What Is Love?

Love doesn't have to be so complicated. Cover Image: Accord/Shuttersock

Film Analysis of Birdman

By Deborah Khoshaba Psy.D.
It's Riggan Thomson’s, Michael Keaton, last act so to speak.

Love: 13 Reasons Why It May Not Lead to Marriage

By Susan Heitler Ph.D.
Statistics and speculations on the causes of the epidemic of singleness spreading over our country, and how to combat it.

Is It Love, Intense Liking, or Just Lust?

By Ronald E Riggio Ph.D.
We’ve all experienced a feeling when we meet that special someone. For some it’s a sort of “rush.” For others, it begins as an admiration of the way the person looks, talks, or moves, and develops into something stronger. How do we know if what we are experiencing is liking, loving, or just plain lust?

How Do You Know If You're in Love?

By Theresa E DiDonato Ph.D.
How do you figure out if you're really in love with someone? Scientific research offers some signs that may help you evaluate your own experience.

How to Fall In Love (Again, with the Same Person)

By Tamar Chansky Ph.D.
By answering many probing questions that reveal intimate details about themselves, couples make deep, lasting connections. This is what researchers find is relationship super glue: we consistently like the people with whom we do back and forth self-disclosure. We like them a lot. So much, that we might even fall in love with them all over again!

Bigger, Broader Meanings of Love and Romance

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D.
 I don't think Americans have lost the bigger, broader senses of love and romance and passion and meaning that have probably been part of the human experience through the ages. Rather, I think that contemporary American society has been slow to give those experiences their due.

5 Ways to Express Your Love on Valentine’s Day

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D.
Valentine’s Day should be what each of us makes of it and nothing more. So whether you’re a hopeless romantic or just-not-a-candy-heart-kinda-person, here are a handful of ways we all can make the most out of this year’s Feb. 14… or any day for that matter.

When is it Okay to Lie to Your Lover?

By Susan Krauss Whitbourne Ph.D.
There are benefits and risks to lying in a relationship. You may want to protect your partner by telling a white lie, but if you’re found out, your partner will feel betrayed. New research provides guidelines on how to handle the truth in your closest relationship.

Getting Ready to Get Back Out in the Dating World!

By Susan J Elliott JD, M.Ed.
Getting ready to date again after your big breakup isn't easy but it's worth it (and so are you!)

True Love vs False Love

By Mark Banschick M.D.
Falling in love is great. But loving a real person is better.

Three Risky Ways to Fall Deeply in Love

By Christine L. Carter Ph.D.
Love feels magical and biological—something that just happens to us, something beyond our control. Research shows, however, that love is better thought of as behavioral—or even transactional.

How Do You Define Love?

By Susan Pease Gadoua L.C.S.W.
Careful how you use the word, "Love." It just might be mis-understood and that can get you into trouble.

I Would Rather Have Tasted Her Lips Just Once

By Berit Brogaard D.M.Sci., Ph.D
Social psychologist Phillip Shaver and colleagues asked students how confident they were that words on a list of over one hundred emotion words referred to emotions. Interestingly, they found that “love” was the single word that students were most confident signified an emotion. But is love really an emotion?

Drop This Word To Improve Your Loving Relationship!

By Jeffrey Bernstein Ph.D.
Stop saying this word so you and your intimate partner can get along better and feel a stronger, healthier love.

Let's Give Valentine’s Day 2016 Back to Children

By Rita Watson MPH
Look at the world through the eyes of a child before that child learns anger or hate. And just as we tallied up cards from our Valentine’s Day box as children, let the next Valentine’s Day become a day when children’s organizations can tally up checks.

7 Keys to Long-Term Relationship Success

By Preston Ni M.S.B.A.
Most of us want to meet and settle down with the “right” person, and most of us want such a relationship to last. What are some of the most important ideas when it comes to making your love last? Here are seven keys to long-term relationship success.

Is Your Relationship Real?

By Mark B. Borg, Jr, Ph.D., Grant H. Brenner, MD, & Daniel Berry, RN, MHA
Many people come into psychotherapy because they repeatedly find themselves in stale, unsatisfying relationships. Why? Do bad relationships actually have something to offer? We began to investigate and found that relationships are sometimes the best place to hide from closeness and intimacy.

Pride and Prejudice and Compassion

By Sherry Hamby Ph.D.
How does gender affect the relationship between compassion and mental health? Revisit a classic love story in this blog as we look at how compassion could drive you crazy.

A Surprising Key To Sustainable Relationship

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D.
We often get frustrated that our partners don't take responsibility for changing an annoying behavior. Their unwillingness to change feels like a violation of give and take. Paradoxically, we can often get more give and take if we stop holding out for them to change and instead change our way of interacting with them so we're fine regardless of whether they change.

You Can’t Save Your Child from Their Anorexia

By Emily T. Troscianko
This guest post by my mother Sue Blackmore reflects on the difficulty, for parents with an anorexic child, of striking the right balance between caring for their child and ruining their own lives trying and failing to help.

Celebration Planning can be Effective Therapy!

By Mark O'Connell L.C.S.W.- R.
Can planning a wedding (or any milestone celebration) be effective therapy? Yes, it can! I explained how in my interview with the Imago Relationships International Think Tank.

Love, Longing and Lust: The Pursuit of Happiness

By Diana Raab PhD
Love is one of the most powerful forces in the universe and sets humans apart from other species. The emotion invites us to transcend into altered states of consciousness which can be very transformative and result in feelings of empowerment.

News Flash: Being Believed Is Not A Human Right

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D.
We have freedom of speech, but we have to earn our audience and credibility. The sooner we realize this, the freer we become and the more responsibility we take for getting heard and winning hearts and minds.

What Color Should You Wear on a First Date?

By Amira Rezec Wegenek Ph.D.
Maximize your attractiveness in that online dating profile pic or on that first date

You Can't Have Real Intimacy Without This

By John Amodeo Ph.D., MFT
Being human means being vulnerable. But oftentimes we try to control love and intimacy, not realizing that true intimacy can only arise as we develop the awareness to notice and the courage to embrace our vulnerabilities. Our task is not to transcend our humanity or take flight into a spiritual self-image, but rather to engage with vulnerability in a skillful, gentle way.