Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Therapists in Kingston, ON
“If I really love my partner I should want to have sex with them…right?”; “There must be something wrong with me or with the relationship if I don’t want to have sex.”; “If they aren’t getting sex from me, they’re going to find it somewhere else…” Do any of these sound familiar? Do you have a running counter of the number of days since the last time you had sex, and every day that passes leads to more and more stress “it’s been too long, I’m going to need to do it soon…”
“If I really love my partner I should want to have sex with them…right?”; “There must be something wrong with me or with the relationship if I don’t want to have sex.”; “If they aren’t getting sex from me, they’re going to find it somewhere else…” Do any of these sound familiar? Do you have a running counter of the number of days since the last time you had sex, and every day that passes leads to more and more stress “it’s been too long, I’m going to need to do it soon…”
Jessica Nickason is a Registered Psychotherapist in Kingston, Ontario, helping clients build emotional resilience by learning to process and expression emotions. She draws from various experiential approaches for solutions and meaningful change.
Jessica has extensive experience with clients who are suicidal using trauma‑informed approaches. She has a strong background working with first responders and frontline professionals. As a mother of 3, she works with couples navigating life's changes and the challenges of relationships while raising a family with a focus of gender socialization and transitions to parenthood.
Jessica Nickason is a Registered Psychotherapist in Kingston, Ontario, helping clients build emotional resilience by learning to process and expression emotions. She draws from various experiential approaches for solutions and meaningful change.
Jessica has extensive experience with clients who are suicidal using trauma‑informed approaches. She has a strong background working with first responders and frontline professionals. As a mother of 3, she works with couples navigating life's changes and the challenges of relationships while raising a family with a focus of gender socialization and transitions to parenthood.
You’ve been searching for a couple’s therapist who can accommodate you and your partner’s busy schedules, but it feels impossible. Look no further. Kate offers evening and weekend appointments virtually and in person to suit the needs of high-achieving, busy couples. Are you ready to stop feeling so disconnected from your partner? Maybe you find yourself fantasizing about the way things were in the beginning of the relationship. Maybe you’re just staying together because of the kids. You don’t even recognize the person you are with; or worse, you don’t recognize yourself when you are with them.
You’ve been searching for a couple’s therapist who can accommodate you and your partner’s busy schedules, but it feels impossible. Look no further. Kate offers evening and weekend appointments virtually and in person to suit the needs of high-achieving, busy couples. Are you ready to stop feeling so disconnected from your partner? Maybe you find yourself fantasizing about the way things were in the beginning of the relationship. Maybe you’re just staying together because of the kids. You don’t even recognize the person you are with; or worse, you don’t recognize yourself when you are with them.
Sex Therapy Ontario - Dr. Jenn Bossio, C.Psych
Psychologist, PhD, CPsych
5 Endorsed
Kingston, ON K7L
So, sex doesn’t look like it does in the movies for you? Your body isn’t cooperating. You can’t keep your mind in the game. You’re unable to enjoy yourself the way you want. Maybe you avoid sex all together. You wonder: “What is everyone talking about when they say sex is great? What am I missing?” You worry: “If I really loved my partner, if we were really compatible, we wouldn’t be having sexual problems.” You ask: “Maybe I’m sexually broken?”
So, sex doesn’t look like it does in the movies for you? Your body isn’t cooperating. You can’t keep your mind in the game. You’re unable to enjoy yourself the way you want. Maybe you avoid sex all together. You wonder: “What is everyone talking about when they say sex is great? What am I missing?” You worry: “If I really loved my partner, if we were really compatible, we wouldn’t be having sexual problems.” You ask: “Maybe I’m sexually broken?”
Tired of feeling tired? Sick of worrying about your relationship? Fed up with your stress? People may access counselling for a variety of reasons. I work with a clients who may be experiencing a wide array of issues related to anxiety, depression, self-esteem, identity development, family and relationship concerns, and general coping skills.
Tired of feeling tired? Sick of worrying about your relationship? Fed up with your stress? People may access counselling for a variety of reasons. I work with a clients who may be experiencing a wide array of issues related to anxiety, depression, self-esteem, identity development, family and relationship concerns, and general coping skills.
You look at your life, and find that something feels off. Maybe your sex life is not what you imagined it would be. Or you’re not feeling fulfilled in your relationship/s. You know what's important to you - connection? intimacy? adventure? family? - but something prevents you from living life to the fullest. Perhaps anxiety, low mood, self-criticism, or shame get in the way. Or you’ve faced a stressor or health issue that has brought new roadblocks. You may have even been on autopilot for so long, being the kind of person you “should” be for others, that you don’t know exactly who you are anymore.
You look at your life, and find that something feels off. Maybe your sex life is not what you imagined it would be. Or you’re not feeling fulfilled in your relationship/s. You know what's important to you - connection? intimacy? adventure? family? - but something prevents you from living life to the fullest. Perhaps anxiety, low mood, self-criticism, or shame get in the way. Or you’ve faced a stressor or health issue that has brought new roadblocks. You may have even been on autopilot for so long, being the kind of person you “should” be for others, that you don’t know exactly who you are anymore.
So, you’re experiencing difficulties with sex. Maybe you’re struggling with intimacy, orgasm, low libido, or genital pain. Maybe you are trying to navigate opening up your relationship or discussing kinks with your partner(s). You may wonder if you’re the only one experiencing these issues and don’t know who to turn to. I’m here to make talking about sex easy.
So, you’re experiencing difficulties with sex. Maybe you’re struggling with intimacy, orgasm, low libido, or genital pain. Maybe you are trying to navigate opening up your relationship or discussing kinks with your partner(s). You may wonder if you’re the only one experiencing these issues and don’t know who to turn to. I’m here to make talking about sex easy.
Maybe sex feels more like stress than pleasure. Maybe your body, mind, or identity doesn’t fit the scripts you’ve been told are “normal.” You might struggle with desire, communication, painful sex, performance anxiety, distracting thoughts during intimacy, or feeling disconnected from yourself or your partner(s). Perhaps you find yourself asking, “Is this normal?” or “Why can’t I just relax?” When sex and relationships don’t work the way we expect, it’s easy to feel frustrated, ashamed, or alone. The good news? You’re not broken, and you’re not alone.
Maybe sex feels more like stress than pleasure. Maybe your body, mind, or identity doesn’t fit the scripts you’ve been told are “normal.” You might struggle with desire, communication, painful sex, performance anxiety, distracting thoughts during intimacy, or feeling disconnected from yourself or your partner(s). Perhaps you find yourself asking, “Is this normal?” or “Why can’t I just relax?” When sex and relationships don’t work the way we expect, it’s easy to feel frustrated, ashamed, or alone. The good news? You’re not broken, and you’re not alone.
All of us are walking around with some kind of pain, big and small, whether we know it or not. We are all doing our best with what we have, and sometimes it can feel like our best isn’t enough. As your therapist, I am happy to work with you to adapt and grow with your trauma, develop coping skills, and help reroute any that may no longer be serving you, as well as building up your feelings of safety, validation, compassion, and care. I work with clients 16+ who are adapting to live with their trauma, experiencing anxiety, depression, stress, or who want to strengthen their sense of self and self-confidence.
All of us are walking around with some kind of pain, big and small, whether we know it or not. We are all doing our best with what we have, and sometimes it can feel like our best isn’t enough. As your therapist, I am happy to work with you to adapt and grow with your trauma, develop coping skills, and help reroute any that may no longer be serving you, as well as building up your feelings of safety, validation, compassion, and care. I work with clients 16+ who are adapting to live with their trauma, experiencing anxiety, depression, stress, or who want to strengthen their sense of self and self-confidence.
The path to parenthood has not looked like what you expected. Maybe you’re desperate to start your family, but it’s not happening and you’re terrified that parenthood isn’t going to happen for you. Maybe you’ve experienced the devastation of pregnancy loss and are left grieving in isolation, wondering “does this grief even count if it was “just” a miscarriage?”. Or perhaps you want to add to your family, but this time around it just doesn’t seem to be happening. Baby showers are devastating. “Pregnancy” becomes a swear word. Sex is no longer fun, it is simply a method to conceive/means to finally seeing that double pink line…
The path to parenthood has not looked like what you expected. Maybe you’re desperate to start your family, but it’s not happening and you’re terrified that parenthood isn’t going to happen for you. Maybe you’ve experienced the devastation of pregnancy loss and are left grieving in isolation, wondering “does this grief even count if it was “just” a miscarriage?”. Or perhaps you want to add to your family, but this time around it just doesn’t seem to be happening. Baby showers are devastating. “Pregnancy” becomes a swear word. Sex is no longer fun, it is simply a method to conceive/means to finally seeing that double pink line…
I believe in working with individuals and couples to help them reach their objectives and purpose for seeking counselling. I do so while exhibiting respect, empathy, genuineness and understanding. I create a safe and non-judgmental place or outlet for you to feel heard. I am very passionate about what I do and thank you for trusting me and taking the first step towards your mental health wellness. I offer supervision to students, as well as RP(Q)s - please reach out to discuss your supervision needs.
I believe in working with individuals and couples to help them reach their objectives and purpose for seeking counselling. I do so while exhibiting respect, empathy, genuineness and understanding. I create a safe and non-judgmental place or outlet for you to feel heard. I am very passionate about what I do and thank you for trusting me and taking the first step towards your mental health wellness. I offer supervision to students, as well as RP(Q)s - please reach out to discuss your supervision needs.
Sex & Couples Therapy Ontario | Shaunacy King
Registered Psychotherapist, RP, MACP, MPhil
1 Endorsed
Kingston, ON K7L
We're knowledgeable and affirming of LGBTQ+, poly/ENM, and kink identities.
You are struggling with sexuality, gender, or intimacy issues, and want to figure them out, either on your own or with your partner/partners. Perhaps you want to understand or stop your compulsive sexual behavior. Maybe you want to learn how to feel in control of your sex life. There may be aspects of your gender identity that you want to explore, or maybe you need support through social or medical transition. Maybe you want to improve communication with your partner(s), break ineffective patterns, and develop better ones. Whether you're struggling with libido, porn, trouble with arousal or orgasm, or painful sex, we can help.
We're knowledgeable and affirming of LGBTQ+, poly/ENM, and kink identities.
You are struggling with sexuality, gender, or intimacy issues, and want to figure them out, either on your own or with your partner/partners. Perhaps you want to understand or stop your compulsive sexual behavior. Maybe you want to learn how to feel in control of your sex life. There may be aspects of your gender identity that you want to explore, or maybe you need support through social or medical transition. Maybe you want to improve communication with your partner(s), break ineffective patterns, and develop better ones. Whether you're struggling with libido, porn, trouble with arousal or orgasm, or painful sex, we can help.
Are you finding everything too stressful right now? Is that showing up as anxiety, insomnia, emotional reactivity, memory or concentration issues? Are you feeling foggy or edgy? The last few years have been tough. In my practice I use more traditional talk therapy while also working directly with your neurophysiology. Neurofeedback actively helps your brain rewire its stress patterns and I use Deep Brain Reorienting and Brainspotting to get to the root of an issue without overwhelm or emotional flooding. If talk therapy alone has not given you what you needed, perhaps more directly accessing your neurophysiology will!
Are you finding everything too stressful right now? Is that showing up as anxiety, insomnia, emotional reactivity, memory or concentration issues? Are you feeling foggy or edgy? The last few years have been tough. In my practice I use more traditional talk therapy while also working directly with your neurophysiology. Neurofeedback actively helps your brain rewire its stress patterns and I use Deep Brain Reorienting and Brainspotting to get to the root of an issue without overwhelm or emotional flooding. If talk therapy alone has not given you what you needed, perhaps more directly accessing your neurophysiology will!
Resolve Counselling Services Canada offers a number of programs and services that have been developed to support adults, youth, couples and families overcome challenges that affect their emotional and social well-being. All of our counsellors believe that the individuals, couples, families, and groups who come to us for counselling are resilient and possess the inherent strengths needed to solve their unique set of challenges. Each of our clinical counsellors uses a counselling approach that is informed by current best practices.
Resolve Counselling Services Canada offers a number of programs and services that have been developed to support adults, youth, couples and families overcome challenges that affect their emotional and social well-being. All of our counsellors believe that the individuals, couples, families, and groups who come to us for counselling are resilient and possess the inherent strengths needed to solve their unique set of challenges. Each of our clinical counsellors uses a counselling approach that is informed by current best practices.
Do you have a specific challenge you are currently struggling with? Is something nagging at you that you can't seem to ignore any longer? Not even sure why you might want to speak to someone, but you're exploring counselling anyways? There are many reasons to seek out counselling. Difficult memories from the past, a recent loss, mounting stress, or just feeling "stuck" can get in the way of experiencing life. There is no one reason and no one right moment to reach out and begin following your curiosity towards self-exploration. I invite you to visit my website for more details.
Do you have a specific challenge you are currently struggling with? Is something nagging at you that you can't seem to ignore any longer? Not even sure why you might want to speak to someone, but you're exploring counselling anyways? There are many reasons to seek out counselling. Difficult memories from the past, a recent loss, mounting stress, or just feeling "stuck" can get in the way of experiencing life. There is no one reason and no one right moment to reach out and begin following your curiosity towards self-exploration. I invite you to visit my website for more details.
Are you ready for more pleasure in your life? Do you wish you were more into sex, or wonder whether amazing sex and relationships are possible for you? Do you want to feel empowered, whole and at home in your body? In my somatic coaching practice, we can discover what turns you on, what hits the brakes, and what else (shame, fear, fantasies, upbringing) shapes your romantic and sexual life. We can identify your boundaries and how to deeply connect to yourself, your partners and the moment. I work with women and gender diverse people. Let me celebrate who you are and be there to guide you towards whatever intimate life you want.
Are you ready for more pleasure in your life? Do you wish you were more into sex, or wonder whether amazing sex and relationships are possible for you? Do you want to feel empowered, whole and at home in your body? In my somatic coaching practice, we can discover what turns you on, what hits the brakes, and what else (shame, fear, fantasies, upbringing) shapes your romantic and sexual life. We can identify your boundaries and how to deeply connect to yourself, your partners and the moment. I work with women and gender diverse people. Let me celebrate who you are and be there to guide you towards whatever intimate life you want.
We are a group of mental health providers who are passionate about creating an inclusive space. We have a wide range of expertise to ensure we can support your individual needs. We provide psychotherapy, occupational therapy & naturopathic services for children, youth, adults, couples & families. We offer clinical supervision for psychotherapists.
We support you with managing various areas of your life; anxiety, depression, sexuality, desire discrepancy, neurodivergence, trauma, conflict, substance issues, parenting, ADHD, burn out, stress, school issues, life transitions and more.
We offer both online and in person sessions.
We are a group of mental health providers who are passionate about creating an inclusive space. We have a wide range of expertise to ensure we can support your individual needs. We provide psychotherapy, occupational therapy & naturopathic services for children, youth, adults, couples & families. We offer clinical supervision for psychotherapists.
We support you with managing various areas of your life; anxiety, depression, sexuality, desire discrepancy, neurodivergence, trauma, conflict, substance issues, parenting, ADHD, burn out, stress, school issues, life transitions and more.
We offer both online and in person sessions.
Trauma changes you, but it does not have to define you. It is a chapter in your story, but it does not have to be your entire story. With 14 years of experience working with survivors of childhood abuse, sexual violence, and emotional neglect, I understand the complexity and depth of the pain you may carry. Sometimes that pain manifests itself as complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and/or dissociation, leading to feelings of helplessness or hopelessness. Although healing from trauma can feel like an overwhelming journey, you don’t have to walk that path alone.
Trauma changes you, but it does not have to define you. It is a chapter in your story, but it does not have to be your entire story. With 14 years of experience working with survivors of childhood abuse, sexual violence, and emotional neglect, I understand the complexity and depth of the pain you may carry. Sometimes that pain manifests itself as complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and/or dissociation, leading to feelings of helplessness or hopelessness. Although healing from trauma can feel like an overwhelming journey, you don’t have to walk that path alone.
Accepting new clients (individual and couples therapy). Are you hypersensitive to shifts in another person's mood? Maybe your partner's furrowed brow leaves you on edge, asking yourself "are they mad at me?" or "what have I done this time?". I know just how exhausting all of that internal tension can be, and I'd love to help. Whether you just want to work on you, or you're looking for couples therapy, call the number on this page to book a free consultation with me as soon as this week. Otherwise, send me an email, and I'll be in touch in 1-2 business days.
No waitlist. Sessions available as soon as today!
Accepting new clients (individual and couples therapy). Are you hypersensitive to shifts in another person's mood? Maybe your partner's furrowed brow leaves you on edge, asking yourself "are they mad at me?" or "what have I done this time?". I know just how exhausting all of that internal tension can be, and I'd love to help. Whether you just want to work on you, or you're looking for couples therapy, call the number on this page to book a free consultation with me as soon as this week. Otherwise, send me an email, and I'll be in touch in 1-2 business days.
No waitlist. Sessions available as soon as today!
Everyone has unique challenges and needs; however, we all share the same need to feel heard, understood and supported. Simply put, when we are authentically seen and heard, the way in which we navigate our lives and its challenges improves. It is important to me that I meet all clients with genuine empathy, honesty, and acceptance. I enjoy working from a strengths-based, positive therapeutic approach, and I believe that as the client, you are the expert of your own experience. My aim is to offer non-judgmental and open-minded insight and assistance in exploring the varying concerns that you bring to counselling.
Everyone has unique challenges and needs; however, we all share the same need to feel heard, understood and supported. Simply put, when we are authentically seen and heard, the way in which we navigate our lives and its challenges improves. It is important to me that I meet all clients with genuine empathy, honesty, and acceptance. I enjoy working from a strengths-based, positive therapeutic approach, and I believe that as the client, you are the expert of your own experience. My aim is to offer non-judgmental and open-minded insight and assistance in exploring the varying concerns that you bring to counselling.
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Why might an individual want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
A sex-positive or kinky individual may want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist because the client may feel safer and more supported discussing their experiences and challenges. A therapist who identifies as kink-friendly will have experience with clients having diverse sexual preferences and will likely be nonjudgmental and supportive about issues brought to the table. It is important to note that sex-positive, kink-allied individuals may find equal success with therapists who do not have such specialised knowledge and background. The most important factor in the success of therapy is for the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in sex-positive, kink-allied treatment?
Generally, no. There are limited training programs and unofficial accreditations that therapists can pursue, but a therapist’s expertise will ultimately come from their previous experience with similar clients, their engagement with organisations that promote sex positivity or kink-allied lifestyles, and the importance they place on safety and cultural sensitivity.
How can individuals recognise a good sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
An experienced therapist is able to help clients explore their sexual identity and expression and relieve any discomfort or stigma attached to discussing such matters and the client’s overall challenges. A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-allied is able to create an environment that honors a client’s experience and sexual preferences. To recognise a good therapist, clients can simply ask directly about topics and issues important to them and gauge their comfort level and connection with a clinician based on the responses.
Can clients benefit from having a therapist with a focus on sex positivity and alternative sexual lifestyles?
Some individuals may feel most comfortable knowing that the clinician they’re working with has a commitment to creating an atmosphere of sex positivity and has experience with relationship diversity and alternative relationship structures. Working with a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist may help clients respect their own challenges and improve identity-affirming treatment.