Emotionally Focused Therapists in East York, ON

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Dr. Kelly Mandarino
Registered Social Worker, PhD, MSW, RSW, BSW, BA
Verified Verified
Online Only
I have been teaching graduate level courses since 2011 in psychodynamic theory, EFT, CBT, research, family and group therapy in the MSW departments at UofT and Smith College.
Hello and welcome! I am a Psychotherapist/Registered Social Worker with over 20 years of clinical practice with children, teens, adults and families with complex needs. I work with my clients' strengths to build coping skills and resiliency while simultaneously exploring recurring themes stemming from attachment wounds or unmet needs. Having one foot in the present and one in the past helps determine how early relational experiences often continue to impact current challenges and relationships. Feeling comfortable with your therapist is first and foremost, so I offer a free phone consultation to see if we may be a good fit.
I have been teaching graduate level courses since 2011 in psychodynamic theory, EFT, CBT, research, family and group therapy in the MSW departments at UofT and Smith College.
Hello and welcome! I am a Psychotherapist/Registered Social Worker with over 20 years of clinical practice with children, teens, adults and families with complex needs. I work with my clients' strengths to build coping skills and resiliency while simultaneously exploring recurring themes stemming from attachment wounds or unmet needs. Having one foot in the present and one in the past helps determine how early relational experiences often continue to impact current challenges and relationships. Feeling comfortable with your therapist is first and foremost, so I offer a free phone consultation to see if we may be a good fit.
(647) 931-5965 View (647) 931-5965
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Linda Pawluch Msw Rsw
MSW RSW
Verified Verified
Serves Area
I employ an integrative model incorporating adult attachment theory, cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), dialectical therapy (DBT), emotional focused therapy ( EFT) and narrative therapy to explore and support you in your emotional healing.
Thank you for checking out my practice profile. I have 20+ years of providing professional mental health supports to clients and bring a warm and compassionate presence to my work. I seek to create a safe environment in which we collaboratively process difficult feelings towards making meaningful changes to create a more fulfilled life. I use an integrative model tailored to your specific needs. If you are stuck in unhelpful relationship interpersonal cycles; need clarity on life transitions, family, or struggling with a difficult past, I can support you. I offer in-person and virtual sessions Individual: $150; $225 couples (75 min)
I employ an integrative model incorporating adult attachment theory, cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), dialectical therapy (DBT), emotional focused therapy ( EFT) and narrative therapy to explore and support you in your emotional healing.
Thank you for checking out my practice profile. I have 20+ years of providing professional mental health supports to clients and bring a warm and compassionate presence to my work. I seek to create a safe environment in which we collaboratively process difficult feelings towards making meaningful changes to create a more fulfilled life. I use an integrative model tailored to your specific needs. If you are stuck in unhelpful relationship interpersonal cycles; need clarity on life transitions, family, or struggling with a difficult past, I can support you. I offer in-person and virtual sessions Individual: $150; $225 couples (75 min)
(437) 524-0421 View (437) 524-0421
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Taslim Jaffer-Murji
Registered Psychotherapist, MA, RP
Verified Verified
Online Only
I integrate Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Mindfulness, Compassion-Focused, and Insight-Oriented Psychotherapy to create a tailored and holistic experience for each client.
Healthy relationships can offer security, connection, and acceptance. Yet when communication breaks down and unresolved conflict or mistrust builds, relationships can leave us feeling drained and disconnected. Strengthening your ability to express your deepest needs isn’t just about improving relationships — it's about reclaiming your voice, stepping into your power, and fueling your personal growth. Therapy offers a transformative space where you can deepen self-awareness, develop new skills, and break through barriers standing between you and the life you want to create — both within yourself and in your connection with others.
I integrate Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Mindfulness, Compassion-Focused, and Insight-Oriented Psychotherapy to create a tailored and holistic experience for each client.
Healthy relationships can offer security, connection, and acceptance. Yet when communication breaks down and unresolved conflict or mistrust builds, relationships can leave us feeling drained and disconnected. Strengthening your ability to express your deepest needs isn’t just about improving relationships — it's about reclaiming your voice, stepping into your power, and fueling your personal growth. Therapy offers a transformative space where you can deepen self-awareness, develop new skills, and break through barriers standing between you and the life you want to create — both within yourself and in your connection with others.
(647) 361-1197 View (647) 361-1197
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Tyler Cousin- Horizon Therapy
Registered Social Worker, BA, MSW, RSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Serves Area
My couples training is informed by Gottman Method, The Developmental Model, EFT, PACT, and Treating Sex Issues in Psychotherapy (ATSIP).
Are you feeling disconnected or distant from your partner? Do you struggle with communication or meeting each other’s needs? Is resolving conflict challenging in your relationship? If you'd like to rekindle the intimacy & spark you once had, couples counselling (also called couples or relationship therapy) could benefit you and your partner! Couples counselling can help you understand one another better, communicate more effectively, resolve conflict in healthier ways, enhance emotional & physical intimacy, tackle decisions or life transitions, rebuild trust, manage grief or loss, and create a shared vision for your future.
My couples training is informed by Gottman Method, The Developmental Model, EFT, PACT, and Treating Sex Issues in Psychotherapy (ATSIP).
Are you feeling disconnected or distant from your partner? Do you struggle with communication or meeting each other’s needs? Is resolving conflict challenging in your relationship? If you'd like to rekindle the intimacy & spark you once had, couples counselling (also called couples or relationship therapy) could benefit you and your partner! Couples counselling can help you understand one another better, communicate more effectively, resolve conflict in healthier ways, enhance emotional & physical intimacy, tackle decisions or life transitions, rebuild trust, manage grief or loss, and create a shared vision for your future.
(437) 524-0098 View (437) 524-0098
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Toula Kourgiantakis
Registered Social Worker, PhD, MSW, CFT
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Online Only
I use an integrative approach guided by recovery and harm reduction models, as well as EFT, DBT, and MI.
I am a social worker and a couple and family therapist with 30 years of experience working with individuals, couples, and families. In couple therapy, my approach often involves helping couples repair and strengthen their relationships, reduce conflict, improve communication, and enhance emotional and physical intimacy. For families supporting a loved one with mental health and/or addiction-related concerns, I can help strengthen coping skills, self-care, communication, and boundaries.
I use an integrative approach guided by recovery and harm reduction models, as well as EFT, DBT, and MI.
I am a social worker and a couple and family therapist with 30 years of experience working with individuals, couples, and families. In couple therapy, my approach often involves helping couples repair and strengthen their relationships, reduce conflict, improve communication, and enhance emotional and physical intimacy. For families supporting a loved one with mental health and/or addiction-related concerns, I can help strengthen coping skills, self-care, communication, and boundaries.
(855) 848-2034 View (855) 848-2034
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Ashley Pengelley
Registered Psychotherapist, SSW, BA, MA
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Serves Area
My theoretical approach combines Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Solution focused (SFT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy(ACT), Emotion- Focused Therapy ( EFT).
As a Registered Psychotherapist and Manager of mental health and addiction services, I am passionate about healing individuals, families and children (6+) navigate life's challenges. Utilizing theoretical techniques, expressive and art therapies, i draw on creative, evidence based approaches to support healing and growth. Whether you're experiencing trauma, anxiety, depression or seeking guidance with family dynamics or parenting, I work collaboratively to create a space that honors your unique experiences and strengths.
My theoretical approach combines Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Solution focused (SFT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy(ACT), Emotion- Focused Therapy ( EFT).
As a Registered Psychotherapist and Manager of mental health and addiction services, I am passionate about healing individuals, families and children (6+) navigate life's challenges. Utilizing theoretical techniques, expressive and art therapies, i draw on creative, evidence based approaches to support healing and growth. Whether you're experiencing trauma, anxiety, depression or seeking guidance with family dynamics or parenting, I work collaboratively to create a space that honors your unique experiences and strengths.
(416) 236-6296 View (416) 236-6296
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Kristy White
Pre-Licensed Professional, BA, BEd, DIP
Verified Verified
Online Only
Waitlist for new clients
I take a client-centred, humanistic approach and use modalities such as dialogue, focused reflection, guided visualization, mindfulness, EFT Tapping, expressive art, and dreamwork.
We all want to be more balanced, more present, and to feel empowered as we move through this world. However, people often experience blockages such as depression and anxiety due to traumas and conscious or unconscious fears about their own worth, inner wisdom, and ability to pursue their own path. My purpose in working with you is to help you find meaning in your pain, heal, feel into your purpose, develop deep self love, find depth in your joy, manifest your highest good, and reflect the sparkling light of who you are back out into the world.
I take a client-centred, humanistic approach and use modalities such as dialogue, focused reflection, guided visualization, mindfulness, EFT Tapping, expressive art, and dreamwork.
We all want to be more balanced, more present, and to feel empowered as we move through this world. However, people often experience blockages such as depression and anxiety due to traumas and conscious or unconscious fears about their own worth, inner wisdom, and ability to pursue their own path. My purpose in working with you is to help you find meaning in your pain, heal, feel into your purpose, develop deep self love, find depth in your joy, manifest your highest good, and reflect the sparkling light of who you are back out into the world.
(647) 558-9883 View (647) 558-9883
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Laura Crawford
Registered Social Worker, MSW, RSW
Verified Verified
Online Only
Waitlist for new clients
In my work with clients I draw from a number of evidence-based modalities, including EFT, EMDR, Mindfulness, Narrative, and CBT.
Engaging in therapy, whether for the first time or with a new therapist, can be intensively vulnerable. When working with me, I approach each session with genuine curiosity and openness to help create a felt sense of safety for clients to explore their feelings and concerns. As a Registered Social Worker who specializes in working with young people, adults, and families, I have experience working with clients and families in various contexts, including as a child and family therapist, school social worker, and individual therapist.
In my work with clients I draw from a number of evidence-based modalities, including EFT, EMDR, Mindfulness, Narrative, and CBT.
Engaging in therapy, whether for the first time or with a new therapist, can be intensively vulnerable. When working with me, I approach each session with genuine curiosity and openness to help create a felt sense of safety for clients to explore their feelings and concerns. As a Registered Social Worker who specializes in working with young people, adults, and families, I have experience working with clients and families in various contexts, including as a child and family therapist, school social worker, and individual therapist.
(437) 524-0589 View (437) 524-0589
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Allan Findlay
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, RSW
Verified Verified
Serves Area
As a Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist ( EFT), my approach to couples, families, and individuals is to learn about problems from an emotional attachment perspective.
I see couples in therapy who tell me they are quarrelling too much or who have drifted apart. Often, they need help with slowing down, expressing their softer feelings and understanding their partner's emotions. I also see couples whose lives have been turned upside down by an extra-marital affair and worry that there will never be trust again. I help them learn how an affair doesn't have to mean the end of a relationship. I also see individuals with anxiety, depression and trauma from childhood interfering with their present lives. Young adults and their parents see me for family therapy to improve their relationships.
As a Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist ( EFT), my approach to couples, families, and individuals is to learn about problems from an emotional attachment perspective.
I see couples in therapy who tell me they are quarrelling too much or who have drifted apart. Often, they need help with slowing down, expressing their softer feelings and understanding their partner's emotions. I also see couples whose lives have been turned upside down by an extra-marital affair and worry that there will never be trust again. I help them learn how an affair doesn't have to mean the end of a relationship. I also see individuals with anxiety, depression and trauma from childhood interfering with their present lives. Young adults and their parents see me for family therapy to improve their relationships.
(647) 692-2597 View (647) 692-2597
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Demi Wang
Registered Psychotherapist, MDiv
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Online Only
I specialize in identifying blind spots and using evidence-based approaches such as Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) to create real, lasting progress.
Your relationship is worth it. As a couples specialist, I help partners rediscover intimacy—even in the midst of intense conflict. Together, we’ll break the cycle of unresolved issues and replace escalating arguments with empathy and understanding. I support couples at every stage, giving them tools and a safe space to address challenges such as communication breakdowns, mistrust, bitterness, and differences in values, personality, parenting, in-laws, cultural dynamics, or finances. There is a formula for a healthy relationship, and I believe anyone can learn this and find a deep sense of partnership and belonging wherever they are.
I specialize in identifying blind spots and using evidence-based approaches such as Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) to create real, lasting progress.
Your relationship is worth it. As a couples specialist, I help partners rediscover intimacy—even in the midst of intense conflict. Together, we’ll break the cycle of unresolved issues and replace escalating arguments with empathy and understanding. I support couples at every stage, giving them tools and a safe space to address challenges such as communication breakdowns, mistrust, bitterness, and differences in values, personality, parenting, in-laws, cultural dynamics, or finances. There is a formula for a healthy relationship, and I believe anyone can learn this and find a deep sense of partnership and belonging wherever they are.
(437) 500-6581 View (437) 500-6581
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Laura Pearson
Counsellor
Not Verified Not Verified
East York, ON M4K
Stress and anxiety are a daily part of many people's lives. After all, we live in a fast-paced culture where expectations, from ourselves and others, is ever-increasing. It is understandable to feel strained by your responsibilities, but are they weighing you down more than they are bringing you joy? Perhaps you want to make a life change but don't know how? Through counselling, also known as "talk therapy", I can help put you on the path to reaching your goals and taking control of your life.
Stress and anxiety are a daily part of many people's lives. After all, we live in a fast-paced culture where expectations, from ourselves and others, is ever-increasing. It is understandable to feel strained by your responsibilities, but are they weighing you down more than they are bringing you joy? Perhaps you want to make a life change but don't know how? Through counselling, also known as "talk therapy", I can help put you on the path to reaching your goals and taking control of your life.
(647) 797-8791 View (647) 797-8791
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Tolulola Taiwo-Hanna
Registered Social Worker, MSW, RSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Online Only
Hi! I am a registered social worker and psychotherapist with Hope Leads Mental Health Care in Ontario. Throughout my clinical practice, I have had the privilege of working in women’s mental health, general psychiatry, and gerontology, helping individuals, couples and families navigate significant life transitions, trauma, racial trauma, microaggressions, grief, conflict, interpersonal relationships, and low self-esteem.
Hi! I am a registered social worker and psychotherapist with Hope Leads Mental Health Care in Ontario. Throughout my clinical practice, I have had the privilege of working in women’s mental health, general psychiatry, and gerontology, helping individuals, couples and families navigate significant life transitions, trauma, racial trauma, microaggressions, grief, conflict, interpersonal relationships, and low self-esteem.
(437) 661-4273 View (437) 661-4273
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Sepideh Saedi
Registered Psychotherapist, MA, RP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Online Only
Waitlist for new clients
I help working professionals and entrepreneurs trapped in cycles of fear, shame, guilt, or anger go from feeling stuck and limited by their own negative thoughts to thriving and experiencing empowerment and vitality, so they can live a more fulfilling life that aligns with their true potential and inner peace.
I help working professionals and entrepreneurs trapped in cycles of fear, shame, guilt, or anger go from feeling stuck and limited by their own negative thoughts to thriving and experiencing empowerment and vitality, so they can live a more fulfilling life that aligns with their true potential and inner peace.
(437) 747-8110 View (437) 747-8110
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Yzobela (Isabella) Hyett Perinatal Therapy
Registered Psychotherapist, MEd, PMH-C
Verified Verified
11 Endorsed
Online Only
Specializing in Pregnancy/Postpartum and Women's issues. You are not broken - you are dealing with stress, grief, or trauma, as well as family, relationships, and work. You're feeling overwhelmed - your big emotions or negative thoughts are running the show, and you're looking for ways to feel more centred and in control. Therapy provides a safe, compassionate space where we can tap into our own wisdom and learn how to show up in our lives as the people we want to be. I can help you make sense of how you got here, get clarity on the inner conflicts that are making you feel stuck, and find a clearer vision of your path to wellness.
Specializing in Pregnancy/Postpartum and Women's issues. You are not broken - you are dealing with stress, grief, or trauma, as well as family, relationships, and work. You're feeling overwhelmed - your big emotions or negative thoughts are running the show, and you're looking for ways to feel more centred and in control. Therapy provides a safe, compassionate space where we can tap into our own wisdom and learn how to show up in our lives as the people we want to be. I can help you make sense of how you got here, get clarity on the inner conflicts that are making you feel stuck, and find a clearer vision of your path to wellness.
(647) 492-9449 View (647) 492-9449
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Parsa Noroozian
Registered Psychotherapist, MACP, RP
Verified Verified
17 Endorsed
Serves Area
I work with individuals who identify with ADHD, high sensitivity, and creative or unconventional ways of being in the world. Whether you’ve received a formal diagnosis or simply feel out of sync with traditional structures, you’re welcome here. My approach blends compassion with practical structure, helping you build on your strengths while creating sustainable habits that support real change. With a grounded presence and actionable tools, I’ll support you in reconnecting with your strengths and charting a path that feels authentic and attainable. This is a space where all parts of you are welcome.
I work with individuals who identify with ADHD, high sensitivity, and creative or unconventional ways of being in the world. Whether you’ve received a formal diagnosis or simply feel out of sync with traditional structures, you’re welcome here. My approach blends compassion with practical structure, helping you build on your strengths while creating sustainable habits that support real change. With a grounded presence and actionable tools, I’ll support you in reconnecting with your strengths and charting a path that feels authentic and attainable. This is a space where all parts of you are welcome.
(289) 513-3577 View (289) 513-3577
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Leaside Child Therapy Centre
Registered Social Worker, BSc, MSW, RSW
Verified Verified
Serves Area
I am a Child and Family Therapist with over two decades of experience helping children, adolescents and adults (ages 4 and up) to develop or enhance their coping skills, tools and strategies to successfully manage life's challenges. I have a warm and engaging style that enables me to quickly connect with children, build a trusting relationship, and help them to develop the skills and abilities they need to succeed. I've worked at various Children's Mental Health Centres in Toronto prior to starting a private practice. I would be happy to be a part of your child/family's journey and a catalyst to their change/success.
I am a Child and Family Therapist with over two decades of experience helping children, adolescents and adults (ages 4 and up) to develop or enhance their coping skills, tools and strategies to successfully manage life's challenges. I have a warm and engaging style that enables me to quickly connect with children, build a trusting relationship, and help them to develop the skills and abilities they need to succeed. I've worked at various Children's Mental Health Centres in Toronto prior to starting a private practice. I would be happy to be a part of your child/family's journey and a catalyst to their change/success.
(416) 505-3590 View (416) 505-3590
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Sarah Downing
Registered Psychotherapist, MA
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Online Only
Are you seeking support to work through distress, navigate life changes, develop coping strategies, explore goals, build positive mental health habits, or increase your understanding of self and others? Whether you have experience with therapy or are trying therapy for the first time, I would like for us to join forces.
Are you seeking support to work through distress, navigate life changes, develop coping strategies, explore goals, build positive mental health habits, or increase your understanding of self and others? Whether you have experience with therapy or are trying therapy for the first time, I would like for us to join forces.
(647) 370-0747 View (647) 370-0747
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Farah Bektashi
Registered Psychotherapist, RP, BSc, GIT Dip, OSRP
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Online Only
I offer a warm, relational space where you can land — just as you are. Together, we’ll explore what’s present, what hurts, what longs to be seen. I’m here to support you in meeting your challenges with honesty, care, and curiosity. Healing isn’t always easy, but you don’t have to go through it alone. We’ll bring attention back to your body — to sensation, breath, feeling, and emotion — the places where truth lives. So often, we get caught in our heads and forget the wisdom that lives inside us. I’m here to help you remember. You deserve to feel alive, connected, and at home in yourself!
I offer a warm, relational space where you can land — just as you are. Together, we’ll explore what’s present, what hurts, what longs to be seen. I’m here to support you in meeting your challenges with honesty, care, and curiosity. Healing isn’t always easy, but you don’t have to go through it alone. We’ll bring attention back to your body — to sensation, breath, feeling, and emotion — the places where truth lives. So often, we get caught in our heads and forget the wisdom that lives inside us. I’m here to help you remember. You deserve to feel alive, connected, and at home in yourself!
(437) 747-8627 View (437) 747-8627
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Saadia Ahmad
Registered Social Worker, MSW RSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Online Only
Whether you have been in therapy at different points in your life or are considering therapy for the first time, we will work collaboratively for you to gain a better sense of overall well-being. Working together we can identify unhelpful patterns and learn more effective ways of coping as you may find yourself experiencing challenges in life including managing relationships, regulating difficult emotions, dealing with family conflict/issues, struggling with self worth, and adapting to change.
Whether you have been in therapy at different points in your life or are considering therapy for the first time, we will work collaboratively for you to gain a better sense of overall well-being. Working together we can identify unhelpful patterns and learn more effective ways of coping as you may find yourself experiencing challenges in life including managing relationships, regulating difficult emotions, dealing with family conflict/issues, struggling with self worth, and adapting to change.
(437) 747-7753 View (437) 747-7753
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Therapedia Centre
Registered Psychotherapist
Verified Verified
Serves Area
Welcome to Therapedia Centre, where you can be matched with a psychotherapist who would best fit your therapeutic goals and needs. We are a team of psychotherapists from different cultural backgrounds, who welcome individuals from all lines of life, with all sorts of experiences, and choices of lifestyle. Whether you are struggling in your personal or romantic relationships or face conflicts in your professional fields or experience new challenges in your new roles (as a parent, partner, etc), our psychotherapists can provide new perspectives to help you manage your situation better. If you have been feeling stuck, we may help.
Welcome to Therapedia Centre, where you can be matched with a psychotherapist who would best fit your therapeutic goals and needs. We are a team of psychotherapists from different cultural backgrounds, who welcome individuals from all lines of life, with all sorts of experiences, and choices of lifestyle. Whether you are struggling in your personal or romantic relationships or face conflicts in your professional fields or experience new challenges in your new roles (as a parent, partner, etc), our psychotherapists can provide new perspectives to help you manage your situation better. If you have been feeling stuck, we may help.
(647) 696-8127 View (647) 696-8127
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Emotionally Focused Counsellors

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.