Melissa Orlov

Melissa Orlov

Melissa Orlov is the author of the award-winning book, The ADHD Effect on Marriage, and a marriage consultant who helps couples from around the world improve their relationships affected by ADHD.  Her second book, The Couple's Guide to Thriving With ADHD, with co-author Nancie Kohlenberger, LMFT, was released in 2014.  She is also a contributing author to Married to Distraction with Dr. Ned Hallowell and Sue Hallowell and The Distracted Couple, a book for therapists. Orlov has real-life experience with issues surrounding ADHD in relationships, which she uses to help bring the issues couples face to life in a way that motivates progress.  Her work has been featured in the New York Times and US News and World Report, on CNN, Today, and more.

Orlov gives seminars designed to help jumpstart relationship improvements for couples in which one or both partners has ADHD.  She also provides continuing education for couples therapists and ADHD counselors. Information about her seminars can be found at her website at

Orlov is a graduate of Harvard College cum laude.  Her hobbies include road biking, singing, and learning the cello.  She and her husband live outside Boston.

Author of

May I Have Your Attention

Adult ADHD often goes undiagnosed, and can create significant stress in a marriage, commonly resulting in dysfunction and even divorce.  Ms. Orlov helps couples identify how ADHD affects them, then create ways to interact that are both ADHD-friendly and help each partner get their needs met.  While she focuses primarily on adult relationships, she also writes about family interactions - particularly when adults are struggling to help a child with ADHD.

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