Emotionally Focused Therapists in Saskatoon, SK
Shayna Das Counselling
Counsellor, Shayna, Eileen, Coralee, Raelee
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Saskatoon, SK S7T
We use CBT, DBT, EMDR, EFT, Energy Psychology, IFS, narrative, solution-focused brief therapy, motivational interviewing and mindfulness strategies.
Shayna, Eileen, Coralee, and Raelee have expertise in supporting clients with anxiety, depression, trauma, PTSD, and more. Mental survival tactics can drain years from our lives, leaving us struggling just to get by, while the pleasures and joys of life seem just beyond our grasp. When people experience severe life stressors or trauma, it often feels like their life is beginning to unravel. We are a Psychologist, Social Worker, and Professional Counsellor, and have experience working with adults, children, teens, and families to combat anxiety and help to reach potential in all areas of life.
We use CBT, DBT, EMDR, EFT, Energy Psychology, IFS, narrative, solution-focused brief therapy, motivational interviewing and mindfulness strategies.
Shayna, Eileen, Coralee, and Raelee have expertise in supporting clients with anxiety, depression, trauma, PTSD, and more. Mental survival tactics can drain years from our lives, leaving us struggling just to get by, while the pleasures and joys of life seem just beyond our grasp. When people experience severe life stressors or trauma, it often feels like their life is beginning to unravel. We are a Psychologist, Social Worker, and Professional Counsellor, and have experience working with adults, children, teens, and families to combat anxiety and help to reach potential in all areas of life.
Nadine Cortez
Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying), MACP, EMDR, ADHD-SP, CSTIP
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Online Only
I take a trauma- and culturally-informed approach that pulls from Narrative, Attachment and Emotionally Focused, EMDR, Narrative, and IFS therapy, but I ensure flexibility in how this applies to your goals.
Accepting NEW Clients! - Hoping to feel less anxious or explore building strategies to cope? Maybe you feel low, unmotivated, or stressed more than you used to and you'd like that to change. Are you curious about learning more about yourself or working on building confidence? Is there an experience in the present or the past that you feel held back by and that you'd like to better understand or process? Do you find yourself often trying to figure out who you are, or whats important to you? Together we'll look at what your goals are, and increase self-awareness, stability, and understanding in the process. Connect for a free consult!
I take a trauma- and culturally-informed approach that pulls from Narrative, Attachment and Emotionally Focused, EMDR, Narrative, and IFS therapy, but I ensure flexibility in how this applies to your goals.
Accepting NEW Clients! - Hoping to feel less anxious or explore building strategies to cope? Maybe you feel low, unmotivated, or stressed more than you used to and you'd like that to change. Are you curious about learning more about yourself or working on building confidence? Is there an experience in the present or the past that you feel held back by and that you'd like to better understand or process? Do you find yourself often trying to figure out who you are, or whats important to you? Together we'll look at what your goals are, and increase self-awareness, stability, and understanding in the process. Connect for a free consult!
I look forward to using the modalities of CBT, DBT, EFT, SFBT, along with spiritual and mindfulness modalities.
My extensive teaching background in both the elementary and high school systems gives me a unique skill set in helping teenagers and young adults who experience a multitude of mental health challenges. I welcome teenagers, young adults, adults, families and elderly clients to my location at Acadia Medical Associates in the Centre Mall (441-3310 8th St. E.).
I look forward to using the modalities of CBT, DBT, EFT, SFBT, along with spiritual and mindfulness modalities.
My extensive teaching background in both the elementary and high school systems gives me a unique skill set in helping teenagers and young adults who experience a multitude of mental health challenges. I welcome teenagers, young adults, adults, families and elderly clients to my location at Acadia Medical Associates in the Centre Mall (441-3310 8th St. E.).
I hold certifications in (CBT), (DBT), ( EFT), (ACT), and (MI), allowing me to integrate different evidence-based approaches to best support you.
While deep conversations matter, I believe therapy should also equip you with the skills, tools, and confidence to navigate life outside of the therapy room. I'm Ryann Simpson, a registered social worker and counsellor offering virtual therapy across Saskatchewan and Ontario. I specialize in supporting adults and couples through life’s challenges. My goal is to make sessions approachable, engaging, and useful, through the use of solution-focused strategies, deep reflection, and a healthy dose of humour.
I hold certifications in (CBT), (DBT), ( EFT), (ACT), and (MI), allowing me to integrate different evidence-based approaches to best support you.
While deep conversations matter, I believe therapy should also equip you with the skills, tools, and confidence to navigate life outside of the therapy room. I'm Ryann Simpson, a registered social worker and counsellor offering virtual therapy across Saskatchewan and Ontario. I specialize in supporting adults and couples through life’s challenges. My goal is to make sessions approachable, engaging, and useful, through the use of solution-focused strategies, deep reflection, and a healthy dose of humour.
I draw on Mindfulness Based, Gottman Couple Therapy, Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Solution Focused Therapy, and Written Exposure Therapy.
I desire to help you imagine a better story, create healthier relationships, and experience greater flourishing in life. I am committed to being an empathic presence with you in your pain and struggle (emotional, relational, or spiritual), whose compassion, curiosity, and collaboration help you discover within yourself the resources to respond with courage and wisdom to the challenges you are facing.
I draw on Mindfulness Based, Gottman Couple Therapy, Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Solution Focused Therapy, and Written Exposure Therapy.
I desire to help you imagine a better story, create healthier relationships, and experience greater flourishing in life. I am committed to being an empathic presence with you in your pain and struggle (emotional, relational, or spiritual), whose compassion, curiosity, and collaboration help you discover within yourself the resources to respond with courage and wisdom to the challenges you are facing.
Various treatment types include, ACT, culturally sensitive, DMT, emotionally focused therapy, narrative therapy and others are based on the individual.
We all have strength and power within ourselves to heal from trauma, and heartache. Channelling strength that feels impossible with the day to day duties of life. My passion is to assist you in building, and guiding supports and resources to help you on your journey to recovery, and a healthy well being for your emotional and mental health. I use client-focused therapeutic techniques to make an effort in providing a non-judgemental space for you to share your story. My focus is to provide a compassionate space to process pain, mistakes, fears, and struggles. Together we can identify and achieve your goals and heal together.
Various treatment types include, ACT, culturally sensitive, DMT, emotionally focused therapy, narrative therapy and others are based on the individual.
We all have strength and power within ourselves to heal from trauma, and heartache. Channelling strength that feels impossible with the day to day duties of life. My passion is to assist you in building, and guiding supports and resources to help you on your journey to recovery, and a healthy well being for your emotional and mental health. I use client-focused therapeutic techniques to make an effort in providing a non-judgemental space for you to share your story. My focus is to provide a compassionate space to process pain, mistakes, fears, and struggles. Together we can identify and achieve your goals and heal together.
As a couples therapist specializing in emotionally focused therapy, I provide a supportive and non-judgmental space to address relationship challenges like communication breakdowns and trust issues.
Are you feeling disconnected from your partner? Struggling with communication breakdowns or trust issues? In our sessions, we provide a safe and non-judgmental space for couples to explore their relational challenges. We focus on understanding each partner's perspective, validating their experiences, and fostering open communication. Together, we work towards rebuilding trust, strengthening emotional connections, and developing healthier patterns of interaction. Our goal is to empower couples to rediscover the love, intimacy, and fulfillment that initially brought them together.
As a couples therapist specializing in emotionally focused therapy, I provide a supportive and non-judgmental space to address relationship challenges like communication breakdowns and trust issues.
Are you feeling disconnected from your partner? Struggling with communication breakdowns or trust issues? In our sessions, we provide a safe and non-judgmental space for couples to explore their relational challenges. We focus on understanding each partner's perspective, validating their experiences, and fostering open communication. Together, we work towards rebuilding trust, strengthening emotional connections, and developing healthier patterns of interaction. Our goal is to empower couples to rediscover the love, intimacy, and fulfillment that initially brought them together.
Bryce MacEwen
Registered Social Worker, BSW
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Saskatoon, SK S7K
Waitlist for new clients
I utilize evidence-based and trauma-informed techniques from Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Emotionally-Focused Therapy ( EFT).
My desire is for every client to experience healing through therapy that remains grounded in real life (which is often very messy). I offer you a judgement-free space to be yourself and let go of whatever stress or pain you’re carrying. You set the goals and the pace, and together we move towards what’s meaningful amidst a history of trauma and hardship.
I utilize evidence-based and trauma-informed techniques from Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Emotionally-Focused Therapy ( EFT).
My desire is for every client to experience healing through therapy that remains grounded in real life (which is often very messy). I offer you a judgement-free space to be yourself and let go of whatever stress or pain you’re carrying. You set the goals and the pace, and together we move towards what’s meaningful amidst a history of trauma and hardship.
Stacey Huard Wellness
Registered Psychotherapist, MACP, RHN, BScN
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Saskatoon, SK S7K
Waitlist for new clients
I am certificated in interpersonal neurobiology, EFT, eating psychology, ACT, trauma and ADHD.
Welcome! Life is messy, beautiful, enduring and at times intensely painful and confusing. My intention is to create a safe space for you to land, nourished with empathy and understanding. Many of us are reaching outside of ourselves for happiness or utilizing avoidance strategies to cope; creating a void or level of fear that is often challenging to describe and keeps us in frantic overwhelm or a numb detachment from our inner joy. Being Neurodiverse, I hold a unique understanding of different traits and sensitivities and tailor support for a peaceful partnership with yourself and the world around you, if that is a desire you hold.
I am certificated in interpersonal neurobiology, EFT, eating psychology, ACT, trauma and ADHD.
Welcome! Life is messy, beautiful, enduring and at times intensely painful and confusing. My intention is to create a safe space for you to land, nourished with empathy and understanding. Many of us are reaching outside of ourselves for happiness or utilizing avoidance strategies to cope; creating a void or level of fear that is often challenging to describe and keeps us in frantic overwhelm or a numb detachment from our inner joy. Being Neurodiverse, I hold a unique understanding of different traits and sensitivities and tailor support for a peaceful partnership with yourself and the world around you, if that is a desire you hold.
I operate from a client-centered and attachment lens, and I draw on principles of Emotional Focused Therapy ( EFT) in my work with couples and families.
It's an honor to come alongside you as you work towards growth and healing. My goal is to provide a safe and accepting environment to process difficult experiences and relational distress. I see counselling as a collaborative and sacred process. With empathy and compassion, I want to support you as you invest in self-discovery and emotional awareness. As a counsellor, I enjoy working with children/youth, adults, and families. My areas of interest include neurodiversity, trauma, family systems, and grief/loss. I am currently pursuing certification as a play therapist through the Canadian Association for Play Therapy.
I operate from a client-centered and attachment lens, and I draw on principles of Emotional Focused Therapy ( EFT) in my work with couples and families.
It's an honor to come alongside you as you work towards growth and healing. My goal is to provide a safe and accepting environment to process difficult experiences and relational distress. I see counselling as a collaborative and sacred process. With empathy and compassion, I want to support you as you invest in self-discovery and emotional awareness. As a counsellor, I enjoy working with children/youth, adults, and families. My areas of interest include neurodiversity, trauma, family systems, and grief/loss. I am currently pursuing certification as a play therapist through the Canadian Association for Play Therapy.
Modalities include CBT, EFT, DBT, Mindfulness training and more.
Online & in Office Counselling services. Confidential support for life’s challenges. From wherever you are. Ages 16 and over. Perfect for rural clients with limited access to services and those who want flexible care from the comfort of their own space. Prefer to meet in the office? We can provide that too. Ask about video, phone and chat options.
Modalities include CBT, EFT, DBT, Mindfulness training and more.
Online & in Office Counselling services. Confidential support for life’s challenges. From wherever you are. Ages 16 and over. Perfect for rural clients with limited access to services and those who want flexible care from the comfort of their own space. Prefer to meet in the office? We can provide that too. Ask about video, phone and chat options.
Meet Our Emotionally Focused Counsellors
I am fully trained in cognitive behavioural therapy, action and commitment therapy, cognitive processing therapy, motivational interviewing, emotionally focused therapy, along with many other tools and techniques that help clients process their difficult issues.
Welcome! I hope I have the opportunity to hear about your life’s journey. I am a registered social worker providing support to adults and elders who may be navigating depression, anxiety, childhood trauma, religious trauma, and other experiences that can impact our emotional wellbeing. In particular, I am passionate about providing affirming and empowering support to those navigating 2SLGBTQ+ identities, as well as those seeking support with the complexities of a loved one's 2SLGBTQ+ identity. Previous clients have described me as a therapist who is interested, compassionate, energetic and open to exploring complex narratives.
I am fully trained in cognitive behavioural therapy, action and commitment therapy, cognitive processing therapy, motivational interviewing, emotionally focused therapy, along with many other tools and techniques that help clients process their difficult issues.
Welcome! I hope I have the opportunity to hear about your life’s journey. I am a registered social worker providing support to adults and elders who may be navigating depression, anxiety, childhood trauma, religious trauma, and other experiences that can impact our emotional wellbeing. In particular, I am passionate about providing affirming and empowering support to those navigating 2SLGBTQ+ identities, as well as those seeking support with the complexities of a loved one's 2SLGBTQ+ identity. Previous clients have described me as a therapist who is interested, compassionate, energetic and open to exploring complex narratives.
In my practice, I draw from a range of evidence-based approaches including Emotion-Focused Therapy ( EFT), Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Dialectical-Behaviour Therapy (DBT), Attachment Theory, and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Therapy.
I hold a Master's degree in CounselIing and a Bachelor's degree in Occupational Therapy. I work with individuals (youth, young adults, and adults) in areas including anxiety, mood disorders, trauma, stress, grief, abuse recovery, eating disorders, and relational concerns. As I have lived cross-culturally and worked extensively with newcomers to Canada, I have a special interest in cross-cultural adjustment and related concerns. I am proficient in Mandarin Chinese and may be able to provide counselling services in Mandarin upon request. Please inquire further to see whether this will be a possibility in your specific situation.
In my practice, I draw from a range of evidence-based approaches including Emotion-Focused Therapy ( EFT), Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Dialectical-Behaviour Therapy (DBT), Attachment Theory, and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Therapy.
I hold a Master's degree in CounselIing and a Bachelor's degree in Occupational Therapy. I work with individuals (youth, young adults, and adults) in areas including anxiety, mood disorders, trauma, stress, grief, abuse recovery, eating disorders, and relational concerns. As I have lived cross-culturally and worked extensively with newcomers to Canada, I have a special interest in cross-cultural adjustment and related concerns. I am proficient in Mandarin Chinese and may be able to provide counselling services in Mandarin upon request. Please inquire further to see whether this will be a possibility in your specific situation.
With adults, I work from an emotionally focused therapy lens.
I work primarily with children ages four and up through play therapy. Because we cannot expect young children to sit down and discuss their problems and feelings like adults do, allowing a child to express themselves through play is very effective. This builds on the way children naturally communicate - through play! Play also creates a safe place for children to express something that they find troubling. This means that very difficult topics can be worked through in a playful or metaphorical way which is age appropriate for the child. I am Saskatoon’s first and only Certified Play Therapist.
With adults, I work from an emotionally focused therapy lens.
I work primarily with children ages four and up through play therapy. Because we cannot expect young children to sit down and discuss their problems and feelings like adults do, allowing a child to express themselves through play is very effective. This builds on the way children naturally communicate - through play! Play also creates a safe place for children to express something that they find troubling. This means that very difficult topics can be worked through in a playful or metaphorical way which is age appropriate for the child. I am Saskatoon’s first and only Certified Play Therapist.
Sacred Bonds Counselling
Registered Social Worker, BA, BSW, MSW
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Online Only
I offer many therapeutic approaches including Narrative Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy and more.
I offer a compassionate, trauma-informed approach rooted in transpersonal psychology principles. With decades of experience, I support individuals navigating anxiety, depression, grief, abuse, trauma, addictions and spiritual or existential concerns. My work is grounded in neurobiologically-based, affect-focused trauma treatment, and shaped by a deep respect for diverse cultural and spiritual backgrounds.
I offer many therapeutic approaches including Narrative Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy and more.
I offer a compassionate, trauma-informed approach rooted in transpersonal psychology principles. With decades of experience, I support individuals navigating anxiety, depression, grief, abuse, trauma, addictions and spiritual or existential concerns. My work is grounded in neurobiologically-based, affect-focused trauma treatment, and shaped by a deep respect for diverse cultural and spiritual backgrounds.
Aaron Cruz
Registered Social Worker, BA, BSW, RSW
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Saskatoon, SK S7N
Waitlist for new clients
As a passionate advocate, coach, and counsellor for self-discovery and personal development, I am here to provide the space and discourse for you. I aim to assist or begin the process of guiding and uncovering parts of you that expresses your inner potential for growth, development, & holistic understanding of your Self. I firmly believe every person has the strength, tenacity, and convictions to overcome challenging experiences. I'd like to support you in positive changes in your life and will tailor my approach to what you feel would be most helpful to get you where you want to be.
As a passionate advocate, coach, and counsellor for self-discovery and personal development, I am here to provide the space and discourse for you. I aim to assist or begin the process of guiding and uncovering parts of you that expresses your inner potential for growth, development, & holistic understanding of your Self. I firmly believe every person has the strength, tenacity, and convictions to overcome challenging experiences. I'd like to support you in positive changes in your life and will tailor my approach to what you feel would be most helpful to get you where you want to be.
Donna-Lee F McLellan
Registered Social Worker, MISW, RISW, LCPC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Online Only
I am the founder of Balancing Within, a counselling service specializing in mental health therapeutic approaches such as: Family and Individual Counselling, CBT- EFT, Anxiety/Depression, EMDR, Inner-child and Past Trauma, Somatic, Group Sessions/Sharing circles and more.
Caring licensed Holistic Clinical Mental Health Therapist: An active listener, I am empathic and willprovide coping tools & homework. With today’s pressures and stresses, assist with incorporating the balancing wheel in your life and the tools to help deal with past trauma. I have counselling model knowledge in both Indigenous and western holistic practices.
I am the founder of Balancing Within, a counselling service specializing in mental health therapeutic approaches such as: Family and Individual Counselling, CBT- EFT, Anxiety/Depression, EMDR, Inner-child and Past Trauma, Somatic, Group Sessions/Sharing circles and more.
Caring licensed Holistic Clinical Mental Health Therapist: An active listener, I am empathic and willprovide coping tools & homework. With today’s pressures and stresses, assist with incorporating the balancing wheel in your life and the tools to help deal with past trauma. I have counselling model knowledge in both Indigenous and western holistic practices.
I practice Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR), Emotion-Focused therapy ( EFT), Cognitive Behavioral therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior therapy (DBT), and Solution- Focused therapy (SFT).
Welcome here! My practice is based on the belief that the brain has the ability and knows what it needs to heal. I employ EMDR and other techniques to help clients work through traumatic experiences, negative belief systems, and other barriers that keep triggers and their automatic emotional and/or physical responses active and impeding quality of life. No one is too 'broken' or 'damaged' to experience healing and feel better. I work with children and adults, and my main focus is trauma (childhood, abuse, work, relational, complex, etc) and PTSD, though I have experience helping clients with grief and loss, mood disorders, and more.
I practice Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR), Emotion-Focused therapy ( EFT), Cognitive Behavioral therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior therapy (DBT), and Solution- Focused therapy (SFT).
Welcome here! My practice is based on the belief that the brain has the ability and knows what it needs to heal. I employ EMDR and other techniques to help clients work through traumatic experiences, negative belief systems, and other barriers that keep triggers and their automatic emotional and/or physical responses active and impeding quality of life. No one is too 'broken' or 'damaged' to experience healing and feel better. I work with children and adults, and my main focus is trauma (childhood, abuse, work, relational, complex, etc) and PTSD, though I have experience helping clients with grief and loss, mood disorders, and more.
Tania Stebe at Growth Psychology Center
Registered Social Worker, RSW
Verified Verified
Saskatoon, SK S7H
My approaches include Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Emotion-focused Therapy ( EFT).
I'm Tania, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker since 2013. My dedication to this profession remains as strong today as when I first began. Taking that initial step to address your mental health is commendable, and I'm proud of you for it. Selecting the right therapist can feel daunting yet rewarding. My role is to support you in navigating life's challenges and discovering effective coping mechanisms. Remember, everyone encounters stress, and your emotions are important and deserving of discussion with someone who genuinely cares.
My approaches include Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Emotion-focused Therapy ( EFT).
I'm Tania, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker since 2013. My dedication to this profession remains as strong today as when I first began. Taking that initial step to address your mental health is commendable, and I'm proud of you for it. Selecting the right therapist can feel daunting yet rewarding. My role is to support you in navigating life's challenges and discovering effective coping mechanisms. Remember, everyone encounters stress, and your emotions are important and deserving of discussion with someone who genuinely cares.
Elizabeth Brown Registered Psychotherapist (Q) Macp Med.
Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying), MEd, MACP, RP(Q)
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Serves Area
Methods used are CBT, IFS, DBT, EFT, Narrative Therapy and Person-Centered therapy based on symptomatology and client preference.
Focusing on anxiety, PTSD, depression and trauma Elizabeth enables trust and strength in her relationships to provide a safe and comfortable environment of empathy and compassion. Respecting her clients as the authors of their own goals, she commits herself as a facilitator in her client’s journey to wellness with their care at the center of treatment. Elizabeth believes in the power of human tenacity and resilience in situations of adversity using a multimodal humanistic approach to individual therapy with awareness. Elizabeth is focused on integrating brain-based therapy and talk therapy to activate and locate trauma.
Methods used are CBT, IFS, DBT, EFT, Narrative Therapy and Person-Centered therapy based on symptomatology and client preference.
Focusing on anxiety, PTSD, depression and trauma Elizabeth enables trust and strength in her relationships to provide a safe and comfortable environment of empathy and compassion. Respecting her clients as the authors of their own goals, she commits herself as a facilitator in her client’s journey to wellness with their care at the center of treatment. Elizabeth believes in the power of human tenacity and resilience in situations of adversity using a multimodal humanistic approach to individual therapy with awareness. Elizabeth is focused on integrating brain-based therapy and talk therapy to activate and locate trauma.
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Emotionally Focused Counsellors
Who is emotionally focused therapy for?
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.
Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?
People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.
What happens in emotionally focused therapy?
Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.
What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?
EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.