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When a person chirps, "Happy Friday," how do you feel? Many people think a bit less of a person who says this. Indeed, there are many sayings that risk lowering someone's credibility. Think twice before letting any of these slip out of your mouth:

1. "He who dies with the most toys wins." This a shallow definition of the life well-led.

2. "Everything happens for a reason." Saying this implies that you believe a higher power controls everything, but even highly religious people believe we have some control over what happens to us.

3. "It's hump day!" Saying this implies that by Wednesday, you're already so unhappy or unsuccessful at work that you're ready for the weekend.

4. "We're BFFs!" Forever is an awfully long time. "We'll be BFFs" ignores that things change over time. You may meet someone who becomes an even closer friend, or have a fight that diminishes or even ends your relationship. I know two people who considered each other BFFs but one day, one called the other a racist. They're still friends but that certainly distanced their relationship.

5. "I'm open to anything." This implies the person is more open to wild risk-taking than to discernment of what's wise.

6. "I believe in unconditional love." This could imply that the person thinks that you, or whoever you're discussing, has done (or could do) something so reprehensible that most people would turn away. Also, like "We'll be BFFs," "I believe in unconditional love" is a black-and-white statement that doesn't allow for gray areas, but acknowledging the gray is an important part of intelligent thinking.

7. "That's just your opinion." This is typically uttered by someone who disagrees but can't figure out why, or at least can't articulate it.

8. "I'm a team player." Teamwork is important but saying, "I'm a team player," is boastful and can imply you expect others to pick up your slack.

9. "The golden years." Alas, for many, if not most, old people, their final years are distinctly less golden than their younger ones. Referring to old age as "the golden years" comes off as unaware or an attempt to avoid dealing with what's real.

10. "Everything works out in the end." If only this were true.

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