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The Great Underrated Truth of Love: It’s Scary

Intimacy requires that you lower your drawbridge and welcome vulnerability into the castle. This explains why intimacy is scary, and hard work, and demands self-compassion.

Intimacy requires that you lower your drawbridge and welcome vulnerability into the castle. This explains why intimacy is scary, and hard work, and demands self-compassion.

How to Persuade Your Romantic Partner to Commit

Research identifies five factors that can be used to evaluate your partner’s level of commitment—and help you influence them to commit even more too.

Research identifies five factors that can be used to evaluate your partner’s level of commitment—and help you influence them to commit even more too.

Should You Get Back Together with Your Ex?

Thinking about getting back together with an ex? Well, take the extra time to ask yourself why. Make sure that it would be for the right reasons. Ask yourself these 8 questions.

Thinking about getting back together with an ex? Well, take the extra time to ask yourself why. Make sure that it would be for the right reasons. Ask yourself these 8 questions.

3 Essential Truths About Sexual Desire from a Sex Therapist

Discover the top three essential truths about sexual desire so you can gain the knowledge you need to feel empowered and satisfied in your sex life.

Discover the top three essential truths about sexual desire so you can gain the knowledge you need to feel empowered and satisfied in your sex life.

Is Sincerity the Greatest Romantic Virtue?

Both sincerity and insincerity, like prosocial lies, flattery and fantasies, strengthen romantic bonds.

Both sincerity and insincerity, like prosocial lies, flattery and fantasies, strengthen romantic bonds.

Persuasive Language to Build a Loving Connection

It isn’t always easy to create and maintain an intimate connection with a romantic partner. Using the right persuasive words can help.

It isn’t always easy to create and maintain an intimate connection with a romantic partner. Using the right persuasive words can help.

Behaviors that Signal Romantic or Sexual Interest

It isn’t always easy to tell whether someone wants to date you, love you, or go to bed with you. Research suggests behavioral cues to help tell the difference.

It isn’t always easy to tell whether someone wants to date you, love you, or go to bed with you. Research suggests behavioral cues to help tell the difference.

What Is a ‘Situationship’? Here Are the Pros and Cons

Is a "situationship" right for you? Well, it depends on the situation. There are pros and cons of such an arrangement and what needs to be in place for it to work.

Is a "situationship" right for you? Well, it depends on the situation. There are pros and cons of such an arrangement and what needs to be in place for it to work.

Is Love Really Blind?

Lovers are not totally blind, but they may be short-sighted, especially in the initial romantic stages.

Lovers are not totally blind, but they may be short-sighted, especially in the initial romantic stages.

The Art of Relational Sharing

Couples want to share with each other. But flooding a partner with intense emotions actually hurts your relationship. There's a better way.

Couples want to share with each other. But flooding a partner with intense emotions actually hurts your relationship. There's a better way.

Money Matters for Big Families in the Big City

A recent study of 4 million people reveals why wealthier people buck the trend of city-dwellers having fewer children, shedding light on our evolved mating strategies.

A recent study of 4 million people reveals why wealthier people buck the trend of city-dwellers having fewer children, shedding light on our evolved mating strategies.

The Seductive Realm of the Possible

James Gibson’s most valuable notion of “perceptual affordances” is very helpful in understanding the romantic environment.

James Gibson’s most valuable notion of “perceptual affordances” is very helpful in understanding the romantic environment.

14 Red Flags When Someone Seems Too Perfect

Think you've met your match? How do you tell that it's not just someone pretending to be your match just to get what they want? Well, look for these 14 red flags.

Think you've met your match? How do you tell that it's not just someone pretending to be your match just to get what they want? Well, look for these 14 red flags.

Are You Sacrificing Too Much in Your Relationships?

We all sacrifice in our relationships, but they often create resentment and unfulfilled expectations. Here's how to avoid these dangers.

We all sacrifice in our relationships, but they often create resentment and unfulfilled expectations. Here's how to avoid these dangers.

The Neuroscience of Aloof Behaviors in Dating

Understand aloof behaviors in romantic relationships through the lens of attachment and neuroscience.

Understand aloof behaviors in romantic relationships through the lens of attachment and neuroscience.