When To Forgive, When Not To

Letting go of anger and grudges. Cover Image: LoloStock/Shutterstock

Forgiveness vs. Reconciliation

By Ryan Howes PhD, ABPP
Many people believe forgiveness is the same as reconciliation. They're related, but not the same.

How to Forgive Yourself and Move on From the Past

By Matt James Ph.D.
Many of us know that forgiveness is a good thing, right? But what about forgiving ourselves? Even if we’ve gotten pretty good and consistent about offering forgiveness to others, isn’t forgiving ourselves often the most difficult? Understanding why self-forgiveness is difficult can give us clues to make it easier....

Forgiveness: A Time to Love and a Time to Hate

By Christine Louise Hohlbaum
Why is forgiveness such a loaded question? Because many believe that somehow the victim has to be the bigger person, raise himself up to a higher standard than the perpetrator and make amends to reach the Kingdom of Heaven.I saw "Hogwash!"

The Psychology of Forgiveness

By Rubin Khoddam
Forgiveness has been tossed around self-help circles for years, but little has been made of what it means in the context of research and what the science behind forgiveness can teach us about our own lives.

Can You Forgive?

By Mark Banschick M.D.
Forgiveness is important- it helps us heal and become better people. But how do we do it? How can we let go? How important can it be in a relationship?

The Power of Forgiveness: Why Revenge Doesn't Work

By Judith Orloff M.D.
Forgiveness is the act of compassionately releasing the desire to punish someone or yourself for an offense. It’s a state of grace, nothing you can force or pretend. There are no short cuts. Learn the benefits of forgiveness and how you can experience it.

How Do You Forgive Even When It Feels Impossible?

By Andrea Brandt Ph.D. M.F.T.
Most of us hold at least some misconceptions about forgiveness, so before you take steps toward forgiving someone, you need to understand what it is. Here are some things that forgiving someone doesn't mean: Forgiveness doesn't mean you are pardoning or excusing the other person's actions. Forgiveness doesn't mean you need to tell the person that he or she is forgiven.

Recognizing Anger as an Internal Alarm Signal: A Pathway to Forgiveness

By Susanne Babbel Ph.D., M.F.T.
Learning to recognize and respond to our internal alarm signals—which assess every situation and inform us of appropriate reactions—helps us to let go of grudges and to forgive.

10 Simple Tools to Help You Find Forgiveness

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D.
Forgiveness is a healthy choice, but not a panacea.