Emotionally Focused Therapists in Whitby, ON
James 'jamie' Myslik
Registered Social Worker, MSW, RSW
Verified Verified
Whitby, ON L1N (Online Only)
I'm trained in many therapies (EFT, CBT, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, behaviour therapy, ecotherapy, and more), and I learn, grow from, and am grateful for each of my clients and their journeys.
Please note I am only taking new clients online at this time. What can you expect from me? Someone who is easy to open up to, compassionate, and non-judgmental. Time to talk about the things that are hardest to discuss and make important decisions. Someone with fifteen years of professional experience working anxiety, depression, and trauma, as well as everything from shame and grief, anger and fear, to contentment and joy. Time to order your thoughts, take a breath, and find balance.
I'm trained in many therapies (EFT, CBT, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, behaviour therapy, ecotherapy, and more), and I learn, grow from, and am grateful for each of my clients and their journeys.
Please note I am only taking new clients online at this time. What can you expect from me? Someone who is easy to open up to, compassionate, and non-judgmental. Time to talk about the things that are hardest to discuss and make important decisions. Someone with fifteen years of professional experience working anxiety, depression, and trauma, as well as everything from shame and grief, anger and fear, to contentment and joy. Time to order your thoughts, take a breath, and find balance.
Julia Donovan
Registered Psychotherapist, MA, RP
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Whitby, ON L1N
My practice is informed by a range of treatment models including: emotionally focused, cognitive behavioural therapy, spiritually-integrated psychotherapy, mindfulness-based therapies, and meaning-centred psychotherapy.
I work collaboratively with people willing to engage in self-reflection who may be experiencing depression, anxiety, loss, self-esteem issues and interpersonal conflicts. From a stance of empathy and acceptance, I invite clients to practice self-compassion and aim to empower them to become their own agents of change and live more meaningful lives.
My practice is informed by a range of treatment models including: emotionally focused, cognitive behavioural therapy, spiritually-integrated psychotherapy, mindfulness-based therapies, and meaning-centred psychotherapy.
I work collaboratively with people willing to engage in self-reflection who may be experiencing depression, anxiety, loss, self-esteem issues and interpersonal conflicts. From a stance of empathy and acceptance, I invite clients to practice self-compassion and aim to empower them to become their own agents of change and live more meaningful lives.
Nila Mensah
Registered Social Worker, MSW, BSW, RSW, BA
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Whitby, ON L1N
Are you ready to explore past patterns, develop healthy coping strategies, and enhance your resilience? As a trauma-informed specialist in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and couples therapy, I am dedicated to providing tailored support to help you thrive.
Are you ready to explore past patterns, develop healthy coping strategies, and enhance your resilience? As a trauma-informed specialist in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and couples therapy, I am dedicated to providing tailored support to help you thrive.
Nicolette Julien
Registered Psychotherapist, RP
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Whitby, ON L1M (Online Only)
I tend to utilize multiple modalities depending on your needs and desired outcome for therapy, that include but are not limited to trauma informed, IFS, CBT, DBT, EFT, Narrative, Solution Focused, and Family Systems.
I believe that therapy is a collaborative process, where you as the client are the expert of you and your story, and as we work together to build trust and a relationship, I can lend my clinical skills to aid in achieving your therapeutic goals. My approach is grounded in the style of therapy called Internal Family Systems, where I strive to be collaborative and empathetic in order to elicit behavioral change.
I tend to utilize multiple modalities depending on your needs and desired outcome for therapy, that include but are not limited to trauma informed, IFS, CBT, DBT, EFT, Narrative, Solution Focused, and Family Systems.
I believe that therapy is a collaborative process, where you as the client are the expert of you and your story, and as we work together to build trust and a relationship, I can lend my clinical skills to aid in achieving your therapeutic goals. My approach is grounded in the style of therapy called Internal Family Systems, where I strive to be collaborative and empathetic in order to elicit behavioral change.
Supportive Therapy - Nicole Waldston
Registered Social Worker, MSW, RSW
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Whitby, ON L1R (Online Only)
I am a firm believer that there is no one right or true way to engage in therapy. Everyone comes with a set of their own unique life experiences, which requires an individualized take on achieving personal goals and overcoming barriers. My approach is based in evidence and strength based practice, while focusing on you and where you are in your journey. We will work together to create a safe and empowering environment. You will receive support in gaining insight, developing coping mechanisms and strategies and strengthening the foundation of your authentic self through methods such as CBT, EFT, Attachment & Trauma Approaches.
I am a firm believer that there is no one right or true way to engage in therapy. Everyone comes with a set of their own unique life experiences, which requires an individualized take on achieving personal goals and overcoming barriers. My approach is based in evidence and strength based practice, while focusing on you and where you are in your journey. We will work together to create a safe and empowering environment. You will receive support in gaining insight, developing coping mechanisms and strategies and strengthening the foundation of your authentic self through methods such as CBT, EFT, Attachment & Trauma Approaches.
Carolyn James
Psychologist, PhD, CPsych
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Whitby, ON L1N
Hello and welcome! I am a registered clinical psychologist who works with adult clients (18+ years) facing a wide range of difficulties including anxiety, depression, trauma, emotional dysregulation, self-harm behaviour, and eating disorders. I have training in a number of evidence-based treatments including Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) and Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT). I also focus on women's reproductive health and offer therapy related to infertility, donor conception, pregnancy loss, and postpartum adjustment.
Hello and welcome! I am a registered clinical psychologist who works with adult clients (18+ years) facing a wide range of difficulties including anxiety, depression, trauma, emotional dysregulation, self-harm behaviour, and eating disorders. I have training in a number of evidence-based treatments including Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) and Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT). I also focus on women's reproductive health and offer therapy related to infertility, donor conception, pregnancy loss, and postpartum adjustment.
Lightroom Counselling Services (Roseline Oduntan)
Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying), MDiv
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Whitby, ON L1N
Roseline draws from various training, which includes Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 1 & 2), EFT, CBT, DBT and Trauma Focused Therapy.
Life is a complex journey, filled with its own set of challenges, yet it also holds the promise of hope. Whether you find yourself grappling with anxiety, depression, grief and loss, relationship or marital issues, parenting struggles, stress, or the daunting task of breaking negative patterns, know that you do not walk this path alone. I offer you a safe haven, a sanctuary where you can freely explore your challenges without judgment. Together, we will craft a personalized treatment plan that harnesses your unique strengths and addresses your individual needs.
Roseline draws from various training, which includes Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 1 & 2), EFT, CBT, DBT and Trauma Focused Therapy.
Life is a complex journey, filled with its own set of challenges, yet it also holds the promise of hope. Whether you find yourself grappling with anxiety, depression, grief and loss, relationship or marital issues, parenting struggles, stress, or the daunting task of breaking negative patterns, know that you do not walk this path alone. I offer you a safe haven, a sanctuary where you can freely explore your challenges without judgment. Together, we will craft a personalized treatment plan that harnesses your unique strengths and addresses your individual needs.
Diane Hua-Stewart
Registered Psychotherapist, MPH, MACP, RP
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Whitby, ON L1R (Online Only)
I use various therapies including mindfulness, emotionally focused therapy, attachment-based, IFS, narrative, Brainspotting, dialectical behavioural-informed therapy, and Gottman.
Managing difficult feelings alone can be overwhelming. Do you feel stuck and hope for things to be better? Do you feel exhausted, frustrated, or guilty by trying to live up to your ideal self or other people’s expectations? Whether it is overcoming anxious thoughts, a difficult relationship, moving past your traumas, or simply wanting to understand yourself better, I take a holistic approach and offer several modalities to help you on your path to healing. I will walk alongside you on your journey, while providing a safe and non-judgmental space. Connection is the foundation of our work together.
I use various therapies including mindfulness, emotionally focused therapy, attachment-based, IFS, narrative, Brainspotting, dialectical behavioural-informed therapy, and Gottman.
Managing difficult feelings alone can be overwhelming. Do you feel stuck and hope for things to be better? Do you feel exhausted, frustrated, or guilty by trying to live up to your ideal self or other people’s expectations? Whether it is overcoming anxious thoughts, a difficult relationship, moving past your traumas, or simply wanting to understand yourself better, I take a holistic approach and offer several modalities to help you on your path to healing. I will walk alongside you on your journey, while providing a safe and non-judgmental space. Connection is the foundation of our work together.
Nicole Bolotenko
Registered Psychotherapist, MEd, RP
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Whitby, ON L1P
Our body needs support in feeling well, and so does our emotional selves and mind at times need assistance. I would be honoured to assist you with counselling either online or in person. I work with a team of professionals to ensure my skills are up to date and my clients’ issues are helped by a number of different approaches such as EFT, IFS, CBT and family systems. I have completed my Masters in Counselling Psychology and have 20 years in the field of social services. Together we can find ways to reduce conflict, reconnect and bond with loved ones and feel better about your mental health. Contact me today to get started.
Our body needs support in feeling well, and so does our emotional selves and mind at times need assistance. I would be honoured to assist you with counselling either online or in person. I work with a team of professionals to ensure my skills are up to date and my clients’ issues are helped by a number of different approaches such as EFT, IFS, CBT and family systems. I have completed my Masters in Counselling Psychology and have 20 years in the field of social services. Together we can find ways to reduce conflict, reconnect and bond with loved ones and feel better about your mental health. Contact me today to get started.
Afreen Dhamani
Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying), MA
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Whitby, ON L1N (Online Only)
My approach to psychotherapy is integrative and includes narrative therapy, emotionally focused, IFS and parts work, mindfulness approaches and DBT.
Each person's journey is unique, which is why I prioritize cultural and values inclusion while providing an individualized therapy approach. Whether you're navigating cultural identity, managing stress, healing from past traumas, experiencing anxiety or simply seeking someone to talk to, I am here to listen, understand, and guide you towards emotional wellness. I offer a safe & supportive environment where you can share your life story, untangle thoughts & feelings, express difficult emotions and honour your successes. We will work together as you uncover the life you want to live.
My approach to psychotherapy is integrative and includes narrative therapy, emotionally focused, IFS and parts work, mindfulness approaches and DBT.
Each person's journey is unique, which is why I prioritize cultural and values inclusion while providing an individualized therapy approach. Whether you're navigating cultural identity, managing stress, healing from past traumas, experiencing anxiety or simply seeking someone to talk to, I am here to listen, understand, and guide you towards emotional wellness. I offer a safe & supportive environment where you can share your life story, untangle thoughts & feelings, express difficult emotions and honour your successes. We will work together as you uncover the life you want to live.
Rochelle Benny Gerard
Registered Psychotherapist, MACP, RP
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Whitby, ON L1M (Online Only)
I use CBT, DBT and EFT skills with you based on your unique needs and challenges.
Accepting New Clients! Whether you’re struggling with depression, anxiety, stress, anger, relationship, trauma, identity, self-esteem, life transition and eating disorder challenges, it is important that you know you don’t have to be alone in this journey. I understand that no two individuals are the same and we tailor our sessions together to address challenges unique to you. We will work together to understand the root cause of your struggles and address them with long-lasting strategies, helping you get closer to the life you’ve always wanted. Let's overcome and face your challenges together!
I use CBT, DBT and EFT skills with you based on your unique needs and challenges.
Accepting New Clients! Whether you’re struggling with depression, anxiety, stress, anger, relationship, trauma, identity, self-esteem, life transition and eating disorder challenges, it is important that you know you don’t have to be alone in this journey. I understand that no two individuals are the same and we tailor our sessions together to address challenges unique to you. We will work together to understand the root cause of your struggles and address them with long-lasting strategies, helping you get closer to the life you’ve always wanted. Let's overcome and face your challenges together!
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Registered Psychotherapist, RP, MA, BA
Verified Verified
7 Endorsed
Whitby, ON L1P
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and use a range of approaches to develop a plan that is focused on your needs and goals.
Are there things you wish you could change about some of the relationships in your life? Maybe you long for a deeper connection with your spouse or partner. Or you feel frustrated with a family pattern that continues to impact your life as an adult. You might even feel that you’ve lost a connection to yourself while trying to navigate all of the pieces of your life. With insight into your own experiences and feelings, you can get a clear picture of what you want for yourself and for your relationships. I can help you begin to put the pieces of the puzzle together.
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and use a range of approaches to develop a plan that is focused on your needs and goals.
Are there things you wish you could change about some of the relationships in your life? Maybe you long for a deeper connection with your spouse or partner. Or you feel frustrated with a family pattern that continues to impact your life as an adult. You might even feel that you’ve lost a connection to yourself while trying to navigate all of the pieces of your life. With insight into your own experiences and feelings, you can get a clear picture of what you want for yourself and for your relationships. I can help you begin to put the pieces of the puzzle together.
Cherrie Fielder
Registered Social Worker, MSW, HBA, RSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Whitby, ON L1R
Waitlist for new clients
I offer a compassionate, non-judgmental, and attentive approach using emotionally focused, mindfulness, self-compassion, and attachment approaches.
Life can have its ups and downs and may feel overwhelming at times. I believe that learning how to manage challenges as they happen, with support and guidance, can bring you to a more balanced and enjoyable life. I provide a supportive, non-judgemental and safe space, meeting you where you are, with the focus of developing greater self-awareness, understanding of your emotions, improving your relationships with others and yourself and learning some skills to help you manage those overwhelming times. When you are ready to reach out, I am here to listen and support you to achieve your goals.
I offer a compassionate, non-judgmental, and attentive approach using emotionally focused, mindfulness, self-compassion, and attachment approaches.
Life can have its ups and downs and may feel overwhelming at times. I believe that learning how to manage challenges as they happen, with support and guidance, can bring you to a more balanced and enjoyable life. I provide a supportive, non-judgemental and safe space, meeting you where you are, with the focus of developing greater self-awareness, understanding of your emotions, improving your relationships with others and yourself and learning some skills to help you manage those overwhelming times. When you are ready to reach out, I am here to listen and support you to achieve your goals.
Wei Luo
Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying), MA, RP(Q)
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Whitby, ON L1N
I used a mixed of evidence based modalities including Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), and Internal Family System (IFS).
As an East Asian therapist who has personally overcome obstacles with anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and childhood trauma, I understand you are going through tough times, and I have the skills and passion to assist you in getting through them. I am committed to helping you process your emotions and difficulties while fostering greater self-insight. I have experienced therapy myself to work through my own issues, and now I'm dedicated to helping you overcome yours.
I used a mixed of evidence based modalities including Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), and Internal Family System (IFS).
As an East Asian therapist who has personally overcome obstacles with anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and childhood trauma, I understand you are going through tough times, and I have the skills and passion to assist you in getting through them. I am committed to helping you process your emotions and difficulties while fostering greater self-insight. I have experienced therapy myself to work through my own issues, and now I'm dedicated to helping you overcome yours.
Hannah Packer
Registered Psychotherapist, MACP, BA
Verified Verified
8 Endorsed
Whitby, ON L1M
I work from an EMDR therapy and attachment focused perspectives which often includes other evidence-based therapies such as: CBT, DBT, EFT and Ego-State therapy.
Are you feeling stuck, lacking motivation, or fatigued? Perhaps you feel irritable or anxious at work or with your relationships. Therapy can help you discover new ways to manage and cope with your symptoms while working to resolve trauma. It can be challenging to seek out therapy, and I commend you on taking the first step. I work with individuals who are experiencing difficulties related to their past and/or recent traumatic experiences. I have experience working with individuals experiencing depression, anxiety, life transitions, work-related stress, BPD, family & relationship issues, and issues related to self-esteem.
I work from an EMDR therapy and attachment focused perspectives which often includes other evidence-based therapies such as: CBT, DBT, EFT and Ego-State therapy.
Are you feeling stuck, lacking motivation, or fatigued? Perhaps you feel irritable or anxious at work or with your relationships. Therapy can help you discover new ways to manage and cope with your symptoms while working to resolve trauma. It can be challenging to seek out therapy, and I commend you on taking the first step. I work with individuals who are experiencing difficulties related to their past and/or recent traumatic experiences. I have experience working with individuals experiencing depression, anxiety, life transitions, work-related stress, BPD, family & relationship issues, and issues related to self-esteem.
Ethan Stender
Registered Psychotherapist, MDiv, RP
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Whitby, ON L1R
Ethan is deeply committed to his clients’ growth and transformation. His goal is to meet clients where they are and create a tailored experience that meets their individual needs. He considers himself a collaborative therapist, walking alongside clients to identify their strengths, passions, and goals. This strength-based and person-centered approach draws from various therapeutic modalities, including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Family Systems Therapy (FST), Solution Focused Therapy (SFT), Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), Play Therapy, and aspects of Internal Family Systems (IFS).
Ethan is deeply committed to his clients’ growth and transformation. His goal is to meet clients where they are and create a tailored experience that meets their individual needs. He considers himself a collaborative therapist, walking alongside clients to identify their strengths, passions, and goals. This strength-based and person-centered approach draws from various therapeutic modalities, including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Family Systems Therapy (FST), Solution Focused Therapy (SFT), Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), Play Therapy, and aspects of Internal Family Systems (IFS).
Mind Care Mental Wellness Solutions
Registered Social Worker, BSW, MSW, RSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Whitby, ON L1N
Experience compassionate support and professional support with human connection with Loretta, a committed Registered Social Worker practicing in Ontario. Specializing in fostering mental well-being for caregivers and care partners, I deeply respect the resilience of caregivers and aim to ease the emotional strains and grief they may face. With expertise in caregiver wellbeing, mood disorders like anxiety and depression, grief, loss, stress, burnout, coping with diagnosis and illness and life transitions.
Experience compassionate support and professional support with human connection with Loretta, a committed Registered Social Worker practicing in Ontario. Specializing in fostering mental well-being for caregivers and care partners, I deeply respect the resilience of caregivers and aim to ease the emotional strains and grief they may face. With expertise in caregiver wellbeing, mood disorders like anxiety and depression, grief, loss, stress, burnout, coping with diagnosis and illness and life transitions.
Melissa Fraser
Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying), MACP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Whitby, ON L1R (Online Only)
I am here to help you find your way through life's transitions, unmanageable stress, hopelessness, overwhelm, and anxiety. I will meet you where you are at, help you figure out where you want to be, and collaborate on how to help you get there. I am a guide for self-exploration, personal responsibility, and helping you to re-author the stories and narratives of your life. I am passionate about supporting caregivers who are assisting family members with disabilities, aging parents, and those struggling with fertility and all of the challenges and emotions that go along with that.
I am here to help you find your way through life's transitions, unmanageable stress, hopelessness, overwhelm, and anxiety. I will meet you where you are at, help you figure out where you want to be, and collaborate on how to help you get there. I am a guide for self-exploration, personal responsibility, and helping you to re-author the stories and narratives of your life. I am passionate about supporting caregivers who are assisting family members with disabilities, aging parents, and those struggling with fertility and all of the challenges and emotions that go along with that.
Joshua Johnston
Registered Psychotherapist, MA, RP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Whitby, ON L1N
In therapy, I hope to join with clients in creating an environment where openness and exploration is safe. My approach in therapy is one of respect, empathy, and nurturance, recognizing the uniqueness of every individual and circumstance. I provide both short and long term counselling drawing from a variety of therapeutic models including: cognitive-behavioural, solution-focused, emotion-focused, mindfulness-based, and narrative approaches to therapy. Regardless of modality, it is always my goal to aid the process of self-discovery leading to empowerment, clarity, and authentic life opportunities.
In therapy, I hope to join with clients in creating an environment where openness and exploration is safe. My approach in therapy is one of respect, empathy, and nurturance, recognizing the uniqueness of every individual and circumstance. I provide both short and long term counselling drawing from a variety of therapeutic models including: cognitive-behavioural, solution-focused, emotion-focused, mindfulness-based, and narrative approaches to therapy. Regardless of modality, it is always my goal to aid the process of self-discovery leading to empowerment, clarity, and authentic life opportunities.
Janna K Comrie
Registered Psychotherapist, BA, MA, CFRC
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Whitby, ON L1N
Waitlist for new clients
Hello There, If you or a family member is a First Responder, Veteran or Frontline Medical worker, I may be the therapist for you! I primarily work with First Responders, Veterans and Front Line Medical workers who have experienced repeated traumatic exposures through their work. Flashbacks, nightmares, anger outbursts, dissociation, anxiety, panic attacks, and depression are symptoms that you don't have to live with! And those interpersonal relationships (at work, home and socially) can be improved.
Hello There, If you or a family member is a First Responder, Veteran or Frontline Medical worker, I may be the therapist for you! I primarily work with First Responders, Veterans and Front Line Medical workers who have experienced repeated traumatic exposures through their work. Flashbacks, nightmares, anger outbursts, dissociation, anxiety, panic attacks, and depression are symptoms that you don't have to live with! And those interpersonal relationships (at work, home and socially) can be improved.
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Who is emotionally focused therapy for?
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.
Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?
People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.
What happens in emotionally focused therapy?
Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.
What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?
EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.