope in difficult times.

Aging

Aging Gracefully: Everyone Is Replaceable

Deborah L. Cabaniss M.D. on July 17, 2024

Personal Perspective: Having the thought "No one can replace me" can be a helpful sign that it's time to change what we're doing and grow into new things.

Personal Perspective: Having the thought "No one can replace me" can be a helpful sign that it's time to change what we're doing and grow into new things.

Therapy

It’s Never Too Late for Psychotherapy

Deborah L. Cabaniss M.D. on April 16, 2024

New research suggests that older adults may be even more likely to respond to psychotherapy than younger adults.

New research suggests that older adults may be even more likely to respond to psychotherapy than younger adults.

Happiness

How Talking to a Stranger Made My Day

Deborah L. Cabaniss M.D. on January 16, 2024

A Personal Perspective: Try talking to someone you don't know — it just might make your day, too.

A Personal Perspective: Try talking to someone you don't know — it just might make your day, too.

Therapy

Sharing Reality: Essential in Times of Terror and Loss

Deborah L. Cabaniss M.D. on November 5, 2023

Most therapists are trained to have a neutral stance in therapy. But in times of shared trauma, staying neutral may not the best approach.

Most therapists are trained to have a neutral stance in therapy. But in times of shared trauma, staying neutral may not the best approach.

Race and Ethnicity

Why I've Always Hated My Hair

Deborah L. Cabaniss M.D. on August 5, 2023

A Personal Perspective: Is my hair just unruly or has othering made me hate it? Internalizing the othering we experience can shape the way we feel about our bodies and ourselves.

A Personal Perspective: Is my hair just unruly or has othering made me hate it? Internalizing the othering we experience can shape the way we feel about our bodies and ourselves.

Relationships

Hope and Acceptance: Two Paths That Follow Loss

Deborah L. Cabaniss M.D. on May 5, 2023

Sometimes, it's hard to know when to accept loss and when to keep hope alive. Here are a few thoughts to guide the process.

Sometimes, it's hard to know when to accept loss and when to keep hope alive. Here are a few thoughts to guide the process.

Trauma

What Passover Can Teach Us About Historical Loss

Deborah L. Cabaniss M.D. on April 10, 2023

A Personal Perspective: How the principles of Passover can help alleviate the pain of cultural and historical trauma.

A Personal Perspective: How the principles of Passover can help alleviate the pain of cultural and historical trauma.

Therapy

Words That Judge and Words That Heal

Deborah L. Cabaniss M.D. on February 10, 2023

Over the years, I've learned that so many of the words we use as therapists are judgmental. Rethinking them helps me, my students, and the people I work with in therapy.

Over the years, I've learned that so many of the words we use as therapists are judgmental. Rethinking them helps me, my students, and the people I work with in therapy.

Anger

Mourning and Zombies

Deborah L. Cabaniss M.D. on October 19, 2022

At Halloween, thinking about zombies can help us to understand loss and mourning.

At Halloween, thinking about zombies can help us to understand loss and mourning.

Meditation

The Practice of Mourning and Living Life Now

Deborah L. Cabaniss M.D. on August 18, 2022

A Personal Perspective: For the losses and choices of everyday life.

A Personal Perspective: For the losses and choices of everyday life.

Cognition

The Real Benefit of Post-Pandemic Travel

Deborah L. Cabaniss M.D. on June 7, 2022

Post-pandemic travel offers more than just a needed vacation. Speaking another language may help us understand global perspectives.

Post-pandemic travel offers more than just a needed vacation. Speaking another language may help us understand global perspectives.

Online Therapy

Is In-Person Therapy Different From Teletherapy?

Deborah L. Cabaniss M.D. on March 5, 2022

Many people are doing teletherapy now. But is it as good as in-person therapy?

Many people are doing teletherapy now. But is it as good as in-person therapy?

Education

Choice Means Loss: The Mourning of Everyday Life

Deborah L. Cabaniss M.D. on December 8, 2021

Finding it hard to make decisions? Learning to mourn can help.

Finding it hard to make decisions? Learning to mourn can help.

Career

Don't Run for the Train: Tips for Achieving Urban Zen

Deborah L. Cabaniss M.D. on September 28, 2021

Already falling into old stress after only two weeks back in the office? Here are a few ways to turn "at-home calm" into "urban zen."

Already falling into old stress after only two weeks back in the office? Here are a few ways to turn "at-home calm" into "urban zen."

Career

Leave Your Heels at Home: Tips for a Healthy Re-Entry

Deborah L. Cabaniss M.D. on July 10, 2021

Re-entry can be physically and emotionally exhausting. Taking it slow can prevent you from feeling overwhelmed.

Re-entry can be physically and emotionally exhausting. Taking it slow can prevent you from feeling overwhelmed.

Cognition

Embracing More Inclusive Language: Lessons From the Garden

Deborah L. Cabaniss M.D. on June 20, 2021

How a "late bloomer" in the garden helped me to reflect on the way our words reveal harmful biases.

How a "late bloomer" in the garden helped me to reflect on the way our words reveal harmful biases.

Health

Maintaining Personal Choice

Deborah L. Cabaniss M.D. on June 6, 2021

Anxious about re-entry after COVID? Maintaining some personal choice will help. Here are some tips to help make that happen.

Anxious about re-entry after COVID? Maintaining some personal choice will help. Here are some tips to help make that happen.