We all harbor secrets. Some are big and bad; some are small and trivial. Researchers have parsed which truths to tell and which not to.
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Michael Castleman M.A.
Compared with most men, most women care much more about kissing. Frequent kissing enhances most women’s sexual and relationship satisfaction.
Older lovers don't stop having sex, but they evolve their lovemaking away from intercourse to outercourse, all the other ways sexual pleasure can be enjoyed and shared.
Now that the Supreme Court has overturned Roe v. Wade, there are three effective alternatives to medical abortion.
More Americans than ever identify as LGBT+. But the new figure, 7 percent, is less than the 10 percent many authorities have long claimed.
Building relationships and emotional intimacy are more important.
Recently, researchers used advanced statistical tools to tease out what they call the top four risk factors for infidelity.
In long-term couples, desire differences are virtually inevitable. A new approach to resolving them holds considerable promise.
"You're insatiable!" "You never want to!" Desire differences are the number-one sex problem of long-term couples. Fortunately, they can usually be resolved.
A recent study says that pornography both does and does not raise risk of erectile dysfunction (ED) in young men. A careful analysis shows that porn does not raise ED risk.
Casual sex is controversial. Many say it usually causes regret—but a new review of 71 studies shows that its main result is pleasure.
Alternative therapies are safe and effective treatments for many medical conditions. But a recent review of the research shows that premature ejaculation is not one of them.
Virginity loss usually involves mixed emotions, but the research has largely focused on regret. A recent study identifies the most important elements of first-time pleasure.
For centuries, Asians have considered ginseng root (Panax ginseng) a remarkably medicinal herb. Recent research shows that it improves sexual function in older men and women.
For men who think they're sexually out-of-control, the best path to change involves cognitive-behavioral therapy.
The largest study of young adult hookups shows that this 21st century spin on dating appeals most to affluent white students at top schools who plan to attend graduate school.
Critics of pornography charge that sexually explicit videos destroy viewers' erections. Three recent studies conclude that this is not the case.
Some women pursue cosmetic surgery to enhance their genital appearance. But after surgery, few notice much improvement.
Men generally believe that the length of the average erection measures about 6.2 inches. The best research shows it’s actually about an inch shorter.
Why do BDSM submissives often experience pain as pleasure? In BDSM and many non-kink activities, pain can bring enjoyment.
Remote sex—trading sexts, or phone, FaceTime, or Zoom sex—offers distant lovers intimate connections while apart. Could it work for you?
Critics assert that polyam relationships are brief smokescreens for infidelity. But a recent study shows that many thrive for decades.
Many women suffer pain during sex, but few mention it. Consequently, most men are in the dark. Here's a man's guide to women's sexual pain.
It's not clear how many have multiple orgasms, but they are not as rare as once thought.
A potentially risky type of BDSM, choking, is gaining popularity with young adults. It reflects the growing popularity of BDSM and can be enjoyed safely—but be careful.
Sustained mutual eye-gazing can increase trust, intimacy, and attachment—and enhance sexual pleasure.
The rare truth about sexual fantasies: Few people fantasize about their regular partners. Many dream of forbidden, unconventional, and kinky sex.
Many women don't speak up about the sex they want, for fear of shattering men's supposedly fragile egos. But most men are resilient, and sexual coaching helps.
Older lovers say they want sex around twice a month. But by age 60, intercourse usually becomes problematic. Most older couples dispense with intercourse and embrace "outercourse."
Since 2000, partner sex has declined and celibacy has risen. Experts suggest possible reasons.
Many critics insist that pornography promotes sexism. But studies find that porn viewing is associated with more egalitarian views of women.
Michael Castleman, M.A., is a San Francisco-based journalist. He has written about sexuality for 36 years.
My background is in journalism, reporting on sex research, which I've done for more than 3 decades. As a result, my blog tends to focus on research results and their implications for enhancing lovemaking.