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Tina Gilbertson, LPC, is the author of Reconnecting with Your Estranged Adult Child and Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings By Letting Yourself Have Them. She hosts the Reconnection Club Podcast for parents of estranged adult children and offers consultation by distance.
If you’re upset about something, it’s not because you’re not positive enough, or not grateful enough, or not centered enough. It’s because you’re human, and something has upset you.
Don’t judge yourself for being bothered; judge the problem that’s bothering you. Someone needs to be on your side. Why not let it be you?
And while you're at it, why not just feel what you feel?
Wallowing in your emotions is like living in your house: You’re entitled!