Gottman Method Therapists in Victoria, BC
I believe that people have unlimited capacity. I work to support others in exploring the challenges in their own lives; relationships; and that arise in pursuit of goals. My professional background in mental health and substance use (addictions) has offered me experience working with others to address complex challenges since beginning in 2013. It is a privilege to join others on their journey and I am fortunate to engage in this work on the traditional lands of the Lekwungen Peoples.
I believe that people have unlimited capacity. I work to support others in exploring the challenges in their own lives; relationships; and that arise in pursuit of goals. My professional background in mental health and substance use (addictions) has offered me experience working with others to address complex challenges since beginning in 2013. It is a privilege to join others on their journey and I am fortunate to engage in this work on the traditional lands of the Lekwungen Peoples.
For couples wanting to improve the quality of their relationships I use the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy.
I work with children (4–12), youth, adults, parents, and couples experiencing anxiety, depression, grief and loss, self-esteem issues, OCD, neurodiversity, trauma, C-PTSD, relationship or parenting challenges, and disabilities. I see those I work with as people optimistically seeking opportunities, possibilities, and hope as they move toward seeing themselves as accepted, valuable, and loveable. I believe this journey flourishes in a safe space that fosters confidence, self-acceptance, interdependence, and meaningful relationships.
For couples wanting to improve the quality of their relationships I use the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy.
I work with children (4–12), youth, adults, parents, and couples experiencing anxiety, depression, grief and loss, self-esteem issues, OCD, neurodiversity, trauma, C-PTSD, relationship or parenting challenges, and disabilities. I see those I work with as people optimistically seeking opportunities, possibilities, and hope as they move toward seeing themselves as accepted, valuable, and loveable. I believe this journey flourishes in a safe space that fosters confidence, self-acceptance, interdependence, and meaningful relationships.
Sometimes we get caught up in our day-to-day routines or we feel too stretched, stressed, or spent to get going on creating the future we want for ourselves. Other times, there are family or societal expectations that push up against our dreams of how we want to show up or what we want to do in our lives. Adversity happens, and sometimes difficult events can block us from moving forward in the ways we want. You have strength within you, though, and there is always something good to build upon. This is where we can start our work together.
Sometimes we get caught up in our day-to-day routines or we feel too stretched, stressed, or spent to get going on creating the future we want for ourselves. Other times, there are family or societal expectations that push up against our dreams of how we want to show up or what we want to do in our lives. Adversity happens, and sometimes difficult events can block us from moving forward in the ways we want. You have strength within you, though, and there is always something good to build upon. This is where we can start our work together.
My therapy is about overcoming feelings of anxiety, depression, sadness, anger, or pain and developing ways to get the life you want. Many of us feel anxious and depressed about what is going on or worry about the future. If you are hurting those you love, you can change that. Do you need to handle your anger better? That is possible. Are you trying to survive a major loss? There is a way. If you have lost hope or don't know how to go about making these crucial adjustments, in our discussions you will develop insights to overcome these challenges, and learn about what needs to be done to achieve your goals, step by step.
My therapy is about overcoming feelings of anxiety, depression, sadness, anger, or pain and developing ways to get the life you want. Many of us feel anxious and depressed about what is going on or worry about the future. If you are hurting those you love, you can change that. Do you need to handle your anger better? That is possible. Are you trying to survive a major loss? There is a way. If you have lost hope or don't know how to go about making these crucial adjustments, in our discussions you will develop insights to overcome these challenges, and learn about what needs to be done to achieve your goals, step by step.
I'm trained in EMDR (EMDR Certified Therapist), Internal Family Systems (IFS), grief counselling, CBT, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, DBT, Gottman Method, and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
I bring more than 15 years experience helping clients navigate some of life's most difficult journeys such as anxiety, depression, PTSD/trauma, sexual assault and abuse, infertility, pregnancy loss, perinatal depression and anxiety, chronic illness, grief and loss, facing the end of a relationship and other painful life transitions. I also specialize in seeing health care providers and educators who are experiencing burnout and compassion fatigue. I'm warm-hearted, open-minded, and strongly believe in an inclusive and anti-discriminatory approach to care. I see adults, teens, and couples in my practice.
I'm trained in EMDR (EMDR Certified Therapist), Internal Family Systems (IFS), grief counselling, CBT, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, DBT, Gottman Method, and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
I bring more than 15 years experience helping clients navigate some of life's most difficult journeys such as anxiety, depression, PTSD/trauma, sexual assault and abuse, infertility, pregnancy loss, perinatal depression and anxiety, chronic illness, grief and loss, facing the end of a relationship and other painful life transitions. I also specialize in seeing health care providers and educators who are experiencing burnout and compassion fatigue. I'm warm-hearted, open-minded, and strongly believe in an inclusive and anti-discriminatory approach to care. I see adults, teens, and couples in my practice.
Hi, I'm Fiona. I started working in the mental health field over 24 years ago, first on the Crisis Lines and at various non-profit agencies, and later for the local health authorities. I've now been in private practice for over 15 years.
I believe in the transformative power of connection and companionship through life's most challenging moments. Whether you're navigating grief, processing trauma, or seeking support through loss, my approach is rooted in compassion, evidence-based practices, and the understanding that healing is a journey we take together. I create a safe, no
Hi, I'm Fiona. I started working in the mental health field over 24 years ago, first on the Crisis Lines and at various non-profit agencies, and later for the local health authorities. I've now been in private practice for over 15 years.
I believe in the transformative power of connection and companionship through life's most challenging moments. Whether you're navigating grief, processing trauma, or seeking support through loss, my approach is rooted in compassion, evidence-based practices, and the understanding that healing is a journey we take together. I create a safe, no
Do you feel consistently burn out? Perhaps you are tired of putting on a mask everyday just to get through it. If you are looking to give your nervous system a break and figure out tools and skills that work for you, I can help. Together we can untangle the trauma and the shame that may be holding you back.
If you resonate with being a person everyone relies on, I’d love to work with you. I know how tough it can be to carry everyone else’s stuff as well as your own.
As a neurodivergent and queer therapist myself, all identities are welcome here. If you are exploring or questioning your identity, this is a safe space.
Do you feel consistently burn out? Perhaps you are tired of putting on a mask everyday just to get through it. If you are looking to give your nervous system a break and figure out tools and skills that work for you, I can help. Together we can untangle the trauma and the shame that may be holding you back.
If you resonate with being a person everyone relies on, I’d love to work with you. I know how tough it can be to carry everyone else’s stuff as well as your own.
As a neurodivergent and queer therapist myself, all identities are welcome here. If you are exploring or questioning your identity, this is a safe space.
No matter what you are struggling with, remember that on the other side of this difficult time will be increased wisdom, the exciting potential of a better you and more of what you want. We all have a survivor inside of us, an innate ability to overcome even the most difficult of challenges. Talking to someone can help you harness the strength that lives inside you. That is the essence of counselling.
No matter what you are struggling with, remember that on the other side of this difficult time will be increased wisdom, the exciting potential of a better you and more of what you want. We all have a survivor inside of us, an innate ability to overcome even the most difficult of challenges. Talking to someone can help you harness the strength that lives inside you. That is the essence of counselling.
Is your relationship going through a difficult season, where you dread that another discussion will end in an argument, without apology? Are you facing a major transition and could use someone to help bring clarity? Do you feel stuck in some way – as though life or your relationships just aren’t what you’re hoping for? Maybe you’ve always felt different from those around you - it can be exhausting and lonely. As a person with disabilities myself, I have my own experience of the challenges of trying to fit in. I aim to create a warm, inviting, and accepting place for folks to land and feel held with gentleness as they seek support.
Is your relationship going through a difficult season, where you dread that another discussion will end in an argument, without apology? Are you facing a major transition and could use someone to help bring clarity? Do you feel stuck in some way – as though life or your relationships just aren’t what you’re hoping for? Maybe you’ve always felt different from those around you - it can be exhausting and lonely. As a person with disabilities myself, I have my own experience of the challenges of trying to fit in. I aim to create a warm, inviting, and accepting place for folks to land and feel held with gentleness as they seek support.
Accepting new clients. Specialising in Couples/Relationships, and/or individuals with anxiety, stress, depression, or grief. I work with a variety of therapies to find what is right for you. Offering online virtual or in-office sessions in Gordon Head, Victoria, BC. READ more about me on my website. Convenient online booking available.
Accepting new clients. Specialising in Couples/Relationships, and/or individuals with anxiety, stress, depression, or grief. I work with a variety of therapies to find what is right for you. Offering online virtual or in-office sessions in Gordon Head, Victoria, BC. READ more about me on my website. Convenient online booking available.
My approach to therapy is eclectic. It is always my hope that the conversations we have will bring clarity in a way that helps you make sense of the patterns and interactions in your life that are not serving you. I am drawn to a strength-based or solution focused approach for the way it encourages you to access your own capacity and skills to become “unstuck” in your current situation. I have resonated with what is called Family or Systemic therapy because of how it addresses the problems people present within the context of their relationships.
My approach to therapy is eclectic. It is always my hope that the conversations we have will bring clarity in a way that helps you make sense of the patterns and interactions in your life that are not serving you. I am drawn to a strength-based or solution focused approach for the way it encourages you to access your own capacity and skills to become “unstuck” in your current situation. I have resonated with what is called Family or Systemic therapy because of how it addresses the problems people present within the context of their relationships.
I enjoy working with clients of all ages – children, teens, and adults – helping them navigate life’s challenges and transitions. My approach is informed by attachment theory and focuses on helping clients develop skills that foster strong, healthy relationships in every area of their lives. My areas of expertise include complex relationship dynamics, grief, anxiety and depression, marriage counselling, and parenting challenges – including the unique situations faced by foster and adoptive families. I also have extensive experience supporting military and RCMP members and veterans.
I enjoy working with clients of all ages – children, teens, and adults – helping them navigate life’s challenges and transitions. My approach is informed by attachment theory and focuses on helping clients develop skills that foster strong, healthy relationships in every area of their lives. My areas of expertise include complex relationship dynamics, grief, anxiety and depression, marriage counselling, and parenting challenges – including the unique situations faced by foster and adoptive families. I also have extensive experience supporting military and RCMP members and veterans.
I celebrate diversity, and seek to help individuals understand how their identities and their social world impacts their mental wellness. My specializations are trauma, identity (including sexual, gender, ethnic and religious), relationships, chronic pain, neuroaffirming care (ADHD and Autism) and disability. I use a variety of tools with a foundation of non-judgmental, affirmative therapy. Together, we will use tools that suit your strengths and needs to explore issues related to identity, self esteem, depression, anxiety, grief, interpersonal relationships, and more. For trauma work, I am EMDR certified.
I celebrate diversity, and seek to help individuals understand how their identities and their social world impacts their mental wellness. My specializations are trauma, identity (including sexual, gender, ethnic and religious), relationships, chronic pain, neuroaffirming care (ADHD and Autism) and disability. I use a variety of tools with a foundation of non-judgmental, affirmative therapy. Together, we will use tools that suit your strengths and needs to explore issues related to identity, self esteem, depression, anxiety, grief, interpersonal relationships, and more. For trauma work, I am EMDR certified.
My approach to counselling is collaborative, and I consider clients to be co-creators of our therapeutic work. I practice within a trauma-informed, person-centered approach, centering emotions and body-based awareness in my work. I often incorporate elements of Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT), and mindfulness as we collaborate to find a suitable approach for achieving your goals. I have experience working with individuals experiencing anxiety, depression, interpersonal or relationship challenges, grief, life transitions, as well as everyday stresses and challenges.
My approach to counselling is collaborative, and I consider clients to be co-creators of our therapeutic work. I practice within a trauma-informed, person-centered approach, centering emotions and body-based awareness in my work. I often incorporate elements of Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT), and mindfulness as we collaborate to find a suitable approach for achieving your goals. I have experience working with individuals experiencing anxiety, depression, interpersonal or relationship challenges, grief, life transitions, as well as everyday stresses and challenges.
You may be the person everyone relies on — holding it all together, caring for others, carrying responsibility while quietly managing stress, overwhelm, or a growing disconnection from yourself.
Many of my clients are high-functioning individuals bearing more than anyone was meant to carry alone, including women who know what it means to move between worlds. They may have spent years translating themselves across family, work, culture, and relationships, while losing touch with their own needs, boundaries, and sense of self.
Whatever has brought you here matters. Wherever you are is where we begin.
You may be the person everyone relies on — holding it all together, caring for others, carrying responsibility while quietly managing stress, overwhelm, or a growing disconnection from yourself.
Many of my clients are high-functioning individuals bearing more than anyone was meant to carry alone, including women who know what it means to move between worlds. They may have spent years translating themselves across family, work, culture, and relationships, while losing touch with their own needs, boundaries, and sense of self.
Whatever has brought you here matters. Wherever you are is where we begin.
I provide therapy for individuals and couples who are navigating life’s challenges and want to create meaningful change. Issues rarely stand alone, but are connected to other aspects of daily life, such as our physical wellbeing, relationships, work, environmental and societal factors. I offer a judgment-free environment in which clients feel welcome, safe and heard. My approach is collaborative and holistic. Together, we explore the challenges you are facing while incorporating and developing your inner strengths and resources and finding ways to increase your control.
I provide therapy for individuals and couples who are navigating life’s challenges and want to create meaningful change. Issues rarely stand alone, but are connected to other aspects of daily life, such as our physical wellbeing, relationships, work, environmental and societal factors. I offer a judgment-free environment in which clients feel welcome, safe and heard. My approach is collaborative and holistic. Together, we explore the challenges you are facing while incorporating and developing your inner strengths and resources and finding ways to increase your control.
Are you feeling overwhelmed, stuck in unhelpful patterns, disconnected from yourself or others, or struggling to feel grounded? Many people come to counselling when anxiety, trauma, relationship stress or life transitions feel too heavy to carry alone. You may be coping on the outside while feeling exhausted or unsure how to move forward. You deserve support that feels safe, compassionate, and attuned to what you're experiencing. Counselling can be a place to feel understood, build steadiness, and begin creating meaningful change at a pace that respects your nervous system.
Are you feeling overwhelmed, stuck in unhelpful patterns, disconnected from yourself or others, or struggling to feel grounded? Many people come to counselling when anxiety, trauma, relationship stress or life transitions feel too heavy to carry alone. You may be coping on the outside while feeling exhausted or unsure how to move forward. You deserve support that feels safe, compassionate, and attuned to what you're experiencing. Counselling can be a place to feel understood, build steadiness, and begin creating meaningful change at a pace that respects your nervous system.
If you have been feeling overwhelmed by life, your grief, or your relationship challenges and you're afraid it will always feel like this and never get better, I want you to know that with help, relief is possible, you can feel calm, strong and connected to your partner again. We humans are not designed to face hardships alone, so no matter what you're battling, let's embark on a path towards empowerment and positive change as a team. I am trained in EMDR (Eye Movemend Desensitization and Reprocessing), perinatal mental health, and Gottman couple's therapy
If you have been feeling overwhelmed by life, your grief, or your relationship challenges and you're afraid it will always feel like this and never get better, I want you to know that with help, relief is possible, you can feel calm, strong and connected to your partner again. We humans are not designed to face hardships alone, so no matter what you're battling, let's embark on a path towards empowerment and positive change as a team. I am trained in EMDR (Eye Movemend Desensitization and Reprocessing), perinatal mental health, and Gottman couple's therapy
Advanced training in AEDP, Coherence Therapy, IFS, Gottman Method, and EFT, with a clinical focus on memory reconsolidation — the process by which emotional learnings actually change, in individuals and couples.
You're not here because you lack insight. You're here because insight hasn't changed what happens next. You know why you get anxious or pull away. You may even see it happening and still feel the same response take over. Perhaps therapy gave you understanding or better ways to cope, but the pattern still organizes your life. Many of my clients are used to solving hard problems. This is the one they can't solve by thinking harder or trying harder. They want to work directly with what keeps it in place.
Advanced training in AEDP, Coherence Therapy, IFS, Gottman Method, and EFT, with a clinical focus on memory reconsolidation — the process by which emotional learnings actually change, in individuals and couples.
You're not here because you lack insight. You're here because insight hasn't changed what happens next. You know why you get anxious or pull away. You may even see it happening and still feel the same response take over. Perhaps therapy gave you understanding or better ways to cope, but the pattern still organizes your life. Many of my clients are used to solving hard problems. This is the one they can't solve by thinking harder or trying harder. They want to work directly with what keeps it in place.
As a therapist (CCC, RCC, ACS candidate), I am dedicated to the care and well being of my clients. I have worked in the mental health field for over 20 years. I am trained in providing treatment for depression, anxiety disorders, phobias, obsessions and compulsions (OCD) and trauma. My approach is to be curious, get to know you, explore what is happening for you and your goals. I bring a blend of compassion, challenge and activation in supporting your growth.
As a therapist (CCC, RCC, ACS candidate), I am dedicated to the care and well being of my clients. I have worked in the mental health field for over 20 years. I am trained in providing treatment for depression, anxiety disorders, phobias, obsessions and compulsions (OCD) and trauma. My approach is to be curious, get to know you, explore what is happening for you and your goals. I bring a blend of compassion, challenge and activation in supporting your growth.
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How does the Gottman method work?
One of the core doctrines of the Gottman method is that negative emotions hurt relationships about five times more than positive emotions help them. Thus, couples require five times more positive interactions than negative interactions with each other. The therapist will guide clients on how to improve communication and understanding of each other to manage conflict and have their emotional needs met. The therapist will also advise couples on how to repair relations with each other when conflict arises, and therefore avoid lasting damage.
Is the Gottman method evidence-based?
Yes, this method is an evidence-based approach to couples therapy. The method is based on more than 40 years of research by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, the psychologists who developed the method. The Gottmans analysed decades of data to draw conclusions about what types of interactions are likely to lead to specific results, and which interventions are most likely to lead to success. Studies have found that this approach leads to improvements in relationship satisfaction, intimacy, communication skills, and a lower rate of divorce.
How long does the Gottman method take?
The duration of treatment depends on the specific challenges clients face. Sessions are typically 60 to 90 minutes long, and an average course of treatment is around 10 sessions. In some cases, such as for couples dealing with a critical problem, the therapist will suggest an intensive course of treatment, with daily sessions over the first two to four days. Treatment is complete when the couple is satisfied and has met the goals they’ve set, and when the therapist believes they have the skills to continue on their own.
Is the Gottman method effective?
Through the Gottman method, couples can achieve changes that are real and sustainable. This treatment has been used for more than 40 years; the method is supported by empirical research, including randomised controlled trials that have demonstrated effectiveness in improving relationship outcomes for couples. Like any talk therapy, success or failure depends in large part on how committed the clients are to making positive changes and working toward results.